Good evening Nairalanders. Please Note: it's happening to a friend of mine and not me.

Her fiance proposed to her yesterday, I was also at the engagement party yesterday, by next week Saturday her fiance is going to see her parents for proper introduction and also fix a date for the wedding.

Today, she told me she is not happy, that her fiance wants to fix the wedding date 7 months from now, which is August. She suggested it's supposed to be on an average of eight weeks (2 months atleast) to walk to the altar and not 7 months.

She said it caused serious arguments between them, she don't want to wear engagement ring for so long before the marriage, that the guy should have proposed to her probably may or June and not yesterday.

Please note: the guy is doing well for himself and I don't know why he choose to make it 7 months from now.
Please how long or what length should one get married after an engagement.

3 months

Wedding should follow immediately. 2 - 3months is okay

Bola146:
Wedding should follow immediately.

Exactly what I told her. But I was thinking maybe it's too fast.

Wedding plans ASAP

Who makes the rules?

Cyntie55:
Exactly what I told her. But I was thinking maybe it's too fast.

He only proposed. Tell your friend to chill. Yall ain't in the guys pocket, don't assume what you don't know. Moreover, he is the one footing the bills, so he should be left to plan at his pace. Tell her to drop the ring, no be by force to turn FRODO. Meanwhile lets discuss our own issue. I like you. Oya talk your own.

Wetin u go use whatever we tell u here do? Abi shey u go come make the guy man change him plan? Una go just de bring unnecessary topic de disturb person just because say una wan create thread. By the way why u go carry ur friend matter come online, shey she ask u to help her ask netizens? This na wetin them de call OLOFOFO. Every time 'this is happening to a friend' even when na una de pass through the predicament una go de lie say na una friend. Make I ask u again, if truly na ur friend matter be this wetin u wan gain by wetin we go tell u? Perhaps u de envious of ur friend, u de expect make we tell u say the guy de deceive ur friend abi?

Is your friend sponsoring the wedding if the answer is yes she should tell the Mr man that the time is too far if the answer is no she allow my man to fix date when he is ready if the ring is too heavy for her to wear for that long make she drop am no by force next.

Proposal or engagement? I'm confused. 7 years or just 7 months?

If you mean proposal, then I guess it could take a couple of months to get married. My sister's own was after a year. Mine was after 5 months or so. There is no rule to this thing. Only the concerned parties have to decide what they want to do.

Y'all need to start living your lives without following the expectations of other people. This shouldn't even be a public discussion.

The guy is financially comfortable. And so what? You think that's all there is to marriage. Hahaha. Funny!

Are you sure, you are not the person Op?

Anyway congratulations to them / you

Cyntie55:
Good evening Nairalanders. Please Note: it's happening to a friend of mine and not me.

Her fiance proposed to her yesterday, I was also at the engagement party yesterday, by next week Saturday her fiance is going to see her parents for proper introduction and also fix a date for the wedding.

Today, she told me she is not happy, that her fiance wants to fix the wedding date 7 months from now, which is August. She suggested it's supposed to be on an average of eight weeks (2 months atleast) to walk to the altar and not 7 months.

She said it caused serious arguments between them, she don't want to wear engagement ring for so long before the marriage, that the guy should have proposed to her probably may or June and not yesterday.

Please note: the guy is doing well for himself and I don't know why he choose to make it 7 months from now.
Please how long or what length should one get married after an engagement.

Pretty gurl. What part of Benin are you, let's hook up.

The earlier the cheaper, if you wait too long you will over plan and over spend plus some other things you don't know about each other as a couple will show up to test you.

You are testing how both of you will fair for 7 months, better to know for sure than being in a hurry