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We have to clean all dis mess, let dose who aint virgins kip dem punny, and dose who are virgins remain virgins. As for me am going to get married to a virgin. #teamvirgin4life#

I thought about titling this article “Four Questions about Virginity That I’d Be Happy Never to Answer Again” because, really, that’s how I feel.

As a sex educator, I find that I do a lot less eye-opening education about theory and psychosociology than I do myth-busting misconceptions about basic facts of anatomy and physiology.

And that’s not your fault, general public.

And in point of fact, I really don’t mind answering your questions, whatever they are – even these four! As far as I see it, I’m a one-woman public service provider, and I will do all that it takes to give you what you need.

And sometimes, myth-busting is exactly what you need.

Or – you know – adequate comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-based sexuality education on a national scale, but I gave up Idealism years ago.

So let me put my Realist hat on to help you navigate through the murky waters of these four myths about virginity.

1. It’s an Actual Thing

Let’s start with the biggest myth of all – that virginity is something quantifiable.

Let’s bust this myth once and for all (and you can trust me on this one): There is no medical or biological definition of virginity.

None. Nothing.

There is no real definition of virginity except for, you know, the one in the dictionary, which defines it as “the state of never having had sexual intercourse.”

But the problem with that definition is that it doesn’t mean anything.

Because “sexual intercourse” refers to penetrative sex.

So what about all of the people who have plenty of sex, but aren’t having penetrative sex? Does this mean that they are forever virgins?

How “far” can you go until what you’re doing is officially S-E-X? Does manual or digital sex count? Oral? What about penetration with a toy?

The truth is: Different people define sex differently. So even the one definition of virginity that we have doesn’t work.

Virginity as a concept was invented as an attempt to control (female) sexuality.

It’s just an idea.

And ideas can change.

2. But Duhh, the Hymen!

Let’s ignore the fact that even asking about the hymen disregards everything that I just said about how virginity has no medical or biological definition.

And let’s ignore the fact that bringing up the hymen as a marker for virginity then assumes that only people with vaginas can be virgins in the first place (oh, hey, what’s up, sexism?).

Let’s even ignore the fact that the whole “cherry popping” myth discounts the fact that sex doesn’t have to be defined as penetrative!

Let’s just address the issue at hand: the hymen.

The hymen – also known as the corona – really isn’t anything to write home about.

It’s actually far less exciting than myth gives it credit for. It’s just a thin membrane located at the opening of the vagina. You can even see it. Seriously. Grab a hand mirror.

That’s right. Contrary to popular belief, it isn’t located inside of the vagina, nor does it cover the vagina.

I mean, let’s just pause for a second to think about this logically.

The average age of first sexual intercourse among American women is 17. The average age of their first experience of menstruation? 12 or 13.

If there were a layer of skin covering the opening of the vagina that couldn’t be “broken” or “popped” until first intercourse, how would young women experience menstruation?

Yeah. Think about it.

And although there are some medical conditions by which the hymen could feasibly cover the opening of the vagina, they’re considered anomalies and necessary to repair by surgery.

3. It Has the Power to Change Your Genitals

Whether you believe that losing your virginity will magically make your penis grow (it won’t) or that too much sex will make a vagina loose (it won’t), I have news for you: Sex isn’t going to change the size or shape of your genitals.

I could pump my arm in and out of a sleeve all day long; it isn’t going to make it any longer.

Similarly, sometimes I eat really huge veggie burgers, and I have to stretch my mouth really wide to get a significant bite. But my lips don’t go all loose and flabby because of it.

The idea that your loss of virginity is such an altering experience that it can cause lasting physical change to your body is really just wrapped up in the social myth that virginity matters – either positively or negatively.

Because isn’t it a funny coincidence (it’s not) that supposedly, when men have sex for the first time, their genitals become more desirable, but when women do it, theirs become more undesirable?

The idea that your state of virginity can somehow impact your genitals is just another sexist construct that tells men to aggressively pursue sex and for women to actively refute it.

And for the record, let me explain the whole “stretching of the vagina” misconception because it is based in some truth:

The vagina is a pathway of muscles.

Like any muscle in your body, if you don’t stretch it, it gets kind of tight. Think of that feeling in your hamstring when you try to do a forward fold after you haven’t in a long time. Holy shit, right?

Well, your vagina is the same way.

Unless you keep stretching and exercising it, it tightens up again. So if you’ve never been penetrated before, or if it’s been awhile since the last time you were penetrated, your vagina is like, “WHOA WHOA WHOA WAIT A SECOND OW.” Just like your hamstring.

And just like any other muscle in your body, it snaps back (eventually) into its natural state when it’s left alone.

That’s why if you’ve never had intercourse before (or if you haven’t in awhile), there is a sensation of “tightness.” And that’s why if you’ve been having sex regularly, there isn’t that same sensation of “tightness.”

But it is in no way a permanent change.

4.  It Changes Who You Are As a Person

The myth of purity – the idea that it exists and that it’s significant – is a dangerous one.

Because like so much else in our culture, it posits certain people as “better” than others and in doing so, polices people’s (and particularly women’s) autonomy.

Recently on Tumblr, a young woman wrote to me with the following story:

I’m an 18-year-old woman, and I recently told a couple of my close friends that I’m going to have sex with this guy that I used to date. They told me that they didn’t think it was a good idea and tried to make me doubt my decision because I’m a “virgin” and it “should be special.” Although I do talk to him, it’s most likely only going to be one time! Not “special” at all. Is it really wrong for me to do this?

And that makes me so sad.

It makes me sad that a woman doubts herself and the decisions that she’s making about her life and her body because people who are close to her denounced her.

And over what? Being a murderer? A rapist?

No. Being a woman who wants to have sex for the first time with a friend rather than the Love of Her Life.

Eye roll.

And there’s a reason why this attitude exists. It’s so entrenched into our culture – even I bought into it as a teenager and had a game plan for how my first time was going to be super special – because of the underlying belief that losing your virginity changes you.

And guess what.

It doesn’t.

The first time that I rode a bike didn’t drastically change my life. Neither did the first time I successfully – finally! – made a working apple bread recipe.

And neither did the first time, when I was a young gymnast, that I landed a back handspring – except for the fact that it meant that I could then compete higher level floor routines.

First times are exciting. They’re full of wonder and victory and even a little bit of disappointment – that was it!? – but the effects aren’t long-lasting.

Having sex for the first time is the same way.

It’s something that you do, and it’s really awesome (or terrible), and that’s the end of it. You’re not miraculously changed on the inside.

And as far as I’m concerned, losing your virginity should be met with as much pomp and circumstance (and, ya know, shame) as the others.

There is no “You’ve ridden how many bikes?” There’s no “You’ve made apple bread how many times?” There’s no “Do you know how dangerous gymnastics can be!?” (Okay. There is a little bit of that.)

