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meobizy:
This boy, how old are you again?

Meaning

tanigororo:
If You Can't Change The People Around You, Change The People Around You!

I came from extremely poor family, and I have trying to change the our narrative,but what is more important to this old man is how to brought innocent children to continue poor generation, he went as far to threaten my mom that I must married
I am tired of this, help me?...

Would You Vote for a Female President in Nigeria? Share your reason."

“WHO YOU KNOW” IS KILLING NIGERIA

In Nigeria, it’s no longer about what you can do…
It’s about who you know.

You can study, grind, and build real skills—
But someone with connection will still replace you with one phone call.

No interview.
No competition.
Just access.

And we call it normal?

Then we complain the system is broken.

Of course it is.

When we keep putting unqualified people in important positions, failure is not a surprise—it’s the result.

Let’s be honest:

Connection is not the problem.
But when it replaces competence, that’s when everything starts collapsing.

So answer this—

Are we building a country that rewards excellence… or one that rewards connection?

“I LOVE HER… BUT MY PARENTS SAID NO” — WHEN TRIBE BECOMES STRONGER THAN LOVE IN NIGERIA

I never thought I would have to choose between love and family.

Not because of cheating.
Not because of character.
Not because something was wrong.

But because of tribe.

I found someone who understands me in ways I can’t even explain. Someone who respects me, supports me, and makes life feel lighter. The kind of person people pray for.

But when I took that love home, it was rejected in seconds.

Not because of who she is…
But because of where she comes from.

“We don’t marry from that tribe.”

That sentence didn’t just end a conversation.
It broke something in me.

Because how do you explain to the person you love that they are “not acceptable”… not for anything they did, but simply for being born into a different tribe?

How do you look into their eyes and tell them,
“My parents won’t accept you”?

It feels like betrayal… even when it’s not your fault.

And the truth is, this is not just my story.

So many young Nigerians are silently going through the same thing—smiling outside, but fighting emotional battles inside. Torn between respect for their parents and loyalty to the person they love.

Because in our culture, saying “no” to your parents is not just disagreement.
It feels like rebellion.
Like disrespect.
Like breaking something sacred.

But what about your own heart?

What about your future?

What about waking up every day next to someone you didn’t choose… just to keep peace?

Some parents don’t realize this pain.
They think they are guiding.
They think they are protecting.

But sometimes, what they call protection feels like losing yourself slowly.

Because love is not something you can switch off like a light.

You can obey.
You can walk away.
You can pretend to move on.

But deep down, something stays broken.

And here’s the part that hurts the most:

The same parents who want the best for you might be the reason you lose something truly good.

Not out of hatred.
But out of fear… tradition… and what people will say.

So now the question becomes heavier than ever:

Do you break your own heart to keep your parents happy… or risk losing your family to fight for love?

There is no easy answer.

Just pain… on both sides.

But one truth remains:

At the end of your life, you will live with the choices you made—not the ones made for you.

So tell me—

If love comes once, real and pure… would you let it go because of tribe?

I mean I T after school

maximaxi:
Copy, paste and earn, is that easy.

ravensckar:
20K monthly for all these criteria?

Laughs hysterically!

It's only desperation that would make an ENGINEERING student do his I.T in a Police station.

God abeg o!

please what is I.T

“What’s something you’ll never do again because of suffering?”

Sign that your are going to be rich?

“Does culture influence how much a person talks?.
“Why do Yoruba people talk too much—is it true or just a stereotype?”
“Is being“What makes Yoruba communication style different from other tribes in Nigeria?”

Sense is light years ahead of you

jaguar1997:
Your papa BE igbo MAN ask your mom

That is called spiritual truth
Go and do DNA

“Why does everyone think I’m Igbo? 😭😂

Anywhere I go:
‘You be Igbo abi?’
Me: ‘No, I’m Yoruba .’

At this point I don explain tire 😅
But I no blame them sha… maybe na the looks, maybe na the vibe.

Proudly Yoruba 💪❤️
But shoutout to my Igbo brothers and sisters 🤝

Who else dey experience this? Drop your tribe make I see

You sound like you are against it,

BATified2023:
where did u see me type that?

U said something n I said it's your life n your decision so u can do anything with it

U can even decide not to have kids, it's not a crime n police no fit arrest u because of that

U ain't d first n u won't b d last

It's your life.....live it

So you support that children are blessing for this modern world

BATified2023:
it's your life n your decision

U can do anything u like with it

In life, ur life is like a movie in which u are playing the lead role...it depends on how u play it

Majority of Africa still believe in children are blessing not responsibility, there subjecting innocent children to harsh reality of the world,
the only advice I want now is how to make money not advice on adding to my problem,

Namaster:
Only CRAZY people believe that.
Especially those BRAINWASHED by religion.

A poor man will marry an even POORER woman and start POPPING OUT kids like rabbits all because they want to "be fruitful and multiply".

After taking such a TERRIBLE decision, they'll end up sending those "blessings" away to an uncle or aunty that are BARELY scraping by themselves.

Then we'll hear stories of how said uncles and aunties SEXUALLY or physically ABUSE those children.

