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sirusX:
Like I said earlier on...

What's with the prayer/curse...are we in a fight or argument??

I never mentioned I was in support of cheating, neither am I an advocate to that matter

Neither did I quote you to sly you

I only try to analyze issues and bring up points to dialogue about

DonGalilo:
I can see that u failed to understand my write up, didn't u see where I said " am not an advocate of infidelity in marriage"?
If u won't be biased, u and I know that men are more prone to things that can make them to become an infidel owing to our visual sensitivity.

sirusX:
What's with the curses...are we in a fight or argument??

I never mentioned I was in support of cheating, neither am I an advocate to that matter

I only try to analyze issues and bring up points to dialogue about

sirusX:
True...there's no excuse for cheating, and the vows should be an eternal bond/contract/agreement

but, nobody at that stage plans to cheat, else why lose your single status

The issue later becomes borne out of neglect from one partner, or desire for another

That's when the "planning to cheat" begins

handsam:
You mean IT'S existence was a mistake?

handsam:
Dafuq? Where is the chill?

You mean IT is null and void, IT doesn't exist.

handsam:
Whoa.! What is IT then?

the opposite of an entity, if you know java programming language, you'd understand the statement {NuLL} thats exactly what it is

kimbra:
You'll get tired of typing. These people type for "likes" not that they know what they say most times.

Tomorrow he'll create thread on "How to stay faithful" to your partner. Today "Men can't stay faithful to one partner and women should tolerate".

you beat me to it

handsam:
Kinda looks like I saw a Thing throw shades at me.
Gotta look again, Oh It did.

In the end, Who gives a fvck about the Thing?

DonGalilo:
Everybody is shouting "women shouldn't settle for less" but what has been predestined can't be changed.
Funny enough, women are getting married to potential cheating husbands everyday. Probably, some of these men had no intention of cheating on their wives before marriage but they would later succumb due to incessant seduction from the opposite sex who find them irresistible. Some people will quickly conclude that real men should be able to resist any temptation but temptation is in degrees.
If you are the type that got married or will get marry to a faithful man by luck, u would really need to thank your stars, because is not by power or by expertise and if u eventually falls in to the group of not so lucky ones, what is expected of you is to assess your marriage to know where the problem comes from.
Am not in support of those women who leave their matrimonial home hastily as a result of infidelity from their husband and at the same time, am not an advocate of infidelity because it's one of the sources of disaster in marriage but above all nobody is infallible.

Shortyy:
And that guy is someone that gives marriage advice here every time. 10 ways of this, 15 ways of that. SMH.
Men really think this world revolves around them.

sirusX:
My answer is NO...and I never mentioned anywhere I was in favour of turning a blind eye

It's not easy being with a partner that cheats, especially when you're being faithful

PS: The movies I talk about are not just abstract that they don't exist...and I never referred to them as the solution to a problem, but I only brought them up in the first place cz I wanted you to get the idea of people that cheated and why they cheated...instead of bringing up scenarios

The solution/way out that's chosen is based on individual approach

theres no excuse for cheating, the wedding vows they made should mean something, wether good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, till death do you part, what's so confusing about the vow, its like an agreement clearly stated out, if you must cheat, make it an open marriage, allow her to cheat as well, simple, it shouldn't be one sided, we all have feelings, nobody is superman

Laveda:
They'll end up in such marriage caused they said No to a cheating man?

How wise.

pea sized wisdom, i cant believe this

tosyne2much:
What are you saying? Even if my wife cheats, would it be easy for me to file a divorce and marry another woman? No it won't

The way most if you clamour divorce is very alarming

sirusX:
I wouldn't say the focus is on men, but rather the thought of cheating by any partner.

True, there is a limit, but where do you draw the line?

Is love enough to keep you holding on...just a little bit longer, hoping things would change?