Similarly, virginity should be of no consequence.

Because it isn’t.

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When I was a kid, my father taught me that one thing I never wanted to be was “a woman with a reputation.” And although he never specified that he was talking about sex, I knew that he was.

Because virginity, supposedly, is sacred.

But I have news for you: It doesn’t have to be.

All it takes is a little bit of myth-busting, a little bit of education, and we can turn around the conversation about virginity.

So join me. We’re long overdue.

“I am sixteen and have already lost my virginity. I truly regret that my first time was with a guy that I didn’t care that much about. Since that first night he expects sex on every date. When I don’t feel like it, we end up in an argument. I don’t think this guy is in love with me, and I know deep down that I am not in love with him either. This makes me feel cheap. I realize now that this is a very big step in a girl’s life. After you have done it, things are never the same. It changes everything.” Since then I have been involved with other guys and I have learnt a few of lessons. Here are a some:

1. Many teenage girls sleep with guys because they are trying to find love, to find self-worth. But the catch is that the more guys they sleep with, the less self-worth they had.

2. Many girls think that if they really care about guys, sex will bring them closer together. Indeed, sex creates a bond. However, 80 percent of the time, the physical intimacy of first sexual relationship won’t last more than six months.

3. Couples who want what is best for their relationship or future marriage will have the patience to wait.

4. Most of the time, when a girl gives away her virginity, she assumes the relationship will last forever.But study of more than 10,000 women shows that when a girl loses her virginity at that age at 14, she’ll probably have about thirteen more lifetime sexual partners.

5. Teen sex frequently causes tension within families because of the dishonesty that usually accompanies the hidden intimacies. Relationships with friends are often strained, and when things turn sour, the gossip and social problems often become unbearable.

6. Everyone talks about how hard it is to say no to sex, but no one tells you how hard it is when you say yes.

7. It is dangerous for a teenage girl to be sexually active. Because a teenage girl’s reproductive system is still immature, she is very susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases

8. In fact, early sexual activity is the number one risk factor for cervical cancer, and the second is multiple sexual partners. A girl’s body, like her heart, is not designed to handle multiple sexual partners.

9.While a girl might plan on sleeping with only one guy, she could be exposing herself to the STDs of hundreds of people through a single act of intercourse. Here’s how: Scientists studied the sexual activity of a public high school of about one thousand students. About half (573) of the students had been sexually active, and most of them had only been with one partner. However, when the scientists tracked the web of sexual activity among the students, it was discovered that more than half of the sexually active teens—without knowing it—were linked together in a network of 288 partners within the school! So if a girl slept with a guy from this school, theoretically she could be in bed with one-fourth of the entire student body.

10.The emotional side effects of premarital sex are also damaging to a young woman. One of the most common consequences of teenage sexual activity is depression. Girls who are sexually active are more than three times as likely to be depressed as girls who are abstinent. In fact, the condition has become so predictable that the American Journal of Preventive Medicine recommends to doctors: “[Girls who are engaging in] sexual intercourse should be screened for depression, and provided with anticipatory guidance about the mental health risks of these behaviors.”Even if a girl experiments with sex once, research shows an increased risk of depression. Also, consider the fact that the rate of suicide attempts for sexually active girls (aged twelve to sixteen) is six times higher than the rate for virgins. Tragically, these girls do not realize the purity, hope, and forgiveness that they can find in Christ.

11. Unfortunately, many young women search for meaning only in relationships with guys, instead of with God. It is not uncommon for a girl to have sex in order to make a guy like her more or to encourage him to stay with her. She may compromise her standards because she is afraid of never being loved. Once he leaves her, though, an emotional divorce takes place. A person’s heart is not made to be that close to a person and then separated.

12. Since teenage sexual relationships rarely last, the girl’s sense of self-worth is often damaged. She may conclude that if she looked better, he would have stayed longer. This mentality can lead to harmful practices, such as eating disorders. Or the disappointment she feels may drive her into a state of self-hatred. Some young women even begin to hurt their own bodies in an attempt to numb the emotional pain. Such practices never solve the problems, though. If she wants to be loved, she needs to begin by loving herself.

13. In her heart, a girl who has been used knows it. However, she may immediately jump into another sexual relationship to escape the hurt. If she tries to boost her self-esteem by giving guys what they want, then her self-worth often ends up depending upon those kinds of relationships. Her development as a woman is stunted because without chastity she does not know how to express affection, appreciation, or attraction for a guy without implying something sexual. She may even conclude that a guy does not love her unless he makes sexual advances toward her. She knows that sex exists without intimacy, but she may forget that intimacy can exist without sex. A girl on this track usually feels accepted initially, but that acceptance lasts only as long as the physical pleasure.

14. Such a lifestyle will also take its toll on her ability to bond. Here’s why: Sharing the gift of sex is like putting a piece of tape on another person’s arm. The first bond is strong, and it hurts to remove it. Shift the tape to another person’s arm, and the bond will still work, but it will be easier to remove. Each time this is done, part of each person remains with the tape. Soon it is easy to remove because the residue from the various arms interferes with the tape’s ability to stick.

15. The same is true in relationships, because neurologists have discovered that previous sexual experiences can interfere with one’s ability to bond with future partners. This does not mean that if a person is not a virgin on the wedding night, he or she will be unable to bond with a spouse. It simply means that when we follow God’s plan, we have the most abundant life possible. But when we turn from his designs and break his commandments, often we are the ones who feel broken afterward.

16 Spiritual. Sin cuts us off from God, and this is the most serious consequence of premarital sex. After going too far, many of us know all too well the cloud of guilt that weighs on our hearts. The solution is not to kill our conscience but to follow it to freedom. It is calling us, not condemning us. Provided we repent, God will be there to welcome us home and let us start over (see John 8 and Luke 15).

What this all means is that our bodies, our hearts, our relationships, and our souls are not made for premarital sex. We are made for enduring love

* Clear conscience with God-The bible says, “the pure in heart shall see God.”(Matthew 5:  If you are living holy before God then you will not have a need to hide yourself the way Adam and Eve did in the garden after they sinned. They had been walking around with no idea they were naked. But, after they sinned against God, they realized their unclothedness and hid themselves because they were now afraid to face Him.  “… I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” (Genesis 3:10)  Resting in the knowledge that you have been obedient to God in this area of your life will give you a clear conscience with God and peace within your soul.

* No emotional baggage going into marriage-  As we mentioned before, sex is a complex experience that involves your mind, body, and soul.  Because you love from your heart and your heart is intricately involved in the emotion of having sex, every sexual encounter outside of marriage represents a piece of your heart that has been given away.  Every time you get hurt or disappointed or betrayed (as will likely happen outside of marriage) you store more emotional baggage that will be taken into your marriage and ultimately cause conflict.

