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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by StraightGaay: 4:26pm On Nov 25, 2023
PedoBear:



Yes


You nko ??
What do you think sir?
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by spiralwedge(m): 4:29pm On Nov 25, 2023
haybhi1:


I only get forlorn

I only get forlornly.

Forlorn - adjective
Forlornness - noun
Forlornly - adverb
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by ChybuzzDD(m): 4:30pm On Nov 25, 2023
EBEk101:
Healthy, but them wan use billing kill me, it’s time for me to start thinking about settling down next year, I will have to sound that into their ear this December
Any body wey worry me nah to block am
WTF man
I almost blocked their numbers last weekend.

Once you marry, your relationship with those siblings will automatically become toxic

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by TheGift: 4:33pm On Nov 25, 2023
LagosG:
Mine is actually healthy cos we dey always do checks and balances and also do interventions for the most ridiculous issues lol. We're so close we've all watched the same tv series and there must be more than 100 different ones not counting movies regardless of whether we're together or not. Not like we don't have our bad moments o but they never last past a couple of days

There's just three of us. I'm the first. I may have bad habits but with the way they look up to me, I just can't afford any bad blood, you feel me?

Mostly healthy.

Infact, me and all of my five siblings belong to a WhatsApp group where we discuss and collaborate on family related issues.

There is also a larger family WhatsApp group with my dad , all of his own five siblings (my three uncles and two aunties) and all of their children ( my siblings and cousins - plus our children who are old enough) We often banter and share stuff there and there is very little formality in the way we relate. My Grand-Father instilled some family values that are being passed down to generations.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by tylesh(f): 4:47pm On Nov 25, 2023
Thundafireseun:


You know I’m correct

Spot On!

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Zoe257: 5:02pm On Nov 25, 2023
It's almost a year now and I haven't said a thing to my immediate elder sis. She's 30 already and I'm 27.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Eriokanmi: 5:04pm On Nov 25, 2023
EBEk101:


It’s not easy man
I understand. Let me tell you something. You don't have to be a believer or belong to a religous faith to unleash this secret. Don't stop giving and see how flourishing you'd become. That little you have came to you for a reason , which I talked about earlier in my post. There's a widow I can't even recognise if I see her face to face among those that I give to. Because I know this secret, I never stopped being blessed. I don't want to say more than this. Even here on NL, I give without looking back. Pls don't stop.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Thundafireseun: 5:07pm On Nov 25, 2023
tylesh:


Spot On!

Would you like to chat with me on Watapp??
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by GYBABA(m): 5:08pm On Nov 25, 2023
Pinkyposh:

You guys just need to make it work, the eldest should try down his ego n talk to others, just pretend to be foolish, maybe buying gift for them or just giving them cash
God will help you guys

It's a she. She left pretty early to go hustle & she's doing well but she focused so much on the development of herself that she doesn't care of her siblings coming together. Even if someone is going to act foolish, it's definitely not her. She got her pride.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by GYBABA(m): 5:11pm On Nov 25, 2023
Sijo01:



Your mom should bring ye'all together in love now that she's still healthy/alive. Once she's gone, it's going to be difficult for you guys to function as siblings. And you'll all transfer the bad blood to your kids who will not relate well with their cousins.

Trust me, that woman is trying but the preference she has for some over other blinds her sometimes in order to be objective but truth be told, she tries. Even the days of peace when we're together are as a result of her peace keeping efforts but we're all adults & we have conflicting egos & pride. There's only so much she can do to keep the peace
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by GYBABA(m): 5:16pm On Nov 25, 2023
blackgold2018:
it all depends on upbringing. Were you guys brought up with love? The death of your father supposed to bring in guys together and achieve a goal.

Plus another factor is the most senior amongst the siblings. The first born failed on his responsibilities.

I’m talking from experience but my own case is that we lost both parents. We made it among ourselves to stand as strong. Thereby surprising our late dads enemies.

