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Op handle this situation with less pride , that woman officially no send you again. Maybe you Bleep is no soft she’s not getting that feeling again.
I’ll advice you if your manhood is still alive , look for a night and give a resounding never to be forgotten romantic sex and see her come back to you

Double0h7:
See this boomer! Tame what sir? A woman who is a student and works while her husband is a dependent who stays at home (house husband) in the Uk for that matter! Give the man more practical advice than this 1950’s bs. He’s lucky if she doesn’t find a working man who is homeless and will pay the rent while she looks after her children. This woman was juggling dick in Nigeria, what do you think she’ll juggle in the Uk!

My advice was not for him, it’s for men, if it doesn’t seem like it’s going to work don’t force it putting up high hopes, embrace your woes and move on

Normally, I don't bother advising men like you. Because you're too weak & much of a simpson to see your HUGE mistakes

Worst of all, you'll rationalise your weakness and her bad behaviour to make it feel good in your head.

But I like taking risks. So I'll go out of my way to give you my thoughts and tips. Even though my mind is telling me you won't listen.

Anyways... let's get started:

● Your wife is cheating on you. My best guess is she's doing it with this guy you call "dude"

The problem with you Simps is how you search desperately for "concrete evidence" It's laughable. Especially when the signs are there. Her blatant disrespect & disloyalty has caused you "take a risk" that firmly puts her in control of your marriage.


● Start saving money from your job to get a new apartment.

The last thing you want is to wake up one day to find out your homeless. The only reasons you're not homeless already is because of one, your kids. And two, the dude fùcking her has no interest in taking her serious. He's using your precious wife as free fun.

But she might find someone else who will take her more seriously and they'll start plotting ways to kick you out.

On that note, save up some money. And take extra jobs so you can get a new apartment and move out.


● Get a female friend or two you can be seeing as well. Even better if she buys food for you or makes one.

Few things correct a girl's behaviour like jealousy. Let her know you have options and watch her behaviour slowly adjust.

Don't make her think you're fùcking them or suggest that. But highlight qualities in your new friends that you like and she's lacking. Qualities that'll make her a better wife and mother in the marriage.

If these women get you gifts or food, even better.


● Lastly, I'd consider the option of divorce or separation in my mind.

Cause without a doubt, she's cheating. But the third point I wrote above should her to act right.


To end it all, stop being such a weak simp

tochez24:
Exactly my thoughts... The woman was collecting enough younger dicks in Nigeria and that's why she now has the liberty to do that in her husband's presence in UK.

She even has the guts to seek for her for husbands advice⚠️

Well i will not advise anybody here today, my own today na to just read comments lol

If we advice them to go for Virgins and reserved girls, they will come with all manners of excuses!!!

So oga enjoy your WOMAN😆😅😅

Your marriage is already over for sure.... Just make sure you have a plan B in that UK o because once your wife finds a more stable man, YOU are already back in Nigeria.

The only thing you don't know now is how much time you have got left💯

He mentioned that they have 3 kids together. I do not know whether we should make comments on that or not for now. Should we inform him of the possibility of a deeper issue?

I have no pity for you. I'm sure that before you travelled, you must have heard/read of instances where Nigerian women went rogue, after being taken abroad by their husbands, but you refused to listen. You probably even insulted and humiliated those who advised you personally.



You probably thought (like other foolish men before you) that your wife would be different; you thought you had a unicorn for a wife 🤣.



You better brace up for more heartbreaks, because as it stands, there's a very high possibility that your lovely, precious wife has already been fvcked, numerous times by her colleagues (yes, including her female colleague), either in isolated cases or in orgies/threesomes.



The wife you knew is gone; the slut in her is now out in its full form. You just don't know it yet 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️.

Rizzputin:
Normally, I don't bother advising men like you. Because you're too weak & Simpson to see your HUGE mistakes

Worst of all, you'll rationalise your weakness and her bad behaviour to make it feel good in your head.

But I like taking risks. So I'll go out of my way to give you my thoughts and tips. Even though my mind is telling me you won't listen.

Anyways... let's get started:

● Your wife is cheating on you. My best guess is she's doing it with this guy you call "dude"

The problem with you Simps is how you search desperately for "concrete evidence" It's laughable. Especially when the signs are there. Her blatant disrespect & disloyalty has caused you "take a risk" that firmly puts her in control of your marriage.


