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etcme:
Saturday 15th February, 2020

Fruitful years to you all, may your new age be filled with outstanding results. Happy Birthday Wonderful People.

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GraGra247:
You are totally and completely and 'practically" wrong. Assuming that a woman does 99% means that the man does nothing at all. In the African the man does far more than the woman to provide, protect, sustain and establish the home. Both have their roles to play.

The man gets the money gathered from that event most likely because he fully funded the entire event in the first place.

In an ideal setting both should get equal parts of the money even if the man funded entire event.

OlawaleBammie:
That woman is not from this generation remember,

what is killing marriage now is dat we re clamouring to have two captains sailing together, how wil d journey b accident free??
Women dont want to behave like those of old while men are not what they re supposed to b again.

flesh and blood didn’t reveal this to you

Freestainworld:
The woman deserves an Accolade, her type is rare to find.

rare doesn’t even do justice

Yes o.... I dey pray for that kind grace

eazzzy1:
That’s a woman who acknowledges her husbands headship over her.

Over the weekend I had the privilege to attend a couple’s wedding anniversary. It was over 40 years of marriage. While the couple and kids danced and had merry I kept an observant eye trying to figure out within me how 2 strangers managed to live that long together looking all happy and equally having their kids all around them looking like this one big family.

Then something happened. This in itself helped me conclude that indeed for a marriage to be successful a woman had 99% of the hard work to do and this is also guiding my conclusion in this write up.

It was time for dance, dance, dance and lots of people came out to spray the couple just to appreciate them. Since I was close to the family, I was part of the money picking committee. In fact I was the coordinator. At the end of it all I counted the total money realized and was about to hand over to the daughter of the celebrant when she whispered.

“Who do I hand over the money to? My mum or my dad”?

I quickly answered your mum of course. The men don’t know how to manage money more so women are better at financial matters. She laughed and looked at me saying “I would have given my mum but I know she will give it to my dad who may just keep it all to himself so I have decided to share it into 2 half and give them both their share. I was amazed at such wisdom as I walked away to my seat thinking how fair that decision their daughter had made was. Later that day I called my friend to congratulate her again and praise her for being so wise but to my surprise she had something else to say.

Just as I finished praising her she said, I did as I thought was just for my parents but to my greatest surprise as I handed over the money to my mum and explained to her she rejected it. I heard myself shout “what” over the phone. Just then my friend said, my mum refused half the money and asked me to hand everything over to my dad at this point my voice could be heard by others around me. See me see wahala, what’s my own? Na me get money?

Then my friend continued, my mum said she wasn’t going to be a part if that sharing. Give it to your dad she said, what ever he gives me I would take and if he gives me nothing so be it. He is my husband after all. On hearing this I told my girl I would call her back as I need to check on somethings.

This really got me thinking... what is happening to marriages today?

Now I am summarizing some of the things destroying our marriages inspired by the woman in this encounter.

Love is not enough to take that life decision called marriage. Marriage should be a decision carefully thought out. Not something rushed into out of peer pressure or social intimidation. Not a decision made by friends or family but one for which one has carefully sat down to weigh the cons and pros. Having said that, it is still scary to see the level of broken homes arising each day.
Divorce is not a solution to marital problems but in itself can cause more harm than good. Although I am not a fan of divorce but when sanity and safety is at stake I fully Stan.

1. Finance: most times the issues caused by finances in a home is out of greed, social validation and peer pressure. A woman should understand her husband’s financial capability and live within such. Do not be tempted to live like your mates are living resulting in unhealthy pressure of your spouse. Men should be hard working and proactive. Do not be the type that believes I own my wife and all she owns. The easiest way to loose a woman’s respect is to misuse her finances.

2. Patience: This is by far the life one of marriages. Patience from either man or woman. Patience is what will keep you when she is nagging, what will keep you when he starts keeping late nights

3. Understanding: To be able to live together,there has to be a certain level of understanding of which once the understanding is compromised the marriage can as well be over.

4. Love: what exactly is Ione? Love isn’t what keeps 2 people together. Love is what brings them together

5. Forgiveness: once you have the spirit of forgiveness,your marriage is bound to sail with less friction. Forgiveness is so important in marriage that if partners can’t forgive each other they can not be cohabiting. Infidelity, disrespect,lack of control and all what may become irrelevant once the spirit of forgiveness visits you.

6. Interpersonal relationships : this involves the level of friendship. Once you consider your partner a friend you will never feel cheated rather you will see you both as equals not also neglecting the place of each one.

7. Sensitivity to the feelings of your partner: the ability to tell what your partner is feeling is a special gift. A gift that allows you to leave in harmony with everyone. The feelings of your partner should never be taken for granted. Women like it when you can tell at every point how emotionally stable they are. Men love to be seen and treated like babies. Do it and when it’s time to be happy, your home will know no bounds for love and happiness.

Let’s help save marriages and teach people to remain married unless in cases of domestic violence by either party.