Having children without FINANCIAL SECURITY is EVIL and STEWPID.

The worst part is people advise to marry that children are blessing

Namaster:
Among SENSIBLE people, this is NOT an unpopular opinion.

NOBODY should be having kids they CANNOT cater for.

You CANNOT be living from hand to mouth and then add ANOTHER mouth to that equation.

That's a recipe for DISASTER.

I Will Not Have Children Until I Become Rich

Many people may disagree with me, but I believe bringing children into poverty is one of the most selfish decisions a person can make.

For generations, society has told us that having children is a natural part of life. People are encouraged to start families even when they struggle to pay rent, afford healthcare, or provide quality education. Then, when the children suffer from lack of opportunities, society calls it "destiny."

I reject that mindset.

I refuse to have children until I am financially successful. Not because I hate children, but because I respect them. Every child deserves more than survival. They deserve security, education, healthcare, and opportunities to pursue their dreams.

Some people say, "If you wait until you're rich, you'll never have children." My response is simple: if I cannot provide the life I believe a child deserves, why should I rush to become a parent?

Others argue that love is enough. Love is important, but love does not pay school fees. Love does not put food on the table. Love does not cover medical bills.

The harsh truth is that many people have children because they want emotional fulfillment, not because they are truly prepared for the responsibility. The child then becomes the one who pays the price.

Parenthood should not be measured by age or social pressure. It should be measured by readiness.

So yes, my position is controversial: I would rather be criticized for waiting too long than regret bringing a child into a situation where I cannot give them the best possible start in life.

What do you think? Is financial success a requirement for parenthood, or is this mindset taking things too far?

Lol😂😂

insidelife22:
All naija girls am sorry to say are into hooks, just that you haven't price her goods at her sell price.

Beauty vs Compatibility: The Relationship Debate Nobody Wants to Have

Every time relationship discussions trend online, one question keeps dividing people: What matters more—physical beauty or compatibility?

Many people publicly claim that personality is everything. Yet, in reality, physical attraction often determines who gets approached, dated, and considered for relationships in the first place. It's an uncomfortable truth that society rarely admits.

But here's the controversial part: Some men argue that after the excitement of physical beauty fades, compatibility becomes far more important. They claim that a beautiful partner may attract attention, but attraction alone cannot sustain a relationship. Communication, emotional connection, respect, and intimacy ultimately determine whether two people stay together.

Others strongly disagree. They believe physical attraction is not a luxury but a necessity. According to this view, forcing yourself to be with someone you are not attracted to can create frustration and resentment over time, regardless of how compatible you are.

The debate becomes even more heated when people ask: Would you rather date someone you find extremely attractive but are constantly unhappy with, or someone you find less attractive but who brings you peace, happiness, and satisfaction?

Social media often pushes the idea that looks are everything. Yet countless relationships involving highly attractive people still fail. At the same time, many average-looking couples build strong marriages that last decades.

Perhaps the real question isn't whether beauty or compatibility is more important. Perhaps the question is why so many people believe they must choose one over the other.

What do you think?

Would you choose beauty over compatibility, compatibility over beauty, or do you believe both are equally necessary for a successful relationship?

Society often sends mixed messages about what really matters in attraction and relationships. On one hand, physical appearance opens doors and creates first impressions. On the other hand, there is constant debate about whether sexual satisfaction outweighs looks.

If given only these two choices:

A handsome, confident man with a small penis.

An unattractive man with a large penis.


Which would most women choose?

Some argue that looks, charisma, and social status matter far more because they influence attraction from the start. Others believe that long-term relationship satisfaction depends heavily on sexual compatibility, making size more important than many people admit.

The real question is: Are people honest about what they truly value in a partner, or do they simply give socially acceptable answers?

What's your view? Which factor has a greater impact on attraction and relationships: physical appearance or sexual endowment?

Exactly

zed7:
Marriage is not compulsory. It's better for some people to remain single than to mess up another person's life by being married to them.

Many horrible people have gotten married and made other innocent people's life miserable. Stay away from marriage if you have no value to bring to another person's life.

Can you give birth when you still struggling

Amovingman:
That's why you to take the risk to make it in life so that your children won't witness or know poverty

,
In many corners of Nigeria today, a deeply unsettling paradox unfolds—one that I, like so many others, have seen in my own life and in the lives of those I grew up with. To bring a child into poverty—a life of daily scarcity—can feel like both a risk and a rebellion. For some, it's an act of hope, a belief that tomorrow might be different. For others, it is a chain—one that binds both parent and child to a cycle of want.

As an average Nigerian, I’ve heard conversations in the market, on the bus, and in quiet, late-night talks. Many say, "Children are a blessing, no matter the circumstance." They believe that even a life of struggle can be redeemed by resilience, by faith, by a family united in love. But this belief also ignores a harsh reality: poverty is not a romantic burden; it is a thief. It robs children of education, of opportunity, of health.

I don’t write this to shame, but to spark a conversation. Is it possible to rethink legacy? Can we dream of a future where we don’t just multiply struggles, but break them? I don’t have the answers, but I know that until we talk about it—until we dare to see poverty not just as fate, but as a system we can challenge—things won’t change.