● Start saving money from your job to get a new apartment.

The last thing you want is to wake up one day to find out your homeless. The only reasons you're not homeless already is because of one, your kids. And two, the dude fùcking her has no interest in taking her serious. He's using your precious wife as free fun.

But she might find someone else who will take her more seriously and they'll start plotting ways to kick you out.

On that note, save up some money. And take extra jobs so you can get a new apartment and move out.


● Get a female friend or two you can be seeing as well. Even better if she buys food for you or makes one.

Few things correct a girl's behaviour like jealousy. Let her know you have options and watch her behaviour slowly adjust.

Don't make her think you're fùcking them or suggest that. But highlight qualities in your new friends that you like and she's lacking. Qualities that'll make her a better wife and mother in the marriage.

If these women get you gifts or food, even better.


● Lastly, I'd consider the option of divorce or separation in my mind.

Cause without a doubt, she's cheating. But the third point I wrote above should her to act right.


To end it all, stop being a weak simp

if he divorces the woman, he’s coming back home to enjoy Tinubu shege

Wet in Una they see for that UK sef...

U deceive ur self with pounds wen after earning it and building big houses in naija..u still.live in mini flat in d UK..with Aboki living large in naija in ur house

Even if u earn big naira equivalent to pounds..u can't quickly come to naija and cut ur hair for 1k

Children are most likely going to turn out badder cuz of too much freedom nd waywardness common in the uk.

U live in constant fear of ur partner, lest they divorce u and turn ur live upside down through child care payments for 18years and more than 30yrs cumulatively for about 3children..

U will never get rich over there in the UK..u will always b a below middle class or middle class

U start to give urself emotional torture condoning cheating by ur wives because u fear deportation nd homlessness..

Abeg make una park well, if u must travel, b in ur youths...going as married is a no no ..

My submittion b this

Aesthetical:
if he divorces the woman, he’s coming back home to enjoy Tinubu shege

Imagine being deported on your dime because you know he paid for the whole process including her masters degree.

Mentholated:
He mentioned that they have 3 kids together. I do not know whether we should make comments on that or not for now. Should we inform him of the possibility of a deeper issue?

Lol 😆😆😆

Yes i think we should o

He will be thrown out of the house like a DOG without his children and that will be the last time he will ever set his eyes on his kids if they are actually his biological children♂️

Or didn't he know the laws of United kingdom regarding divorce cases before he brought a LovePeddler to abroad!!!!!

I hate to see some men end up like this😣😣😫

But what can we do You talk and talk and talk yet they wouldn't listen.... At last, they will still marry loose women and ex prostitutes after simping away their lives💯

All single guys out there, you can date anything on skirt but once you have made up your mind to marry..... Please go for Virgins and reserved girls e get why😕

You've always had a wife who doesn't listen to you. To make it worse she's found herself in an environment that made it worse. Be firm in ur decision. Don't pretend to like what you Don't condone.

Aesthetical:
if he divorces the woman, he’s coming back home to enjoy Tinubu shege

Well, it's a tough spot to be in all round. I guess he should stick out with jealousy tactics & using both families till he gets a backup plan that won't bring him back here

Anyways, just goes to show you how marrying the wrong woman can reduce you

I remember your previous thread. You're the same person who wrote about your wife's male friend who wanted to pee in your car on their way to the movies and she threw him a bottle to pee in. I don't have any advice for you again. People advised you on that thread. You also said on that thread that she had all these traits you're seeing in the U.K back in Nigeria and you put up with them for 10-years before moving yourselves to the U.K, so this is just who you married and there's no changing her. If this marriage is continuously detrimental to your sanity and happiness, then do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. Other than that, I really don't know what to tell you.

This one wife don slip comot his hands,because of UK.. So your mind tell you say she and those guy na just frds? She don dey cook go. Them go eat that one,eat the other one join.. Anyways na una know jare..

Dear fellow men, please prioritise yourself. It's very important.

Always be ahead with plan B, plan C and even plan D,E,F.....Be extra smart with women.

Don't underestimate the power of creating jealousy for your wife. I mean you should find female friends who are very successful.

