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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 10:10am On Jan 27, 2016
DuchessLily:
cry cry cry poor Samuel ... I feel for him. heartbreak a 2nd time! So sad cry cry oohh Samuel embarassed

Hope that's not d end of d story.. I can imagine what happened after that rainy night's 'advantage taking' grin

The two mothers shaaa!!!

Mary is feeling like d 'most wanted princess'. Destiny!
Don't mind her DuchessLily.........Same way larger percent of our ladies of today act.
The end is not always palatable for them after a wasteful youthful days

Stay tune for the next episode smiley
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 10:07am On Jan 27, 2016
Maiconyoung:
Olajhidey22 I luv d way ur story ended, i followd ur website, if u write agn, pls tag me along.
Thanks Maiconyoung.....I noticed you've been a regular follower, God bless.
Don't worry, i will surely tag you on my next story.....
And thanks for bringing to my notice those 2 episode that were not updated on my blog. Its been resolved now, hope you are aware?

Thanks for being there always and don't forget to Keep following!!
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 10:03am On Jan 27, 2016
ammy4id:
Bleep up, why Mary whyyyyyyyy. I feel for Samuel
*Smiles* grin grin Don't conclude yet nau!!!
FamilyRelationship: Are You His Friend Or Girl-friend? by Olajhidey22(op): 1:00pm On Jan 26, 2016
You’ve been with this guy/man for weeks or better still months. In your mind you’re his girlfriend. It certainly feels like you’re his girlfriend. There’s passion, love, fun, and maybe even an occasional “I love you.”As each day passes, you can just feel the attraction between you and you know that this relationship is definitely different. While you feel more and more drawn to him, you begin to notice a problem that eats into you - he continues to treat you as a friend which means you’re not both seeing the relationship in the same way.

There are times you see that spark in his eyes and there are times at which his actions tell you that you are special. However, most of the time, you are just treated as a mere friend who he enjoys regular communication with. Or it could be that he goes to the point of telling you that he loves you, but when it comes to actions, you are not treated as a lover, but just as friend.

You are in a relationship that you ARE totally happy in, then letting your friend’s “advice” get into your head.

I’ve seen it before. One woman who is pretty much happy in her relationship goes out with her girlfriends. Her relationship isn’t a picture-perfect, fairytale relationship, but there’s no such thing as perfect and overall it is a very good, fulfilling relationship for her.

So this girl’s out with her friends, brings up her relationship and then all of a sudden it’s like a Jerry Springer audience teamed up with the cast of the View to give their advice. Moreover, usually the women giving “advice” are single and haven’t had a successful relationship to date. As a result, their “advice” is more about the women projecting their own frustrations outward onto that girl’s relationship. Still they are her friends and she trusts their opinion.

And hey, it’s not just women who do this! I’ve seen guys in a relationship go out with their single guy friends – after a beer or two, his buddies are ragging on him for being in a relationship and venting their frustrations. Same thing.

A practical scenario is that of this lady's expression:

“I’ve been seeing this guy for almost 8 months now. Everything is pretty much okay amidst us as we spend most of every available time together, he really cares about me, and we’re pretty much a ‘couple’ as we are being described by our friends. The only problem is he won’t call me his girlfriend. I’ve tried bringing this issue up but i don't want to make the first approach on these so i won't seem rather cheap to him. I know he had a very worse experience with his ex-girlfriend which I think might be holding him back on moving a step ahead with me, so I’m trying to be understanding but I don’t think one thing should have anything to do with the other. Sometimes I’m okay with how things are, but other times I get really angry, especially when peer pressure starts setting in. Our relationship is starting to suffer now because the relationship we are in isn't define and i have the feeling this whole thing might just fade off one day and he will stop treating me as that special-friend he described me to be. Even though I say I’m fine with how things are, deep down within me this is really bothering me and I feel really hurt by the fact that even though I am his ‘girlfriend,’ he won’t acknowledge me in that way.

Can you please proffer a solution to this for me?”

You spend a lot of time wondering why he might be treating you this way, and you try to justify his actions and your reactions. Well, there are some reasons why a man might treat you as a friend and not as a lover.

________________

1. He is Scared to Express His Feelings:

One tricky reason most ladies fail to realize is that a man might treat you as a friend even if he loves you because he is afraid to express his feelings. Most guy are afraid of being rejected, fear of failure and fear of being unable to make you happy could lead to a man treating you just as a mere friend and not as a lover, despite the fact that he genuinely loves you. If this is the case, then he needs time to deal with his fears and take your relationship to the next level.

2. He Doesn't See the Need to Make the Move:

Another major factor as to why he won’t call you his girlfriend is because he doesn’t have to. To a guy, calling a woman his girlfriend is typically a huge pain to him and the reason is because the woman is making herself so available and so committed when he hasn’t committed to anything, why would he call her his girlfriend? If a store was giving to you free of charge, would you say ‘no please, let me pay you for it’? I’m going to guess, no…

If a guy won’t make a move to ascertain the stand of his relationship with you you after a month or two months, then I would say it means that he’s enjoying the relationship exactly where it is and at this moment will not take it any further unless he is inspired to.

Now, when things stand this way it doesn't mean that there’s no chance of you becoming his girlfriend, so don't loose hope. There are some things you can do mostly by just shifting your perspective that can help tremendously.

3. Past Experiences:

There are a multitude of reasons why he may not wish to take the relationship further; one of which is maybe he just got out of a relationship that hurts him badly and does not want another commitment that ends in pain. Maybe he likes you, but he doesn’t want to feel “tied down” by a relationship. Maybe he likes you a lot, but he knows that he’s not in a position where he can fully commit to you because he has a lot running through his mind that needs to be settled first before he thinks of taking things further with you.

4. He is Not Sure if He Truly Wants You:

Most times it can take a while for a guy to really be sure of what he feels for you, either genuine love or otherwise, he needs time to decide. If this is the case, then you might find yourself being treated as just a friend, despite there being "signs" that he loves you. If a man is not too sure of what he feels, he might want to take things slow until he is very sure he can commit into such relationship.

5. You are Just A Friend and Nothing More to Him:

Another reason could be that, in reality, all that you are to him is a friend. He might be quite fond of you, but the end of the matter might be that he doesn't view you as anything more than a friend. If this is the case, then nothing you do can change things. While there is nothing wrong in hoping that he might change, if you are nothing more than a friend to him, you can't really change the way he feels.

There are diverse reasons why a man needs you only as a friend and not his girl friend, the reason for each man might be different. Give him some time and observe him to see whether this is just a passing phase or whether he really views you as nothing more than a friend. If all you are is a friend to him, then you need to make a choice as to whether you can view him, too, as just a friend, or whether you would need to back out of the relationship completely.

6. He's Bored and Only Need You Around for that Particular Period of Time:

With time a relationship can get to a point whereby the guy stops putting much effort as compared to how the relationship kicked off. If a man becomes bored in a relationship, he might begin to treat you as just a friend. Men like to stay interested in a relationship and when it reaches a point where there is nothing new and things just become the same way day after day, he might tend to lose interest and treat you as a friend, even if deep in his heart he knows that he loves you dearly.


Most ladies might have experience this one time or the other and some are still trapped within. Sooner they realize their joy is beginning to fade off due to the fact that they worry more on it. At that point the relationship stops being fun and full of happiness and starts becoming more like a battle of wills. And from a guy’s point of view, when a relationship gets like this, it becomes much less likely for a guy to want to stay. Why would the guy want to deepen a relationship when it doesn’t feel good and seems to only be getting worse?

Regardless of the reason, it’s nobody’s job to play the role of a detective. The relationship at the moment is either working for you or it’s not.

I think there are a few traps in this sort of situation. One is staying in a relationship you are not happy in and haven’t been happy in for a while, but you’re staying because you think with time things might change hand and you will be happy again.”

Frankly, if you don’t like it the way it is, it probably will not change unless he is motivated to change it. If it has not been working for you for a while, then your best bet is probably to lay your cards out on the table: “This is the change I need or I need to leave.” You will either get it or your relationship will end – either way, you’re off the fence instead of settling for an unhappy situation.

My Recommendation

=> Avoid bringing up the issue with him more than once.

=> Focus on being fun and lighthearted and enjoying the relationship for exactly what it is.

=> Give yourself an high sense of self worth- know what you want and know that you CAN get what you want and never have to settle for anything less.

=> Keep your options open and you continue keeping up with all your other social activities that do not involve him: seeing your friends, attending any functions you like to go to, etc. It is important that you keep your time and company only as available as he is willing to be – match your level of commitment to his so that you are not left hanging.

=> If you like the relationship for exactly what and where it is, then stay. If you are not satisfied with it, exactly as it is, then you should keep looking.

All in all, relationships take work. I am not advocating abandoning a relationship because it’s not perfect – nothing ever is. But at the same time, it is a sobering reality to see a relationship for exactly what it is and not what it could be. Only you know if the relationship is working for you or not.

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/relationship-are-you-his-friend-or-girlfriend


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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:52am On Jan 26, 2016
Episode 28

2pm Saturday,
Samuel’s family house

“Do you still love my son?” Samuel’s mum asked seriously, scanning my face with her eyes. I breathed deeply and nodded,

“Yes i still do mum” i murmured. But my reply had no effect on her nor stopped her curious eyes from running through me.
__________
I arrived Samuel’s house quite on time that fateful day to assist the mum in preparing lunch. Something i did out of obligation and respect i had for the family.

However Samuel travelled home the previous day, expecting me to travel with him like we used to whenever i was visiting his family, but i declined his request leaving him totally surprised and scared. he feared i would embarrass him by not honouring his mum’s invitation, thus the happiness and relief on his face when i eventually showed up that fateful day.

His mum however was a bit cold and reserved as she welcomed me. I knew as a woman she really was very disappointed by my behaviour, but perhaps was forced to invite me because of her son whom she had to set aside her personal feelings to please.

“Are you really sure about that?” she asked. I breathed deeply, smiling nervously.

I really was glad she sent her son away before questioning me, something only wise mothers with good experience would do. I equally felt she wasn’t listening nor paying serious attention to my replies, but was intently examining my facial expression with each reply i gave, as if she was a mind reader.

“If you are still in love with him as you claim, why break up with him?” she queried. I shrugged, calmed my excitement before pouring out my own version of the story.

“Your story is similar to what he told me, you both made mistakes so i see no sense in your decision. My son is seriously hurting and i can’t stand it any longer. But I have ordered him never to beg you again because relationships are not built with pity but with good understanding, so tell me, how long are you willing to put him on hold and what’s your plan for the other boy?” she asked inquisitively.

“Mum whatever will be will be, i promise to work out things with your son but i need a little more time to sort myself out. I still love him” i replied, calmly avoiding saying anything about Emmanuel. She shrugged and smiled weakly.

I instantly knew she wasn’t convinced with my reply, nor did i need anyone to tell me i had failed her test. She really read through me so easily. A strange gifted woman she was.

She asked no other prying questions as i spent the rest of the afternoon with them before rushing back to my lodge amidst Samuel’s pleas. I knew the way i left without spending a single night with them like i used to, further added weight to her suspicions.

“Polluting Samuel’s mind would be her next line of action” i reasoned.

I really was unable to sleep that fateful night as i pondered over the whole affair. By 12pm the next day, i was already on my way to Emmanuel’s family house with weird feelings in my heart.

“Whatever is written can never be changed”---How foolish i was!

2pm Emmanuel’s family house.

Emmanuel, his mum and i sat at the dinning table, eating the Sunday rice before us. I was very nervous as i ate my own share of the meal, and couldn’t help praying for the lunch to end quickly.

