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I have a females friend(single mother) in her late thirties, she studied and lives abroad, we been very good friends for the past four years, I proposed to marry her but she declined stating we she is older than me by two year that she prefer an older man, I live and work in Nigeria here, I wish to live abroad too cos I love the country the last time I went there for a course.
1st of January 20201, I onced called her n we spoke at length about we getting married but she maintained her stand based on age. I then told her, I will have to marry this year and that's my decision, we still maintained our friendship and can talk virtually about anything. On July 2021, I told her I have seen who I want to get married to, she asked me questions about the lady, which I freely and sincerely told her everything, I used the medium to ask her again if she has a change of mind, she said no.
2nd week of August, I officially took my people to the ladies village to pick the list and make my interest known to them that I want to marry there daughter, the family welcomed me and accepted.
When I can home she asked to know how all went, and I told her, she congratulated me.
After Five days, I came out from work to check my phone, and saw she has called 15times and dropped a message requesting o call her back as soon as possible.
Frightened, I called her back immediately, to my greatest surprised, she is requesting I stop all my marriage plans with this lady , begging that she wants me, and she is ready to fly down to marry me in less than two weeks if I say yes to her.
Please friends, what do u think about the sudden change in mind? I have conscience. How will I face this my girl here and tell her its over for no reason? Marrying the one abroad will give me a better life and opportunity to work over there.

Am very confused.

Goldigger

This is not a situation of golddigging, I want advice, going abroad is not the only thing here, I do go and go back on visits.
Please give ur suggestion if u have, stop name calling.

LadySarah:

Goldigger

To be honest, forget her and stick to the one you have found here. It is possible she just came out of a relationship and now wants to use you for rebound. Also, she is confused and she can still leave you.

Thanks a lot.

dahmie2013:
To be honest, forget her and stick to the one you have found here. It is possible she just came out of a relationship and now wants to use you for rebound. Also, she is confused and she can still leave you.

Women and confusion are like Siamese twins. They are in a relationship atimes without a clear cut idea of what they really want.. She thought you are just pulling her leg with your plan with another lady.. if the new girl ticks all the box you want in a lady please go on with your plan. Since you said you travel often too I see no serious value getting married to her will add to your life except if she's a citizen over there..
I wish you good luck in your choice.

Thanks.
[ quote author=ayomilore post=105966496]Women and confusion are like Siamese twins. They are in a relationship atimes without a clear cut idea of what they really want.. She thought you are just pulling her leg with your plan with another lady.. if the new girl ticks all the box you want in a lady please go on with your plan. Since you said you travel often too I see no serious value getting married to her will add to your life except if she's a citizen over there..
I wish you good luck in your choice.[/quote]

It would be cruel of you to dump your fiancee (whom you've done introduction with /you're about marrying) for this woman simply because she's abroad and for her to be asking you to do that is wickedness. If your fiancee has what you're looking for in a wife, proceed with the marriage. You and her can always relocate abroad later.

Thanks, I appreciate.

InTheCloudySky:
It would be cruel of you to dump your fiancee (whom you've done introduction with /you're about marrying) for this woman simply because she's abroad and for her to be asking you to do that is wickedness. If your fiancee has what you're looking for in a wife, proceed with the marriage. You and her can always relocate abroad later.