Broken marriage

Today marriage is no longer as sacred as it used to be for some very obvious reasons.
Marriage is suppose to be a union between a man and a woman but it has a new definition.

A union between a woman and a financially stable man.
Topping the list of marriage breakers is
1. Finances: the havoc finance has wrecked on marriages is one that is eating deep in our society. It’s not just having the money, it’s also managing the finances. A lot of couples have gone their separate ways because of mismanagement of funds by either husband or wife. Also a lot of women have lost their sense of humility in their homes because they earn more than their spouses. Men on the other had have allowed money be their oppressing power over their wives.
2. Infidelity: This is one f the most rampant cause of broken marriages today. Many people are still of the opinion that once infidelity is mentioned in a marriage the man is always guilty but that’s just a wrong assumption. In our society today, women easily get a get out of jail free card because the torch of infidelity is mostly on the husband. Some major causes of infidelity include: greed, peer pressure, social validation, negligence and impatience.
3. Family: A lot of people may find this confusing but it’s a major marriage breaker. Like someone once said, it is good to marry a good person but even better when you marry from a good family. Family pressure can sometimes result in couples going their separate ways. It is often common to find extended family from both husband and wife trying to interfere in everything including when they should have kids and how they should be brought up.
4. Sex: Believe it or not, lots and lots of marriages have crumbled because of sexual intimacy. This most times results in unfaithfulness by either partner. One of the major ways to connect with your husband or wife is through sexual intimacy. It’s to be enjoyed by both. A case of too busy or too tired is a case of unfaithfulness waiting to be unraveled. A lot of people do not really understand that a strong sexual life is capable of holding a family together forever. It involves engaging your partner, enjoying them and satisfying them. Be ready to explore your sexuality together. Learn new things, find ways to keep each other asking for more.
5. Tolerance/Temper: Domestic violence often results from lack of tolerance or inability to control one’s temper. This is not just a marriage breaker but also a killer.
Feel free to add your so we know other causes of broken homes

Hello ladies,

This may not be your first time of reading or hearing about all I am about to write but it would do you no harm to add to your already acquired knowledge.

Experience they say is the best teach but it's best you learn from others and then make your mistakes.
Life itself should be enjoyed and not endured but that isn't a good enough reason to loose all your self respect especially over little things.

1. Be Valuable
Knowing your worth is one of the best ways to boost your confidence. It's ok to be playful, accommodating and free but never underestimate your worth in other to be relevant or noticed. Rather worry about the latest trend, improve yourself intellectually. Think outside the box .

2. Own your own money one of the easiest way to loose value is dependence. It doesn't matter how beautiful or intelligent you are, you need to be financially buoyant to earn the respect of others. Money they say is the root of all evil but it is also a key to many doors. Do not become a slave to yourself or anyone over money you can make yourself.

3. Be faithful Being able to keep your word as your bond is an act of great discipline. Faithfulness is not only in the area of relationships. Be faithful in your work, your study even your hustle. The trust is nothing gives more self respect than knowing your word is your bond and no one can make you loose yourself when you are faithful to what you believe.

4.. Be humble Humility pays. There's a difference between humility and stupidity. Don't be stupid, be humble. Humble enough to stand for something, humble enough to know how important "I am sorry" is. Don't let your anxiety or over zealousness take your humility from you.


5. Be a lady Many would wonder what exactly I mean by this. If you must gain respect and not loose yourself you have to be you. Not a man, not a boss, not a dictator....NO! Be gentle, be calm, be observant, be good and mostly be caring.


Once you loose your self respect, you loose what make you.

oluplus:
How do I reach you?

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why not give your wife the best so she is the talk of town even after valentine


Do not leave your husband's out too

shegxi:
lmao.....you sef dey call ursef girl? you wey be madam. abeg no whine me abeg.

hahahahahahahahahaha.......i be girl na

shegxi:
every is okay, the hustle is paying but Lagos stress is just too much. how is oga at the top?

the stress no be here o. Oga is good..... anything for your girl?

shegxi:
I dey fine fine o

how every

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oluplus:
Is this your last price or it's negotiable?

Slightly negotiable

oluplus:
How much and location

Lagos
6,000

shegxi:
mzflexydeeva.....how are you and family?
happy new year.

bros..... Wats up. Happy new year, how u dey

flootintin:
how much?

8,000

When you think valentine, don't think boxers this year.

Think big.
Don't say his leg is too big, it's available in size 45

Small money!

creamylicious:
how much is the black and yellow sleeveless dress?

7000

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Benbobola:
Hi. Do you still have the maroon shoes size 39?

yes.
where is your location

gnaira:
What are the best prices?
I like the black with hairy design in front; and the maroon with tie design in front.

Both for sizes 38 and 41

The heel size 38 is 5000 last price.
As for the bow it's 3000 but no 41 till next month.


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Who has mannequin for sale ?

Ias1:
the number on your signature is not up to 11, I would have called you

corrected now

Ias1:
I just need one of it

I will need your address so I send it down tomorrow