“I’m really delighted you honoured my invitation, you can’t imagine how pleased i am” Emmanuel’s mum said to me sweetly, while I blushed and said nothing.

“We really do have a lot to talk after the meal, so relax and enjoy our hospitality” she added quietly. I nodded with a calm smile.
_________
My heart really pounded furiously as i stepped into Emmanuel’s family house that fateful Sunday. Guilt and fear totally consuming me without warning. I would have turned and ran back that moment, if not for Emmanuels mum who came out of the house, saw me and came forward happily. The joy in her eyes as she came running totally buried my guilt and fear.

“Daughter in-law” she greeted as she hugged me.
________
Emmanuel hardly touched his food that afternoon as he kept staring and pleading with his eyes, but i pretended not to notice, even though i very much understood his plight.
______
A heavy rain however started immediately after lunch. Lightening and thunder striking like madness.

“Don’t worry dear, the rain will stop before 4pm” his mum assured me with a smile as she led me to a sofa, while Emmanuel excused himself to attend to some areas of the building which was leaking under the heavy rain, leaving his mum all alone with me.

“I know all about your story with my son. Trust me if i was in your shoes, i would have poured hot water twice on him before allowing him to explain himself. I really don’t blame all you are doing to him, but i swear by my honour, my son is really suffering over this issue” she softly said, held my hand and stared into my eyes.

“No matter how hard we try to fight or pretend, the truth is that the memory of our first love affair will always remain buried in our heart. Our first love Is the root by which other relationships stand and just like a house will never stand without a foundation, our life will be meaningless without the story of how it all started. Our first relationship really shapes and dictates the direction of our future relationships. Without it, i doubt if we will ever have the wisdom nor experience to control our heart. I do know your heart is beating furiously as i speak to you and i equally know there is doubt, confusion and uncertainty in it. This is where an elder like me comes in, i will never wish you bad nor decieve you, because any agreement we arrive at will equally affect my son either positively or negatively” she lectured. I shook nervously as i listened.

“What do you feel whenever you look at him?” she asked searchingly. I swallowed hard and shook my head.

“I don’t just know ma, i can’t describe what i do feel, because it’s a mixture of hatred, compassion, fear, anger and happiness” i confessed. She breathed deeply with a smile.

“You still love him my daughter, please don’t fight it any longer” she pleaded with wet eyes.

I knew she was very right, but i instantly remembered Samuel. A boy who showed me care and love when i needed it.

“I really can’t go back to your son because i’m already with another person” i sobbed. The good old lady closed her eyes, breathed deeply and drew me to her chest

“I really do understand dear, because my sister experienced the same thing when we were teenagers” she murmured with a broken voice. I instantly raised my face and stared at her.

“Yes my dear, i speak with experience, the best you can do for yourself is to follow your heart, allow it to be the Judge. Marriage is not something built on pity nor sympathy, but something built on solid love. Please dear let my words not look as if I’m rushing you. There is still enough time for you to think over everything. I have your phone number, so reaching you won’t be a problem, but just know that if you should accept my son, we will quickly arrange the marriage ceremony in no time” she concluded with a smile, leaving me totally lost and confused.
_________
The heavy rain finally stopped around 6:15PM messing up the road and making it very unideal to thread on. I was stranded.

“Our road wasn’t this bad last raining season. It’s as a result of the red soil poured on it by the contractors handling the construction” Emmanuel explained as we stood outside minutes later.

I had insisted on leaving after the rain stopped, declining his mother’s pleas for me to sleep over, but looking at the road i knew i wasn’t going anywhere that fateful sunday evening.

8:45pm

His mum gave me an old lovely pink night wear which i really didn’t know where she got from. I thanked her, took my night bath and relaxed in the guest room.
I was swiftly carried away by my thoughts as soon as i laid down, that i never noticed when Emmanuel came into the room, nor when he sat on the bed.

“hey Mary” he greeted. I instantly sat up and stared at him suspiciously. His smile calm but intense.

“I will be heading straight to town as early as 5AM tomorrow because of my work, hope you can wake up by that time? So i could drop you at your lodge, before going for my own business, though it all depends on our road. let’s just pray the road gets a bit dry before dawn” he said calmly, but before i could reply, a heavy thunder went through instantly jolting us. Rain started dropping on the roof once again.

“Oops” he exclaimed, while i smiled, even though i had no reason to do so.

Before i knew what was happening, his lips were on mine. I unknowingly surrendered completely to him and he took advantage of me once again.

Minutes Later

We silently laid beside each other, totally exhaused and weak.

Finally the sense of deep peace that overtook us during our lovemaking quickly began ebbing away. The implications of what had happened hit home and slapped me intensely.

A tide of guilt and self loathing swept throuh me.

“I have betrayed Samuel” i sobbed.

What really bittered me the most was that Samuel never even went this far with me all through the while we've been together. He's always wished we keep the love making aspect till our wedding night. Here i am giving it freely to someone who doesn't even deserve me. I was so ashamed of myself.

Is this how my relationship gonna end with Samuel??


-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-28
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:49am On Jan 26, 2016
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:47am On Jan 26, 2016
Episode 27

I really didn’t believe Samuel could have the mind nor morale to invite Emmanuel in such manner and i equally never dreamt i would ever find myself in such unpleasant position.

If i had the power, i would have disappeared that moment, but i lacked such powers and so had no choice than to sit it out.

So loudly my heart pounded, so nervously i shook inside and so weakly i awaited my fate. But to my astonishment, Emmanuel just sat comfortably with a quiet smile on his face as he stared at us.
He looked very relaxed, calm and calculative.

“I had to lie and abandon my work just to get here due to the respect i have for you Mary and not because of the insultive tone and manner your so called boyfriend used in inviting me. Please i didn’t come here for a child’s play, so you guys better be serious” he said, breaking the silence between us.

My dear Samuel instantly stood up, and stared at him with contempt and hatred.

“Thanks for honouring my invitation. I invited you only for one simple reason which is to tell you in Mary’s presence to back off and leave her alone. She’s now my girl and i will forever fight for her interest and defend her. We may not have this opportunity again” he explained seriously with fire in his eyes.

Emmanuel simply scoffed, sighed and stood up.

“Is that all?” he asked, “you really have tried, thanks for trying to be a man” he muttered with a sneer, bent by my side and pecked me, before i even realised his intention. I instantly stared at him with shock and disbelief.

Samuel however was more than shocked. There was fire in his eyes as his fury rose.
The insultive calculative reply he got from Emmanuel coupled with the provocative peck he saw him give me, totally outraged and dis-organised him. Instantly turning him into a beast.

Without thinking he reached out, grabbed Emmanuel by the collar, and jerked him violently.

His action tore Emmanuel’s shirt, who instead of retaliating, smiled and shook his head.

“What’s the need in being so violent??” “incase you are not aware, better know this moment that i have much more claim over Mary than you ever will. I guess she’s yet to gist you about our dirty secrets. So my boy fighting over a woman will only send you to your grave pretty quick instead of helping you prove a point. Don’t ever dare touch me again, i’m not your mate. Mary is my wife whether you like it or not, it’s just a matter of time” he muttered, while Samuel stared at him furiously.

“You are just a shoe cleaner my boy, so better learn” he added insultively, before trying to leave. But Samuel couldn’t bear the insult any longer. He pushed him so violently that he landed on my bed and almost hit his head on the wall close by.

I clearly saw what Emmanuel was successfully doing, he was purposely provoking Samuel, but i couldn’t figure out what he planned to achieve with it.

Samuel however, expecting a retaliatory move from him, quickly grabbed a small kitchen knife lying on my reading table, making me fetch my strength and jump out of my bed.

“Samuel have you gone crazy or what? Drop that knife” i instantly barked, throwing myself at him, but unluckily he misunderstood my action and stared at me murderously

“Jeez so Mary you are now defending him, i have been the fool all along” he ranted with a raised hand which still held the kitchen knife.

I swallowed hard as i stared at him, totally disappointed. I never knew a gentle boy like him could ever turn into such an obnoxious fellow.

I sighed left my room and rushed to the general balcony, intending to clear my head there. Surprisingly Samuel followed me, breathing heavily as if he ran after a moving car.

Emmanuel also left that moment, even though i didn’t see him leave. My head really was fully heated up like a dynamite waiting to explode. I was totally upset with Samuel.

“Mary” he called out and grabbed me from behind. I instantly turned and faced him with anger.

“It’s over” i muttered coldly,

“What!” he gasped with disbelief.

“I’m dead serious, our relationship is officially over” i repeated,

“Oh Mary” he tried to protest, but i instantly freed myself from his grasp, rolled my eyes and moved to the other end of the balcony,

“Please don’t ever Mary me again, the decision has been made” i murmured coldly,

“No no no, i can’t take this, i can’t survive this, i’m sorry for going over the line, please forgive me” he apologised profusely, holding me again.

“I know we both are going to suffer over this, but it’s best for us, focus your heart on your upcoming degree exams, Perhaps things will get better for us before you are done with it” i said coldly.

“Is it a crime to defend and fight over what is rightfully mine?” he asked anxiously

“Yea it’s a crime to fight over destiny, whatever is written for us can never be changed, even if you fight a thousand times” i replied and ran back to my room.
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I had no peace for the rest of that week, because my dear Samuel wouldn’t let me be. He truly was extremely hurt by my decision, he kept begging and disturbing me as if my decision would kill him, but i never yielded to his pleas nor listened to Mariam who pleaded on his behalf. It was as if my heart was on lockdown. I felt nothing and had no regret over anything.

I must confess his mistake really seemed to be the perfect opportunity that came at the right time, and i equally knew i simply was overreacting.

However his mum surprised me with a phone-call on thursday inviting me over to their family house during the weekend which i found hard to decline, because the good old lady really had been very kind to me. But as i prepared my mind and myself on Friday, rehearsing how to behave at her house, i got another strange phone call from Emmanuel’s mother seeking to have a little ‘face to face’ chat with me, else she would come calling at my lodge.

Yea i also accepted her invitation and got the directions to her house, because i preferred visiting her instead of her showing up at my lodge. But i equally couldn’t help wondering how she got my phone number.

In such a short period, i became a hot dazzling ‘must-get’ princess..

And how really did it play out?..

Hmmmm.....

-To be Continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-27
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:42am On Jan 26, 2016
Episode 26

SATURDAY EVENING, Days later at HOME

“A young man came here yesterday with his mum asking for your hand in marriage. He looked very serious and asked some prying questions like our culture demands” mum said to me after evening meal.

“A young man?” i asked with surprise.

“Yea he called himself Emmanuel, a very good friend of yours” mum added. I rolled my eyes and shook my head.

“So what did you and dad say to him?” i asked inquisitively.

“We answered some of his questions and promised to get back at him after hearing your opinion. He then left his phone number and promised to visit within two weeks. He behaved nicely, but dear every decision is yours to make, moreover we ain’t in a hurry to get you married. By the way do you actually know the young man??” mum explained and asked with a sweet smile.

“Yea i do know him, but i still have more years ahead before thinking of marriage” i replied hotly.

“Calm down dear, like i earlier said we your parents aren’t desperate to get you married. Your dad will call and notify him” she assured me. I smiled happily,

“Thanks mum” i murmured and hugged her. But i really was no fool not to notice that she really liked him. The way her eyes beemed as she described him, displayed her mind like a chalk-board.