I do believe cheating by any person is more about not being content

It's one thing to willingly cheat, and another to get attracted to someone and then desire

Even those that have principles, also get tempted

Have you watched the movie; Addicted

tosyne2much:
Yes you're very much on point.. Most of them are living in their europhia of fairytales and Nollywood movies

The truth is, marriage is not as smooth as these Nairaland ladies think.. Ladies who are able to tolerate poo are actually the ones enjoying their marriage.. All these ones shouting "I don't take nonsense from any man" will only end up in miserable marriages

That was how a lady was telling me last month that she wouldn't take poo from her mother-in-law and sisters-in-law when she marries.. I just looked at her and shook my head at her ignorance

Lawlahdey:
Don't try going offensive with me, Missy.
I am not contradicting myself, you only have zero comprehension capability.

obiorathesubtle:



One day, you would understand it's not about showing strength and kicking him in the balls or storming out of the house because he cheated..


If you're strong and have a high self worth, as you have chosen to see it.. You're more likely to land a faithful partner..


But when you let your greed and what you think you know, block your eyes when accepting the marriage proposal, all that tendency to land a faithful partner has been thrown out the window..

Lawlahdey:
To the OP, the only part I want to address is the part where you said Olu Jacobs has never cheated on Joke silva.
How do you know this? Because Joke Silva hasn't come on social media to announce it? We don't know anything about the challenges of her marriage, we don't know how much she endures. We only know that they have a happy marriage and we all wish for the same. Joke silva is a virtuous woman, do not use her as a comparism for the silly girls of this generation.

And just because it looks like most of us lack simple comprehension skills, i'll explain my post again in simpler words.

No man should cheat if it can be avoided. But, it's barely avoidable in this century. So, if your man cheats and you can't forgive him and endure, then walk the hell outta the marriage.
Those who you see happy are those who endured. But if you can't,no one is holding you.

Reality check: Forget feminism and all, it really is a MAN'S world and men are predators by nature, they prey on available females.

Laveda:
Imagine what they want us to tolerate..

he didn't even get it.

obiorathesubtle:



All this nagging and hair pulling won't stop men from cheating..

Here.. I'll make a list..



Categories of women who get cheated on the most..


1. The housewife

2. The troublesome bickerer

3. The one who talks before she listens

4. The one with the mental ability of a blue-green algae..

5. The one who's always cooking bullshit..

6. The complacent woman who has the beliefs of a pained feminist but the mind of a trifling newt..



More to come.....

kimbra:
Some girls want to be slaves to their husbands. Someone is confusing women with self-worth to feminist.

My dictionary gives different meanings to both words. I don't want to type too much, enough has been said. Everyone to his tent.

lalasticlala...please check this out for me. I can't modify some post nor view some threads. Why the restriction?.

kimbra:
He should have just named himself a "slowpoke".

VolTOxic:
There are two things you need to know.

Firstly, you need to know the lioness do the hunting.
She takes care of herself. The lion doesn't do shit.

Secondly, you'll forever remain dumb and stupìd as long as you believe people shouldn't be bothered by tolerate cheating. This is a FACT.

Damn. I honestly pray this rambunctious, calamitous, infractionable spirit of stupidìty will vacate your life.

kimbra:
You've screaming "hoe" all over this thread. She wasn't specific when she mentioned STDS but with a parochial ways of reasoning you asked if a mother could transfer STDS to her child. Now, who's dumber?.

Go and call your mother and sisters hoes!.

Twaci:
#NeverSettleForLess!

Let her go.

preach sister preach

kimbra:
He probably doesn't know HIV is also an STD.

what do you expect from someone who named himself royalmoron

royalmoron:
You didn't specify you hoe! not all kind of STDs. do you know how many STDs we have you dumb hoe!

Nogodye:
No abuse ma'am! Just sighting my opinion and my experience in this...Once you have child/children in the abuse marriage, you must do everything to hold the marriage together for you to secure a brighter future for your child/children. #Peace

royalmoron:
. Afrosamurai is it possible for a man to transfer STD to his children through his wife?

yes dummy, she gets the std she can give it to her baby through breastfeeding, through sharp objects she used like needles, cooking knives, the possibilities are endless, how the hell did you get access to the Internet

AfroSamurai:
Aren't there other animals you could have used?

Anyway, your message is narrow minded and a full time simpeton like you who still feed off stipend from her parents can an will never see the big picture.

When you start earning a living, you'll know there are better things in life and marriage than worrying over cheating.

You're dismissed, you foolish child.