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Kobojunkie:
Daniel has to decide whether to have his life ruled over by his mother even in marriage. That is simply what it is.

this is another angle.

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Some people really get phd for mumuness in this life o.
Young man wey just dey start life wan carry another person baggage for him head. Him mama wey get genuine love for am still dey advise am say na express him dey go but the pussy no gree let am see road.

but what if mummy is wrong?

2Radii:
But u re the girlfriend na

Nope, I’m married.

cayorday89:
You truly understand the mother's concern, she is not necessarily dramatic because of the lady having children, can't say in totality though as that could be hidden in between other reasons she is making obvious but her looking into the future and the troubles that will emanate from the father of those children or even his family coming back to his/their senses to come and reclaim their children and the legal battle that will come after amongst other issues.

My take is that if he insist he should have it at the back of his mind that anything can come up in future and should prepare himself for such outcome.

thank you for this.

Kobojunkie:
1. According to the story, the father of the kids does not care to be in the picture at all and this has supposedly been confirmed. So her concerns...aren't really focused on the children but her son hence the reason she goes as far as to threaten suicide.

2. No be the same way the average man go prepare wey this one too go take prepare? Na the same marriage all of them be.

exactly, she just doesn’t want the marriage. The kids father said he doesn’t want them, he had a new family.

Wittyglam:
exactly, she just doesn’t want the marriage. The kids father said he doesn’t want them, he had a new family.

Wow....some folks are wicked.

Wittyglam:
I’m really confused.

Yes you should be, it's women's nature.

There is more to the reason the father of those children don't want them. The woman is not saying the whole truth.

Anyway, Daniel should be very careful before entering. He should not allow other room's steam blind fold him.

What elders see when they sit down, if children climb a tree, he or she might not see it.

Thorough investigation on the woman, the father of the children and why he rejected his children, also Daniel must put the woman through series of testing to understand if the woman even truly love him or she is just pretending.

And as I said before, those children can never become Daniel's biological children. He should understand that and set his expectations right.

This is why elders keep shouting on young people to do things right way. Premarital recklessness around sex can change your life direction forever. When elders are talking, most of us, younger generation will say they are old school.

Just as Daniel's mother is giving him motherly advise now and he is being adamant.

Wittyglam:
we don’t know if she is for real or faking it.

In your opinion, do you think such scenario could be possible?

Helpout12345:
This is why elders keep shouting on young people to do things right way. Premarital recklessness around sex can change your life direction forever. When elders are talking, most of us, younger generation will say they are old school.

Just as Daniel's mother is giving him motherly advise now and he is being adamant.

Louder please

TheCongo2:
In your opinion, do you think such scenario could be possible?

it’s very possible, cause the people you think can’t do it end up surprising you.

Wittyglam:
This is going to be a 5mins read I hope so.

A friend of mine (Daniel) has been going through a tough time with his mom and girl friend (wife to be).

Wahala started when Daniel informed is mom about his intention to get married. Only for the mom to find out the woman he wants to marry is a single mom of two(kids). All hell broke loose.

Daniel’s mom has begged him to quit the relationship and kill the idea of marrying her but Daniel has refused and told is mom how much he has struggled with relationships, this is the only one that has made him happy and given him peace of mind. Daniel’s mom is more concern about the issue the kids can cause later in life, Daniel already told the mom how they have tried to reach out to the father of these kids but he wants nothing to do with them, since he already has a family.

The kids are bearing the name of their mother’s dad and once they get married the kids are taking his name. Daniel becomes their biological father automatically.

Daniel’s mom doesn’t want this union. She’s already threatening to commit Suicidal and it’s getting to Daniel as he is not willing to loose is mom and he is also not ready to let go of the love of is life.

The girlfriend has asked him to end the relationship but he’s not ready to. I don’t know what to tell him.

I need your help.

At the end of the day, I have gotten a lot of advice from here to tell Daniel. I will just show him all you guys said and hope he makes the best decision. Thank you all.

the story sounds like a nollywood script

but let me expose, a common thing in africans this fear of raising another men's child/children

Most africans take s child as an investment hence raising another men's children is viewed as wrong investment. hence fear they will go back on their father etc, in reality is even they go back you would have shown the kids what is love etc and they will pass it on one day

Point of correction you dont became automatic biological father by adaption but you became the legal parent

It was wrong for Daniel to
contact the father, his wife to be is
the one who should contact the father and agree or disagree on future of the child. Then Daniel steps to support the wife to be her decision on matter.

As for Daniel's matter its a complex issue most africa mothers prefer a young daugher in
law they have huge control over her etc its hard to control someone who has been marriage before or has kids. they know what they want and direction

The other side mother in laws want
a daughter in law that brings honour to her etc, a mother of two doesnt appeal for such honour

ZIMDRILL:
the story sounds like a nollywood script

but let me expose, a common thing in africans this fear of raising another men's child/children

Most africans take s child as an investment hence raising another men's children is viewed as wrong investment. hence fear they will go back on their father etc, in reality is even they go back you would have shown the kids what is love etc and they will pass it on one day

Point of correction you dont became automatic biological father by adaption but you became the legal parent

It was wrong for Daniel to
contact the father, his wife to be is
the one who should contact the father and agree or disagree on future of the child. Then Daniel steps to support the wife to be her decision on matter.

As for Daniel's matter its a complex issue most africa mothers prefer a young daugher in
law they have huge control over her etc its hard to control someone who has been marriage before or has kids. they know what they want and direction

The other side mother in laws want
a daughter in law that brings honour to her etc, a mother of two doesnt appeal for such honour

we’ll written.