₦airaland Forum

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
I can bet it you are not married. You are just imagining things. She will come back tired and may end up being shagged by the boss or some colleague. I am not saying marrying career women doesn't work but I somehow find your fantasy laughable.

It's not fantasy if you're well connected


You get to choose where your wife works


Her boss and colleagues will much respect you and as well your wife .

Runnerzz:
U don't even know anything... Full time career woman no get time for ur dick . Even if u get devil dick she will never be available for u 80% of the time talk more if u have a boring dick

Day whyne yourself ni

Crystalom35:
this is trash.

It's not low self esteem that makes a man say his woman should be full time house wife.

It doesn't also mean that the woman is incapable of anything else.

For some, the arrangement works. Most women love it. That's all that matters.

All these western things have brainwashed many of you

😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 at Western Things.

If I don't know of any other place, I know that American men & women embrace housewifery more than the average Nigerian.

And it is not a 'punishment' or 'potential limiting action' as it is seen here.

GreatAchiever1:
I really disagree with you, sir. Being a housewife is a full-time profession, thus there is nothing wrong with it. As long as hubby can support his family with the necessities and keep the house safe, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting a housewife and it isn't in anyway bringing down his self-esteem

Nobody ever claimed housewives were dullards nor nonentities; they take care of the family, help their husbands, nuture and educate their kids, which makes the house functioning, which in turn makes society functional. Yes there are ways they can make money for themselves, with handskills like tailoring, hairdressing, making stuffs, baking stuffs, online business etc, they can easily earn some cash from home while building the home.

Lastly, the wife is supposed to only be useful to the hubby first and the children, these should be her top priority after God. Lets forget about modern wokism culture.

I agree with everything you said if it's what the woman wants,a true feminist won't shame a woman who chooses to be a housewife because it's what she wants,feminism is about letting women choose

GodWrites:
Being a housewife is a full-time job. That's why most career women can't do without a maid. If you are not the ambitious type, there's no harm in being a housewife. But if you are ambitious and run a business, or perhaps want to climb the corporate ladder like Okonjo Iweala, get a maid, and a chef too. All these should be discussed with your husband-to-be before you say "i do" to avoid conflict. If possible, put it in writing so your husband wouldn't pretend he never had such a discussion with you.

Only in Nigeria they need a maid and househelp even If they live in 800sq ft room. Other countries most women take care of household, kids and they work, some can go to school at the same time, with no maid or nanny. The husband helps with bills and helps with keeping the kids in order.

May God bless you

GreatAchiever1:
I really disagree with you, sir. Being a housewife is a full-time profession, thus there is nothing wrong with it. As long as hubby can support his family with the necessities and keep the house safe, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting a housewife and it isn't in anyway bringing down his self-esteem

Nobody ever claimed housewives were dullards nor nonentities; they take care of the family, help their husbands, nuture and educate their kids, which makes the house functioning, which in turn makes society functional. Yes there are ways they can make money for themselves, with handskills like tailoring, hairdressing, making stuffs, baking stuffs, online business etc, they can easily earn some cash from home while building the home.

Lastly, the wife is supposed to only be useful to the hubby first and the children, these should be her top priority after God. Lets forget about modern wokism culture.

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's only if she's a housewife as a broke person. Housewife pass housewife. There's "housewife" and there's "Nwunye odogwu" AKA "Oga wife".

No time wey see finish no dey ever dey. If you have to work your head out to prove you have value, you were never valued in the first place.

@bold:

I always say this.

This is solid gold!

realestawe:
Can't you people praise God. Everyday is about man, woman, wife, husband. Just do you ok. Being a housewife is good and being a career woman is also good. Both have its advantages and disadvantages based on the variables and partner involved. Happy Sunday.

@bold:

Ema binu ma

GodWrites:
Being a housewife is a full-time job. That's why most career women can't do without a maid. If you are not the ambitious type, there's no harm in being a housewife. But if you are ambitious and run a business, or perhaps want to climb the corporate ladder like Okonjo Iweala, get a maid, and a chef too. All these should be discussed with your husband-to-be before you say "i do" to avoid conflict. If possible, put it in writing so your husband wouldn't pretend he never had such a discussion with you.

yea, the problem is she'll start accusing him of sleeping with the chef and house made... ile will still daru

TemplarLandry:
Only archaic men with lowest of the lowest self-esteem imprison their wives under the guise of housewifehood.