* No risk of pregnancy-Other than abstinence, there is no 100 percent foolproof method of birth control, even when directions are followed correctly.  Failure rates in preventing pregnancy over twelve months of use are reported as follows:

Implant 2.4%
Pill 9%
Diaphragm & cervical cap 13 %
Male condom 15%
Withdrawal 26%
Spermicides 28%1
If you are not having sex then you have no reason to worry about faulty contraceptives or unwanted pregnancies.

* Respect-I read a report that asked teens what they thought about their peers who were not sexually active. Their responses were that they thought they were, “smart,”  “they respected them,” and thought they were, “strong.”  In high school people knew I was a virgin.  Guys would say things like, “Man, don’t even try anything with Carmen she’s not having that.”  They were not saying this negatively, but out of respect.   They knew they could not treat me any kind of way or do anything they wanted to with me and that was cool.  On the other hand, there were many girls who the boys openly “dogged” in the middle of the school lounge telling everybody what they had done with them and how easy they were.  I would always feel so embarrassed and hurt for the girl they were talking about.  Bad decision making had ruined their reputation and tainted the remainder of their high school years.  Protecting your purity also aids in protecting your reputation.

* No risk of STD’s-Most sexually transmitted diseases come from some type of sexual contact.  If you are not having sex then the chances of you contracting a sexually transmitted disease are significantly lower.

* Longer lasting relationships-Most couples who engage in premarital sex break up.  If you want a long lasting relationship you have to wait until you are married to have sex.  Remember that love can’t wait to give and lust can’t wait to get.  Lust can be described as an obsessive, compulsive, preoccupation with sex.  If your boyfriend is always talking about, thinking about, or trying to have sex with you, chances are your relationship is not going to last long. Waiting until you are married to have sex allows you the chance to develop more in depth relationships that are not merely focused on physical pleasure.  And, you have the added bonus of knowing that you are not being pursued solely for sexual reasons.

* Sense of security-Imagine walking down the aisle on your wedding day.  You look so beautiful dressed in white and your groom (who isn’t who you thought it would be) looks so handsome.  You think to yourself, “Boy am I glad I didn’t have sex with Mike.  I would have missed out on this special night when my husband and I will have sex for the first time in our lives with God’s approval.” Although teenage romances can seem like they will last forever, realize there is a 98 percent chance you will never marry the person you date in high school, so it is better to keep yourself pure for your future husband.  Knowing that your spouse was able to control himself sexually in a sex-crazed world is a good sign that he will be faithful in the marriage.

* No sexual reference points in marriage-  If you and your spouse have never had sex with anyone before you got married, then there will be no comparing and no being compared sexually with someone else in the marriage.  No flashbacks and no points of reference other than what you two discover together.  Major bonus point!  This also will give you more respect for your spouse because you will not feel cheapened by his former experiences and vice versa.

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Physical

 * Change in appearance-  Have you ever noticed how people who have had sex outside of marriage begin to look different?  They begin to look old and worn.  Like a toy that has been used over and over again begins to lose its physical appeal, so does a person who continually has sex outside of marriage.  Many try to mask this “used up” look by adding more make-up or wearing more revealing clothes to take the attention off their face and put it on their body. Many girls who are sexually active and taking birth control gain up to 25 lbs.  This unnecessary weight gain can also alter your appearance. I personally recognized a change in my physical appearance after I lost my virginity.  I remember looking through my pictures one day and I came across a picture of myself during my senior year in high school (as a virgin), and a picture taken during my freshman year in college (after losing my virginity).  It may sound strange, but somehow I looked harder.  My face didn’t glow the way it did in my high school pictures and my countenance had changed.  It really hit me at that moment how much of myself I had lost.

* Teen Pregnancy- Premarital sex often leads to unplanned pregnancies.  Teenagers however have more odds stacked against them than older women do. Statistics suggest teens are two times more likely to die in childbirth or pregnancy than older women are.  They have difficult deliveries, scarring, stretchmarks, low birth weight babies, along with the standard sagging breast and tummy, weight gain, nausea, tears, and dark circles under their eyes.  Why would you want to deal with all of this unnecessary drama in the prime of your life? Could this be why God tells us to stay pure until we are married? He knows the impacts of sex on our body.  Romans 6:23 says, “for the wages of sin is death…” God is our Heavenly Father.  The same way your earthly father wants to protect you from harm, God desires so much more to protect you from the effects (or wages) of sin on your body and your soul. 

* Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD’s)-  The spread of diseases through sexual contact is not a pretty picture.  STD’s reveal themselves through burning, itching, oozing, and pus filled sores on your genitals.  Now that’s gross!  Even if you don’t visibly see a sore on your genitals it does not mean that you have not been infected.  Let’s see, you can either practice self-control and wait until you are married to have sex, or you can take your chances and hope you don’t catch anything that will require shots or taking medication several times a day.  Have you ever seen the commercials with attractive young people who are talking about having herpes?  They say things like, “I only have to take such and such medication five times a day and I feel great.” That’s ridiculous.  They are insulting our intelligence.   Some STD’s are incurable.  If you catch them you have them for life. That’s a lifetime prison sentence, in exchange for a moment of pleasure with someone you may not even like in three days.  I have a friend whose little sister contracted herpes the first time she had sex.  I’m no mathematician, but that just doesn’t seem to add up.

Spiritual

* Self-destructive behavior-   As a Christian, when you engage in premarital sex, you are consciously sinning against God.  This can lead to a perpetual cycle of self-destruction.  You develop low self-esteem, low self-worth, and diminished expectations of yourself.  In many cases, the devastation that comes from giving a holy thing (your body, the temple of the Holy Spirit) to an unholy cause, (physical gratification outside of marriage) will lead to feelings of emptiness, embarrassment, and confusion.  You begin to question everything about yourself and the world, as you know it. Like Adam and Eve you realize your unclothedness before God, and because you are not equipped to deal with it at such an early age, you sink into an abyss of self-loathing and destructive behavior.  Many students’ grades drop and they lose interest in things that they once enjoyed after having sex.  I remember feeling super insecure about almost everything after I had sex.  If I felt insecure about it before sex, it was only worsened afterward.  Here is a poem I wrote in college after breaking up with my boyfriend.  I had lost my true self while living a life of compromise and people pleasing.  I found myself in the midst of an Identity Crisis.

 Identity Crisis?

 Who am I?

Where do I fit in?

What are the defining lines of my existence?

 My eyes tell the story of my own confusion.

Searching I find temporary shelter in my role as friend, sister, student.

Still my soul longs for more.

 The wayside compliments of passerbyers, male-suitors, and insecure women leave me the more bewildered.

