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My wife lost her immeiate elder sister , she left behind 6 children including twins who are 3 months old and a husband , the man is nothing to write home about he had abandoned all 6 children with my inlaws , he doesn't call nor send them money for their upkeep.
My wife is a nursing mother our baby is 5 months her family want us to take over the twins so my wife can nurse them but I refused because I am managing myself to provide for my wife and baby I can't afford to provide for 2 extra babies and my inlaws are not financial buoyant all the responsibility will be on me ,buying pampers and baby formula every week.
My wife is angry and she said I am heartless for refusing to accomodate these orphans.I told my inlaws to report there father to welfare so he can provide for his 6 children they don't want to report him, they said they reported him to God and they are forcing me to take his responsibility when he is alive this is something I can never do.
I don't know what part of I can't afford 3 babies they don't understand , at the moment we haven't renew our rent and I am working hard to get the money to pay the rent and she is giving me attitudes. Do I have a point or I am a bad person for not accepting them?

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Relationship matter is not for me

A don't put mouth for family matter

Run away in the middle of the night and never look back since your wife doesn't want to pity you. Leave the whole responsibility to her and see if the inlaws don't work something out.

you owe them nothing, stand on your ground. Your inlaw can nurse the kids if they wish to be good . They also have option of returning the kids to the husband's family .

God bless all men, to be a man isn't a easy task...

The marital vow is for better for worse and you should take them in but your wife must work also..

They are young orphans please help them, accommodate them...

Funny thing is life isn't gurranteed, many would view this thread today and never return to their family alive. For God sake help the orphans anyhow you can


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Leave the house for her to control

Stand your ground and refuse to be emotionally and physically blackmailed whatever that means.

The kids aren't orphans they still have their father living.

Who dem carry for back no dey carry another person for back.

If the man is incapable of sorting his responsibilities, how about his family members?


They'd call you all the names in the world and books, tell them you can barely take care of your own family.

you ain't a bad person,you can't afford it..period!...stay focused on your wife and baby...ignore all her attitudes and possible tantrums...it's hard o..but ignore.. don't let that irresponsible man that abandoned the kids cus problem in your family... THINGS ARE HARD,ONE BABY NO EASY,E COME BE THREE,THAT YOU NEVER PLANNED FOR...good luck,

remember,KEY WORDS "IGNORE ALL HER ATTITUDE AND POSSIBLE TANTRUMS"

Mrkumareze:
you owe them nothing, stand on your ground. Your inlaw can nurse the kids if they wish to be good . They also have option of returning the kids to the husband's family .

Thanks

Honestly, this is a very dicey situation. There's no right or wrong situation here.

While you're protecting yourself from unwarranted financial burden, the orphans will be taken care of. Your wife is looking at the kids as her own blood and no one will want his or her own to suffer

Reporting the man to welfare means nothing. I don't have any advice for you brother.

But in all honesty, take the twins, you won't die.


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Ok, here's the truth. If you were the one whose nephews and nieces are in this unfortunate situation, you will accuse your wife for being wicked.

And you see all these people encouraging you not to accept them,if it happens to them, they will pack all the kids.

Life has a way of taking care of itself. I don talk finish

Hmmn, the idiotic father will come back when they are grown and people will tell those children, he is still their father and quote 'to forgive is divine'

rickpat:
you ain't a bad person,you can't afford it..period!...stay focused on your wife and baby...ignore all her attitudes and possible tantrums...it's hard o..but ignore.. don't let that irresponsible man that abandoned the kids cus problem in your family... THINGS ARE HARD,ONE BABY NO EASY,E COME BE THREE,THAT YOU NEVER PLANNED FOR...good luck,

remember,KEY WORDS "IGNORE ALL HER ATTITUDE AND POSSIBLE TANTRUMS"

Thanks

Moh247:




God bless all men, to be a man isn't a easy task...

The marital vow is for better for worse and you should take them in but your wife must work also..

They are young orphans please help them, accommodate them...

Funny thing is life isn't gurranteed, many would view this thread today and never return to their family alive


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Take them in? Can you actually read??

Offpointng:
Take them in? Can you really read??

I only pleaded for him to take them in and for them not to turn another Almajiri

He owes them no care or love...


