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ZolotuaLorenzo:
Even In marriage, women are useless. Balthazar open Una fishy nyansh

Thanks for the information. I'm sure your mother who raised you would be thrilled to know that she's useless to you.

Waste of time. We all know this "evidence" will never be put to any tangible use.

VULCAN:
Read an article by a Nobel Prize winner in Chemistry yesterday.

He said a human cell is more complex than a city.

If you require me to explain the implications of that...

...I won't.

What do you think this is supposed to prove?

Lol. Daylight robbery, and in the presence of multitude of people. You'll never find a larger number of people suffering from Stockholm Syndrome anywhere else than within the four corners of a church.

Contemporary christianity is a disease.

It's difficult for both genders. Make Una rest.

Is anybody here surprised? No be today. Kogi State has always been a hotbed for kidnapping travelers. When we talk of insecurity in the country, Kogi is one the first places that come to mind.

For the past 10 years, if my family have any business in the North or anywhere else that isn't SS or SE, my dear na flight we dey use oo. Better to spend big money and know that you're more likely to get to your destination safer and faster than travel by road for hours only to get kidnapped by illiterates before you've even made it halfway through your journey.

malali:
She had your kinda humor as well, tall, dark ?

Interesting. Well, I can assure you that you're mistaken. And I'm definitely not dark skinned, so...

malali:
Dont lie...lol

Na you Sabi. Never heard of her in my life. Name sounds goofy too. Lol

malali:
You are not Ijeoma pepsy ? Are you.
I did NYSC with her.

Ijeoma Pepsi? Lol no.

malali:
Very intelligent responses, you have a beautiful brain, however we agree to disagree. Is you Ms or Mrs ?

Thank you.
I'm Mrs.

malali:
Congratulations on your honorary doctorate in anecdotal evidence, but let’s not confuse emotion with facts or shouting with substance. Nobody is trying to silence anyone, but if you’re going to “speak out,” at least let it come with clarity and solutions, not just noise for noise’s sake.

Do you think the current economic downturn is a theoretical exercise? Because it's not. It is a lived reality for millions of Nigerians. Every week that passes we see the rising prices, the dwindling purchasing power, the unemployment, and the general despair. These are not "anecdotal" observations. They are the cold, hard facts of our daily lives. So I will repeat again, we really don't need a PhD to recognize when the economy is failing.

1. “We’re Not Blind”
Nobody is denying the glaring issues in Nigeria. In fact, we all see the problems—you, me, Davido, and even the people benefiting from the system. But the difference is in how those problems are addressed. Do you yell “fire!” in a crowded room or work to help people find the exits? Reckless criticism without thought for its impact doesn’t fix anything; it just fans the flames.

Okay. Very good. Now allow me to use your analogy and reframe the context so that you can understand where I'm coming from. Now I would argue that yelling "fire!" in that room is not intended to cause mindless panic, no. The goal of yelling fire in this scenario is just to sound an alarm and bring attention to a very serious issue. It's not necessarily about fixing the problems overnight but about creating dialogue and inspiring action to be taken.

2. “We’re Not Afraid to Speak Out”
Speaking out is not the issue; how and where you speak matters. When influential voices like Davido’s broadcast statements like “Nigeria is in shambles, don’t come here,” it affects global perceptions. It doesn’t hurt the corrupt leaders—it hurts everyday Nigerians trying to survive and thrive in a country that already struggles with negative PR. So, speak out, yes—but speak wisely.

Your problem in this discussion is that you have taken it upon yourself to play the role of the tone police. There's nothing Davido said that is new knowledge, and please let's not forget that it's not Davido's words that are hurting everyday Nigerians, but the corrupt leaders and systems that have led to the country's economic struggles. Thank you.

3. “You Can’t Silence Us”
Let’s get this straight: no one is trying to silence anyone. You’re free to express your views, and so am I. But freedom of speech isn’t freedom from critique. If someone points out the irresponsibility in how a message is delivered, that’s not silencing—it’s accountability. Speaking out shouldn’t mean talking out of turn or without purpose.

No one disputes any of this. However, I just think it's funny how you're more concerned with the tone of Davido's message than the actual substance of his claim. Moreover your concern for accountability is a bit misplaced, if you ask me. True accountability is the government addressing the systemic failures that have led to this economic catastrophe.

4. “Armchair Criticism”
It’s funny you call it armchair criticism when you’re sitting there tossing platitudes like “we can all see what’s going on” without offering any substantive solutions. Real-life experience is valuable, but let’s not pretend it’s a substitute for informed debate. If you’re truly on the ground and living the reality, how about channeling that insight into actionable input instead of just emotional venting?

