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CheapHomes1:
Marriage is very good and it's good folks start early. Some get it right early others don't. But I have never seen talk about why some people haven't passed JAMB or gotten admission. I haven't seen anyone talk about why some who are married haven't had kids and maybe it's because they aren't serious about it. But to sound as if marriage is the ultimate is a no no for me.

No mind the blockheaded man .. pretending the married are somehow better than those single and undecided.

treatise:
Is marriage an achievement?

No mind the empty basket. Na so dem go continue to confuse single folks into settling for less in relationship.

Yusufisraelj:
Make sense ooo my brother, I pray make I find sha, need to manage social life, work and my dreams.

How exactly does any of what he said make sense?

Kaypick2:
That is a true talk…. It is well with our soul we single individuals

The man is telling you to settle in marriage, you are busy saying what he said is true.

DaveHarry:
Dese days people are even happy to be single, so bros notin concern u 4 d mata. Me sef I'm happy I'm single.

Tell the ignorant man abeg!

AfonjaPriest:
This man would be a bad counsellor.
He is talking from personal experience, and not from everybody's experience.
There are many reasons people stay single. Some stay that way, due to no fault of theirs. Some created their situations for themselves.
While others, they just love being that way!

Even if his personal experience, settling for less than one desires in relationship is never good advice for anyone to follow or give.

olaeffect:
Confirmed.
Many looking for what they themselves cannot give. Forgetting the fact that the kind of people you are looking for are also looking for the kind of person you are looking too.

You want a God fearing beautiful lady from a good home? Are you also a handsome God fearing man with a good background and a promising future?

What is wrong with dreaming?

Learn to enjoy singledom. I don’t understand the need to get hooked up. If you’re not thinking of making children, put the thought of anything serious on hold. Some people are happily choosing the single parent option these days.

Benitoh:
He's saying the truth....

All girls don't like a struggling guy. Once you're not rich to their taste sorry is your name.

Corrected

Judah95:
Baba dey yarn nonsense. You can't compare youths of 1980's & 2022's.

In this GenZ era, virgin babe dey at all? Loyalty dey? Nothing dey except fake nyash, bress, coloured face.

So, make person come marry this kind generation girls & divorce so that the children should suffer?God forbid.

Better to wait than to regret.

You better think well.

So ná to wait for the next generation?

UselessBuharist:
Why you dey laugh? You wey dey act for me since 2018

Shuo. I know you ni??

pretydiva:
Shuo. I know you ni??

You know my other moniker, check your email

TheBTCinvestor:
Merry Xmas from my Baby pls Like his photo

I will celebrate with you soon bro


Amen.

Tsolutionjoseph:
Being single as a man,is far better than enduring in marriage, I won't advise men to settle for less, because marriage is more beneficial to women, even happy home

How exactly is marriage more beneficial to women??

Kobojunkie:
1. That makes no sense at all! If relationship is defined as an agreement between two persons and that agreement is pretty much the love between them, then isn't it the right of the individuals to decide love as it best suits him or her? Who are you to decide for anyone other than your own self the kind of love that works best for the individual?

2. So you don't even agree with the man yet you claim what he said is true?

3. So how did you arrive at his claim being true?

Bia, I never defined to anyone how to work our their love life, I only stated facts. You can't be with someone you don't like or are attracted to, can you? Or you just like to bring argument where there's none?

The fact that I don't agree with the man in the op doesn't mean he's not right. He may be right but again due to our expections and high standards set for our specs, we may not agree with him.

If I don't like a potbelly man, even though it's right for him to approach me and seems right for me to accept him, I won't cos that's not what I want in my spec. I don't know if you're getting it.

Just like if a pastor comes now to marry your daughter, will you accept him considering the fact you don't like them. Eh korkor? Hian!

Judah95:
Baba dey yarn nonsense. You can't compare youths of 1980's & 2022's.