Exactly what do I call myself?

I seek a mirror that can reflect to me my true self.

My heart aches from isolation.

Do I base my esteem on my looks, achievements, or friends?

What happens when I’m alone-Am I then a failure?

Does anyone truly know me?

Can I say that I know myself?

I understand that I am fearfully and wonderfully made,

But I can’t seem to get past this empty feeling of nothingness.

 * You develop “soul ties” - Your soul joins with the soul or souls of those you have had sex.  We will call these “soul ties,” because your soul is actually being tied or entangled together with the soul of the person you had sex.  Think of it this way, when you get on an airplane you are usually allowed a piece of carry on luggage to keep items you will need during the flight accessible.  Soul ties can be considered carry-on luggage.  It is unwanted, hindering, emotionally draining baggage that attaches itself to your soul everytime you sexually involve yourself with someone outside of marriage.  Not only are you carrying on the baggage of the person you have sex with, but every person they had sex with and so on and so on.  Now, that’s a lot of baggage.

Social

* You get involved with the wrong crowd.  1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “bad company corrupts good morals.” Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can hang around sexually active people who drink and not be influenced by their actions.  When you begin making bad decisions, you often find yourself surrounded by others who are making the same bad decisions. Don’t fool yourself into believing that you can hang out with people that are living wild and unrestrained and not be affected. Galatians 6:7 says, “be not deceived God is not mocked, for whatsoever a man soweth (plants), that shall he also reap(produce).”

*  Bad reputation- The word is out.  You have had sex.  You quickly get labeled “easy,” “loose,” or “a sure bet.”

*  Insecurity / Loss of trust- You become jealous and begin comparing your body to other girls’ bodies.  You are always worried some other girl will steal your boyfriend from you.  Life becomes very stressful. You don’t even trust yourself to do right and control your own body, how can you trust someone else?  After having sex I was a wreck.  Whenever I would go out with my boyfriend I would accuse him of starring at other girls.  Though at times he was looking, many times I was just overreacting out of insecurity. I felt so vuleranable that it caused me to mistrust everything he did.  If he had to study with a female student I had a fit.  The fact that I was acting so unstable was very frustrating because it was totally out of character for me.  I was usually the one who could care less if a guy didn’t want to be with me.  “Next!” I would think, his loss.  But suddenly, I became this heap of dramatic, irrational emotions doubting everything and everybody.  It was a mess!

* Object of Rumors/Gossip-  Many times pre-marital sex causes you to become the subject of rumors.  “Did you hear about so and so?”  “I heard they did this and that on the corner of here and there.”  Who needs that drama?  You certainly don’t.   The opening musical selection in the movie Grease has the characters Danny and Sandra Dee telling their friends about their summer romance.   Innocent, chaste, Sandra Dee tells the girls how romantic and gentlemanly Danny is, and how tender and innocent their summer was together.  Danny, on the other hand, after being pressured by his tough and rugged friends for all the “juicy” details exaggerates the story into something that really did not happen.  Here are a few lines from the song they sang to their friends (if you’re singing along don’t forget your 50’s twang):

Sandra: He got friendly holding my hand.

Danny: She got friendly down in the sand.

Danny: We made out under the dock

Sandra: We stayed up ‘til ten o’clock

Now that’s a major difference of interpretation.  Many young women have their reputations smeared because the guy they are dating or went on a date with is too embarrassed to admit that nothing happened.  The chorus of this song sung by Danny and Sandra Dee’s friends, which urges, “tell me more, tell me more,” is an example of how easy it is to start rumors by trying to appease our friends by telling them what they want to hear and not the truth.  Unfortunately, the twisting of facts has ruined many reputations.

Emotional

Broken hearts- Sex outside of marriage almost always ends with a broken heart. Once your heart has been broken your whole outlook on life and love are different.  The bible tells us to, “guard our hearts with all diligence for out of it flow the issues of life.” (Proverbs 4:23) When we fail to guard our hearts we open ourselves to be deeply wounded by those who are only interested in their own sexual pleasure.  Recovering from a broken heart is painful and can scar you for many years if not a lifetime. Focus on doing things that will encourage a healthy emotional life and not a broken, crushed spirit.  If you feel like you are getting too emotionally involved with a guy (which is easy to do), take a few steps back and really try to look at the relationship for what it is.  Are you romanticizing the relationship (making it more than it really is)? Are you thinking more highly of your boyfriend than you ought to? Does he feel the same way about you emotionally as you do towards him?  These are important questions to answer before you commit yourself emotionally in a relationship.  Guard your heart diligently, it’s the only one you’ve got.
Emotionally Unstable (a.k.a. Fatal Attraction)-  You develop irrational responses to ordinary situations.  Crying, fear, stress, depression, apathy, isolation, and hopelessness crowd your mind and cause your emotional growth to be stifled.  You have no clue what you want anymore.  One minute you are in love, the next minute you are disgusted by the very sound of his voice.  You do things you later regret and say things you wish you could take back. Look at these two poems I wrote at the end of a relationship (shortly after breaking up and once I realized we were not getting back together.) The drastic change in emotion is almost funny, but knowing the pain I felt, it is actually quite sad.
You

Mountain tops and valley lows bring images of you

Ringing through the countryside

It’s you, it’s you, it’s you

The love we shared then hid away

Resurfaces with joy

In riverbeds and ocean sides which flow forevermore

So, if you stop to take a drink

Do remember me

For until then my love for you flows helpless out at sea.

Now that’s just pitiful! Pitiful, sad, pitiful and sad!  I was gone, lost in space.  My image of this guy at that time in my life was obviously unbalanced. “Ringing through the countryside, It’s you, it’s you, it’s you!”  Please, somebody slap me.  If you think that was bad wait until you read this:

You No More

What should my priorities be?

Worrying about you?

Wondering why you do what you do when you did what you did to me?

Or

Should I simply, carefully, lovingly

Get my act together?

 What should my goals be?

Chasing after you

Wasting time as you speed down someone else’s driveway leaving dust in my face.

Or

Should I?

Could I?

Will I?

Gracefully, elegantly, wholeheartedly

Give all my love

Which you threw away

To my Father who reigns on high

He unlike you

Loves me, cares for me, died for me

So, why am I chasing you?

Sounds a little bitter and unstable don’t you think? But I think the point is clear, premarital sex makes you crazy!

* Other relationships suffer- Your relationships with your girlfriends may suffer because you are so consumed with being around your boyfriend that you don’t spend anytime with them. Whenever my best friend would start dating a guy she would kick me to the curb until things settle down in the relationship.  Your relationship with God suffers because you hide yourself from him out of embarrassment in a time when you should be running to him for help. While, your parents are trying to figure out why you are acting so unlike yourself.  Be careful not to cut off everyone else in your life because if the relationship ends you will need their support.