Sorry sir. You're right, no vex. We should all just shut up and let the experts like you figure it all out. Abi what could a struggling Nigerian like me possibly know about my own reality? You, with your ivory tower perspective, are clearly the authority on my suffering. Thank you sir.

The truth is, nobody is saying the issues aren’t real. The argument is about how we address them. Empty rhetoric and unstructured outrage won’t solve anything. If you have the courage to speak out, have the courage to propose solutions and make your criticism constructive, not destructive.

No problem. But I'd argue that speaking out against the issues plaguing our economy is, in itself, a form of solution-finding because that's how we keep these topics relevant and make it known that it is a serious issue that needs to be addressed, as opposed to sugarcoating or watering down the harsh realities the common man is facing.

malali:
Ah, I see you’ve come with your “holier-than-thou” logical argumentation manual, but let’s dissect this so we don’t miss the point:

It is not "holier-than-thou" to expect people to oppose a statement properly using logic and reason, or are those foreign concepts to you? Abeg read that post you quoted again before you start making value judgements that have no true bearing.

1. Patriotism Is the Core Issue
The problem isn’t Davido expressing an opinion; it’s the manner and platform he chose. Nigeria may have its flaws, but as a global icon whose career was revitalized on Nigerian soil, he has an unspoken duty to uplift, not tear down. Criticizing constructively? Fine. But blatantly dismissing the entire nation as “shambles” on an international platform does nothing but further cement negative stereotypes about Nigerians abroad. That’s irresponsible.

No problem. But let's not forget that Davido is not the only person in this country that thinks the Nigerian economy is in a very poor state. This sentiment has been echoed by many other Nigerians as well, across different levels of the social strata. Yes, it's good to celebrate the good aspects of our country but let's not turn a blind eye to the horrible aspects too.

2. The Messenger Matters
Yes, the messenger does matter. When someone who’s deeply tied to the benefits of the system turns around to condemn it in sweeping terms, it reeks of ingratitude and hypocrisy. It’s not “arguing with myself” to point out that Davido’s family is a clear beneficiary of the same system he now criticizes without nuance. It’s about context. If he believes the system is flawed, he should propose solutions instead of blanket condemnation.

I will ignore the fact that you're hilariously trying to justify a well known logical fallacy and go straight to your point in this paragraph. The fact that you expect Davido to show "gratitude and loyalty" to the "system" simply on the basis of him and his family benefitting from it is very troubling to be honest. And it is this kind of reasoning that makes a lot of people in this country to shut down their thinking faculties and blindly agree with concepts and values they don't actually believe in. Just because I'm benefitting from a system does not mean I am morally obligated to defend it, regardless of its flaws. Take note of the operative word I used in that last sentence. Your personal circumstances do not have any bearing on the collective reality of a society. You're only encouraging a culture of abuse, self deceit and zero critical thinking, and I find it absurd that you would wilfully perpetuate this kind of thinking.

3. The Economic Impact of Reckless Statements
You say “point out the faults in his claims,” but here’s the real issue: statements like his don’t just stop at opinions; they ripple across global perceptions. Nigeria is struggling to attract foreign investment and combat negative PR. When an artist with millions of followers says, “Don’t come to Nigeria,” it’s a direct hit on businesses, tourism, and even the perception of Nigerians abroad. This isn’t about “bias” or “sentimental judgments.” It’s about responsibility.

Why do you keep talking as if Davido is the sole creator of the negative perception of Nigeria overseas? Have the economic and infrastructural challenges of the country not been well-documented by various international organizations over the years? Haven't they been reported routinely by international media outlets? Both indigenes and non-indigenes have made statements about Nigeria in the past that can be deemed ten times worse than what Davido said, so what's the fuss really about? The economy is in shambles and that's just the simple fact. What needs to be done now is not the crucifixion of innocent critics who had the nerve to call it as it is. What we need is to create an open dialogue about the situation, troubleshoot the challenges and find a solution that will at least provide some relief and reassurance to the general public.

4. Grammys and OON Relevance
Since you called it a “red herring,” let’s clarify. The Grammy and OON references illustrate the contrast in treatment: Nigeria, for all its flaws, still recognizes and uplifts Davido. Yet, he doesn’t extend the same courtesy back. If you can’t see how that hypocrisy ties into the broader conversation, perhaps it’s your grasp of context that’s questionable here.

