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Pause and ask yourself who is sponsoring terrorism in Nigeria.

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SamuraiXXX:
When you build your own house you will understand

True, owning a house comes with responsibilities many people don't fully appreciate. But saying "build your own house first" doesn't make valid criticism invalid. People don't need to be builders before they can point out poor workmanship or bad decisions.

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Wealthyonos:
Let's discuss this when you finally become a landlord.

You don't need to own a house to have an opinion on housing policies—just like you don't need to own a hospital to discuss healthcare.

Who Made This Rule?

I need someone to explain this to me like I'm five, because I genuinely don't understand how we all just accepted this as normal.

You want to rent a house. Rent is, let's say, ₦800k a year. Sounds manageable, right? Then the landlord casually says "ah, we don't do one year here o, minimum is 2 years." Suddenly you're not looking for ₦800k anymore, you're looking for ₦1.6m. Just like that. No negotiation, no explanation, just "that's how it is."

Where exactly did this culture start?

Nowhere else does this make sense as standard practice. You don't pay 2 years of subscription upfront for anything else in life on a "just in case" basis. But somehow, for housing — arguably the most essential need after food — we've normalized demanding a lump sum most working-class people don't even have sitting around.

It forces people into debt before they even move in

Think about it — someone works hard, saves consistently, finally gets close to affording a decent apartment... only to realize the actual requirement is double or triple what they budgeted for. So now they're borrowing from family, taking loans, or emptying entire savings just to have a roof over their head. People start their new living situation already financially strained, before buying a single piece of furniture.

It disproportionately punishes young people and low-income earners

Someone just starting their career, or someone without family wealth to fall back on, is essentially locked out of decent housing entirely — not because they can't afford rent monthly, but because they can't front an unrealistic lump sum. Meanwhile, those with money to spare keep getting first access to better housing, widening the gap even further.

"Agency fee" and "legal fee" make it worse

As if the multi-year advance isn't enough, add agency fee, legal fee, caution fee — some of which apply YEARLY even though you're paying multiple years upfront at once. So you're basically paying extra fees multiple times over, for a transaction that happened once.

Landlords will say "tenants don't pay well/on time"

I understand this concern is real in some cases — but is the solution really locking an entire system into demanding unaffordable lump sums, instead of things like proper tenant screening, reasonable guarantor systems, or monthly/quarterly payment structures with real accountability?

Some countries do this completely differently

In a lot of other countries, monthly rent payments are standard, sometimes even weekly, with security deposits that are reasonable (usually 1-2 months, not 1-2 YEARS). It's not some impossible standard to reach — it's simply a different system that actually considers affordability for the average worker.

This needs an honest conversation, not just acceptance

I'm not saying landlords don't have legitimate business concerns. I'm saying an entire generation of Nigerians is being financially strained, sometimes trapped in debt, just to secure basic housing — and it's rarely questioned because "that's just how Nigeria works."

Is there ANY realistic way this culture changes, or are we all just going to keep accepting it as normal forever? And landlords/agents on here — genuinely, why is this the standard, and would you personally consider shorter payment terms if tenant screening was better?

Let's hear real perspectives from both sides 👇

Do you have a group for Owerri residents?

ogododo:
resident Bola Tinubu’s chief of staff, Femi Gbajamila, illegally cornered tens of billions of naira in oil and gas royalty from Nigeria’s thriving oil regulatory commission after citing a fake law to the Nigeria Upstream Petroleum Regulatory Commission, documents seen by Peoples Gazette showed.

Weeks after Mr Tinubu took the oath of office in 2023, his chief of staff began canvassing for money, knocking on the doors of highly lucrative agencies like the Nigeria Revenue Service (formerly Federal Inland Revenue Service), Nigerian Maritime Administration and Safety Agency (the agency in charge of the nation’s maritime operations) and Nigeria Customs Service, sources acquainted with the matter told The Gazette.

The NUPRC was not left out of the financial push as Mr Gbajabiamila drafted a memo requesting that four per cent of the cost of collection (annual revenue generated from the NUPRC) be split into two parts: 2.5 per cent for its operations and routine capital expenditure, and 1.5 per cent for capital expenditure.

The language ringfencing the 1.5 per cent, equal to N54 billion, was vague, as Mr Gbajabiamila said it was for “upgrading of crude oil and gas metering and transparency systems”. What he meant by transparency systems for such a humongous amount was not immediately clear.

“Mr President has directed that the Budget Office and the Accountant General of the Federation implement the approval in paragraph 2.a. above and ring fence the 1.5 per cent which may only be utilised for upgrading crude oil and gas metering and transparency systems upon obtaining relevant approvals,” Mr Gbajabiamila stated in a memo dated July 4, 2023.

