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dxdiag:
She took in like 4 times but miscarried on those occassions, now nothing is even popping up again.
One of the tube got blocked, but one is still active.
Then this fibrods too, done surgery once but the fibrods re back again and we both don't want another operation again.
We ve seen specialist countless of time, used herbs,expensive drugs, spent money, prayed and all that.
Pressure from family member too is there, @times everythings seems not to make sense again.
I just ve to be strong, but am human.........am weak at times too

LongBig:
Get these following items!
Ginger, garlic, turmeric and gloves. Peal the outer layer of the ginger and garlic and cut the turmeric into pieces, soak the herbs inside kettle with water, allow it to boil very well and leave for 5days so it can saturate so well. Start taking it with madam every morning and night especially during her ovulation period! and don’t forget to always boil am ooo before consuming! She will definitely conceive and pls pray fervently while doing so and don’t give way for over thinking that shit na silent killer.

LongBig:
Check for my post on this same thread and try it.

Laralag:
Check "the peoples doctor" on Instagram
She knows her craft.

dxdiag:
She took in like 4 times but miscarried on those occassions, now nothing is even popping up again.
One of the tube got blocked, but one is still active.
Then this fibrods too, done surgery once but the fibrods re back again and we both don't want another operation again.
We ve seen specialist countless of time, used herbs,expensive drugs, spent money, prayed and all that.
Pressure from family member too is there, @times everythings seems not to make sense again.
I just ve to be strong, but am human.........am weak at times too

GboyegaD:
Oga, why not encourage her to follow her medication. Hormonal balance is curable. You can look for the trying to conceive thread in the health section to learn more.

In addition, giving in to IVF is better than the stress of a wife and baby mama on the side.

Lastly, if you are more concerned about children and thinking of impregnation another woman, so saying it with emphasis that you love your wife so much. Just take that part out as it is very contradicting.

Pascopele:
To me she has her limitations ask those who have used her success rate is less than 50% for his type of case.

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

dxdiag:
She took in like 4 times but miscarried on those occassions, now nothing is even popping up again.
One of the tube got blocked, but one is still active.
Then this fibrods too, done surgery once but the fibrods re back again and we both don't want another operation again.
We ve seen specialist countless of time, used herbs,expensive drugs, spent money, prayed and all that.
Pressure from family member too is there, @times everythings seems not to make sense again.
I just ve to be strong, but am human.........am weak at times too

Laralag:
Limitations bawo, I don't need to ask anybody I consulted with her and it paid off. She knows her craft that I can bet on

eglobalcafe:
Hello roommate, please I need advice on my marriage please, I should have ask this questions to people around me but I don't want them to use that against me later, that's why I prefer to come here and ask this question anonymously, please help me,

My problem is, I got married 3 years ago and me and my wife have been finding it difficult to get pregnant, we went to hospital and it's hormonal imbalance, we have tried and it's still not working and we were advised to come for IVF, which will cost me 1.5m,
Please note I b met my wife as a virgin.
I love my wife and I have never used this pregnancy issues against her like making her feel bad or insulting her, rather I have been the one talking her out of depression because of this child of a thing, am confused because am getting feed up, my mother said, na God they give person piking, and we should focus on herbs. But am getting fed up and my wife loves me so much, same to me but whenever I see my friends who are not even married shows their children or visits me I get weak and pained same as my wife. Am Confused and my mum always tell me this, do what you need to do at this your early age so you won't suffer when you're old so you have children to take care of you, am 35 and my wife is getting to 30 this year. My wife is so jealous, she said she's greedy when it's comes to her husband that she doesn't want to share me with anyone. And she said if I want to get another wife I should let her know so she can goto her father's house, I never told her I want to marry another woman but due to she can't give me children now makes her say all this . Please help me as I have the urge to impregnate another woman just because I need a child. Please those who are married help me. I wish to be patient with her till God bless us. But me and my wife not happy. We are doing well atleast conformable and she does not lack anything.

MrBrownJay1:
use your head wisely and stop focussing on what others want... ask yourself these simple questions: WHAT DO YOU WANT? and WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO ATTAIN IT?
if you believe that the solution to your problem is to get a 2nd wife, then by all means, get a 2nd wife and to hell with what wife #1 is saying.

Gloriagee:
Waoh, to hell with what a woman he took vows to cherish and care for throughout the course of their marriage thinks.

Yeah, I could buy into that school of thought if she was troublesome or a bad partner but for a health issue which is outside her control, waoh, just wawu

MrBrownJay1:
again, take away your misplaced emotions from that matter and instead focus on what this husband DESIRES. nothing else!

truly, who cares what that "possibly" infertile woman thinks?! marriage here doesnt matter; wifey here doesnt matter...what matters is that IN NIGERIAN SOCIETY, a married man needs children (even better if male ones). now, you can sit here and pretend that having children is NO BIG DEAL IN MARRIAGE (and you would somehow be right if you lived in the west), but not in Africa.

in Africa, having children in marriage is a BIG DEAL.... 99.999% of African men get married to have children, and if you take children out of the equation, then majority of these African men wouldnt get married, to begin with. so getting a 2nd wife is a Better solution than divorcing the "possibly" infertile 1st wife

at least, let us all be HONEST here.....

Gloriagee:
Waoh, I marvel at your short sightedness. Heck, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I have a problem with magnifying wat the husband desires above so many things like his ultimate well being, his conscience and his wife's feelings.
Its just 3 years and hes yet to explore the Ivf option.

Omg at some Nig men and the kind of well meaning advise you all dish out on this Nairaland. Walahhi, I am in shock...

MrBrownJay1:
you see, you again are focussing on the wrong things.... you are hellbent on making this "possibly" infertile wife happy, while i am just trying to give MY opinion on what the OP should do. but hey, we DONT have to have the same opinion on this subject. you have yours and i have mine.

see how you are quick to come up with irrelevant issues such as:
A) the feelings of the possibly" infertile wife (while disregarding the feelings of the husband) and/or B) their marriage being "only" 3 yrs old (while disregarding that it takes just a second to get someone pregnant) and/or C) them possibly wasting millions on IVF (while disregarding the fact that it would be WAY cheaper to simply get a new wife)

we understand that NO woman wants to be looked at as a failure but sometimes you have to accept the facts. in Nigeria, this woman (who cant give her husband children) is a failure.
dont shoot the messenger and blame Nigerian society for that mindset!

Gloriagee:
May my paths never cross with anyone as insensitive as you. Peace

MrBrownJay1:
its called BEING REAL, and has nothing to do with being sensitive and/or emotional (about this issue)... like many of you women out there.
you'd rather a man be miserable for the rest of his life, with a "possibly" infertile woman, rather than finding an easy solution to their problems.
ok madam...
***spit on floor***