“Don’t worry i know you will like Samuel much more” i assured her in my mind.
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I travelled back to school on Sunday with Emmanuel’s issue weighing heavily on my mind. Emmanuel really came back fully prepared for me. His actions showed it all. But i had an obligation towards Samuel which i wasn’t ready to betray even if i wasn’t feeling strongly for him the way i used to.

Just like my mum promised, Dad called and informed Emmanuel of my decision earlier that Sunday before i left the house, but the smile on his face after the phone call weakened me.

“The young man said he is willing to wait forever can you imagine?” dad announced with a shrug, making my heart skip a beat.
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I however told Samuel everything that happened at home without mincing words when we were together later in the evening. He just kept quiet for a while, shook his head sadly and bit his lips.

“That sneaky fool” he cursed. I rolled my eyes, held his left hand and smiled at him reassuringly,

“Don’t let it bother you dear, i’m already handling the situation” i said sweetly, but he simply scoffed, made to say something, controlled himself and breathed deeply as he stared at me.

“Can i have his phone number and please don’t say know” he murmured a bit coldly. I shrugged took his phone and entered Emmanuel’s phone number in it.

“I don’t know if he still uses it. It’s the phone number he used as a student” i explained.

With a dry smile he took his phone, left the room and returned five mintues later with a weird look.

“‘Your Emmanuel is coming here by 11am tomorrow” he said quietly. My heart instantly jumped, but i quickly composed myself wondering what he was up to.
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11:30am the next day. I sat between Samuel and Emmanuel in my room with a heavily coloured face.

-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-26
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:40am On Jan 26, 2016
Episode 25


8PM

Mariam walked into my room with a calm smile on her face. I really wasn’t happy seeing her that evening but i couldn’t deny her access into my room because she was like a sister to me even though i felt she no longer was watching my back.

“I’m just coming from Samuel’s room” she muttered as she sat on my bed. I carried my teddy bear, played with it and ignored her comment.

“I don’t understand you anymore, you are very obnoxious these days” she added. I scoffed and rolled my eyes,

“Oh please” i murmured, while she stared at me and shook her head,

“I can’t believe you are allowing Emmanuel to spoil the sweet relationship you enjoy with Samuel, think my dear, think! She cautioned as if she was my mother. I dropped my teddy bear and looked up at her seriously.

“Did Samuel tell you how he humiliated and almost hit me hours ago, simply because he saw Emmanuel arguing with me. Would i be arguing with Emmanuel if i was giving him the green light eeh? Abeg leave me jor, infact i’m tired of this relationship, i want to be left alone” i poured out bitterly, while she listened to my outburst attentively with both hands on her jaw. Her face coloured with disbelief and surprise.

“I can’t believe all i’m hearing, Mary i really do think you are under a strong influence, come on get a hold of yourself and put yourself in his shoes, wouldn’t you have assumed the worst?” she asked as she drew near and held my left hand.

“Seriously dear i don’t want to talk about this anymore, i want to forget about everything, only God knows my destiny, nothing i do can change it” i murmured seriously with pain in my heart. She shrugged and stood up in resignation.

“Good night dear friend, let me go and sleep jare” she murmured and left silently.

7AM THE NEXT DAY

I sang God’s praises as i prepared for 8am sunday mass. I woke up that morning very refreshed, bright, happy and in high spirit without actually knowing the reason.

I soon heard gentle knocks on my door as i arranged my hair. I quietly opened my door and held my breathe when i saw Samuel standing on my door-way and staring hopefully at me. I really wasn’t expecting him but i equally wasn’t surprised to see him. I knew he’d come to beg sooner or later.

I forced out a smile and made way for him to enter my room.

“Happy Sunday” i polietly greeted.

“There isn’t anything happy about this Sunday, anyway i came to apologize, i’m sorry for what happened yesterday, please forgive me” he atoned without looking at me, as if he was ashamed of what he was doing, which made me ignore him and continue with ‘my church preparation’.

“Baby please let’s not allow that guy or anything to come between us. I know i over-reacted yesterday and i do apologize for it” he added solemnly.

I turned, faced him, drew closer and held his hands,

“You said many hurtful things yesterday which got me thinking about our relationship, anyway i only have one question” i quietly murmured as i searched his face curiously,

“What is it my love?” he asked quietly. I breathed deeply and continued

“I know you hardly lie to me because i haven’t given you any reason to do such, now look me in the eyes and tell me you do trust me” i prayed. But my request as simple as it was, really drew out a little frown from his face. He instantly looked down and murmured something inaudible.

“Speak up dear and please look at me” i pleaded hopefully.

“Baby i can’t lie over such trifle request, please let’s settle our differences first. We can talk about this subject later” he answered quietly while my face instantly fell.

“There is no relationship without love, no love without trust, i can’t continue with this till you start to trust me again. I suggest you go back and build your trust” i requested calmly with a little confidence and air.

“What!” he exclaimed loudly in disbelief and total shock. The fire in his eyes sparkled like a burning dry bush. I instantly backed away in order not to get burnt by his fury.

“I’m off to church” i said quietly as i backed away from him. He quickly held me strongly, hit his head twice with his left hand and bit his lips as he struggled with himself.

“You brought happiness into my life, now you are taking it away” he accused,

“Is that what lovers do to each other eeh?” “why are you doing this to me, why are you behaving like a fusspot? are you now doubting my love? Please don’t turn me into a bitter person” he prayed sorrowfully.

I instantly felt guilty, terrible and remorseful. I snatched my hand from his grasp and sat on my bed, covering my face with my palms.

“You know sometimes our faith is tested with tempting issues, please don’t let our relationship crumble over this little problem. I could have walked away, cried my heart out and forgotten about you but i didn’t. I easily could have waited for you to apologize, but instead i buried my pride and did the opposite. My dear what more prove do you seek concerning my love” he poured out solemnly while my heart and eyes melted.

He knelt by my side and slowly placed his head on mine, breathing heavily as he waited for me to say something.

“Alright i have heard you. Let’s continue like we used to. We both had a terrible dream yesterday that’s all, let’s forget about it” i murmured and held him tightly.

He said nothing, his happiness overwhelming him. He was a boy so much in love with me, with a kind of passion which could make any guy stupid.
Anyway i was very glad to still have him under my control.
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Days passed by without Emmanuel showing up nor disturbing my life. I knew perhaps he kept away because he had a very demanding Job.

Samuel and i used the opportunity to work on our relationship.

He was always by my side as if he was my shadow. I felt he still was very suspicious and doubtful about my loyalty, but i pretended not to notice. But what happened on monday, a week later was something i wouldn’t forget in a hurry. It was the day my past and present met and fought for supremacy.

A day Samuel and Emmanuel confronted each other in my room.

The earth shook, my head ached and my heart bled.

Oh what a terribly day it was!

-To continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-25
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:38am On Jan 26, 2016
ammy4id:
Nice one here, seriously enjoying it. More ink to your pen
Smliles....Thanks ammy4id........ Your encouragement keeps me going smiley
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:36am On Jan 26, 2016
Episode 24

I really couldn’t sleep that Sunday, the next day nor the day after, as my body, soul and spirit revolted. They clashed and fought each other for supremacy over the control of my heart. I was terribly lost, dejected and confused. I really couldn’t believe i was thinking over Emmanuel’s request, nor considering seeing him again.

“Am i still in love with him?, why am i having all these confusions in my head??, what of Samuel?? Ain’t i supposed to think only of him, am i mentally sick or what??” i kept asking myself as i searched my mind for hidden answers.

“Am i even in love with Samuel, or am i just using the poor boy to satisfy my lonely self? Chie i don die” i do end up crying with guilt, disbelief and remorse.

I had no one to share my problems with, and Mariam who could have helped, really proved to be on Samuel’s side, so i feared she might report everything to him, if i should open up to her.

The week slowly crept by without Emmanuel showing up nor disturbing me. I tried my best to make good use of my time, concentrated on my studies and returned Emmanuel’s love. It really helped me get back some of my confidence, but at night it really was a terrible story. Emmanuel’s image kept appearing in my head.

As a girl i carried my secrets without revealing nothing to anyone. If Samuel noticed the change in me, he never showed it nor asked any probing questions. I equally avoided Mariam to the extent i only saw her only thrice that week.

10AM SATURDAY MORNING

I was on my way to my hair dresser’s salon when i ran into Emmanuel at the hostel gate.

“Why are you here?” i asked coldly. He just smiled and stared at me all over.

“I came to see you my dear, good morning” he murmured. I sighed, pushed him out of my way and walked towards my destination. He instantly ran and held my right hand strongly.

“Where are you going? I can drop you” he offered and pointed to an ash -coloured Nissan Primera car.

“You wan show me say you don buy old model car abi??” I scoffed, gave him an askance look and tried to continue with my journey, but he still held me strongly and stared into my eyes pleadingly.

“Please it won’t do you any harm, moreover we can discuss as i drive you to where ever you are going” he pleaded. I breathed deeply, looked around, saw no familar face within the premises, and nodded,

“Alright, but i will never enter your car ever again” i muttered,

“No wahala, thanks dear” he accepted happily, rushed to his car, opened the passenger’s door, helped me in, sat on the driver’s seat, switched on his car engine, backed out the car and stared at me searchingly.

“You can drive to Dora’s salon, i want to re-touch my hair” i commanded. He smiled, floored the accelerator and drove towards Dora’s salon.

“I never knew you still patronize her, i thought you always complained that she cuts your hair each time she touches it??” he asked. I looked away and smiled to myself.

“So he still do remember how i complained about Dora during the days we were together, years ago” i reasoned with disbelief.

We soon arrived at the hair dressing salon. He parked his car on a good spot, killed the engine and stared at me.

“I will wait for you” he murmured,

“No don’t bother, thanks” i replied a bit coldly,

“I insist dear” he strongly added. I breathed deeply, shrugged and got out from his car.

“Why do i always end up playing this dirty game with him, how will all these end?” i wondered as i walked into the salon.

He sat in his car and waited for me, while i sat in the salon and kept praying to Mother Mary to help, guide and protect me from the dangerous path i was walking into…

A woman’s life is very complicated and uncertain, but male folks never seem to understand or notice…

_______________________

“Emmanuel we can never be together again, all i can offer you this moment is only friendship, how many times do you want me to repeat this, please stop wasting your time with me and search for another” i pleaded quietly as we headed back to my lodge after i was done fixing my hair.

He frowned slightly, stared at me for a while and drove on silently.

Thinking over everything as i fixed my hair, i came to the conclusion that perhaps i wasn’t destined to be with him, because i really didn’t see any good reason why he even abandoned me in the first place. Yet i also couldn’t deny that i wasn’t feeling something for him, even though it wasn’t strong enough to make me risk my relationship with Samuel.

Emmanuel drove on silently until we got to my lodge. He killed the car engine and stared at me pointedly,

“Atleast can i have your phone number please” he begged,

“No Emmanuel i can’t, i really do need to forget everything about you and so do you” i confessed. He swallowed hard, drew a bit closer and held my left hand softly.

“Why are you resisting me so strongly?” he asked quietly.

“You are not giving me fair hearing, please allow me to explain why i kept away from you” he begged.

“No explanation can justify what you did, please i beg of you, stop disturbing me” i pleaded, snatched my hand from his grasp and ran out of his car. He quickly followed me, but unluckily for me, i ran into Samuel who was standing beside the hostel gate with an empty galon in his hand.

I panicked and gasped, while Emmanuel equally stopped, stared at us for a while, turned back, entered his car and drove off as if he understood.

Samuel silently stared at me with surprise. I really was at lost on what to say or how to explain myself, because he clearly saw both of us even before we did see him, and i knew there is no way he wouldn’t put the whole scene together.