Mr Gbajabiamila justified his request by citing a section of the Petroleum Industry Act 2023 to support his directive.

“The authority to collect these fees is vested in statute—Section 24(2)(c) of the Petroleum Industry Act (PIA) (2023). However, the specific percentage collectable is subject to presidential approval,” Mr Gbajabiamila said in the July 2023 memo.

Checks by The Gazette revealed the section contains language that does not in any way correlate with the authorisation to claim tens of billions of naira from the nation’s coffers.

“The source of the commission Fund shall be as follows–( c) cost of collection by the commission,” stated PIA 2023 Section 24 (2c) that Mr Gbajabiamila cited in a letter to the Ministry of Finance and Office of the Accountant General of the Federation to lay claim to N54 billion.

When asked for comments, the presidency defended Mr Gbajabiamila, saying he only carried out the president’s instructions, which he claimed were within the ambit of the law.

The presidency avoided commenting on the falseness of the cited law, instead insisting that the N54 billion illegally received was with the president’s say-so and that there was no “smoking gun” on the matter.

“Gbajabiamila did not commandeer any money,” Bayo Onanuga told The Gazette on Monday. “The presidential order given to the NUPRC is within the right of the Mr President as president and C-in-C.”

Further checks by The Gazette showed that even the president lacked such powers to direct NUPRC’s revenue accrual and capital expenditure appropriation.

That responsibility was assigned to the National Assembly under Section 24(1) of the PIA 2023, stating, “The commission shall maintain a fund into which money accruing to the commission shall be paid, and all expenditures of the commission shall be subject to appropriation by the National Assembly.”

The president, according to the cited law, has no business with directing how the cost of collection is shared, let alone laying claim to its 1.5 per cent.

The cost of collection, which was N98 billion in 2022, increased significantly to N145 billion following Mr Tinubu’s unification of the official and black market exchange rates.

Whether Mr Tinubu’s action constitutes an overreach of his constitutional powers remains to be seen and can only be determined by a competent court.

Mr Gbajabiamila has been implicated in corruption scandals across borders, including in the U.S., where he was disbarred by the State Bar of Georgia after allegedly stealing money from a client.

For months, Mr Gbajabiamila ignored summonses from the State Bar to answer questions regarding the theft. He subsequently stopped paying his membership fee after his client reported him to the Bar.

His actions led to a five-year suspension from the Bar in 2015 and ultimately led to outright termination in 2020 after the Bar determined it could no longer condone Mr Gbajamila’s ethical lapses.

In 2022, Mr Gbajabiamila was accused of accepting $2 million in cash bribes (as the speaker of the House of Representatives) to secure passage of the new Petroleum Industry Bill, despite protests from host communities.

In his latest financial scandal, the president’s chief of staff is battling fraud allegations and fighting to survive a N400 million bribery scandal that has engulfed his political career.

https://gazettengr.com/exclusive-aso-rock-memo-shows-how-gbajabiamila-used-fake-law-to-corner-n54-billion-oil-revenue-from-nuprc/

Naija has a way of chasing the small fish while the big fish seem to swim freely. Every day we hear about arrests of Yahoo boys, but many Nigerians still wonder why people accused of looting billions of public funds don't appear to face the same speed and intensity of justice. Until the law works the same way for everyone, that question won't go away.

Nigerian government in 2026= Execcuthieves + legislooters + judisharing but the efcc and law enforcement after yahoo boys who stole nothing from the National treasure

