₦airaland Forum

JONNYSPUTE:
..... The thing tire me too.

It's pathetic...

crackhaus:
It's pathetic...

..... Add very very.

ahnie:
On behalf of isoko women....i'm disappointed in you.your wife is fucking around selling sex to highest bidders like someone working in a dredging company.



The reason why you are not progressive is because of your wife's banging outside.

My fellow isoko woman, we the isoko women association reject this one totally. What nonsense! He knows his wife fuckkksj around like a hoe yet he keeps her at home and sleeps with her ? Chooiii he is a weakling for a man .
Go and beg her to come back like you always do . You caught a man cheating but she is the one who vex leave home ? Nnukwa! May my womb not carry a man like you . Tufia!

Make una dey marry person that can live within their means.

I am SURE you knew of her runs lifestyle before marriage.

Did she help the family stay afloat with the runs proceeds? That would be understandable (and is a common occurrence).

If it has gotten too much for you, be sure that you are financially buoyant before leaving. If she earns more per month, take her to court!

Alaji1220:
I need a very reasonable advice from this wonderful forum.

I got married close to a decade ago and the marriage is blessed with two kids.
Though things were tough at the beginning because wife lost her job and I bore the burden solely for 4 years, we had our st child 5 months after wedding andh the second 2 years later. Lost my job around the time our second kid arrived, we kept struggling with great hope. Around 2017 she connected me with a mam that help with an adhoc work in a recruiting firm, I got their within 2 months I helped madam to secured a marketing job, I managed with the job for like 8 months before it ended. Immediately it ended Madam began to behave funny let's I forget I sold my car to pay for her final year exam and also gave her money to get the certificate all amounting to 250k then. Around 2018 I was thrown back to the labour market and I was shown hell by wife, several calls of men, knew about 4 men through her watssap messages that she had affairs with I always get to see these whenever she fell asleep with her phone in her hand. 2019 I got back on my feet and I noticed she stopped the runs. Meanwhile she made so much money during the period of her escapades because of clients deposit that earned her bonuses at work but squadder a huge sum on travelings which were unsuccessful. She joined another financial institution this year and she handles client that need loan, 2 months after securing the job she started talking of getting car ordinarily I would have discouraged her but being someone that is always resolute in her decision making I quickly wade in so as to safe her from men that may want to take advantage of her as this has happened before I tried to inquire about the source of fund for the car she said she liase with a client to take loan that she will only pay back the principal portion that the client will pay the interest and she will be using all her salary to pay back, before we got the car I told her to go for a lesser car like 700k but she said it's 1m she budget for Nigeria used Toyota Corolla. But since we have got the car madam is so stressed up financially while I take care of all the bills even before she got the car she has not be helpful in the area of bill but only buy food stuff whenever she feels like but since she got the car she's still pestering me to be funding the maintenance of the car she drives to work everyday. I saw her chat with a man like 3 months ago and from the chart she was wooing the man for financial assistance, they arrange a meeting which I'm sure something must have transpired between them I confronted her and she promised not to see him again, my main pro is that in her new office some people around there know me we carried out maintenance work on the car recently that got her to online loan debt and I can observe that she was connecting with some men again for financial help, I got some messages confirming her promiscuity again and I confronted her she began to raise excuse here and there I was so mad with her that she thought I will beat her but thank God I didn't though we kept away from each other for 3 days but on getting home yesterday I discovered she had packed her loads and kids loads and left for her parents house and this should be her 4th time of doing this whenever we have misunderstanding. I love my kids but her attitude is making me to gradually loose the the love I have for these kids. I reported her to her mum she was kneeling down and begging me yesterday but for how long I'm I going to continue with this woman...

Please I need advice that will guide my decision, I only fear for those innocent kids future because she doesn't seem to care about their present well being though she claims all she is doing is to process traveling to secure their future.

crackhaus:
The greatest misfortune that can befall a man is being with the wrong woman.

Poverty is nothing compared to that.