I quickly ran to my room without saying anything to him, expecting him to run after me, but he didn’t, instead went ahead with his own business.
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I rushed and prepared beans for lunch as i waited for him to show up, perhaps to demand for an explanation. But he didn’t, which further surprised and alarmed me.

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AN HOUR AND HALF LATER

With a fast beating heart, i dutifully carried two plates of beans to Samuel’s room.

Since he failed to show up and have his lunch in mine, i had no choice than to take the food to his room.

He allowed me into his room with a sneer on his face, while i smiled nervously as i dropped the two plates on the rug.

“Can you explain the scene i just witnessed hours ago?” he instantly asked coldly. I swallowed hard and stared at him, clueless on how to explain the scene Emmanuel and i created. I remorsefully looked down and said nothing.

Surprisingly, he advanced and pushed me violently. I fell and somersaulted on his bed, while his fist closed in on me before i could even recover from the shock his violent push gave me. I held my breathe and closed my eyes.

Samuel isn’t a violent person, I guess it was all my fault. Yet i felt very bitter and blamed him for concluding without proper investigation.

I closed my eyes as i nervously waited for his fist to land on me. But after waiting for some seconds, i opened my eyes and saw him staring at me with hatred and rage.

I instantly turned and attempted to run back to my room. He grabbed my hand and violently tossed me back on his bed.

“What has come over you, control yourself jor, things are really not as they seem” i murmured as i struggled with him, trying to defend myself. He just scoffed, shook his head and bit his lips.

“I know what i saw Mary, or were my eyes lying when i saw you alight from that guy’s car, or was i dreaming, abeg tell me?” he shouted angrily,

“I have been a fool to believe your cooked and bull story about ending things with him your own way, i guess you were doing it perfectly this afternoon or do you want to tell me the guy i saw isn’t your ex, eeh??” he barked

“Let me be jor, i see you haven’t learnt to trust me after all i sacrificed in this relationship” i shouted back, sat up and dared him.

“Trust is a silly word you girls use to deceive us, Mary i don’t trust you anymore” he said coldly and bluntly. I felt insulted, dirty and wounded. I never knew a day would come when Samuel will talk back at me more or less insult and humiliate me in such manner.

“What did you just say?” i asked angrily,

“Your recent behaviours aren’t in anyway decent, i don’t trust you my dear, read my lips” he shouted disrespectfully. I drew forward, slapped him and jumped out of his bed.

“Since you no longer trust me, better keep away from me” i barked angrily,

“I guess you have gotten the opportunity you are waiting for huh? You are now free to run into his arms” he taunted. I stared at him with tears in my eyes.

“I have my pride and dignity, i will never be insulted nor humiliated by anyone not even by you, don’t come back begging” i threatened and left his room.

I hated myself as i cried and ran to my room that moment, but it was the only thing i could do,

“How do i redeem myself, why is Samuel behaving this way, how do i atone for my sins, is it my fault that i still feel something for Emmanuel, didn’t i do the right thing by refusing his advances, why am i being punished this way? GOD why??” i cried..

-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-24
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:35am On Jan 26, 2016
OYAY:
Again still interesting but a bit fictional because somebody of Samuel standing that have had bad experience with his former gilfriend will not easily be swayed by feminist stunt played by Mary like that considering the way he got to know of Mary's ex visits. It is alltogether a lesson filled story! More data to your internet!!!
Yea i do get your point OYAY......... But Samuel is just a guy that loves easily.....That was his weakness which he failed to overcome
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:29am On Jan 26, 2016
fumnez:
Wow, so captivating and interesting. Pls kip uploading. Dnt kip us waiting in anxiety
Thanks Fumnez. smiley......And sorry for the delay in updating the rest of the episodes, its just been due to my busy schedule

Thanks for understanding! grin
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 8:26am On Jan 26, 2016
virtuedagirl:
abeg keep d updates coming,i'm enjoying it seriously.Welldone Olajhidey
Thanks virtuedagirl smiley....Your word of encouragement keeps me going... Have just been busy lately, that has made my story updates arrive rather too slow!
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 5:56pm On Jan 22, 2016
Episode 23

“That guy really is something else, imagine the arrogance, the smile and the way he carried himself, God” Mariam muttered and fell on my bed.

“Do you think your action will stop him?” i asked with a smile,

“Of course not, what i did was just a temporary measure, stopping him permanently is in your hands, just like you did to David” she replied,
“But i think you should first apologize and sort out your differences with Samuel, before having anything to do with that rascal, or else you will be adding more salt to your problems” she lectured, “imagine allowing him into you room and Samuel shows up in the process” she added. A shiver ran through me as i imagined it all,

“You are right dear, i will settle with Samuel this evening” i assured her.

Emmanuel knocked on my door for hours and left when he realised nothing would make us open the door for him. Mariam later left for her own room. I bathed, wore a lovely gown, sprayed perfume all over my body and went over to Samuel’s room.

He allowed me into his room without saying anything. I smiled laid on his bed and stared at him. He sat on his rug and backed me, focusing his eyes on the tv screen, even though i knew his mind was somewhere else.

“I’m sorry” i quietly apologized and touched his right shoulder. He kept quiet and ignored me.

“You know me better dear and you know the last thing i will ever do is to cheat on you, not with my ex, not with anyone” i prayed,

“I don’t know you anymore” he muttered coldly. I breathed deeply, climbed down from the bed and sat beside him on the floor,

“Dear look into my eyes and repeat that comment, i won’t disturb you again if you repeat it” i dared him calmly. He looked into my eyes momentarily before looking away. I smiled and heaved a sigh of relief...
“I still have much control over him” i acknowledged.

I gently pecked him, cutting off his tirade. For a brief instant, he resisted, then sighed,

“It wounds me when you act like this” i murmured,

“Isn’t there something you need to tell me?” he asked curiously. I looked away and played the feminine stunt. Tears fell from my eyes and i began to cry.

He instantly clasped me to his chest

“ssh” he soothed, “it’s over, everything is alright”

I smiled in my mind. Searched his face as i probed for equivocation, but encountered none, which ultimately made me accept his pledge to be genuine.



“Problem solved” i breathed deeply and murmured to myself. My dearest Samuel is the most gullible guy i have ever met, and it really was so because he loved me with all his heart.

“Why are you smiling?” i soon heard him ask. But i didn’t reply because i was busy planning my next line of action, which was stopping Emmanuel from disturbing me. I felt uneasy thinking about it as if i knew my downfall was approaching…

“Please my love don’t ever mistrust me again” i whispered pleadingly into his ear. He swiftly turned and stared into my eyes with the cutiest smile ever,

“It won’t happen again dear” he promised and pecked me. I smiled gratefully, played with his left ear for a while before playfully pinching his jaw,

“I have another request to make my love” i carefully murmured. He held my left hand and nodded for me to continue,

“Please allow me to handle Emmanuel the way i deem it fit” i begged humbly. His expression instantly changed, and he breathed deeply like someone in pain, as he scanned my face with his eyes like a detective.

“But baby i don’t think it’s wise” he tried to argue. I instantly placed a finger on his lips, deliberately stopping him from finishing his objection.

“Please baby” i begged with my feminine charms which i instantly displayed. He looked away for some seconds, shrugged and faced me again.

“Alright if that will make you happy and equally get him to leave you, who am i to object” he accepted with a dry smile, while my eyes instantly beemed with joy. I hugged him happily, every pore in my body smiled with excitement.

“Thanks my love, you are the best, very understanding and considerate” i murmured happily, before resting on his body like a little child.

He just held me and smiled like someone who displeased himself for the sake of peace.
_____

“Do you think you can handle Emmanuel on your own” Mariam asked with concern the following morning, after listening to the narration i gave her on how i secured Samuel’s love and trust again.

“Yea i can, or don’t you trust me anymore?” i answered and stared at her suspiciously. Seriously her behaviour and loyalty seemed to change, since she learnt of Emmanuel’s return.

“I do trust you dear” she flashed a quick smile, shrugged and expertly changed the topic.
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2:30PM A DAY LATER

I was about taking my usual sunday siesta when i heard gentle knocks on my door. I lazily got up from my bed, opened my door and gasped in surprise when my eyes fell on Emmanuel smiling nervously. I felt weak on my knees, while my heart skipped a bit, i really don’t know why i always felt uneasy each time i happen to meet his gaze, “perhaps i really haven’t yet gotten over him the way i thought” i wondered as i stared coldly at him.

“Mary all i need is just two minutes of your time, please don’t shut your door and grant me audience” he begged softly. I breathed deeply and allowed him into my room, very determined to end his chapter and disturbance that fateful afternoon.

“Thanks for letting me into your room” Emmanuel murmured with a smile as he settled down on a small plastic chair.

“I know what i came to say may be a bit difficult and probably weird to you, but i really came with every bit of sincerity and honesty a guy could ever muster. Before i begin please let’s keep all our differences and things of the past aside and think only about the future” he fluently poured out. I scoffed, held my jaw and nodded for him to continue.

“I know i did a very terrible, unforgivable deed by abandoning you, i really do apologize for that and i know if you will ever bear to hear my side of the story, you really will understand why it happened. Anyway let me go straight to why i came here” he added nervously like a new bank executive who was making his first presentation. My heart pounded furiously as i listened to him.

“Baby i really came to finish the dream we started together years ago. Remember our plans, hopes and dreams we shared, drawings and promises we made to each other as we mapped our life years ago? I have returned with the noble intention of finishing it. Let’s forget the past and forge ahead please. I now work with Fidelity bank, just like i told you i will when i graduate, please don’t let personal feelings and anger cloud your judgement. My parents are waiting for you, my heart is very eager to unite with yours and my soul could only be at rest with you by my side, cyndii dear let’s finish this dream together” he pleaded passionately.

“Stop!!!” i snapped, cutting off his speech midway. I truly couldn’t believe his words were having terrible effects on me. I really was hypnotized.

“What’s wrong with me, why am i even listening to all this thrash” i wondered, terribly alarmed at the apparent change in me. I instantly trembled when i felt his touch as he expertly reached out, held my fingers and knelt by my side, when he noticed how shaken i was.

“I see confusion in your eyes. But please think this through, remember how we started and remember that i do know you very well. I went to conquer the world, now i’m back with the spoils which i lay at your feet, please listen to the silent whispers in your heart” he murmured like a devil, confusing me more.

I was lost, confused and alarmed. My heart yearned for another thing, while my body demanded for another. Sure he really was my first love, but isn’t old memories supposed to fade with time?.

“I’ll be back for your reply Mary” he whispered and kissed me before i could even breathe twice nor say anything. His kiss so bitter but very strong shook my hormones so terrible that i gasped for air.

Before i could get myself to look up at him, he was gone.

“Lord help me” i prayed. I knew i finally have gotten a very terrible secret to hide from everyone.

“Not even Mariam will hear of this” i concluded to myself, “how shameful it will be if she finds out” i reasoned as i wondered how to overcome the terrible effect Emmanuel’s disturbance was having on me.

What should i have done??

-To be continued-

Source
: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-23
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 5:39pm On Jan 22, 2016
Episode 22

Dawn arrived quickly than i expected. I tossed uneasily on Samuel’s bed.

“How do i face Emmanuel today?” i wondered and closed my eyes,

“God help me” i prayed and breathed deeply. My strength failed me.
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I stayed away from lectures that fateful day, and stayed indoors with Samuel, who really was very glad to sacrifice his lectures because of me. We had a wonderful time playing, joking and he never went beyond his boundary,which i really loved most about him.. Deep down within me i still felt very uneasy.