Women are not dullards or nonentities. They have parts to play in every functional society. A real woman has to make some money for herself too.

Being a housewife means you're only useful to your husby as a copulation machine and a babies-producing device. Zero contribution to a functional society. That's bad bad.

yea, only archaic men with low bla bla bla, then the woman is accused of sleeping with other men, she start giving excuses of being tired, she cant breast feed her baby or cant even get pregnant, so we will blame village people simply... isn't it...

Miracood2:
My woman won't be a full time house wife. Unless she's nursing our new baby.

then she still is a full house wife, or which kind institutions go allow her work for 3years and pause for 2years.. not even a good business will stand that

TemplarLandry:
Well, different strokes for different folks. I don't agree with you anyway..

I swear you are very wrong in this argument. U don't need to agree for a fact to be Fact.

Samantha124:
I don't see myself being a house wife and neither do I see myself getting a maid to take care of the household chores on my behalf... I'd rather hire a cleaning company to send its cleaners to the house at least three times in a week to do a deep clean on my behalf while I'm at work.

hoping you will pay for the service and i hope na boys they go send not girls because the girls go dey try to test the bed and imagine say i come meet her for bed, i go think say na you untill the deal is done then we will start oooh sorry, i though bla bla bla, if she get belle before you, new wife don show face be that o... from cleaner to madam.. no body do you..

GreatAchiever1:
Aside from the political and leadership roles in the bible that we have examined in Deborah, how are the other points you made career-oriented and more important than family? You described a skill set that is demanded of everyone.

You are very good at twisting words, but I want to clarify that I never said a career is more important than family. If midwives, cooks and musicians are not considered career-oriented, then it means that most men in the Bible were not career-oriented either. The available jobs during those times included midwifery, nursing, cooking, business, baking, carpentry, fishing, farming, hunting, and so on. Lydia was a businesswoman. Another good example of a prophetess is Hulda.

Not a good idea. How will you help your parents or do you expect your husband to be sending your parents money from time to time...

I repeat it's not a good idea for the man and wife!

Yes.

it's not good to make your woman a house wife, as human we only imagine good things but forget about unforseen circumstances or life threatening events that can make a Man not to be able to fend for his family or even death.

unfortunately, many Nigerian girls prefer being a house wife especially the graduates.

if you are a business man make your wife to learn your trade or establish her.

The traditional notion of housewife doesn't exist anymore. All the so called "house wives" now own different small and micro businesses, thanks to globalisation, WhatsApp business, IG, remote work, etc. Of course, many of them spend more time at home with their family (abi where else should they be? Sambisa?). The conceptualisation of "housewives" as people who sit at home and do nothing else apart from cooking or laundry only exists in you people's heads. In reality, they don't exist. So you people should quit the intentional and "every 4 market day" derogatory threads.

I don't understand what you're saying...

nurudeen181:
hoping you will pay for the service and i hope na boys they go send not girls because the girls go dey try to test the bed and imagine say i come meet her for bed, i go think say na you untill the deal is done then we will start oooh sorry, i though bla bla bla, if she get belle before you, new wife don show face be that o... from cleaner to madam.. no body do you..

ask the men if they would really allow their wives to be one if allowed

Acidosis:
The traditional notion of housewife doesn't exist anymore. All the so called "house wives" now own different small and micro businesses, thanks to globalisation, WhatsApp business, IG, remote work, etc. Of course, many of them spend more time at home with their family. The conceptualisation of "housewives" as people who do nothing else apart from cooking or laundry only exists in you people's olfactory glands. In reality, they don't exist. So you people should quit the intentional and "every 4 market day" derogatory threads.

the sooner they realize this the better

Merry100:
You are very good at twisting words, but I want to clarify that I never said a career is more important than family. If midwives, cooks and musicians are not considered career-oriented, then it means that most men in the Bible were not also career-oriented either. The available jobs during those times included midwifery, nursing, cooking, baking, carpentry, fishing, farming, hunting, and so on. Another good example of a prophetess is Hulda.