Now that we have thoroughly discussed the main reasons why we compromise our purity.  Let’s begin to explore some of the major benefits of living holy before God and the awesome benefits of a pure lifestyle.

A cool And perfect job by his grace, den nid to settle down, meaning d hunting for a mistress must be settled too

U shldnt be here bro, let's be serious, say somtin meaningful

jerryboiii:
Cut ur prick..problem solved.

This period of my life have been kinda hard, trying to kip away from sex. Its has not been easy, buh kinda difficult, need NLerz to share dem views on how to keep away from sexual immorality. Thanks for ya contributions in advance!

The feeling of jealousy isn’t a good feeling, but there are certain situations where it’s good to be jealous in your relationship. Jealousy is a natural emotion that we can’t control at times. We often get jealous for no reason, but if your partner behaves in a way that causes you to be jealous, don’t feel guilty about expressing your emotions. He should know about your feelings and he should admit his mistakes. When jealousy hits, make sure you have a reason for it and let your partner know about that reason. Good communication is the key to a happy and healthy relationship. Here are seven times when it’s actually okay to be jealous.

1. WHEN HE GIVES FLIRTATIOUS VIBES TO ANOTHER WOMAN
If you are at a party or any other social gathering and you notice that your partner is extremely flirtatious with another woman, it’s absolutely natural to get jealous. Don’t hide your emotions. Let your partner know that you don’t like his behavior, but do it in a calm way. If needed, take a few deep breaths to release your anger first. The last thing you want to do is to cry and scream and ruin your day or evening.

2. WHEN YOU LEARN IMPORTANT THINGS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER FROM OTHERS
When you are in a relationship, you want to know everything about your significant other. It’s painful when you learn some important facts about your partner’s life from his friends, coworkers or neighbors. It’s okay to feel jealous. After all, why do his coworkers know about those facts and you don’t? Ask your partner why he didn’t tell you anything about it, but don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe he just forget to tell you about it, or maybe he has a crucial reason to hide it from you.

3. WHEN YOUR PARTNER TREATS HIS JOB OR HOBBY LIKE HIS SECOND RELATIONSHIP
If you partner spends all of his time at work, it’s not surprising you feel so jealous. While it’s great to love your job or hobby, you should also spend your time with family and friends. Discuss it with your partner and help him to find a good work-life balance. You love him and you want to spend more time with him. Tell him! He needs to make some lifestyle changes to live a happier life.



4. WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE HE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOU
Hearing your partner brag about his happy and successful day, when you are trying to cope with the hard times, is always difficult and it’s okay to feel jealous. Sure, you should be happy for your partner’s success, but if you feel like your partner doesn’t care about you and your problems, it’s a red flag. Just tell him that you are happy for him, but you have some serious problems so you don’t feel well now.

5. WHEN HE TRAVELS A LOT
If your partner is a travel junkie, chances are that he visits new places at least once a month. If you don’t have time or simply can’t afford to travel, you may feel jealous, and it’s bad and good feeling at the same time. Again, if he loves you and cares about you, he will never go anywhere without you. Don’t let your jealousy ruin your relationship, why not save for your lifetime trip together? You will have an awesome experience and improve your relationship.

6. WHEN HE BUYS EXPENSIVE THINGS
If your partner makes more money than you and he never buys cheap things (like you do), it’s okay to feel kind of jealous that you can’t afford to buy a super cool smartphone or brand name clothing. This is a situation when you have to cope with your jealousy alone. Remember, he loves you for who you are. If he doesn’t tell you that you wear cheap things, there’s no need to worry.

7. WHEN HE SPENDS MORE TIME WITH HIS FRIENDS THAN WITH YOU
If you feel like your partner spends more time with his friends than with you, don’t blame yourself for being jealous. Instead, let your partner know that you feel lonely because he doesn’t spend enough time with you. You should be his priority, not his friends.

Most of us believe that jealousy is a toxic emotion that can ruin any relationship, but it shouldn’t make you feel unhappy. There are situations where your jealousy can help you either improve your relationship or end an unhealthy relationship. However, if you realize you are too jealous in your relationship, try to get rid of this emotion and don’t let it ruin your life.

– Jennifer Houston/Womanitely

Ahh, you suave, romantic men, you. You’ve met the woman of your dreams, you’ve fallen head-over-heels in love, and now, you’re keen to make the bold step and ask her to move in with you.

It’s a beautiful moment that will inevitably lead to many a romantic evening spent in each other’s company, sharing endless bottles of wine and, most importantly, being treated to sex on tap.

The beautiful image of living with your lady is a wonderful first step on your journey to happiness.

But, are you prepared for the bachelor pad of your dreams to be interrupted by the love of your life’s ladylike ways? Your life is about to change, from the world of hair products to tampons — here’s how:

1. YOUR OPINION IS ALWAYS WRONG.
This normally comes down to clothing. If a woman ever asks, “What do you think of this?” she’s just waiting to see if you agree with her opinion, which, of course, is always wrong.

A simple way to avoid this can’t-win situation is to say, “Ooh! What do you think?” Women are normally apt to tell you what they think, anyway, so once you’ve judged whether she likes it or not, you can nod along or shake your head appropriately. It’s a foolproof solution.

2. YOUR HELPFUL ADVICE IS ALSO WRONG.
This is mostly a weight thing. No matter how many times your lady whines about being fat or needing to go on a diet or wanting to lose some weight, the answer is always, “Don’t be silly, darling, you look gorgeous!” Even if she then continues on a body-image rant, stick to the pre-approved phrase.

Women have plenty of lady friends who can advise in a far more appropriate fashion if a calorie cutback is needed, meaning your role is redundant.

Answers to avoid at all costs include, “Well, go to the gym, then,” or “Just try cutting back a bit,” or even, “Serves you right for eating that entire box of cookies last night.”

3. WOMEN SHAVE.
She won’t ever tell you about it, and you’ll never know it’s happening, but every now and again, you’ll suddenly see her beautifully moisturized legs waving around in your face, yet again.

Just don’t ever mention it. Don’t say, “Ooh, you shaved!” or ask when her next “proper shower” will be or even wonder where she keeps her womanly supplies.

You need not question the shaving occurrence. Just accept that it will happen and make sure you appreciate it when it does.

4. ANY REMAINING HAIR GETS EVERYWHERE.
Don’t even try to clean it up. A lady’s hair gets everywhere, especially between the sheets. You can’t give us a good romping and expect us not to shed all over you.

You’ll find stray hairs on your pillow; you’ll find stray hairs on the sofa, and you’ll even find stray hairs making their way into your laundry, and will, thus, be digging them out from a fresh pair of underwear.

And, don’t even bother trying to work out how it ended up between your butt cheeks.