This is seriously flawed logic that you keep using, and I don't understand how it makes sense to you. If I decide to share your sentiments on this topic, then by the same token, we should assume that anyone who has ever received any form of assistance or recognition from their country is forever barred from criticizing that country abi? You are actively encouraging mindless submission and agreement. You are also tacitly admitting that you might be the type of person to compromise on his true beliefs just to make profit. It's people like you that's keeping this country where it is today. What kind of reasoning is this? Make it make sense please.

5. Freedom of Speech Isn’t Free of Consequences
Yes, Davido has a right to his opinion, but rights come with responsibilities. Criticism without tact or constructive direction becomes a weapon against the very people and system he claims to critique. If he wants to call Nigeria “shambles,” fine, but let him also discuss what he’s done with his influence and wealth to improve it. Accountability is a two-way street.

Please let's not get carried away here. You're right. Rights do come with responsibilities, and criticism should be constructive. I do get your point here but let's not shift focus from the government. Davido can become a philantropist yes, but he's not the one elected or appointed with jurisdiction over policy making. Celebrities can use their platforms to raise awareness and advocate for positive change, but systemic issues require collective effort from government, businesses, and citizens in general.

Madam Nihmat, not everybody has a PhD in Economics but some of us have a PhD in REAL LIFE. We're not blind and we don't tell ourselves lies. We can all see what's going on in Nigeria and we're not afraid to speak out. You can't silence us with your armchair criticism.

malali:
Davido is an Ingrate..

Your family are beneficiaries of "Nigerian" Capitalism, your father, your uncle and your late uncle, your grandfather.
Your Father built his power plant with "subsidized" dollars...The wealth all your family is eating today.
Have you ever seen Russian Oligarchs criticize "Mother Russia" ...Even if they disagree with Putin.
When nobody knew you in America and your career was in shambles, you ran to "Nigeria" to start your music career and we embraced you as one of our own.
Now that your music is flourishing with an active "Nigerian" fanbase....you go on the media and tell people Nigeria is in shambles, they shouldn't come to Nigeria !!!
It is Adeleke's Family that will be in shambles....T-Pain might have made some pain inflicting fiscal policies.
Americans can criticize Biden or criticize Trump....No American star criticizes the whole America !!!!!!
Don't shit on all of us !
But when America denied you Grammy (Even though you were at the event arranging chairs like a houseboy), Nigeria honored you with OON- Order of the Niger.
Thats why Burna and Wizkid have more fans than you.

Those who raised you, should have told,if you have nothing good to say....you keep quiet.
We all know you cant criticize America the way you bad mouth Nigeria. Do you know how many businesses will be affected by your idiotic statements.

You're just ranting all over the place in bold red letters without addressing the elephant in the room. Wetin concern Grammys and OON awards with this topic now? How are they in any way relevant to the discussion of the economy? The problem with some of you armchair critics here on this forum is that you don't even have a solid grasp of logic and argumentation in the first place. Instead of sticking to the topic, you just throw around meaningless red herrings because you don't want to hear the truth. Abeg abeg let's not use the idea of patriotism as an excuse to be biased and make sentimental judgements.

Let us even grant your claim that Davido has benefitted immensely from the country. Ok, and? How does this deny him the right to freely express his opinion on the state of the country's economy? If you want to make an actual argument, then attack the message, and not the messenger. Point out the logical faults within Davido's statement. Scrutinize his claims objectively. Don't come and start talking about Grammys and think you're contributing anything meaningful to the discussion. Launching personal attacks on Davido and referencing his family's wealth and business dealings is just you arguing with yourself. You're not actually saying anything to debunk what he said.

This is serious.

Lonestar124:
Learn from other people experience sweetheart.

Abi it's you that should learn how to back up your statement with facts instead of spreading misinformation.

You said if women get married in their 30s, they risk giving birth to disformed [sic] children or children with hormonal imbalance. Now I asked you for proof, you just want to waffle.

You don't have a case. Your statement is not backed by facts, so rest.

It's staged and the boy is a skitmaker. Search chibillion1 on TikTok.

Lonestar124:
35years is too far for women to get married oo, to avoid bearing disformed and hormonal imbalance children..

Let's stop misleading our younger generation, we are not wiser than our fore fathers.

Hahaha abeg who tell you this one oo
Oya show us your proof, let's see

Your mates are in church as we speak.

Whatever action you wish to take concerning guiding her down a career path, please remember that the decision should be entirely hers when the time comes. You can guide her, sure. But the choice should reflect her own interests, skills, and aspirations.