I kept thinking about Emmanuel and his next line of action, since i failed to show up in school. My heart leapt each time i heard someone knocking on a neighbour’s door, fearing it was him knocking on my door.

“Hope you are alright dear, you look very anxious and uneasy?” Samuel asked numerous times that fateful day. But instead of telling him my plight i preferred to keep it firmly sealed in my heart.

“I can’t believe you still haven’t told him about Emmanuel, upon everything i said to you yesterday, seriously you are no longer behaving like the Mary i know, are you under a spell or are you still habouring some form of affection for that boy?” Mariam asked suspiciously, when she came into my room later in the evening, after returning from school..

“You won’t understand” i murmured and bit my lips,

“Yes i can’t understand your behaviour anymore, you even skipped lectures because of that boy nawa oh” she replied and shook her head.

“I know what i’m doing okay, you are just misunderstanding my actions dear,” i murmured. She shrugged and changed the topic, while I instantly felt relieved, because i really had no strength to argue with her.

However when Samuel confronted me about Emmanuel later in the night, i knew my best friend had snitched on me. I felt very terrible, weak and lost, but what pained me the most was Samuel’s words, which really injured me immensely.

“I never knew you could keep such information away from me. I never believed i will ever hear such news from someone else, why Mary?, why??” he asked after repeating all Mariam told him.

I swallowed hard and looked away, with an injured pride, totally ashamed of myself.

“I can’t even imagine you stayed away from school just because of him” he muttered,

“Baby i kept it away from you because i didn’t want to involve you, i know how upset you will be if i tell you such news” i explained truthfully, but for the first time he choosed not to believe me. He stared at me for a while before looking down.

“Seriously i don’t know what to believe, how am i even sure you haven’t been meeting him secretly, perhaps it was your friend’s conscience that made her open up to me even though i suspect she tuned down the whole thing” he murmured. I gasped in shock, grabbed his right hand strongly, forcing him to bring his eyes back on me.

Samuel has never doubted, suspected, nor spoken silly words to me, but that moment it appeared as if i lost all his trust. The most painful part of it all was that he accused me unjustly and kept staring at me as if i was a half penny who.re.

“My God, why did Mariam do this to me” i wondered with a weeping heart, totally lost, dejected and heartbroken……

“Good night” Samuel muttered, snatched his hand from my grasp, and turned his back on me,

“Where are you going?” i asked stupidly,

“To my room of course” he replied coldly,

“Spend the night here with me dear?” i begged,

“I don’t think it’s necessary, you never wanted me to get involved, so it’s better i stay away so that you can clean up your problems alone just like you wanted. You can notify me when you are done” he murmured and left my room.

“Dear your behaviour is punishing me, don’t leave me here alone” i begged as he left.

I never knew Samuel could ever get so annoyed with me in such manner, and It just looked as if my life was crashing in a terrifying manner.

I spent that night tossing on my bed and crying. I woke up the next day emotionally weak, pertubed and uneasy.

Mariam showed up in my room by 7:55AM, I felt like murdering her, but had to control myself because i didn’t want to create a scene with someone so vulgar.

“Why the drawn face huh?” she asked and sat beside me with concern. I sighed and looked the other way,

“Snitch” i hissed quietly,

“Hmmm okay, now i understand the monkey face you are showing me. Of course i told Samuel because you have no reason for hiding Emmanuel’s disturbance from him. You won’t understand what i did for you, hahaha you can thank me later shaaa” she patted my back and laughed.

“This is no laughing matter, your big mouth just cost me my relationship” i murmured,

“Abegi make i hear word jare” she replied and fell back on my bed,

“I’m very serious, Samuel almost pounced on me yesterday” i complained bitterly. To my surprise, my dear friend laughed out loud.

“Anyway i don’t blame you, i caused everything by revealing my problems to you” i added sadly. She sat up and stared at me seriously.

“Baby don’t talk like that, Samuel loves you very much, he just reacted as he should. Relax he will come back to make peace” she assured,

“What if he doesn’t?” i asked,

“Then you go yourself and beg him, you have legs don’t you?” she replied and winked at me, “anyway i don’t think Samuel can last a day without you” she concluded while i shrugged.

We argued and debated about Emmanuel, Samueland how to settle my problems throughout that morning till 11:3AM when we heard a steady knock on my door which interrupted us.

Mariam quickly answered my door and froze when she saw who was knocking. She slowly walked backwards like someone possessed by an evil power. My face instantly coloured. I gasped and swallowed hard when i saw Emmanuel confidently walk into my room with a steady smile. But before i could recover from the shock, Mariam quickly regained herself and pushed him feriociously with an energy i never have seen in her.

Her push took him by surprise, and sent him staggering backwards towards the open door. Mariam pushed again and again until he was out of my room without much resistance. She quickly locked my door with great speed and rested her body on it as she gasped for breath.

I really was totally stunned, and surprised at the great stunt she pulled. I stared at her gratefully for some minutes and breathed deeply,

“God please give me the type of mind, strength and courage Mariam has” i prayed….

-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-22
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Episode 21

“Please be quick with the story” i muttered with a drawn face, while he simply just smiled, supported his jaw with his right hand and stared at me like someone with a whole lot of time in his hands,

“You really have grown into a beautiful woman, more sexy and attractive than i expected” he said with a smile. I frowned and sighed,

“Your plan didn’t work, you thought i will dry up like a dead leaf when you abandoned me abi? Mtcheeew” i poured and hissed. He instantly looked away with remorse in his eyes, but i felt no pity for him. His comment really ignited my anger, even though it was meant to flatter me.

“Abeg do fast and tell me the story, i have other things to do” i urged coldly,

“Your comments are just like a whip, flogging the living hell out of me” he murmured in order to draw out pity. I scoffed, shook my head and stared at him coldly,

Thunder fire you there, i just wish my comments could do much more than flogging your wretched body” i cursed bitterly.

“My God! Mary you have changed considerably, you now curse and throw insults without fear” he exclaimed with surprise,

“Change is a constant thing in life oga, and as long as i’m alive, i will keep on changing. I see you have no story to tell, this conversation is over and never happened” i barked and stood up rudely. He instantly tried to grab my left hand, but was unsuccessful.

“Please don’t ever come to my lodge again unless you need a hot bath” i threatened and walked away, while he speechlessly stared at me with a coloured face.

“God please forgive me, i never intended to curse and insult him this way, but you know he caused everything” i prayed with remorse as i left the cafe.

I soon felt a strong hand grab me from behind outside the cafe, i instantly turned and stared at Emmanuel murderously,

“Please can i have your phone number” he begged,

“Go to hell” i cursed, turned and made to leave. He instantly blocked my path and stared at me with prayers in his eyes,

“Don’t do this Mary, please i have waited so long for this moment, if you refuse me your phone number, i will have no choice than to follow you to your lodge and kill myself with your hot water, i can’t just continue living this way, not after seeing you after a long wait” he begged seriously.

I looked up and down with confusion and frustration quickly eating me up like hunger. I equally battled with my mind as i thought of the strategy i could use in discharging him.

I slowly held my pride, and controlled my angry spirit,

“I need to sleep over this issue, i can’t just give you my new phone number easily, moreover you just appeared from the clouds after disappearing from my life for a long time, i will be in school tomorrow, perhaps you will get my number if we meet then, but please on no account should you visit my lodge, that’s all i can say for now and i think it’s fair considering all you did to me” i muttered calmly. He shrugged unhappily and nodded with a faint smile.

“That’s fine by me” he accepted without another argument. I rolled my eyes and walked away without another word,

“How do i resist this idiot of a boy?” i wondered.

“I surely need Mariam’s advice before i do something nasty, two heads are better than one” i concluded with a calm smile as i trekked back to my lodge that fateful afternoon, very glad i was finally free from his disturbance, at least for that day….

LATER IN THE EVENING, MARIAM’S ROOM

“Emmanuel is back” i whispered into my friend’s ear as if i was scared of calling out Emmanuel’s name. She glanced at me with surprise,

“Emmanuel! Which Emmanuel?” she curiously asked,

“My ex na, have you forgotten him?” i replied. She instantly gasped and held my left palm tightly,

“You mean you saw him?” she asked,

” He was in my room yesterday and even blocked me in school today” i explained,

“So what does he want?, how did he even find you?” she asked with concern,

“Girl i really can’t say how he found me, i even thought you were the person who helped him” i answered quietly. She gave me an askance look, smiled and tapped my left shoulder,

“Nawa for you, why you go think that kind thing? I’m very much surprised as you are, so what did he say and what does he want?” she asked.

“Usual stuff, he wants my phone number, he has a story to tell, he can’t continue living this way” i replied and mimicked Emmanuel’s voice. She laughed and clapped her hands.

“Abegi don’t mind him, better be careful from now onwards, you know how guys especially first boyfriend’s can be, very cunning and crafty like a con-artist, moreover he knows you too well, so please don’t even give him any chance to open his mouth” she advised.

“But how can i be able to do that? He threatened to kill himself if i don’t give him attention” i murmured,

“Then let him kill himself, supposing you died of heartbreak when he left you, will he be talking all these nonsense” she replied unhappily, while i breathed deeply and shrugged.

“So have you told your guy?” she asked,

"No, i murmured and shook my head,

“Please don’t hide this issue from him, it will be easier for you to discharge him with Samuel backing you up, i’m talking from experience” she advised like a sister (And that was a good advise from Mariam which i declined, a great mistakes we ladies make when our Ex later shows from nowhere)

“I really don’t like involving that poor boy in my problems” i murmured,

“I don’t think you have any other choice, my dear” she concluded and stared at me with pity. I looked away and shrugged.

9PM, SAMUEL’S ROOM

I laid on his body, while he gently played with my hair, a gesture i always enjoyed, but that evening, i really was very restless.

Mariam’s advice kept repeating in my head, urging me to open up and reveal all i was hiding. But i couldn’t get myself to do her bidding, which really was the most appropriate thing to do.

A force i really can’t define nor figure out, sealed my lips and locked them firmly like a padlock. Perhaps it was fear which hindered me or maybe it was my stupidity which played such a dirty trick on me. My conscience urged me but my strength failed me, while my mouth refused to oblige. The kind of force which held me that moment seemed similar to that which often stops we girls from exposing our boyfriend’s pals who made passes at us. Only girls will surely understand the state i was in. Deep down i felt very guilty..

“I will talk to Emmanuel tomorrow, if he still insists, then i will have no choice than to tell Samuel” i promised myself.

A promise which left a sour feeling in my mind, but unknown to me Mariam had her own plans which soon reshaped and turned everything upside down for me….

-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-21
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 5:29pm On Jan 22, 2016
virtuedagirl:
thanks 4 d updates,d are so captivating&nice. i'm learning alot
Thanks my dear friend @virtuedagirl. I'm glad you are enjoying the story and at the same time learning one or two things from this!

Also noticed you've been a regular follower of my story. Thanks for that being there always. smiley
I Hope you get to read the story to the very last episode.

Thanks once again!
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 5:24pm On Jan 22, 2016
OYAY:
This is captivating and deep story! I wonder why Samuel will always felt betrayed always moreover he should also have been more sancrosact in this new relationship having been jilted before. He appear not to have learn't any lesson from his failed relationship. Anyway let see how it goes sha .
You are very right @OYAY......But you never can tell how strong the power of love drives one. It makes one act in an unusual manner.