5. WOMEN HAVE PERIODS.
Just as with the shaving, don’t mention it. It’s quite okay to pretend it doesn’t happen and to be blissfully ignorant every time it does.

Be there if she needs you, and by all means, offer hot water bottles, paracetamol and endless sofa snuggles in full abundance, but don’t ever play the “Are you on your period?” card. If you do, you’ll face the deserved consequences.

6. HANDS OFF OUR BEAUTY BOX!
Women have many tools of the trade — tweezers, nail files, a variety of hairbrushes and so much more. But, these tools are solely for women’s use.

It is simply unacceptable to ask to borrow a woman’s nail clippers to maintain your smelly man feet, as is using tweezers to pluck that ingrown hair from your man junk. Just no.

7. THE SAME GOES FOR BODY PRODUCTS.
Expensive shampoo, fancy moisturizer, cleansing face wipes — these are not intended for masculine use.

If you’re mid-shower and realize you’ve run out of body wash, don’t reach for the tiny, horrifically overpriced bottle of exfoliating cleanser to scrub your manliness.

8. THE FRIDGE WORKS BOTH WAYS.
If you’ve ever had a roommate, you’ll know the dramas that the shared fridge brings.

Whilst a romantic encounter softens this blow a little bit, if you have goodies you want to keep for yourself, expect that she’ll bring her own supply of tasty delights that you are strictly not allowed to have. A shared box of chocolates after dinner, sure, but stay away from the Greek yogurt.

9. THIS ALSO WORKS WITH SHOPPING.
You’ll have to share the shopping. Whether this means you go together and make an evening event out of buying milk or you both go individually and end up with a list of requirements from your other half (all of which you’ll inevitably get wrong), you need a system.

Accept that you’ll end up paying for her hair products every now and again, and learn to be bold when checking out with a box of tampons. Women feel the same way when buying condoms, so it works both ways.

10. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS ASK.
Sometimes, women do the wrong thing, whether it’s putting the glasses in the wrong cupboard, not hanging up the towels correctly or failing to rearrange the throw pillows in the appropriate order. Rather than getting into nit-picky argument, all you have to do is ask.

A simple, “Hey, honey, would you mind doing it this way instead?” works a billion times better than, “How many more times are you going to get this wrong?” If you don’t tell us, we won’t know. Although we like to think we are, we’re not mind readers.

But, if you can survive the ups and downs that come with cohabiting with the love of your life, you’ll soon realize how wonderful it is knowing every morning, she’ll be there, next to you, ready for cuddles and pre-work kisses. Ultimate win.

– Becky Wells/EliteDaily

Let’s be honest… it’s not difficult for women to find sex.

You could literally walk down the street, ask if anyone wants to go to bed with you, and you’ll have several hands go up – if not all. Hell, you’ll probably even have a few women raise their hands as well.

The harder part for women is finding someone to keep around for the long run. Finding a man for the night is easy. Finding a man for a year is much more difficult. Finding a man for life is… well, rare.

It’s impossible to tell if that someone is the right someone for life, but you can tell if he’s worth keeping around for a while. You can also tell when he isn’t worth more than a few goes in between the sheets. Here are a few signals to watch out for:

HE’S CUTE, BUT HE ISN’T EXACTLY YOUR TYPE – KEEP HIM FOR THE NIGHT.
There are plenty of beautiful people in the world, and a surprisingly large amount of them will be more than willing to sleep with you. Yet, finding the one who looks just right – I think you know what I mean – isn’t easy.

Finding someone who looks like home is rare, but finding someone who looks like a good time in a hotel room is much easier.

YOU MANAGED TO HAVE A REAL CONVERSATION – MAYBE KEEP HIM AROUND FOR A BIT LONGER.
I’ve spoken with a lot of women, but I’ve had very few actual conversations. I don’t consider small talk a real convo; you shouldn’t either.

A man worth keeping around is a man who helps you explore your own beliefs and consciousness through the words the two of you share. If the conversations feel recycled then maybe just get him into bed instead.

HE MAKES YOU LAUGH WITHOUT EVEN TRYING – KEEP HIM FOR LIFE.
There is little in the world that feels better than laughter. It makes you feel great instantly and has lasting effects for the long run – what better medicine could you ask for?

He doesn’t have to be a comedian, but having a similar sense of humor is a big plus if you’re thinking about bringing him onboard for a while.

IF THINKING ABOUT HIM DOESN’T BRING A SMILE TO YOUR FACE — HE’S ONLY GOOD FOR A NIGHT.
This isn’t to say that you have to be in love with the guy, but if not even his performance in the sack can make you smile then there is no point in continuing, is there?

YOU CAN TELL HE DOESN’T REALLY CARE ABOUT YOU — HE’S A ONE-NIGHTER.
Some guys are good at pretending to care, but most won’t bother. You, though, have to be able to tell the difference under every circumstance. It’s when you confuse the way a man feels about you that you begin to make poor decisions.

If you know he doesn’t really care then don’t fool yourself into believing he does. Even guys like to project their own feelings when they find someone they really like.



HE’D RATHER WATCH TV THAN HAVE SEX – MAYBE DON’T EVEN KEEP HIM FOR THE NIGHT AND JUST THROW HIM OUT RIGHT AWAY.
If he would rather stare at a TV than your arched back then he isn’t really good for much. Hell, he isn’t much of a man at all really.

He’s either still a boy or you just don’t have the right chemistry – so move on to the next one.

IF HE’S BOUGHT YOU SOMETHING FOR NO REASON – EVEN IF IT’S SOMETHING SEEMINGLY INSIGNIFICANT – YOU SHOULD CONSIDER KEEPING HIM AROUND.
There are men who will shower women with gifts just to get in their pants, so be careful. But when a guy buys you something because he couldn’t stop thinking about you, you’ll know.

The more personal the gift the more worthwhile he is.

IF HE SEEMS TO KNOW YOU BETTER THAN YOU KNOW YOURSELF — YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY KEEP HIM AROUND FOR AT LEAST A LITTLE BIT LONGER.
It’s hard to find someone who looks at you and sees you clear as day. It does happen, but rarely. And when it does, you should keep that person around for as long as possible.

He will help you learn about yourself and help you become the person you wish to be. He’s probably the most valuable person you can have in your life.

HE DOESN’T RESPECT YOU – GET RID OF HIM AS SOON AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.
…Or just keep him around if he’s a good lay. A girl’s gotta get it in when she needs to just as well. He may be a prick, but if he pushes all the right buttons then maybe you can keep him around as a plaything for some time.

Technically, you’re using him just as much as he’s using you… so fair is fair.

