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My Dear Young Men,

One thing that can define your career or even entire life is the woman you choose to be your girlfriend/wife. Please take this seriously because I am about to share with you my experience.

At the very beginning of my career, I had very good taste for beautiful women. I ignored substance over form. I picked some ladies as girlfriends and up to today, I can't pinpoint one value those relationships added to my life. Rather, it drained my meagre savings and when all was said and done, they left. I met others that when you take sex out, there is nothing to hang on to.

In the process, I gave birth with one at age 28. I call it a sweet mistake. Sweet because my boy is now a big intelligent boy who inspires me a lot. Mistake because that was not the plan. I wasn't ready for it. It really cost me emotionally, financially and physically.

6 years after, I have an adorable woman who pushes me to higher goals. I partly attribute my "success" to her. She saw a gem in me and hence ignored my flaws. Such a virtuous woman deserves to be married properly. Hence, very soon we are getting married. At the appropriate time, I will invite you all to Kumasi.

Young man, you can't waste your time in useless relationships. Like you won't go anywhere with a vehicle with flat tyres, same way you can't go anywhere with a visionless woman. She will only be a source of distraction.

Listen, I am not blaming any of them for my mistakes. That's why I am sharing my experiences with you to take cue and don't do same.

Take your time and choose carefully. Always choose substance over form. If you're lucky to have both, congratulations. Significantly, don't feel bad to let people go. If she is not serving a useful purpose, move on before it becomes albatross on your neck.

Your choice of partner can make you or unmake you. May the Lord God help us to choose well.

Nice one. So true.

Over to you Seun and Lalasticlala

Thank you for this information.

Words on the marble!

lightdream:
Thank you for this information.

You welcome.

True

You are absolutely correct. I nearly made this mistake in 2017 but thank God i retracted my steps. It would have been the greatest mistake of my life.

But thank God for the woman i later married. She a source of inspiration to me.

Nice word to learn from

Interesting read

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I pray God gives me a good wife.
I am tired of all this runs girls in this Abuja.
You can't even trust any of them.
I pray God brings a good woman my way ASAP.
Someone who will grow old with me.

Well said!

Wisdom is profitable.

HandsomeGuyman:
I pray God gives me a good wife.
I am tired of all this runs girls in this Abuja.
You can't even trust any of them.
I pray God brings a good woman my way ASAP.
Someone who will grow old with me.

Change your circle of friends

I don't even have

IyaTola:
Change your circle of friends

It's not only women that are visionless,some men will minus the best and better part of any Lady they marry that has vision and goals......marrying a person without clear vision is very challenging and disastrous

Can we chat privately?

IyaTola:

HandsomeGuyman:
Can we chat privately?

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