In this GenZ era, virgin babe dey at all? Loyalty dey? Nothing dey except fake nyash, bress, coloured face.

So, make person come marry this kind generation girls & divorce so that the children should suffer?God forbid.

Better to wait than to regret.

You better think well.

Make you try dey read very well.

BigBashiru:
How exactly is marriage more beneficial to women??

if you are a responsible man in marriage you will understand

Blessedmercy8:
1. I never defined to anyone how to work our their love life, I only stated facts. You can't be with someone you don't like or are attracted to, can you? Or you just like to bring argument where there's none?

The fact that I don't agree with he man in the op doesn't mean he's not right. He may be right but again due to our expections and high standards set for our specs, we may not agree with him.

2. If I don't like a potbelly man, even though it's right for him to approach me and seems right for me to accept him, I won't cos that's not what I want in my spec. I don't know if you're getting it.

3. Just like if a pastor comes now to marry your daughter, will you accept him considering the fact you don't like them. Eh korkor? Hian!

1. How did you arrive at him being right?

2. You don't like a potbelly man but it seems right for you to accept him? What the heck does that mean?

3. Hell no... why would I accept something that I don't like? Isn't that the definition of foolishness?

Sleep there many so call virgin are into online hookup don't ask me how google it

As [. Why she remain single author=AfonjaPriest post=119357022]
This man would be a bad counsellor.
He is talking from personal experience, and not from everybody's experience.
There are many reasons people stay single. Some stay that way, due to no fault of theirs. Some created their situations for themselves.
While others, they just love being that way![/quote]

Kobojunkie:
1. How did you arrive at him being right?

2. You don't like a potbelly man but it seems right for you to accept him? What the heck does that mean?

3. Hell no... why would I accept something that I don't like? Isn't that the definition of foolishness?

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Blessedmercy8:
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I am still waiting for you to tell me how the man's view is true.

Kobojunkie:
I am still waiting for you to tell me how the man's view is true.

Is he not stating obvious facts?.
A lot of people are not married today due to their high expectations including me.

In my early years, I had a picture of the kind of man I wanted but the opposite kept coming and I kept refusing them just because they don't fit into my spec. And till today, all the ones coming are still not not my taste and I won't settle until I find what I want.

The man is right because I'm still single afterall and not because they are not coming but I no want them. And the ones I dey give green light no send me. Hahaaaa.. such is life but I don't kia. As long as I'm happy.

palimo:
Truly, a lot of people have crazy fantasies. They will continue to remain single.
Most of our girls are looking for rich and established guys, most are now forced to settle for fraudsters and criminals. This is the order of the day.

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Blessedmercy8:
1. Is he not stating obvious facts?.A lot of people are not married today due to their high expectations including me.

2. In my early years, I had a picture of the kind of man I wanted but the opposite kept coming and I kept refusing them just because they don't fit into my spec. And till today, all the ones coming are still not not my taste and I won't settle until I find what I want.

3. The man is right because I'm still single afterall and not because they are not coming but I no want them. And the ones I dey give green light no send me. Hahaaaa.. such is life but I don't kia. As long as I'm happy.

1. That makes no sense at all.

First , marriage is not for everyone. Second, there is no set time table as far as marriage is concerned and so people wait until they find their best fit partner, or at least it is our hope that they do. This instead of rushing head first into marriage to end up in regret like the majority out there today. High expectations are a right we have as individuals and not a flaw to be picked at.

2. So let let get this straight. You chose to interpret your situation to mean that your "high expectations" are to blame for you remaining single to this day and not the fact that you have yet to meet your best fit partner up to this point?

You choose to agree with a doofus who claims that because some guys,who you didn't like at all, have already approached you before now, it means you already found love only you refused love because of high standards that you claim you have?

3.

Nazgul:
Lies...major causes of high rate of singles in Nigeria include the following.

1. Unemployment : Unemployment and the fear of not getting a well-paying job tops the list of reasons men run away from marital commitment.