WOMEN HATES COMPETITION

I would have been on my way to Nigeria since…thank God the kids are ok.

edimina:
I would have loved to make an intro of this post based on what people have had to say severally about bringing your wife to abroad, most especially the ones you knew must have been messing up in ways that one cant curb in Nigeria talkless of being abroad. This is a summary of whats going on with me now. So I arranged for us to move with student visa, shes the main applicant and myself and the 3 children are dependent. Its been a year and the half here now, and just 6 months into entering this country, my eye dun see shege from this woman. One thing I can actually hail and praise her for though is her delegence in taking care of the house, cook and all that. But I do my own bit too cos when shes out for work, I cook for the kids, I clean once in a while too and do what I can.

So after graduation, we got a sponsorship work VISA via the care home shes working for, though while she was a student, she was working in a daycare which was filled with white people, she always complained about how she could not cope with the white people’s culture and how she cant contribute their gist, so she was really happy that she had moved to this new place where she had met some Nigerians.

Now this is where the wahala is, she has 3 prominent friends there, 2 males and a female. So I noticed she picks up these dudes at home to work, pick the girl and do the same, then to make it worse, she will go ahead and still go drop them at home, when me dun dey house after work after taking care of the kids make I comot with car, she go come late and all that. Overtime this ish continued, so I told her one day, bae I don’t think it’s a good idea going to pick and drop this people all the time, because for the lady, her husband normally come around to pick her up and drop her off, but since them don see mugu, the guy totally stopped, so it became my madams task to run everytime they are on shift together. When I had this discussion with her, she complained that they are just friends that she may get the same help from later on, I was like am not saying you should not help, but don’t take it upon urself to be doing this all the time. All said and done she never listended to me and the deed continued to an extent that the husband of the lady had only given her money once, and maybe once from one of those guys and na me and am dey combine money to buy fuel. So it got a level where she begin dey carry food from house go give those guys, not all the time but sometimes. So yesterday jollof wey she cook, I was going to microwave in the morning to eat, I found out it was gone, I called to ask where the food was, she boldy told me that she had taken to her two male friends who told her they were hungry, I was now like why would u priortorize outsiders over your family, she sha change am sey sebi they too bring food that she eats blab la bla. And to even say that one of these dude is the one I created this thread about: the level of disrespect is unimaginable. Funny this is, after creating that above thread, a week after serious confrontation she had a feud with the guy and they stopped talking to each other, in which the guy stopped working at the place, but few days ago I got in from work and I saw that she was on call (speaker on) with this same guy, talking freely and giving me a no Give a F attitude, because I thought the only way she could have at least show me that she was remorseful was to cut permanent ties with that guy, but hell no. After her convo with the guy, she came to meet me that she hope that am not angry about her calling and talking to the guy, I was like its none of my biz, that I had important things to think about, in which it was indirect statement that I thought she would understand, omo from that day like this them dun start their friendship again,, to an extent I felt disrespected, disregarded and I started feeling theres more to what I have been thinking before. That aside, the other guy too, I noticed that one talks to her anyhow, though in a playful way. One day she came back from work and started complaining that the people that shes helping that they aren’t appreciating her, the started with the lady, that her husband does not even care again, only sent her money for fuel once, but the one that is hurting her most if the fact that this other dude that talks to her anyhow tried to implicate her at work, saying that he started yelling at her at the dinning where the old people are, that why haven’t u fed this woman, don’t u have grandma in the house, that he went as far as reporting her to one of the oldies that didn’t gave dementia that could have easily reported her to her manager which can out her work in jeopardy. I was like so have u served his sanction of not dropping and picking him again? She was like no oo, this happened last week, that shes still dropping him, I was like wow! She was like the reason is because the guy had come to prostrate to beg her, I was like how old is this dude, she said 26, and shes 36, omo I was in awe. Before any starts saying am not man enough, am a simp or weak, omo this country na were oo, he dey change SOME women. On a final note I have given her a mandate that she should stop picking or dropping anybody off at their respective homes, infact she should tell them that its my husband that said so. Story continues on the other new thread

If you think they are knacking your wife, you are right.

I have a very simple advice for you.
Start saving money that is not linked to your name or properties that is not linked to you directly.