IF HE LISTENS TO YOU MORE THAN HE TALKS — HE MAY BE THE MAN FOR YOU.
Guys like to talk to fill in the gaps, but when they feel that there are no gaps to fill, they listen. Every man is capable of listening. However, most men will not – pardon my language – give a rat’s ass about anything that comes out of your mouth.

If he hangs on your every word then he clearly cares about you, and not just the physical you, but the mental you. Someone who is fascinated by your mind is definitely worth the risk.

IF HE’S NOT TRUSTWORTHY — DON’T GIVE TOO MUCH OF YOURSELF TO HIM.
If you have feelings for him then your impulse will be to trust him, but you may want to reconsider. You have to analyze him and his actions towards you objectively and figure out how much of yourself you should be willing to give him, how much you’re willing to open up.

Most people you shouldn’t trust with your heart and even those you can, you should be wary of. Opening up too much too soon can do just as much damage.

- Paul Hudson/EliteDaily

Thanks bro, we nid to effect a change!

RockyTeee:
Thanks op, you ve made some valid points but one of the peculiarities of culture is that it is difficult to change..
You can just decide to be different but people will still dance to the tune of the society. Wasting resources all in d name of ceremonies, some even incur debts.

Was watching foriegn movies, and I noticed so many things. First of all, how weddings are being done. In the West, you don't need to have a fat account to wed a lady, but in nigeria, many people don't see it that way all because of culture. Was opportuned to chat with a bro of mine that told me how is brother planned for his wedding. It was more or less he was preparing for a fiscal budget. Why must we go through all this just because we want to we, all this boils down to the society, everyone wants to please the society. Had a little chat with my mum and liltle bro, told them I might do the traditional wedding to please my parent cos left to me alone I am ready to do it on a low key. But the white wedding will be as low as I can ever imagine, spend almost millions feeding people and wasting money only to end up drinking garri. This is what the society is condoling, situation where people go to the point where people go to do money rituals, occultism, fraud, etc all in the name of doing wedding, mostly occurs in the eastern part of the country.
Secondly, again I want to compare this culture of ours to that of the west in terms of burial ceremony. Had a little chat with a neighbour, he said and I quote, " I spent over 3 million naira to bury my mum " chai, see how much he spent to bury the mum all in the name of culture. In my place where I come from, after burrying the dead just because someone is looking for gains, they end up demanding this and that. You see them drinking, eating, dancing and at the same time crying, what a culture? My problem is that, you end up spending huge amount of money for the dead, what a waste. Why not spend at least some on the person while he or she was alive. Imagine am from the eastern part, chai, it gonna be a big problem, cos the procedures are so expensive and alarming, where you see people that ordinarily won't help if the person where to be alive spending millions to bury the dead. Why not bury the dead on a low key and pray they make heaven and put the money into good use?
In conclusion, its time we looked beyond all this traditional stuff cos someone is gaining somewhere, feeding on our ignorance. And we don't need to have #1billion on your account to wed. Am just airing my views and I feel in my own sense of reasoning that things need to chang and its we the youth that can make the change. Thanks for reading, open to criticism or your opinionz.

Was watching foriegn movies, and I noticed so many things. First of all, how weddings are being done. In the West, you don't need to have a fat account to wed a lady, but in nigeria, many people don't see it that way all because of culture. Was opportuned to chat with a bro of mine that told me how is brother planned for his wedding. It was more or less he was preparing for a fiscal budget. Why must we go through all this just because we want to we, all this boils down to the society, everyone wants to please the society. Had a little chat with my mum and liltle bro, told them I might do the traditional wedding to please my parent cos left to me alone I am ready to do it on a low key. But the white wedding will be as low as I can ever imagine, spend almost millions feeding people and wasting money only to end up drinking garri. This is what the society is condoling, situation where people go to the point where people go to do money rituals, occultism, fraud, etc all in the name of doing wedding, mostly occurs in the eastern part of the country.
Secondly, again I want to compare this culture of ours to that of the west in terms of burial ceremony. Had a little chat with a neighbour, he said and I quote, " I spent over 3 million naira to bury my mum " chai, see how much he spent to bury the mum all in the name of culture. In my place where I come from, after burrying the dead just because someone is looking for gains, they end up demanding this and that. You see them drinking, eating, dancing and at the same time crying, what a culture? My problem is that, you end up spending huge amount of money for the dead, what a waste. Why not spend at least some on the person while he or she was alive. Imagine am from the eastern part, chai, it gonna be a big problem, cos the procedures are so expensive and alarming, where you see people that ordinarily won't help if the person where to be alive spending millions to bury the dead. Why not bury the dead on a low key and pray they make heaven and put the money into good use?
In conclusion, its time we looked beyond all this traditional stuff cos someone is gaining somewhere, feeding on our ignorance. And we don't need to have #1billion on your account to wed. Am just airing my views and I feel in my own sense of reasoning that things need to chang and its we the youth that can make the change. Thanks for reading, open to criticism or your opinionz.

Was watching foriegn movies, and I noticed so many things. First of all, how weddings are being done. In the West, you don't need to have a fat account to wed a lady, but in nigeria, many people don't see it that way all because of culture. Was opportuned to chat with a bro of mine that told me how is brother planned for his wedding. It was more or less he was preparing for a fiscal budget. Why must we go through all this just because we want to we, all this boils down to the society, everyone wants to please the society. Had a little chat with my mum and liltle bro, told them I might do the traditional wedding to please my parent cos left to me alone I am ready to do it on a low key. But the white wedding will be as low as I can ever imagine, spend almost millions feeding people and wasting money only to end up drinking garri. This is what the society is condoling, situation where people go to the point where people go to do money rituals, occultism, fraud, etc all in the name of doing wedding, mostly occurs in the eastern part of the country.
Secondly, again I want to compare this culture of ours to that of the west in terms of burial ceremony. Had a little chat with a neighbour, he said and I quote, " I spent over 3 million naira to bury my mum " chai, see how much he spent to bury the mum all in the name of culture. In my place where I come from, after burrying the dead just because someone is looking for gains, they end up demanding this and that. You see them drinking, eating, dancing and at the same time crying, what a culture? My problem is that, you end up spending huge amount of money for the dead, what a waste. Why not spend at least some on the person while he or she was alive. Imagine am from the eastern part, chai, it gonna be a big problem, cos the procedures are so expensive and alarming, where you see people that ordinarily won't help if the person where to be alive spending millions to bury the dead. Why not bury the dead on a low key and pray they make heaven and put the money into good use?
In conclusion, its time we looked beyond all this traditional stuff cos someone is gaining somewhere, feeding on our ignorance. And we don't need to have #1billion on your account to wed. Am just airing my views and I feel in my own sense of reasoning that things need to chang and its we the youth that can make the change. Thanks for reading, open to criticism or your opinionz.