I'm speaking the truth as it ought to be. Yes, they were the jobs accessible prior to industrialization. And sure, both the husband and wife were more focused on the home; but, although women handled the more feminine tasks, the husband was in charge of providing for the household, which is more concerned with what to eat, wear, stay etc. When industrialization first began, men were paid to take care of the homes, but when war broke out, they had to hire women. After the war, they resolved to hire both men and women since doing so would increase tax revenue and the advancement of women's rights would advance the cause. Feel free to read up good books or even videos on this to gain more insights. Probably on the waves of feminism.

You don't have to clarify that career is more important than family or not, with the way you keep making more emphasis to career than family, it clearly shows where your priorities lie.

NoToPile:
Interesting thread.

It will be interesting to read the hypocritical posts.

Wow you're a full-time house wife? Congratulations dearie

GreatAchiever1:
I'm speaking the truth as it ought to be. Yes, they were the jobs accessible prior to industrialization. And sure, both the husband and wife were more focused on the home; but, although women handled the more feminine tasks, the husband was in charge of providing for the household, which is more concerned with what to eat, wear, stay etc. When industrialization first began, men were paid to take care of the homes, but when war broke out, they had to hire women. After the war, they resolved to hire both men and women since doing so would increase tax revenue and the advancement of women's rights would advance the cause. Feel free to read up good books or even videos on this to gain more insights. Probably on the waves of feminism.

You don't have to clarify that career is more important than family or not, with the way you keep making more emphasis to career than family, it clearly shows where your priorities lie.

😂You are a clown. From quoting the Bible to recounting the history of gender roles during industrialization. I get you, you will say anything just to feel right.

The good thing is that being a working-class woman is not a sin, nor is it a crime. Just do what is best for you and your partner, and let others also do what works for them. Case closed.

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's only if she's a housewife as a broke person. Housewife pass housewife. There's "housewife" and there's "Nwunye odogwu" AKA "Oga wife".

No time wey see finish no dey ever dey. If you have to work your head out to prove you have value, you were never valued in the first place.

So which one do you want to be, Odogwu or house wife

I just realized it better for the husband to have money and the wife also have money
It reduces the stress of the man in terms of taking all the responsibility alone,
that why at my age 29year not yet married thuo but as a Man I can't married a woman who is not productive with skills , because a woman need to support the husband no matter how small, because responsibility in marriage is huge especially when kids get involved afterwards

Adachizzy:
No
Not even for the man or marriage but for myself and my esteem. Nothing beats being able to afford your need yourself without waiting for stipends from your husband.
Whenever you have issues, your stipends may most likely hang.
Even in his absence, you can steer the home financially before he returns. It's a flex abeg.

You are very sensible.
I like you already

No matter how rich a man is, his wife should be doing something. In this 21st century, no woman with her right sense will ever want to become a full housewife.

TemplarLandry:
Only archaic men with lowest of the lowest self-esteem imprison their wives under the guise of housewifehood.

Women are not dullards or nonentities. They have parts to play in every functional society. A real woman has to make some money for herself too.

Being a housewife means you're only useful to your husband as a copulation machine and a babies-producing device. Zero contribution to a functional society. That's bad bad.

Let's look at it this way - There are a lot of men that would want a housewife and many that would not.
Also, there are a lot of women that would want to be housewives and many that would not.

You started out by hitting hard on men over a topic that is complex - given human existence, experience and nature.

It's complex but also boils down to what people want ( both men and women) - NOT JUST MEN.
SO LET US ALLOW MEN REST A BIT AND NOT LASHING OUT ON THEM AT EVERY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY.

Puss360:
Yes... If I marry a white man...
But here in Africa, Never....
Either I work pass the man or we do the same working hours....
Coz one day, the man can become aggressive and say I'm lazy, so I need to be prepared for dat day in my marriage....

That will be when I marry sha...🙈🙈

NEXT CASE PLEASE!!!!!

Just imagine your reasoning.



Chai.

IyanuDeb:
ask the men if they would really allow their wives to be one if allowed

There's no room for idleness in my house.



Work is the real-deal.

NewDea4:
Stupid threads for stupid people, to complete the dumbing-down of the Great Unwashed

Bitter leaf no need for all this big big grammar jare. Just use your eyes to look around for the post that suit you.