Thanks for following keenly and thanks for stopping by. Hoping you stay tune till the very last episode smiley
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 1:42pm On Jan 21, 2016
Episode 20

David never did disturb me again, he just kept his distance and avoided me like a snake which i very much loved, even though it really was very surprising to Samuel who couldn’t believe that David easily swallowed his pride and gave me up without any harm.

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ONE YEAR LATER

Time flies so fast when we have our dreams up and running. I was soon in the second semester of my 3rd year while Samuel in his final semester as a student.

Our relationship blossomed and matured into something so solid and sweet, despite the fact we abstain from sex. It just looked as if i was created for him. His family accepted and treated me as if i was their daughter. They really couldn’t wait for us to finish school and get married.

I transformed Samuel from a quiet, cool headed introvert into an artistic, charming, noble young man whose greatest hobby was to love me. The clothes in my wardrope, the jewelleries, flowers, cards, teddy bears i was lavished with and even my fat bank account all testified to his benevolence. He so totally spoilt me, that i hardly ever touched the monthly allowance my parents do give me. My ego and pride were so high. I was envied by many.

“Oh what else could i have asked my creator for?”

LOVE SURELY WORKS WONDERS

But sometimes no matter how hard we struggle to shape our future, challenges do come to test our courage and zeal, always appearing when least expected, and only a little misdeed that moment could rewrite everything.

Some folks do say that ‘whatever will be, will surely be no matter how hard we plan’, and some holy books do say ‘our destiny already has been written by our creator before birth’. Whatever the case, life is so full of mysteries.

The future i so much struggled to build with Samuel was completely jeopardized weeks into my 300 level second semester. I never knew my fate could take such a dramatic twist nor my past showing up to haunt me. Not only did it return to haunt me, it equally came to steal my soul, pride, heart and all i laboured for, without even a mask to hide its face.

My past came pertinaciously for me when i least expected, and i truly can’t explain how lost or petrified i was when it came knocking on my door.

The shock, pain and anger i felt when i answered my door and saw Emmanuel (My ex-boyfriend) smiling nervously with hands clasped behind him, was so immense that i couldn’t breathe for a while. The look of relief in his eyes when they rested on me really was undeniable. For some seconds i stared at him speechlessly, lost in thought and clueless on what to do.

He truly wasn’t looking bad, though a bit darker than when i last saw him. He wore a white shirt, black tie, trouser and shoes. His features perfectly constructed and matured…..

How fast i noticed…

Hmmm..

“Nooooo go away!” i cried as i shut my door on his face, dived to my bed and covered my head with my pillow.

“How did he find me?” i wondered miserably.

I left my old lodge and changed my phone number all because of him. Seeing him that afternoon instantly brought up old memories, drawing out tears from my eyes. I was highly demoralized.

“Mary please open your door, i just came to talk with you” he knocked and begged. I simply ignored him and refused to open my door.

He finally left after an hour of constant knocking. I heaved a sigh of relief and made the sign of the cross.

“Lord be my strength” i prayed, because I needed no one to tell me that he would return. However i failed to mention Emmanuel’s visit to Samuel, when we were together later in the evening, without knowing the reason (another great mistake ladies make in a realationship). Perhaps it was because i didn’t want to involve him in my problems anymore. A lame excuse i consoled myself with.

“Hope everything is alright?” Samuel asked curiously as soon as he noticed my absent-mindedness,

“I’m having a slight headache” i muttered calmly,

“I have panadol in my room, let me get it for you” he sweetly said as he got up,

“No don’t worry, all i need is just a good night sleep” i murmured and flashed him a smile. He shrugged and rubbed my back,

“Good night dear, let me leave you alone” he muttered and left for his room.
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NEXT DAY

“Some lecturers are truly very annoying with the manner they behave sometimes” i murmured furiously as i left our lecture hall after writing a hot impromptu test which i manged to answer only three out of six questions. I really was very annoyed and swore to anyone who blocked my path as i left the hall as if something was pursuing me.

A strong hand grabbed me without warning, i instantly turned to lash out on whoever it may be. But I was stunned when my eyes fell on Emmanuel, smiling nervously in his usual way. I felt like slapping him but the crowd around us was much.

“Calm down my dear, things are not always as they seem” he muttered quietly,

“I have a story to tell, after listening to it you can then pour out your mind” he added calmly.

“I’m in no mood to listen to your story, i don’t care anymore, moreover it’s too late” i replied haughtily. I could have snatched my hand and ran away that moment, but i didn’t, instead i stood and stared at him while i calmly deliberated whether to listen to his story or not. Curiousity got hold of me.

“Don’t say anything dear till you listen to my story, it won’t take much of your time, you can go your way after listening to it. I only came to fulfill something i promised myself” he urged with a smile. I breathed deeply, shrugged with a shoulder and followed him to a quiet, expensive cafe at the other end of the school.

I knew it was undignifying to allow my curiousity get hold of me, but i just couldn’t help it.

“Am i under a spell or what?” i asked myself as we sat down in the cafe, moments later.

“Please God don’t allow Samuel to see me here” i silently prayed with guilt….

-To be continued-

[b]Source: [/b]http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-20
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 1:37pm On Jan 21, 2016
Episode 19

My heart jumped when i saw David standing beside my door. I instantly felt like turning and going back to Timi’s room, but i couldn’t. His right hand was on my door which showed he probably must have been knocking on it for long. I frowned and walked up to him,

“What do you want?” i asked coldly, he scoffed and fed his eyes on me for a while,

“Hmmm what a question, of course i want you dear” he replied with bright eyes which got me more annoyed. Just that moment Samuel came out from his room, stood beside his door and beckoned on me to come. He probably must have heard the conversation going on between David and i from his room which made him to show up that moment, but his action provoked David whose beaming eyes instantly burned furiously. He grabbed my right hand roughly and stared at me murderously,

“You ain’t going anywhere, he should come here and tell you whatever he wants to say” he muttered, while i stared at him with confusion written all over my face.

Samuel saw his action as a challenge and walked up to him bravely. I felt like fainting that moment because i knew what was about to happen wouldn’t in any way be pleasant.

“Guy abeg free my girl, i won’t beg you again” Samuel warned courageously,

“Your girl eeh? So you no longer have fear or respect in you??” David asked with a dirty smile.

“Samuel please let me handle this” i begged, but he ignored me and faced him defiantly.

David calmly freed my hand and held Samuel's shirt by the collar,

“What do you think you can do to me stinking jew?” he asked before slapping him. I panicked and instantly threw myself on Samuel who was already in the process of returning the slap, because he really was no fighter or match for David who might end up calling for backup.

Instead of calming down, when he saw me hold Samuel, he pulled a belt from his trouser and flung wildly without caring whether it will land on me or not.

Perhaps he did it intentionally for me to know i wasn’t save with Samuel or maybe as punishment for rejecting him.

The belt soon landed on my back with full force, sending a horrifying message of pain all across my body. Yet i still held Samuel strongly and screamed for help

Luckily Neighbours rushed out from their rooms and held David strongly, even though none of them dared caution him. I managed to drag Samuel to his room, while some kind neighbours followed and assisted me in calming him down.

“Why were you fighting with that criminal?
Nawa for you oo,
“Do you want to bring yourself down to his level?
“Abeg always ignore him the way we do, he is just a frustrated criminal”.

They asked, advised and cautioned Samuelwho kept moving his eyes to and fro like a cornered rat.

“I think you should report him to the police or school security” a neighbour advised,

“Hmmm which kind advice you dey give so? Abeg don’t listen to him jare unless you are ready to fight all his cult group” another neighbour chipped in, instantly causing a hot debate among them and it lasted till late in the evening.

“I’m sorry for dragging you into this” i apologized when we were finally alone. He bit his lips and stared at me with a blank expression.

“Mary i failed you” he muttered sadly. My heart melted, i drew close and held him passionately,

“You made me very proud today dear” i replied sweetly. He breathed deeply before giving me tight hug.

“Please i will like to see the spot where his belt landed on you” he begged quietly. I instantly looked away with a coloured face.

I never knew he noticed when David’s belt landed on my body because it happened in a flash and i equally failed mentioning it to him because i didn’t want him to feel bad.

“oh my God!” he exclaimed as he examined where i was hit by David's belt.

“I will report him to the police” i heard him mutter. My heart instantly leapt, i turned and held his hand,

“Please allow this matter to die abeg dear” i pleaded with guilt and shame in my eyes because i never knew i would stoop so low as to beg on David’s behalf, even though i was restrained from reporting him to the authorities few days ago, but my plea really was for Samuel’s good, because cultists are always very deadly and unpredictable.

“So what do you think we should do to him?” i soon heard him ask. I swallowed hard, covered my face with my palms and rested it on my knees,
“What really should be done to that rascal?” i asked myself over and over again. A multi million question very hard to answer.

I was very busy with my thoughts that i never knew when he left me to boil hot water, nor when he returned with a hot bowl of water to press the wound caused by David's belt-whip.

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Days later David saw me as i was returning from school, caught up with me at the staircase and held my right hand softly. I stopped and stared at him coldly while he returned my look with a calm smile.

“I know you are still very angry with me over what happened the other day, I’m very sorry” he apologized. I tried to snatch my hand from his grasp but he strongly held me.

“Please just take this and buy something for yourself, i really do apologize with all my heart” he muttered and offered a brown envelope to me. I stared at him speechlessly, tried again to snatch my hand but he still held it strongly.

“Just take it please” he pleaded,

“Just let me be David” i replied with a raised tone. He stared around, before facing me once again,

“Mary what i feel for you is no ordinary love, i swear i can pull down any building just to make you mine” he added quietly.

I unhappily shook my head as i tried to calm myself down. A new plan instantly rushed into my mind,

“Okay let’s go to my room” i muttered coldly. He smiled, released my hand and together we walked into my room.

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He quietly sat on my bed, I sat beside him in a well composed manner and faced him with a fake smile,

“I really do appreciate the gift, but i cannot accept it” I calmly said to him, while he silently stared at me,

“I know you truly do love me David” i added and held his right hand which totally surprised him.

“A great love, even if it be unfortunate, should enable a man, not make him desperate and heartless, please let’s just be friends, i do believe with time i may learn to love you” i murmured gently.

“But can’t you offer something much more than ordinary friendship?” he asked instantly. His anguish very real, not feigned in any way. Love, life, liberty all were at stake which i very well knew and so had to choose my words carefully.

“No David friendship is all i can offer for now”, “Here you are offering me love, and my hand does not tremble, my heart equally does not; your words give me no pleasure, only pain; i’m conscious of nothing, only a wish to end this interview, please do understand my plight. How else can i explain that i feel no love for you at the moment” i poured out to him.

“But with time, could you learn to love me?” he eagerly asked,

“Yes i’m very sure i will, please don’t think i speak out of pride or to pain you” i lied sweetly. All i wanted that moment was my freedom which i prayed our little discussion would grant me.

I saw a sudden shadow of despair come into his eyes. I swallowed hard and muttered quick silent prayers to my creator.

“You have unmanned me, but i think you are right, i can’t force out love from you, lets be friends like you said” he muttered while his cheeks flushed with embarrassment.

I heaved a sigh of relief, my eyes instantly lit up with joy. I felt like hugging him in appreciation, but i held myself,

“Thanks a lot for understanding my plight” i murmured with delight.

He stood for some moments in silence; a dim perception of his own unworthiness came over him, with a smile, he tapped my left shoulder and left my room quietly.

“Is this the end?” i asked myself happily,

Only time will tell….

-To be Continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-19
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 1:26pm On Jan 21, 2016
Episode 18

“No it’s a lie” Mariam screamed with a loud voice, while Timi humbly knelt by her side like a condemned servant.