But I will still plead with him to show them love

faithfull18:
Hmmn, the idiotic father will come back when they are grown and people will tell those children, he is still their father and quote 'to forgive is divine'

Sad truth

Moh247:




God bless all men, to be a man isn't a easy task...

The marital vow is for better for worse and you should take them in but your wife must work also..

They are young orphans please help them, accommodate them...

Funny thing is life isn't gurranteed, many would view this thread today and never return to their family alive


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I can't

PellsKodak:
Leave the house for her to control

Never

Wahala

Oboh662:
I can't

Not your responsibility tho..

But can you please get them to an orphanage home with your wife since the father is deadbeat...

Many decent orphanage homes


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Please who owns the house
Is it you or your wife.If it is your house then tell them to leave before you loose your sanity
I hate stress for this life

Moh247:
Not your responsibility tho..

But can you please get them to an orphanage home with your wife since the father is deadbeat...

We are not in the same city my wife and I cannot make that decision, I think my inlaws should decide whether to put them in the orphange or not

Solofresh2:
Please who owns the house
Is it you or your wife.If it is your house then tell them to leave before you loose your sanity
I hate stress for this life

I am the breadwinner my wife isn't working

Moh247:
I only pleaded for him to take them him and for them not to turn another Almajiri

He owes them no care or love...


But I will still plead with him to show them love

My people use to say it's very easy to invite a Mad man into your house but it'll be very hard to use the 10fingers to push them out. Up there he's saying can barely cater for his family, pleading to take them in would not help them both but on the long run divide the family

This is the more reason why i always advocate couple birthing kids they can afford to cater for and train ehn

Solofresh2:
Please who owns the house
Is it you or your wife.If it is your house then tell them to leave before you loose your sanity
I hate stress for this life

They are not in my house we are not staying in the same city

Oboh662:
■My wife is angry and she said I am heartless for refusing to accomodate these orphans. I told my inlaws to report there father to welfare so he can provide for his 6 children they don't want to report him, they said they reported him to God and they are forcing me to take his responsibility when he is alive this is something I can never do.
■I don't know what part of I can't afford 3 babies they don't understand , at the moment we haven't renew our rent and I am working hard to get the money to pay the rent and she is giving me attitudes. Do I have a point or I am a bad person for not accepting them?

1. Well, tell your wife that since they refuse to report the father of the kids to the authorities for abandoning his own children, they should go ahead and carry the load on his behalf while they wait for God to answer them then.

2. If you and your wife can afford to contribute something to their upkeep at your in-law's place every month, please do abeg!

Kobojunkie:
1. Well, tell your wife that since they refuse to report the father of the kids to the authorities for abandoning his own children, they should go ahead and carry the load on his behalf while they wait for God to answer them then.

2. If you and your wife can afford to contribute something to their upkeep at your in-law's place every month, please do abeg!

Thanks

stand your ground
Their father is doing this because he knows others will step up to take his responsibilities from him

Oboh662:
My wife lost her immeiate elder sister , she left behind 6 children including twins who are 3 months old and a husband , the man is nothing to write home about he had abandoned all 6 children with my inlaws , he doesn't call nor send them money for their upkeep.
My wife is a nursing mother our baby is 5 months her family want us to take over the twins so my wife can nurse them but I refused because I am managing myself to provide for my wife and baby I can't afford to provide for 2 extra babies and my inlaws are not financial buoyant all the responsibility will be on me ,buying pampers and baby formula every week.
My wife is angry and she said I am heartless for refusing to accomodate these orphans.I told my inlaws to report there father to welfare so he can provide for his 6 children they don't want to report him, they said they reported him to God and they are forcing me to take his responsibility when he is alive this is something I can never do.
I don't know what part of I can't afford 3 babies they don't understand , at the moment we haven't renew our rent and I am working hard to get the money to pay the rent and she is giving me attitudes. Do I have a point or I am a bad person for not accepting them?

Oboh662:
I am the breadwinner my wife isn't working

Good. If she is angry, so be it

How are they orphans if their father is alive?

Moh247:




God bless all men, to be a man isn't a easy task...

The marital vow is for better for worse and you should take them in but your wife must work also..

They are young orphans please help them, accommodate them...

Funny thing is life isn't gurranteed, many would view this thread today and never return to their family alive. For God sake help the orphans anyhow you can


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michlins:
But in all honesty, take the twins, you won't die.

Should they send the kids to you? I’m sure you won’t die either