Fact bro.
There are many men married to women who are contented with what they have and thereby giving the man peace of mind and his respect. Far better than poverty if you ask me

Alaji1220:
I need a very reasonable advice from this wonderful forum.

I got married close to a decade ago and the marriage is blessed with two kids.
Though things were tough at the beginning because wife lost her job and I bore the burden solely for 4 years, we had our st child 5 months after wedding andh the second 2 years later. Lost my job around the time our second kid arrived, we kept struggling with great hope. Around 2017 she connected me with a mam that help with an adhoc work in a recruiting firm, I got their within 2 months I helped madam to secured a marketing job, I managed with the job for like 8 months before it ended. Immediately it ended Madam began to behave funny let's I forget I sold my car to pay for her final year exam and also gave her money to get the certificate all amounting to 250k then. Around 2018 I was thrown back to the labour market and I was shown hell by wife, several calls of men, knew about 4 men through her watssap messages that she had affairs with I always get to see these whenever she fell asleep with her phone in her hand. 2019 I got back on my feet and I noticed she stopped the runs. Meanwhile she made so much money during the period of her escapades because of clients deposit that earned her bonuses at work but squadder a huge sum on travelings which were unsuccessful. She joined another financial institution this year and she handles client that need loan, 2 months after securing the job she started talking of getting car ordinarily I would have discouraged her but being someone that is always resolute in her decision making I quickly wade in so as to safe her from men that may want to take advantage of her as this has happened before I tried to inquire about the source of fund for the car she said she liase with a client to take loan that she will only pay back the principal portion that the client will pay the interest and she will be using all her salary to pay back, before we got the car I told her to go for a lesser car like 700k but she said it's 1m she budget for Nigeria used Toyota Corolla. But since we have got the car madam is so stressed up financially while I take care of all the bills even before she got the car she has not be helpful in the area of bill but only buy food stuff whenever she feels like but since she got the car she's still pestering me to be funding the maintenance of the car she drives to work everyday. I saw her chat with a man like 3 months ago and from the chart she was wooing the man for financial assistance, they arrange a meeting which I'm sure something must have transpired between them I confronted her and she promised not to see him again, my main pro is that in her new office some people around there know me we carried out maintenance work on the car recently that got her to online loan debt and I can observe that she was connecting with some men again for financial help, I got some messages confirming her promiscuity again and I confronted her she began to raise excuse here and there I was so mad with her that she thought I will beat her but thank God I didn't though we kept away from each other for 3 days but on getting home yesterday I discovered she had packed her loads and kids loads and left for her parents house and this should be her 4th time of doing this whenever we have misunderstanding. I love my kids but her attitude is making me to gradually loose the the love I have for these kids. I reported her to her mum she was kneeling down and begging me yesterday but for how long I'm I going to continue with this woman...

Please I need advice that will guide my decision, I only fear for those innocent kids future because she doesn't seem to care about their present well being though she claims all she is doing is to process traveling to secure their future.

Na wa o! Make una dey try open una eyes.

emmaodet:
Fact bro.
There are many men married to women who are contented with what they have and thereby giving the man peace of mind and his respect. Far better than poverty if you ask me

True...

Ishilove:
'Our' wife.

Òlòbò molue. Anybody can enter.

Chaii
Nairaland

emmaodet:


Chaii
Nairaland

Lol
Na for this nairaland I learn say Nigerians get bad mouth oh .

To the topic.

There comes a time in everyone's life when u have to chose between the devil and the deep blue sea. For you OP, that time has come.

1. Stay with your promiscuous wife and hope that she will change or live with her and the consequences if she doesn't.

2. Dissolve the marriage and live with the consequences.

The choice is urs.

pocohantas:
See ehn, I have gotten to understand that all this fire and brimstones we rain is because we never dey faced with the matter. Let’s not pray to meet temptation that is more than us because no one marries with the plan of ending it after years of suffering together, not forgetting the kids.

Yeah you're right...
Our views would be different if we had experienced some things...
And no one married with the hope of ending it...
However...
I don't need to experience something's before I know that there are some lines I won't cross...