If you have sense, you should know what o mean

Wahala for abroad people. You never see anything

Please lemme see her ugly fat picture. Na fat and ugly people dey look for attention bcus no one gives a fvck about them

edimina:
I would have loved to make an intro of this post based on what people have had to say severally about bringing your wife to abroad, most especially the ones you knew must have been messing up in ways that one cant curb in Nigeria talkless of being abroad. This is a summary of whats going on with me now. So I arranged for us to move with student visa, shes the main applicant and myself and the 3 children are dependent. Its been a year and the half here now, and just 6 months into entering this country, my eye dun see shege from this woman. One thing I can actually hail and praise her for though is her delegence in taking care of the house, cook and all that. But I do my own bit too cos when shes out for work, I cook for the kids, I clean once in a while too and do what I can.

So after graduation, we got a sponsorship work VISA via the care home shes working for, though while she was a student, she was working in a daycare which was filled with white people, she always complained about how she could not cope with the white people’s culture and how she cant contribute their gist, so she was really happy that she had moved to this new place where she had met some Nigerians.

Now this is where the wahala is, she has 3 prominent friends there, 2 males and a female. So I noticed she picks up these dudes at home to work, pick the girl and do the same, then to make it worse, she will go ahead and still go drop them at home, when me dun dey house after work after taking care of the kids make I comot with car, she go come late and all that. Overtime this ish continued, so I told her one day, bae I don’t think it’s a good idea going to pick and drop this people all the time, because for the lady, her husband normally come around to pick her up and drop her off, but since them don see mugu, the guy totally stopped, so it became my madams task to run everytime they are on shift together. When I had this discussion with her, she complained that they are just friends that she may get the same help from later on, I was like am not saying you should not help, but don’t take it upon urself to be doing this all the time. All said and done she never listended to me and the deed continued to an extent that the husband of the lady had only given her money once, and maybe once from one of those guys and na me and am dey combine money to buy fuel. So it got a level where she begin dey carry food from house go give those guys, not all the time but sometimes. So yesterday jollof wey she cook, I was going to microwave in the morning to eat, I found out it was gone, I called to ask where the food was, she boldy told me that she had taken to her two male friends who told her they were hungry, I was now like why would u priortorize outsiders over your family, she sha change am sey sebi they too bring food that she eats blab la bla. And to even say that one of these dude is the one I created this thread about: the level of disrespect is unimaginable. Funny this is, after creating that above thread, a week after serious confrontation she had a feud with the guy and they stopped talking to each other, in which the guy stopped working at the place, but few days ago I got in from work and I saw that she was on call (speaker on) with this same guy, talking freely and giving me a no Give a F attitude, because I thought the only way she could have at least show me that she was remorseful was to cut permanent ties with that guy, but hell no. After her convo with the guy, she came to meet me that she hope that am not angry about her calling and talking to the guy, I was like its none of my biz, that I had important things to think about, in which it was indirect statement that I thought she would understand, omo from that day like this them dun start their friendship again,, to an extent I felt disrespected, disregarded and I started feeling theres more to what I have been thinking before. That aside, the other guy too, I noticed that one talks to her anyhow, though in a playful way. One day she came back from work and started complaining that the people that shes helping that they aren’t appreciating her, the started with the lady, that her husband does not even care again, only sent her money for fuel once, but the one that is hurting her most if the fact that this other dude that talks to her anyhow tried to implicate her at work, saying that he started yelling at her at the dinning where the old people are, that why haven’t u fed this woman, don’t u have grandma in the house, that he went as far as reporting her to one of the oldies that didn’t gave dementia that could have easily reported her to her manager which can out her work in jeopardy. I was like so have u served his sanction of not dropping and picking him again? She was like no oo, this happened last week, that shes still dropping him, I was like wow! She was like the reason is because the guy had come to prostrate to beg her, I was like how old is this dude, she said 26, and shes 36, omo I was in awe. Before any starts saying am not man enough, am a simp or weak, omo this country na were oo, he dey change SOME women. On a final note I have given her a mandate that she should stop picking or dropping anybody off at their respective homes, infact she should tell them that its my husband that said so. Story continues on the other new thread

is not going to be easy to follow your instructiions. Boundaries were not set abinitio. My wife wanted same. I told her i will sell the car and collect my money. She now backtracked. You were not firm and she allowed this to go on for too long. Her friends are clearly opportunist and it seems your wife is not that smart. Probably you need to get another car for the family so that you are not affected. Also, tell her to cook special meals for her friends and not to take the family food. You have to let her learn the hard way

incogni2o:
This is a normal issue where you have to be a Man.

