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Asking for a friend and colleague,I have a friend who is in a relationship with a man,has a baby for him,her dad recently passed away ,and they gave her the condition that she must be married,that is dowry has to be paid for her to play her role in the burial rights of the father,according to them ,they said it’s because she is the only child,on traditional ground is it compulsory?asking to know if it’s true

All na make the guy for participate as a husband...nothing else.if not.him go come as a nobody.ur dad people also.no wan spend alone for the burial.

donbachi:
All na make the guy for participate as a husband...nothing else.if not.him go come as a nobody.ur dad people also.no wan spend alone for the burial.

according to their law,as long as he is alive ,he has to be there to do the right thing

psalmz:
according to their law,as long as he is alive ,he has to be there to do the right thing

na the money be the right thing..e get wen dem go take him prick bury the man

psalmz:
Asking for a friend and colleague,I have a friend who is in a relationship with a man,has a baby for him,her dad recently passed away ,and they gave her the condition that she must be married,that is dowry has to be paid for her to play her role in the burial rights of the father,according to them ,they said it’s because she is the only child,on traditional ground is it compulsory?asking to know if it’s true

That's the tradition in some parts of Enugu... But it is not compulsory.
It is assumed that there are some discussions that would take place during the burial that only the men can be involved in. Hence, that's where ger supposed husband comes to play.

She can find a way around it

dawnomike:
That's the tradition in some parts of Enugu... But it is not compulsory.
It is assumed that there are some discussions that would take place during the burial that only the men can be involved in. Hence, that's where ger supposed husband comes to play.

She can find a way around it

the person is from esan in Edo state ,secondly she has cousins,so I was telling her to talk to her man cos according to her,he is not financially prepared

psalmz:
the person is from esan in Edo state ,secondly she has cousins,so I was telling her to talk to her man cos according to her,he is not financially prepared

if he is not financially prepared, no point placing him under pressure.
She should stand her ground... The kinsmen will shift grounds. She should be ready to spend sha

dawnomike:
if he is not financially prepared, no point placing him under pressure.
She should stand her ground... The kinsmen will shift grounds. She should be ready to spend sha

told her same thing but they saying he should just pay the dowry,no major ceremony is needed,let him.just pay