Boxnaijatv:
We've all done it. Saw the sign clear as day, felt that small alarm go off somewhere in our chest, and still convinced ourselves "maybe it's not that deep" or "people can change." Then months (or years) later, we're sitting there like "ah ah, but I saw this coming now."
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‎Let me start us off honestly:
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‎For me, it was someone who talked badly about every single one of their exes — like every single one was "crazy," "toxic," or "the problem." At the time I thought "ah, this person has just had bad luck with people." Fast forward into the relationship myself, and guess who eventually became "the crazy ex" in somebody else's story? Should have picked up on that pattern immediately — when everyone before you is "the problem," you're just next in line, not the exception.
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‎Some common ones I've seen people mention over time:
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‎🚩 "I don't really have close friends" — and thinking it makes them more focused on you, when really it can mean isolation later
‎🚩 Love bombing early — excessive attention, gifts, "I've never felt this way before" within the first few weeks
‎🚩 Getting weirdly upset over small things very early — a preview of how conflict will actually be handled later
‎🚩 Money inconsistencies — vague about income, spending habits, or debt, brushed off as "we'll figure it out"
‎🚩 Watching how they treat waiters, drivers, or people who "can't do anything for them"
‎🚩 Jealousy disguised as "I just love you too much"
‎🚩 Anger issues explained away as "I'm just passionate" or "that's just how I am"
‎🚩 They talk about family in a way that quietly foreshadows exactly how they'll eventually treat you
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‎The scary part isn't that we don't see these signs. Most of us do. We just talk ourselves out of taking them seriously — "maybe I'm overthinking," "nobody's perfect," "the good outweighs the bad right now." And by the time the red flag fully reveals itself, we're already emotionally invested, sometimes years deep, sometimes with kids or finances tied in.
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‎So let's hear it — what red flag did YOU see clearly, ignore anyway, and later regret not taking seriously? Doesn't have to be dramatic, even the "small" ones that turned out to matter a lot. Let's help someone reading this recognize theirs before it's too late 👇

Mine was poor accountability. Anytime something went wrong, there was always someone else to blame—the boss, family, friends, exes, even the weather. I kept telling myself, "Nobody's perfect." Eventually, I realized I was the next person being blamed for everything. One lesson I've learned is this: if someone never takes responsibility for their mistakes, don't expect your relationship to be the first place they suddenly start. Accountability is one of the biggest green flags people often overlook.

From everything you've shared, this doesn't sound like a marriage that is simply "going through a rough patch." There has been physical violence (even during pregnancy), infidelity, repeated broken promises, financial irresponsibility, and you've already spent a year separated—during which you said you've never been happier. Those are significant facts.

No one online can make the decision for you, but it's worth paying attention to your own question: "Do I want to still be in this situation five years from now?" If your honest answer is consistently "no," don't ignore it.

Your safety, your peace of mind, and your child's well-being matter. Staying in a harmful marriage simply because of family pressure or fear of divorce rarely makes the situation better.

Since your final exams and nursing council exams are only a few months away, it may be wise to focus on finishing them if you can do so safely. That qualification could give you greater financial independence and more options. At the same time, make a practical plan—secure your documents, finances, support system, and, if necessary, legal advice.

Whatever you decide, don't base it on promises alone. Base it on consistent actions. Five years is enough time to judge a pattern. I wish you strength, wisdom, and peace as you make this decision. Your child deserves a home where safety and respect are the norm.

If this story is true, the biggest mistake wasn't meeting the ex—it was choosing to go ahead with the wedding after admitting she still had feelings for someone else. Marriage should never be driven by the fear of disappointing family or wasting money. It's better to cancel a wedding than spend years in an unhappy marriage or end up divorcing. As for the bridesmaid, I think she did the right thing. Once she realized the groom was about to make a life-changing decision without knowing the full truth, keeping quiet would have made her part of the deception. Sometimes the truth is painful, but it's still better than living a lie.

I agree. Virginity is a personal value, but it isn't a guarantee of a successful marriage. A lasting relationship is built on character, trust, respect, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values. If someone has good character and integrity, that's what you'll live with every day in marriage—not just their past. Ideally, both good character and sexual discipline are admirable, but if you have to choose, character is what sustains a home.

Feeling lonely or just looking to add a little excitement to your social life?

Whether you're single or married, if you're interested in meeting new people, making genuine connections, and joining an active adults-only community, this could be for you.

I'm inviting interested adults to join a Telegram community where members can chat, connect with people in their area, and build new friendships in a respectful environment.

Life isn't just about work—everyone deserves good company and meaningful connections.

If you'd like to join, send me a message and I'll share the details.

Being married doesn't mean your social life has to end.

Sometimes all you need is a circle of mature people who truly understand the joys and challenges of marriage.

We have an active WhatsApp community exclusively for married adults, where members:

😄 Share jokes and laugh together
🎮 Play fun games
💬 Gist and tease each other respectfully
💍 Discuss marriage and family life
💼 Talk about business, careers, and personal growth
🤝 Build genuine friendships with like-minded people

To keep the group safe and authentic, only married people are admitted, and you may be asked to verify your marital status before joining.

Interested? Kindly send your Whatsapp number to FamilylinkNG@gmail.com

Please don't post your phone number publicly for your own privacy.

Looking forward to welcoming new friends into the family! 😊

Dmthreads:
I want join, how do I join the group ?

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Me? I for waka comot immediately. Better heartbreak before wedding pass lifelong regret. And the bridesmaid do the right thing—truth no dey expire.

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