Pray for wisdom,caution and maturity.

Know Your Wife and Know Her cane.

Find an alternative, continue playing your role maturely, and leave her to her witts end.

She'll learn in time to run back to you.

You need to stop.

Rexymania:
Wahala for abroad people. You never see anything

Bad energy go far away.

Mentholated:
He mentioned that they have 3 kids together. I do not know whether we should make comments on that or not for now. Should we inform him of the possibility of a deeper issue?

Is the DNA home testing kit as effective as a Lab DNA test?

Op dem dey fvck your wife ... make you run coded DNA test on your kids just to confam if everywhere good.
Start planning for a life without your wife, save your funds...all without her knowledge.

MASTERCHIEF0847:
Op dem dey fvck your wife ... make you run coded DNA test on your kids just to confam if everywhere good.
Start planning for a life without your wife, save your funds...all without her knowledge.

ehen! i bin wan complain say nobody wan tell am say dem dey give him wife scissors style? Even double Bleep?

DiskJokeyManic:
36 year old woman vibing and even getting to drop a 26 year old boy at his crib always?😭😭
After she drop am,,, Dem fit even rush do quickie or 1 round befr she begin come back house😭😭

Ur wife might jst be a sugar mummy to that guy. That guy fit dey knack your Milf of a wife with reckless abandon oo😭😭

You’re wicked. You want to give the poor guy heart attack

There's a woman who got pregnant for her boyfriend here in naija while her husband was abroad, she has quickly ran to abroad to visit him so she can pin the pregnancy on him and she's already two months gone ooo. Fear women

This one is boldly doing it for her oga face.

Dtruthspeaker:
ehen! i bin wan complain say nobody wan tell am say dem dey give him wife scissors style? Even double Bleep?

The guy dey nyash her wella na why she dey feed am, imagine she carry the last portion of jollof rice wey her husband suppose chop go give the same guy SMH.

edimina:
■ I would have loved to make an intro of this post based on what people have had to say severally about bringing your wife to abroad, most especially the ones you knew must have been messing up in ways that one cant curb in Nigeria talkless of being abroad. This is a summary of whats going on with me now. So I arranged for us to move with student visa, shes the main applicant and myself and the 3 children are dependent. Its been a year and the half here now, and just 6 months into entering this country, my eye dun see shege from this woman. One thing I can actually hail and praise her for though is her delegence in taking care of the house, cook and all that. But I do my own bit too cos when shes out for work, I cook for the kids, I clean once in a while too and do what I can....

So you think your wife's changed due to outside influences? Something tells me that OP'S wife's own version of things will be completely different from all this here wey OP dey talk.

This is very wrong. Even if you want o be Mrs nice woman, not at the detriment of your family. Your wife is not mature and is trying to imbibe the western culture of this carefree attitude.

Tell her you don't want it unless she doesn't want this Marriage to continue.

You too be praying for your family. Make it s point of duty to have family prayers anytime you're free together.

It is well o.

delzbaba:
If a woman continues helping people without being appreciated she will soon stop the help, let her do that in her own time, with the other issues on ground, I feel that is her own way of adapting to a new society, she wants to connect with people apart from her family, I will advice you look for a church where Africans are many so that she can expand her friendship net and forget about those guys , in all be patient and supportive

This is what I feel aswell but bitter people here will rather hope its the worst. They don't understand cultural differences in the UK.Ppl at workplaces exchange food all the time.

They are ignoring that the wife equally feeds and drops off the other woman. That man doesn't get any special treatment.

If she was sleeping with him, why would he embarrass her at work by shouting at her? That is even an offence in itself, you don't shout at colleagues at work, you can get in trouble.

Double0h7:
Op stated that she was cheating, and disrespectful in Nigeria so please don’t blame the Uk because millions of women in the Uk are faithful to their husbands and children.

This woman was on some wild shi before op followed her (he’s the dependent on their visa) to the Uk. She’s probably pretty and thick in all the right places and a freak! That’s why op is on the internet crying while she’s living her best life with nothing to lose but a man she probably only picked for his money.

Which yeye money? Both of them are carers they don't earn shit.

That is why I don't believe she's cheating, what does that young boy have that her husband doesn't? Her husband may be a house husband now, but he won't be forever.