They prefer waiting until they are financially stable to take up the roles of a husband which comes with added responsibilities.

Closely tied to this is the fact that no woman would want to get married to a jobless man who cannot take care of them and they would never touch such men with a metre long pole.

Being financially stable in Nigeria comes with a lot of responsibilities as parents, siblings and other relations would also expect you to dole out something to them at the end of the month.

2. Expensive wedding : In most Nigerian cities, getting married is so expensive that by the time one is done, he would have spent millions of Naira.

Starting from the introduction to the traditional marriage and the white wedding, some places put off their men who are ready to get married and as such, the men end up either getting married to people from other places or not getting married at all.

3. High rate of divorce : Men are often intimidated at the rate of divorce that they witness in the society where most marriages do not last beyond five years.

When they see this and get to hear testimonies from other married men who are having a torrid time in their marriages, they tend to think they could face the same if they get married.

4. No wife material The common notion among most men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage.

This is because fornication in Nigeria today is like food. You can sit at the comfort of your home and order for a girl online, for all kinds of sexual fantasy. This act scares most guys including ones who patronize these girls.

Cos they'll keep asking that question...who go marry this one?

Valid points

Kobojunkie:
1. That makes no sense at all.

First , marriage is not for everyone. Second, there is no set time table as far as marriage is concerned and so people wait until they find their best fit partner, or at least it is our hope that they do. This instead of rushing head first into marriage to end up in regret like the majority out there today. High expectations are a right we have as individuals and not a flaw to be picked at.

2. So let let get this straight. You chose to interpret your situation to mean that your "high expectations" are to blame for you remaining single to this day and not the fact that you have yet to meet your best fit partner up to this point?

You choose to agree with a doofus who claims that because some guys,who you didn't like at all, have already approached you before now, it means you already found love only you refused love because of high standards that you claim you have?

3.

Kobojunkie, whichever you choose to believe, Biko wereh. I never chop this morning. I no get your strength.

Blessedmercy8:
Kobojunkie, whichever you choose to believe, Biko wereh. I never chop this morning. I no get your strength.

It saddens me how women still fall this sort of manipulation bullsheet. The same men who feed you this bullsheet reasoning will cause you to believe you have to become worthy of them in order for them to choose you. Yet, here you so easily believe you have to reduce yourself in other to get the man you desire. No be brain damage be that?

Kobojunkie:
It saddens me how women still fall this sort of manipulation bullsheet. The same men who feed you this bullsheet reasoning will cause you to believe you have to become worthy of them in order for them to choose you. Yet, here you so easily believe you have to reduce yourself in other to get the man you desire. No be brain damage be that?

lol... Bia, Dem dey worry you this morning? Which one be brain damage again? Hahahahaha your comment dey funny me at times. By the way, where did I say I agree with him? All along I've been saying I don't agree with his opinion even though it sounds true now you turn to accuse me of accepting it?

Sleep don dey worry you. Go and sleep. Time don go for Chicago. Go sleep oooo kor kor go sleep.

Blessedmercy8:
lol... Bia, Dem dey worry you this morning? Which one be brain damage again? Hahahahaha your comment dey funny me at times. By the way, where did I say I agree with him? All along I've been saying I don't agree with his opinion even though it sounds true now you turn to accuse me of accepting it?

Sleep don dey worry you. Go and sleep. Time don go for Chicago. Go sleep oooo kor kor go sleep.

You keep saying he spoke truth when all he spewed is bullsheet born of a damaged mind. Ask him how he met his wife.... did he have to lower his standard or did he pick her from a whole bunch of possible candidates? The woman probably had to live as his maid--- cooking, cleaning, washing for him --- before he then decided she was worth keeping.

Kenelekan:
Ode. You will remain single next year with these your qualities

Do you have a child in secondary school?


We can discuss online Maths lessons for such.

Tsolutionjoseph:
if you are a responsible man in marriage you will understand

Explain in detail