We were definitely brought up in love. My mom being the sole breadwinner after dad died tried her best to make sure we never lack. Due to this, she never had much time for us. Hence the freedom & too much freedom sometimes can have repercussions.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Georgnilla: 5:17pm On Nov 25, 2023
Mine is kinda mixed. We're just 2 sons and like 5 girls. Me and my bro don't really like each other. I believe to some extent he jealous of me. He feels life has been fairer to me than him. So he has been secretly envying me for a long time and a pont he can't hide it anymore.

As for the girls. Na so so bickering and fighting amongst them. They don't even hide it. They just don't love themselves. Its well sha

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by GYBABA(m): 5:17pm On Nov 25, 2023
StraightGaay:
You didn't mention your death, are you immune to death.
I don't wish you death, but it might be what will bring you all together after a long time.

Please think well before airing your thoughts. Is the death of someone you hate so much cause you true pain to want to change something negative to positive? Isn't it the death of someone loved & reverred that can trigger genuine reconciliation atleast for the sake of her memory? Think, man, think!

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by RosyIsBlessed: 5:34pm On Nov 25, 2023
EBEk101:
Healthy, but them wan use billing kill me, it’s time for me to start thinking about settling down next year, I will have to sound that into their ear this December
Any body wey worry me nah to block am
WTF man
I almost blocked their numbers last weekend.

grin no be small marriage is calling
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by jaxxy(m): 5:35pm On Nov 25, 2023
ive come to realise it is a privilege to have a healthy relationship with ur siblings. Most times its not u hate each other its just a major lack of understanding. undecided

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Rossycares(f): 5:51pm On Nov 25, 2023
Very healthy.
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Rossycares(f): 5:56pm On Nov 25, 2023
Very healthy!!
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by shegunmessi(m): 5:56pm On Nov 25, 2023
Toxic
But she can't go a day without calling me just to check on me😃

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Raymeg7(m): 6:10pm On Nov 25, 2023
LagosG:
Mine is actually healthy cos we dey always do checks and balances and also do interventions for the most ridiculous issues lol. We're so close we've all watched the same tv series and there must be more than 100 different ones not counting movies regardless of whether we're together or not. Not like we don't have our bad moments o but they never last past a couple of days

There's just three of us. I'm the first. I may have bad habits but with the way they look up to me, I just can't afford any bad blood, you feel me?

Keep it up, they are all u get ok, love them more then they do, take them like u take ur life, u will not regret it bet me, I wish I have a junior brother or sister, I will do anything for him or her

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Pinkyposh(f): 6:11pm On Nov 25, 2023
GYBABA:


It's a she. She left pretty early to go hustle & she's doing well but she focused so much on the development of herself that she doesn't care of her siblings coming together. Even if someone is going to act foolish, it's definitely not her. She got her pride.
I'm so sorry about that, it's so unfortunate
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by StraightGaay: 6:38pm On Nov 25, 2023
GYBABA:


Please think well before airing your thoughts. Is the death of someone you hate so much cause you true pain to want to change something negative to positive? Isn't it the death of someone loved & reverred that can trigger genuine reconciliation atleast for the sake of her memory? Think, man, think!
Sorry but you said she isn't dead na
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Nobody: 6:39pm On Nov 25, 2023
I have zero tolerance for bullshit.
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Nobody: 6:40pm On Nov 25, 2023
I have zero tolerance for bullshit. Therefore zero relationship.
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Nobody: 6:40pm On Nov 25, 2023
I have zero tolerance for bullshit. Therefore, zero relationship.
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by aswani(m): 7:02pm On Nov 25, 2023
LagosG:
Mine is actually healthy cos we dey always do checks and balances and also do interventions for the most ridiculous issues lol. We're so close we've all watched the same tv series and there must be more than 100 different ones not counting movies regardless of whether we're together or not. Not like we don't have our bad moments o but they never last past a couple of days

There's just three of us. I'm the first. I may have bad habits but with the way they look up to me, I just can't afford any bad blood, you feel me?