I really was very shocked and stunned with his confession, because even though he did the right thing by saying the truth, it looked that moment as if he just poured water over a raging petrol fire.

I was very much at loss on what to do, and in a vegetable state i was as i watched the whole drama keenly. Mariam just looked like someone who just saw a ghost by the way her eyes blazed that moment.

I don’t doubt some folks who always argue that sometimes "a sweet well told lie is hundred times better than a bitter truth". The tensed up situation that morning was enough to seal my belief.

“Baby it really doesn’t change who i am, please don’t let it come between our love” i heard Timi beg, but his effort only earned him a dirty slap which sound echoed in my room, leaving a huge lump in my throat.

“So you took me for granted all these while? she barked like an angry wolf, while Timi gently rubbed his left chin where the hot slap landed. Surely that slap really was so hot and terrifying. Only the force by which it was delivered and the sound which erupted from it was enough to deafen his ear for months. Yet he still knelt humbly as if the slap was nothing but a friendly pat.

“Oh what a man”

“Leave this room right now?” my friend barked, pushing him backwards in a violent manner. I instantly jumped up in his defence,

“Girl you are taking this too far, chill nau” i begged with a slightly raised tone, which made her stare at me with a surprised look.

I wasn’t blind not to notice that my friend was using her annoyance to abuse her boyfriend, who probably thought he was doing the right thing by calmly recieving the whole tantrum thrown at him. I knew Mariam clearly wasn’t with her mind and was extremely blinded with fury, which left me with no other choice than to intervene.

So you are now defending him abi??, how am i sure you two aren’t into this together” Mariam accused with an angry scowl,

“Oh Christ” i exclaimed….

“Timi please can you leave us alone” i calmly asked Timi who looked at me curiously,

“Don’t worry you will hear from us this evening” i assured him with a faint smile. He shrugged, stood up and left without another word.

I instantly faced Mariam furiously with hands on my waist after Timi had left.

“What was that outburst all about??, what is even wrong with you, what has gotten over you eeh??” i asked angrily, but she just kept quiet and bit her lips,

“Please you should learn how to control your anger, you are a girl, i won’t involve myself in your problems again, for all i care you can go pour kerosene on him and strike a match-stick mtcheew” i barked before lying down on my bed.

I really was very bitter and angry over her annoying comment, which made me pour out my whole mind to her without reservation, even though i later regretted it especially when i noticed the apology in her eyes. She truly was in a sorry state but such misguided comments are what i really can never tolerate.

“I’m sorry” i heard her apologize moments later. An apology which i knew took out much effort from her,

"Sorry” is a word which really has the capability of stopping fights, quarrels, disputes and even wars, but it’s also a very simple word which is very hard to say, considering our pride, because it means you accept being at fault.

“Common nah stop vexing, you know i wasn’t myself when i made that comment eeh” she pleaded and tickled me. I smiled sat up and faced her.

“It’s okay lets forget about it” i muttered with a smile, which made her hug me gratefully. Truly Mariam really isn’t the quarrelsome type and that also made our friendship very strong as if we were sisters.

“What do you think i should do about Timi?” i soon heard her ask,

“It all depends on you and how you still feel about him” i replied,

“I still do love him even though i hate to admit it, and i don’t know the reason i’m still feeling this way, you know how much i hate cultism and cultists” she poured out with a coloured face,

“My dear love is a very strong feeling which can’t be easily erased, moreover i just noticed he is a nice guy, so maybe its your destiny to change and led him towards the right path, i can only advice you to be careful and hold back a little portion of your heart” i advised,

“Don’t you” she tried to argue, but i instantly placed a finger on her lips,

“ssshhh, i know you didn’t sleep last night, so lie down, sleep and think it over” i advised like a nursery school teacher. She shrugged and obeyed without another word.

I smiled, laid beside her, took a novel from my travelling bag, began reading it, and soon found myself in fantasy land. A land of bright hopes where good dreams come true.
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“I’m going back to him” My dear friend said to me, when she finally woke up around 4pm,

“That’s cool dear” i replied happily,

“But please you will follow me to his room” she begged, i shrugged and accepted.

An hour later after freshening up, we walked to Timi's room together and knocked calmly on his door.

He opened his door seconds later, breathed deeply with hopeful eyes when he saw us, while Mariam winked at me before hugging him passionately. A very surprised Timi held her tightly and thanked me with his eyes.

I instantly turned and left for my room with tears of joy, satisfaction and relief in my eyes……

-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-18
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 1:22pm On Jan 21, 2016
DuchessLily:
Captivating story!!

See me wishing that all guys were like Samuel cheesy
Hope his character won't change though undecided *fingers crossed* lipsrsealed


Update here PLS
Thanks DuchessLily......Sorry for the delay in updating the rest of the episode.....My schedule has been tight of recent but am a bit free now so lets dig!!!!!!!! smiley
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LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 1:20pm On Jan 21, 2016
Maiconyoung:
am beside u my dear. Bt is it fiction?
Yea it is! smiley
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 5:22pm On Jan 15, 2016
Episode 17

I barely had returned to my room the following morning, when Mariam knocked and entered with a very sad and tired look. She really looked that moment like a night worker who worked without rest all through the night.

She wearily fell on my bed with a sigh. I sat beside her, with both hands on my waist and stared curiously at her with surprise.

“It’s over between Timi and i” she muttered, while i gasped in shock,

“What did you just say?” i heard myself ask

“My relationship with Timi is over” she announced again, i just breathed deeply and kept quiet for few seconds.

“How? What exactly happened?” i calmly asked,

“I confronted him last night about his ties with a cult group, he tried denying it but when i continued with my questions, he barked at me almost hitting me in the process. I gave him a condition to tell me the truth or kiss our affair goodbye, yet he ignored me till this morning when i left the room” she explained unhappily, while I smiled and held her left hand.

Even though i really never supported her relationship with that boy, i knew my friend really do love him, and so i had to be cautious and neutral when advising her.

I looked at my wall clock which read 7:30AM, bit my lips and stared at my friend. I planned going to school that fateful day but with the look of things i knew i might skip lectures again.

“Girlfriend are you very sure about your decision?, you are already into him which is a fact you can’t deny” i asked with a smile, but she kept quiet and pretended as if she didn’t hear my words.

Someone knocked on my door seconds later, which made me move my attention to my door. I waited extra two minutes before finally opening my door, where a nervous looking Timi greeted me with a forced smile.

“is Mariam with you?” he calmly asked with a searching look. At first I truly was at lost on what to reply him, but when i finally made up my mind to deny ever seeing her that morning, Mariam appeared behind me and shouted at him.

“What are you doing here, leave me alone” she barked before shutting the door on his face. Instead of leaving, he surprised us by knocking again for almost an hour, and it really appeared as if he wasn’t ready to leave my door alone until it was opened.

I really was uncomfortable and a bit sad, because I already have missed lectures for that day and still trapped in my room all because i was standing by my friend.

“I think you should have a little chat with him, you never can tell what he wants to say to you” i finally whispered to Mariam when i couldn’t endure his knock anymore. She tried to argue, but i gave her no chance, stood up and opened my door for Timi who quickly rushed to her side.

I never believed nor dreamt that someone like Timi could ever do such a thing for a girl,

“Is that what true love really means or is he just trying to defend his pride??” was the question i keeping asking myself as i left them alone in my room to fetch a bucket of water downstairs…….

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I ran into Linda when i finally got downstairs. I smiled polietly and stopped by her side. She was well dressed up that fateful morning, with a big pink handbag slung on her right shoulder. The events of the previous evening instantly came racing into my mind and i glanced at her injured beauty with a heart filled with pain.

“Hi dear are you going to school?” i asked with a look of surprise, because after what happened the previous day i never knew she even had the strength to dress up for an outing.

“No i’m going over to a friend’s house, i’ll stay there till i recover” she explained with a weak smile. I truly was touched.

“That’s a nice idea dear, i’ll keep praying for you” i muttered with a friendly pat on her left shoulder. She nodded with a smile and left without another word. I really felt like crying that moment, but i held myself and walked to the water-pump, which unfortunately wasn’t working that morning. With a deep sigh i went to the extreme end of the backyard where the second water pump was located and equally where David and his friends do stay most of the time, smoking and doing some weight-lifting exercises, making that corner of our lodge highly avoided by students, but i had no choice than to go there, since i badly needed water…

I slowly went there with a fast beating heart, and just like i feared David and two guys sat beside the water-pump discussing seriously. I muttered some greetings which they ignored before quietly fetching water from the Tap.

“I will be in your room later” i heard David mutter with a serious look as i carried the heavy bucket of water i fetched. I said nothing to him, though i managed to force out a smile, which i knew he interpreted wrongly.

I slowly returned to my room with my thoughts focused on how to end his disturbance. Nothing so far has been able to stop him and with Linda finally out of the way, i knew i was in for a bigger trouble, and it just looked as if i jumped out from a burning pot only to land on the fire underneath.

“Oh Lord please don’t let this fire burn Samuel as-well” i prayed as i stepped into my room.

Perhaps it was my thoughts that blinded me or my fears that clouded my sight and prevented me from seeing Mariam and Timi engaged in a scuffle. But It was to late to avert disaster as Timi's falling body crashed on me without warning. My head smashed on the wall, while his elbow broke my lips. My bucket instantly fell, watering my room in the process. Mariam screamed in panic…

Timi quickly composed himself, helped me to my feet and muttered some quick apologies. He really was very embarrassed, and avoided meeting my gaze out of shame.

Mariam quickly overcame her shock, rushed to my balcony, grabbed a clean piece of rag and started scrubbing my room with it. Timi joined her moments later, when he saw that i was alright, while i quickly carried my books which were neatly arranged on the floor and spread them out on my balcony to dry.

Truly the whole scene came as a shock and surprise to me, but it really was an accident so i blamed no one. Surprisingly Timi and Mariam worked harmoniously together like newly married couples as they scrubbed my room, their quarrels forgotten as if it never happened. I smiled in appreciation as i watched them, even though i still felt a little pain on my head.

“Timi really is a nice guy” i finally admitted to myself, because he displayed some attributes which i never knew was in him. “Sometimes casually reading a person dosen’t really tell us all we need to know, and most times we end up forming a very bad opinion about such person due to our casual observation” i reasoned with a sigh.

I quickly fried plantain which we all ate together minutes later, and i almost bursted into laughter as i watched Timi trying so hard to make Mariam smile.

“Please help me plead to your friend, she dosen’t understand how much i love her” he finally pleaded to me. I blushed and stared at Mariam without knowing what to tell her,

“Don’t give me that look Mary, he should first tell me if he truly belongs to a cult group or not, if he really wants me” she fired back. I stared at Timi with a shrug. He instantly looked down as if he was given a very difficult condition.

“Will the truth change anything?” he asked seconds later,

“I don’t know” she replied haughtily,

“Yes i do belong to a cult group” he muttered with a deep breathe.

A huge terrifying silence fell in my room as his confession registered into our head….

For the first time, i wished he had lied…

what will become of their relationship?

Is that the end?

-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-17
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Episode 16

“David is a devil” Linda cried as i helped her sit up,

“I will report him to school security and the police” i assured her,

“No don’t do that, it will only make matters worst, just let me handle it” she replied sadly, while i looked at her with pity before shaking my head sadly.

“Don’t worry about me just go to your room i want to be left alone” she added sorrowfully,

“Why, you are yet to regain your strength, i’m not going anywhere” i replied with a heavy heart, but she calmly pushed me away from her side,

“Mary please just go with your friend, trust me i’m okay” she assured with red eyes. I shrugged with resignation, stood up and dragged Mariam with me as i quietly left her room.

