Good evening house.. my in-laws usually beat my son and I am not comfortable with it... I have expressed displeasure in it but she thinks I am not helping the child. Now she has injured the child.. what is the best way to handle such situation.

What do you intend to do about it? I’m waiting for your reply

I go pretend say e no pain me but I no go allow that in-law again

- keep your child away from these in-laws
- tell you spouse to keep your child away from these in-laws
- if they come around and wanna abuse the child in your presence....warn them to not do so EVER AGAIN!

better to have upset in-laws than a damaged child!

samology2000:
Good evening house.. my in-laws usually beat my son and I am not comfortable with it... I have expressed displeasure in it but she thinks I am not helping the child. Now she has injured the child.. what is the best way to handle such situation.

If you feel they abuse your child, keep the child away from them. And let them know exactly why you don't want your child around them anymore.

Also, speak to the child so he/she is aware that you are not doing it because it is ok to misbehave or anything. Some kids are like Chucky when they are over at someone else's place but act like saints when they are at home.

Since you have initially warned her, you could choose to take whatever decision you want to.

Hope the injury isn't much and it wouldn't leave a scar on the child.

I truly don't know what to think but I do not see any in-law or sibling raising their hands on my kids because that is out of their boundaries.

To discipline a child is now abuse?

It always end in tears for anyone that reject the counseling of a child

I see you regretting in the future in tears over a lost child


Our people said beat a child with your right hand and draw him closer with your left hand

You already said it "discipline" it wasn't intentional just tell him to be abit easy nxt tym

I don't know how i'll feel to be honest, because i'll never be in such a situation raising my kids.
since this an open forum let me give my two cents.

1. Regardless of the child's wrong doing, you're responsible for disciplining your child not extended family members biko, because they say spare the rod and the spoil the child does not mean he/she should be put through childhood trauma.

2. Draw the Line for your family members, most of them don't even mean well.

3. Scold your child in private.



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I won't even let that happen in the first place cos I'll guard against by giving my child a simple home training to be well behaved when with elders or outsiders.

If your children are well behaved in the first place, no one will punish them. When the person is not mad.

The problem with you parents nowadays is you don't ever see any wrong in what your children do and don't like them to be corrected. You'll also not train them to be well behaved to avoid being corrected by other people.

It's simple, if you don't want anybody to discipline your child then give them good home training.


Imagine one scenario I experienced recently. I went to visit a brethren and they were not around. So I sat down to rest a little. I do play with the children but when they try to cross boundaries, I dash it to them.

So while resting, one of the boys farted. Very smelly fart. I ran outside and came back asking who did it. They were laughing. I now gave one a knock. The other one ran away laughing at me. I caught him later and gave him his size.
The parents came and started saying trash in the presence of the children that I should not beat them again.

I told them to caution their children not to be rude to elders otherwise me I go beat pan commot for their body. Nonsense!

All these don't touch my child, una own too much. If we check now, maybe there's even no injury. Just trying to draw sympathy for the child.

Don't take your children to them again, abeg.

It's not your place to beat anyone's child especially when the parent has warned against such. There's something called parental consent for heaven's sake. You might be comfortable with it but the Op is not comfortable with it.

Me, I make it a big deal if anyone apart from the grandparents beat my kids cos I feel they lack the affection that I will usually have. I believe that the parents wont have beaten the child till he wounded.

Look, beating is not the only way to discipline a child... sometimes, you may end up actually hardening up the child. Even the sight of a cane scares my children enough to behave. And I reject all your negative words over the child / parent.

07kjb:
To discipline a child is now abuse?

It always end in tears for anyone that reject the counseling of a child

I see you regretting in the future in tears over a lost child


Our people said beat a child with your right hand and draw him closer with your left hand

Stop taking your child to them and don't allow them come to your house when you're not there with your child
Tell your partner the new arrangement if he/she doesn't want to see craze.
Disciplining a child should not be ove the top or excessive. Any discipline causing injuries to a child or leaving a mark on a child borders on wickedness.
Some children have died from just shaking them.
If you can't use your hand to smack on the bum, then gettat

It is a very painful situation as I can relate. When ever I am stern in correcting my younger sister, she will turn around to be wicked to my child and it makes my heart bleed. So I leave her to her folly and limit the time my daughter spends with her.