Toxic sadly, too many people with a false sense of self importance.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by We4all: 7:07pm On Nov 25, 2023
cigaricon:
I can't really say it's healthy, neither can I say it's toxic. We just don't have a strong bond with each other.

To begin with, I have two elder half siblings I've never meet before, these are my late mother's children she had from a previous marriage before she married my dad. I haven't even seen their pictures so I don't even know how they look like, I only know their names. And any time I ask a family member who've had contact with them, they just waive it off.

In my family, it's not the younger ones (siblings, cousin) that are toxic, it's the elder ones (parents, uncle's, aunties) although not all Sha, and it's rubbing off on some of the younger ones. To say the least, my family is very dysfunctional.

We are just two who share the same parents, I and my younger sister, the rest are my half siblings. My biological sister and I didn't grow up together due to my mom and dad's separation. We reunited after 15yrs and still had some misunderstandings due to individual differences. Then I decided to be away from family and find my way through life. The last time we saw was about 2-3 yrs ago, we only communicate via call and WhatsApp and it's been cool.

My other half siblings, the children my dad has with his present wife we barely communicate, not because we hate each other but they are still young and are still under parent's custody so they follow whatever their mother tells them. I think they'll come around when they're much older.

I eager look forward to spending some with them in the coming hollidays though.

Your mom should have tried to unite you and your half siblings before her death. It is said that half siblings who share the same mother are closer than those who share the same father. I wonder why you never met with your siblings.

I believe you are old enough. You should make an effort to trace them even if it's obvious they don't care. Because if they actually care, they could have linked up with you before now.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by EBEk101(m): 7:40pm On Nov 25, 2023
RosyIsBlessed:


grin no be small marriage is calling

That girlfriend shit, I don’t want it no more
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by haybhi1(m): 7:57pm On Nov 25, 2023
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by jarmy: 7:58pm On Nov 25, 2023
Toxic polygamous, I am closer to my half brothers then my full brothers.

Too much competition and comparism. Imagine my brother preferring to help his friend then his brother.

It socks!

Right now it is just me, my God, my family and my mum.

Hope things gets better.

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by Abuloma80(f): 9:20pm On Nov 25, 2023
Being in a polygamous family, we are 10 in number, so l have 9 Siblings. But sad enough l am the only child to my Mom. Relationship with the other Siblings, most are toxic - it's expected. Up here in the North Half-Siblins are mostly like Rivals. The rivalry seen amongst our Moms are technically transferred to the Siblings. I honestly suffer that, it's only when they are benefiting from me that l get the Healthy Siblings treatment. And l don't relent on that, l single Handley supported the education of at least 4 of them. The others are supported to the best as regards to Businesses they took up as for the girls l supported the during their marriages. Till date 3 of them are living with me. Despite all these, they never failed to show/treat me as we are not of the same Mother, which l feel very hurtful when they do that. My Mom is late so l become like an Island, l am only involved in matters when it involves monetary........ To me the fear of Siblings, cannot be over emphasized. I really find it hard and tough having Siblings, yet l cannot withdraw and keep to myself, to assume l don't have. Some Loved ones do advise me to disregard these Siblings and regard my children as my Siblings when the need arises. I am blessed with 6 children and 2 of them are blessed with 7 kids (Grandchildren). So technically l formed a family of mine to fill the gab of Siblings and any other relationships. Half-Siblins are TOXIC!!

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Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by TheMostComplex1: 9:20pm On Nov 25, 2023
Mine is good
Re: How's Your Relationship With Your Siblings? Toxic Or Healthy? by SharingIsLife(m): 11:53pm On Nov 25, 2023
Nwaikpe:
Love your family,

Bless them always.

And pray that their ememies always beg for mercy like how the armies of allah is begging for mercy from the armies of Jehovah.
Stop that. That's how you guys start war with useless religious sentiment. In Nigeria, the people of Jehova are so oppressed by the people of Allah that, after an Allah president and a Jehova vice president, you now have both President and Vice as Allah people. But you leave that to talk about far-away Israel and Palestine. Meanwhile, I'm a Christian Igbo FYI.

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