My legs shook as i walked out from Linda’s room that evening, while my heart wept as if i was the one who received the beating. Surely i was very downcast with a guilty feeling because i knew i caused the whole fight by being in her room that evening.

“Do you believe that Timi is a cultist?” Mariam suddenly asked as we climbed the stairs leading to our floor, instantly dragging me away from my thoughts,

“I seriously don’t know dear, life itself is a mystery” I calmly replied.

Even though i was shocked when i heard David’s revelation on Timi’s involvement in cultism, i wasn’t entirely surprised because i really never liked him for once but just tolerated him because of my friend, perhaps that was why i easily believed David’s revelation even though i clearly hid my feelings from her, because i really didn’t have the strength to take on another scene…

“I will confront him tonight” she muttered quietly,

“Good but be diplomatic when doing that” i advised. She said no other word and left for her room….

I barely had settled in my room, when Samuel’s knock shook and woke me from my thoughts,

“Please dear i’ll like to be left alone” i pleaded when i opened my door. He stared at me with surprise but i looked away and avoided his gaze.

“Hope you are okay?” he asked,

“Yea but please let me be for now, i’ll come over to your room later” i pleaded. He stared at me for a while, shrugged and left without further questions, even though i knew his mind must be filled with questions that very moment.

I really couldn’t help but wonder what was in Samuel’s mind that fateful evening, but my heart soon leapt when i heard someone knock on my door with (David’s usual way of knocking) which left me stunned, speechless and indecisive as i contemplated whether to answer or not……..

“What is it again?” i coldly asked David when i finally opened my door. I never really planned to answer his knock that fateful evening, but i was forced to do so when it became obvious he wasn’t ready to give up knocking on my door.

In order to stop him from disturbing my neighbours whom i knew were already peeping from their respective door “keyholes” to ascertain where the persistent knock disturbing them was coming from, and Samuel whom I also knew heard the noise, i really had no choice than to open my door and face the devil.

“What took you so long?” he asked with a smile, expertly avoiding the question i asked him.

“What is it that you want?” i coldly asked again, while my right hand strongly held my door knob, for easy closing of my door incase he tried anything si.ll.y.

“C’mon baby why the angry look?” he asked with a composed smile. I boiled inside as i stared at him with hatred,

“How can he appear, so calm, well composed and lively after all he just did?” i wondered angrily.

“Anyway since you don’t want to talk to me, let me go ahead and say what brought me to your room” he added calmly.

“I came to apologize because of what happened this evening in Linda’s room, and i truly did what i did just to prove to you that there is nothing going on between Linda and i anymore even though i do regret hitting her so hard” he tried to explain, but his explanation and apology only got on my nerves and infuriated me more.

“You didn’t just hit the poor girl hard, you also tried to kill her, and never you say that you did such a stupid thing to prove your nonsense love to me, i never sent you on such errand, so just leave me alone please” i bravely barked at him. His eyes instantly lit up in anger for a while before dying down again.

“So i lost Linda for nothing?” he asked,

“If you know what’s good for you better go and apologize to her and pray she forgives you” i answered bitterly.

“Mary please don’t turn me into a wretch because you won’t like it” he muttered with a dirty smile, which really shook my poor legs and frightened me.

“Are you threatening me??” i asked nervously. He just smiled and walked away, leaving me in great fear, suspense and wonder. Truly David knows how to leave a lasting impression on anyone he targets and as he walked away that fateful evening i was left in deep thought as i tried to figure out what he meant by being left a wretch….

I locked my door showered and rushed into Samuel’s room, deeply shaken and scared to my bones.

“baby hope you are alright?” he asked with concern,

I only came to his room that night to loose sight of David and whatever plan he has. And one thing i love about Samuel; he never complains but always there for me when i need him most.

-To be continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-16
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 4:59pm On Jan 15, 2016
Episode 15

Our love affair grew stronger from that day, and we could have dated happily ever after if not for David who often showed up to spoil things, he still continued wooing me and nothing i did to stop him seemed to have any effect on him, instead it appeared to make him more desperate than ever, which truly alarmed me, that i had no choice than to seek Mariam’s advice and help who then suggested that we team up with Linda before confronting him.

Against Samuel’s approval i accepted Mariam’s suggestion and tried to reach an agreement with Linda, but my first attempt failed when David mysteriously showed up and spoiled the whole thing by expressing his feelings to me in Linda’s presence, which suddenly made her more jealous and suspicious that i had to flee from her room that fateful evening.

I truly was very hurt and beaten by David’s unexpected cunny move that i utterly decided to give up, but no Mariam wouldn’t accept defeat and urged me to go back and explain things to Linda, which i did with her by my side.

When we were about gaining Linda’s confidence again, David appeared as usual from no where to spoil things again for us, even though he came this time with two other bad boys who blocked and locked us inside linda’s room. Only God knew his plan that fateful day.

A bitter argument instantly ensued between David and Linda which soon resulted to David rendering her a sharp slap. A visibly provoked and angry Mariam instantly jumped up to Linda’s defence and dared David.

In the confrontation and exchange of words that followed, David finally revealed to Mariam that he wasn’t going to touch her merely because her boyfriend is a member of his gang, which instantly stunned and left Mariam speechless.

I had to intervene by calling him a liar, but before he could reply my comment, Linda angrily attacked him with a kitchen knife, though he luckily saw her on time, side stepped and tried to grab the knife, but he miscalculated, and screamed as the blunt blade cut his left finger.

We all gasped…

David stared at his injured finger for a while before descending heavily on linda, kicking, hitting and slapping her randomly with fury.

Linda’s cry soon shook the whole lodge that fateful evening, making us freeze like statues as she received David’s blows all alone. I truly have never heard nor witnessed anyone cry with such pain and anguish before in my life, but instead of rendering any help, i just stood and watched as if i was watching a home video.

Perhaps it was because my strength failed me that moment or because i was too scared to jump into the fight, but then whatever it was that prevented me from intervening that moment equally turned me into a very heartless girl who just stood and watched a fellow girl as she got beaten in a fight which truly started because i happened to be in that very room that moment.

“Supposing Mariam and i left things as they were, all these wouldn’t have happened but i guess it’s now too late to be regretting” i reasoned as i watched him beat up linda.

Mariam was still too stunned to intervene, as she sat speechless on the bed with both hands on her head.

After David’s revelation about her boyfriend that fateful evening, she just coloured up and kept to herself like an AIDS patient.

Finally i heaved a sigh of relief with a deep breathe as David’s two friends rushed up and dragged him out from Linda, who just laid motionless from the terrifying blows she got from him. The poor girl really had given up with her struggles when her strength failed her, yet David really was very furious to care or even notice.

Supposing his two friends didn’t break him away from her that moment, i truly don’t know what could have happened.

David and his friends finally left us alone in ‘pieces’ and i was then left with the huge task of reviving Linda. Poor girl who was trampled upon, humilated and beaten all because of love.

With shaking hands, i lifted up her head and tried to revive her….

Where's this gonna end?

How do i end David's case all at once

We'll find out soon!

-To be continued-


Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-15
LiteratureRe: Story: Common Mistakes Ladies Make In A Relationship by Olajhidey22(op): 4:58pm On Jan 15, 2016
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Episode 14


“Please i don’t want him to know that i’m here” Linda held my left hand and pleaded with frightened eyes, while i looked at her in surprise as i equally searched her face,

“I will explain later but please don’t let him come into your room” she added fearly,
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“Don’t worry dear, i won’t” i assured her with a smile…….
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I finally opened my door half- way with a fast beating heart, and blocked the entrance with my body as i stared at David, who just smiled sweetly at me like an innocent child,
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“Hey dear how you dey?” he asked,
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“I’m fine and busy with my assignments” i replied,
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“Can i come in? I promise not to disturb you, i’m very bored and lonely in my room” he asked with a smile, while i shook my head,
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“Please come some other time, i really want to be alone” i answered with a serious look. He smiled, shrugged and gave me a cold look which really frightened me,
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“okay i will come later in the evening” he said before walking away, while i breathed deeply,
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“what is wrong with this boy?” i asked myself…….
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“Has he gone?” linda inquired curiously as soon as i locked my door, while i smiled and advanced towards her,
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“Yes dear he has gone back to where he came from” i replied with a smile, while She breathed deeply,
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“Thank God” i heard her mutter…….
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“So dear i’m very eager to hear what you came to discuss with me” i said curiously as i sat beside her, but she just looked away as if she wasn’t sure of herself any more.
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“I have the feeling David knows i’m here” i heard her mutter with a lost voice. I drew closer and rested my right hand on her left shoulder,
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“What is really going on and why are you so scared of him?” i asked,
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“I don’t think it’s important anymore i have to get going” she said and stood up suddenly, while i held her left hand strongly, and pleaded with her,
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“Please open up to me, i promise to keep our discussion secret” i pleaded desperately, even though i really didn’t know what pushed me to do so……
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She stared at me silently for a while, before sitting on my bed again,
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“I couldn’t help but notice how attached and obsessed David have become over you, do you have feelings for him?” she asked as she looked into my eyes, while i instantly was thrown into shock, confusion and surprise, because i really didn’t know the motive behind her question, whether she asked it as a girlfriend, sister, solicitor or a jealous stalker, but before i could get my composure back, her phone rang…

Her face coloured as she stared at her ringing phone for a while before standing up again,
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“I better start going, we will talk some other time” she muttered as she walked towards my door, while i stared at her in silence, because i really was very stunned, extremely surprised and confused…..
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She left my room without another word, while i stood up, walked to my closed door, locked it and returned to my bed, where i lay with my thoughts before falling asleep due to fatigue…….
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I jolted from my bed around 7:30pm that evening, prepared my night meal, freshened up, and left for Samuel’s room. I walked into his room with a tray of Garri and soup, while he stared at me happily, when he opened his door…..
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“I thought you weren’t coming again” he confessed, which equally made me smile.
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“I was carried away by sleep oo” i explained with a yawn,
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“And where did it drop you?” he asked as he brought a bowl of water,
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“It dropped me on your head” i joked. He laughed and washed his hands……
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We ate silently that fateful evening because we were very hungry, and he also never asked about the friend whom i told him i was expecting earlier in the day, which really earned him a great deal of my respect, even though i knew i wouldn’t have been able to hold myself from asking, if i was in his shoes……
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We were soon done with the meal, which finished quickly, and he then sat by my side and waited upon me as i peeled oranges for him,
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“You really don’t know how much you have changed my life and the kind of influence you now have over me” he muttered moments later, while i blushed.
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“Seriously dear, you have redefined my life, and i do owe you a lot for that. I know i’m not romantic, but i’m trying my best to learn, i promise to do everything within my power to make you happy, i love you so much” he poured out to me, while my hands shook slightly…
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He reached for the orange i held with my left hand, took it from my grasp, knelt by my side and gave me a nice hug…..
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I trembled under the hotness of his tight hug and it was as if a thousand volts of love had hit me. He drew up my face and stared into my eyes,
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“Oh baby i wish you could feel how my heart is beating for you” he muttered,
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“I wish you could feel how i’m trembling inside because of you” i said to myself……
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I really wished for something more closer from him other than the regular hug, but it doesn’t seem coming. This made a part of me happy and another part of me sad. But still doesn’t change my feelings for him

“I think i’m in love with a saint here” I said to myself

-To be Continued-

Source: http://www.bussydave.com.ng/2016/01/story-common-mistakes-ladies-make-in-a-relationship-episode-14/
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