On paper, Nigeria should at least get to the finals again with the level of talent in our squad but then again you can't confidently bet on Super Chickens.

Some people dem too do oo.

So you mean we're not ghana see our bredas at the afcon?

Hemanwel:
Get off my mention, Ijeoma!

Lol. Dumbo.

Hemanwel:
Clap for yourself, the Defender of the Universe! In your tiny mind you have made a point. You who know her motivations for divorcing, oya tell us! Isn't it obvious from her post that she prefers to live a philanderous lifestyle?

Birds of a feather...

I could just tell from this response that you lack self awareness. You're the one who's been acting like an expert on human behavior, posturing like he knows her motivations for marrying and getting a divorce. All I said was that we shouldn't assume so much based on a few paragraphs read online. And if she prefers to live a philanderous lifestyle abeg what is it to you really? I'll never understand what it is with some men trying to climb the moral high horse at every given opportunity and pretending they're so clean all the time.

princeabdul:
With all the new evidences available to me, Victor Osimhen is better than haaland.

What are you basing this on?

Hemanwel:
Your first sentence negates your last.

You advised that women should get married to whom they are attracted to and in the same breath, "marriage isn't worth it at all", according to you.

I want to believe you got divorced from your husband not because you prolly weren't attracted to him; but because marriage isn't your thing. You got tired of him. You got tired of marriage. You decided out. You wanted to be free. You didn't want to be accountable to anyone for the life you wished to live.

Question is: why did you decide to marry the poor guy when you knew "marriage isn't worth it"? Oh! You just wanted to have kids with him, ditch him, and start exploring life.

Not good at all!

A lot of people are running around the thread like chickens with their heads cut off over this MadamVanessa's comment lol.

Please remember that you do not actually know her motivations for marrying her husband in the first place. She might have been in a different state of mind then. It's like you somehow forget that people grow and change. The way she sees life now might not be the way she saw it then.

So you trying to judge her as if she planned it all out is just you making blind assumptions that are not accurate. I also don't see how her first and last paragraphs contradict themselves. Advising young girls to marry someone they're attracted to is a very sound and valid advice, even if she doesn't follow it herself. I don't believe that her statement about marriage not being worth it was intended to be a universal truth. It was obviously just her opinion.

I always laugh at the idea of men paying women for sex, as if the man is the only one that gets to enjoy the act. Both parties satisfy their urges and fantasies with it, the only difference is that one makes money with it and the other loses money for it. Then again most men aren't known to be truly logical in reasoning, as opposed to what many of them like to claim.

Anyway, it's not my money so it's not my problem.

Live updates on what? The results have already been decided. I pity who takes Nigerian politics seriously.

Na so. Let Jake Paul stop looking for cheap fights with old fighters and face off with actual professional boxers in their prime. We saw what happened when he faced Tommy Fury. The kid is a fraud.

Mike Tyson should have never gotten involved in this joke.

Vision101:
He didn't speak to everyone or people like you. He spoke to people that understood spiritual things. God can cause disagreement or war between two nations which will be to the advantage of another person or another nation. The Bible is full of such instances. God answers prayers in diverse ways. You will not understand because you are carnally minded. Have you even heard of spiritual optical illusion?

Your Bible was written by men like you, many of whom didn't really have a proper understanding of the world at the time. So forgive me if I refuse to accept your tales by moonlight because they are not based on actual facts. Thank you.

Vision101:
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That a glorified Pulpit P.imp like Adeboye supposedly has a PHD is a shame Nigeria's educational system.

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Oh you didn't know that he has a PhD? FYI he got it at a youthful age. You thought that he was one drop out that came to survive through the church? You are wrong.

His answering the call was a great show of humility. PhD holder in science and senior lecturer in one of Nigerian's premier universities coming down to be an interpreter to an illiterate who was the leader of one unknown church. I'm not talking of these days when there are no jobs. I'm talking of the days when a mere G4 or division 3 instantly gets a decent job.

You call him glorified pulpit love-vendor? FYI he's the GO of a church that is in more than 120 countries in the world. He has some of the best brains as pastors under him including a former vice president of this nation who is a professor of law of evidence.

Now look at yourself in the mirror and answer wether you have any locus to rant what you are ranting. Agreed faceless forums grants even those that can't write a correct sentence the opportunity to tell the great Wole Soyinka that he doesn't understand English but we must know our limits.

The best way to know a person that is well trained is what he does when no one sees him. Bye.

Too much Adeboye ass kissing in this post.