U a disgrace to humanity, I pity ya generations. U kip saying shit or are ya talking abt anoda country called nigeria cos if ya saying all dis I guess either am in d wrong country or someone is blind and I guess ya re

theshadyexpress:
Its hard for u and ur likes to comprehend an achievement when u see one
Pls shut up and get lost ,this thread is meant for people with objective minds

Had 3rd class unilorin and studied economics 2013 set

makhez019:
Just want to know how intelligent nairalanders are. Pls don't lie, ya discipline and institution and ya grades too?

Anytime I enter and refresh ma. And I see new post I dhe always pray say na ya, and if na ya chai I dhe happy die. Anyways just checking on ya #bowingmahead#

ammyluv2002:
Okay now! I dey your back

Amyluv, everywhere ya go I dhe follow ya

ammyluv2002:
Kai! Dis Linda sister sha

Just want to know how intelligent nairalanders are. Pls don't lie, ya discipline and institution and ya grades too?

Joe orwad ya call yaself, u roaring like a wounded lion. D fact still remains dat ya guyz don't ve life. Go search for one and ya shall find one. U better knoiw dat dere is a supreme being who controls d universe. Where philosophy ends, Faith abounds, peace out

DrJoe1:
cognitive dissonance @ it's peak.
when u discover why you don't need his kind of research, you would realize why he doesn't need ur kind of faith, savvy?

Governor Ibrahim Dankwambo of Gombe state has accused his predecessor in office, Danjuma Goje, of sending political thugs, known as “Kalare Boys” to assassinate him when he visited Kashere town on a courtesy call to the federal university there.
The governor was reacting to a statement released by the All Progressives Congress [APC] on Saturday in which it accused Mr. Dankwambo of clamping down on APC members in the state and ordering the destruction of properties of the former governor and also arresting members of his family.
Mr. Dankwambo visited Kashere, the home town of Mr. Goje on Thursday.
“During his visit, Gov. Dankwambo personally ordered the removal of all APC billboards and posters in the town, ordered the police and the army to break into Senator Goje’s family house, where they broke down doors, teargased and arrested his relations, including children.
“The governor also ordered the same security forces to break into the family house of Senator Goje’s wife, where they similarly destroyed doors and teargased the occupants, including the 90-year-old father of Senator Goje’s wife and the Senator’s wife’s 70-year-old stepmother, while all her sisters and brothers were arrested,” the APC said in its release by its spokesperson, Lai Mohammed.
Governor Dankwambo, however, denied the allegation, saying on the contrary, Mr. Goje was the one who ordered an attack on him.
The governor’s spokesperson, Junaid Mohammed, who spoke to PREMIUM TIMES over the telephone said “what happened on Thursday was simply a case of assassination attempt on his excellency, Governor Ibrahim Hassan Dankwambo”.
Mr. Mohammed also said Mr. Dankwambo was in Kashere on a courtesy call to the federal University on the invitation of the Vice Chancelor.
He also said the governor’s visit was conducted peacefully at the University, but trouble started when he decided to visit the palace of the traditional ruler of the town.
“As is the tradition, the governor decided to visit the palace of the emir to pay homage, but our convoy was attacked by Kalare thugs near the roundabout right in front of the Police Station,
“The vehicle I was travelling in was the one that was first attacked because we were in front of the governor’s car, but they did not spare the governor’s vehicle and threw all sorts of objects at it. They destroyed the side glass where he was seated.
“In all of this, the governor ordered that no one should be maltreated,” Mr. Mohammed said.
He also denied that the governor ordered the arrest of members of Mr. Goje’s family.
He said all those who presently in custody were simply invited by the police, who as expected, launched an investigation into the incident.
“You know the police will not allow an attempt on the life of even a sitting Local Government Councillor, not to talk of an executive governor. So they have begun investigation into the matter and have therefore, invited some persons in that regard,” he said.
Mr. Mohammed also debunked insinuations that Mr. Dankwambo was planning to relocate the University from the town.
He said the governor, while serving as the Accountant General of the Federation, alongside many indigenes of Gombe state in the Federal cabinet, lobbied President Jonathan for the citing of the university in the state.

As dey say, d fleshy d babe d merrier d sex

aldexrio:
1. Light Skinned Women
There is a popular Yoruba song that goes “omo pupa
o, omo pupa la wa n fe; omo pupa o ju wo mo feran
re o” it literally means “light skinned girl you are the
one we want to marry, light skinned girl, please I love
you.”
Most men will give their right arm to date and marry
a light skinned girl. In the olden days (and now) light
skinned girls attracted more suitors and their bride
price were quite exorbitant. Light skinned women are
always the centre of attraction and most men who
date them believe that marrying (a much coveted)
light skinned girl will do wonders for their egos.
Most dark skinned women have taken to using skin
bleaching crèmes in order to compete with their
fairer counterparts.

2. Women With Ample Flesh
Most Nigerian men will not marry a skinny woman
but they would rather sleep with her instead. Many
men from the western and eastern part of Nigeria
believe that a woman is more beautiful if she has
ample flesh, some men have been known to date
only women who have big butts! Most Yoruba men
are of the opinion that sleeping with a skinny woman
is like sleeping with a man, but sleeping with a
woman that has some ample flesh will give them
something soft to hold on to.

3. Understanding Women
An intolerant woman will sure have a hard time
finding a man to settle down with. No Nigerian man
wants a woman who will grill him at the slightest
opportunity. If a Nigerian man suspects you to be
intolerant of his (sometimes) bad behaviour, he will
drop you like a hot potato.
The trick most women employ is to become his legal
wife first, and after the wedding (now they have a
firm foot hold) they’ll draw up a list of do’s and don’ts
for their husbands to abide by.

4. Hardworking Women
Most men in Nigeria will never consider marrying a
woman who is not gainfully employed or runs a
business of her own. Gainfully employed women are
at the very top of a searching bachelor’s list. The
present economic situation in the country is not
making things any easier for men, who are mostly
the bread winners of many Nigerian families. Most
men want a wife who can help support the family
(financially). Most women and a few men still believe
that it is the man’s responsibility to provide for his
family and allowing a woman to do part of his job is
nothing but an insult to his manhood.

source: www.informationng.com/2014/12/4-types-of-women-nigerian-men-love-to-marry.html

Dat guy is high on weed, pls stay away from dis post

Deshannel:
What r you saying?

2:53pm
Today, we find out that wad is common in our society today is sex, kids everywhere talk abt sex. Gone re dose days where sex is for only married couple, it pains me wen I see youths dat re suppose to uphold moral values tends to violate it. Stay in mile 2, where ya see men as old as someone fada tracking a kid, wad a ashameful world. I pity our future generation, where re d virgins of old, ladies of virtues, d world today is in a sorry state and we nid to save it from sinking. I say no to pre marital sex, I say no to child abuse.