What do you think? Is giving birth in poverty a legacy worth passing on, or a chain we can escape?

What is essence of legacies In abject poverty

Stomoney:
Never, even for 1000 trillion Dollar
Man does not need millions of billion of money to live on this earth

My papa gave birth to me to continue his legacy
Same I gave birth to my children to improve on my, family legacies as well
Same my children have been orientated to promote this legacy and so shall it be till thy kingdom come

If Money does have a value, the world would still mention top 100 millionaire in the 1600 right now.

And the masses are not helping the matter.

DeOTR:
The current system is not primed for good governance. We need a complete overhaul of the whole system, but it appears that can not be achieved, because the people in charge are benefiting from the crooked arrangement.

For your information, I don't support any candidate, all I wanted is good governance, abi sufferness no dey tire you?

yarimo:
op look at the kind of question you are asking, OBI that didn't even understand small anambra State that is not up to one LGA in Niger State you are here comparing with TINUBU. You Obidients always think everyone think like you. The same OBI you guys claims he's the worst governor of anambra state when he was governor

And however did you think Nigeria will arrive at that, cos what will benefit you and I is good governance and perfect system of government, we need solutions

DeOTR:
Nice write-up. All the noise is about person and secterian interests. On one hand, the Peter Obi people thinks it's the turn of the SE (in the deepest of their mind, they just want one of their own there, not necessarily because he can change anything), and on the other hand, we have the Tinubu people who feels it'll be an embarrassment for him to lose his second term bid. More of ego and almost nothing to do about what he has done so far.
I think what the country needs right now is for us to sit at a round table and deliberately chart a course for a prosperous future. No amount of "patch-patch" will alleviate the sufferings of the masses. You'll continue to cry, as always, if your favorite candidate wins next year, even if it's not the incumbent. Your parents complained, you're complaining, and your own children will also complain if we refuse to grow beyond putting our hope on a single person (the president).
We need strong institutions, not strong men, and so far, none of the top aspirants are saying anything in that direction, so, even if Tinubu loses next year, the only thing that changes is "the change of power from one f***l, one liar to another".

Nigeria is divided again.

On one side, you have supporters of Peter Obi — the man many youths call “the symbol of a new Nigeria.”

On the other side, loyalists of Bola Ahmed Tinubu — the political strategist who many say “built the system that made him.”

But let’s forget noise for a second…

❓ What do Nigerians REALLY want?

Is it:
👉 A leader with a clean, disciplined image?
👉 Or a leader with deep political experience and control?

💭 Some say Peter Obi represents hope, transparency, and a break from the old order.

💭 Others argue Bola Tinubu represents power, structure, and the ability to get things done in Nigeria’s tough system.

But here’s the truth nobody wants to admit:

⚠️ Nigeria’s problem is bigger than ONE man.

Not Obi.
Not Tinubu.

It’s about:
— Corruption we tolerate
— Leaders we defend blindly
— A system we refuse to fix

🔥 So instead of fighting each other online…

Ask yourself:
👉 If your preferred candidate wins, will YOU change?
👉 Will Nigeria really change… or will we repeat the same cycle?

🇳🇬 The future of Nigeria is not in Peter Obi or Tinubu alone… it is in ALL of us.

💬 Be honest:
Who do you believe truly understands Nigeria — Obi or Tinubu?

👇 Drop your answer. No insults. Just facts.

Nigeria is divided again.

On one side, you have supporters of Peter Obi — the man many youths call “the symbol of a new Nigeria.”

On the other side, loyalists of Bola Ahmed Tinubu — the political strategist who many say “built the system that made him.”

But let’s forget noise for a second…

❓ What do Nigerians REALLY want?

Is it:
👉 A leader with a clean, disciplined image?
👉 Or a leader with deep political experience and control?

💭 Some say Peter Obi represents hope, transparency, and a break from the old order.

💭 Others argue Bola Tinubu represents power, structure, and the ability to get things done in Nigeria’s tough system.

But here’s the truth nobody wants to admit:

⚠️ Nigeria’s problem is bigger than ONE man.

Not Obi.
Not Tinubu.

It’s about:
— Corruption we tolerate
— Leaders we defend blindly
— A system we refuse to fix

🔥 So instead of fighting each other online…

Ask yourself:
👉 If your preferred candidate wins, will YOU change?
👉 Will Nigeria really change… or will we repeat the same cycle?

🇳🇬 The future of Nigeria is not in Peter Obi or Tinubu alone… it is in ALL of us.

💬 Be honest:
Who do you believe truly understands Nigeria — Obi or Tinubu?

👇 Drop your answer. No insults. Just facts.

eepeepook:
Yahoo boys live the best lives?

the economy of the country has made them seems to live the best life

eepeepook:
Stay in your lane. Yahoo will now be seen as an option for him to make money. When you get a job, you will know no other means but putting effort into something. He may be caught soon. Let’s see what happens. People have different destinies in life. He may get caught after fifteen years, you may be arrested in your first week. Do you want to test the odds?

In life, always do the right thing.

irony of life, this is guys are living the best life