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illuminutty:
As in eh. Nonsense.

As the man of my house and home, if my partner caught me cheating, she is in trouble. If she is caught or I hear say she is cheating, she is gone. No time for nonsense.

Meanwhile, this hacker has been calling everyone in our group whatsapp trying to hack their phone. Please Be warned.

You both need psychological and spiritual help

If not for lazy entitled women, your type no suppose Dey open mouth where real women dey

Na your fellow man go shut you up

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Mr simp wehdone sir.

Jaycobbs:
She called your family, friends, colleagues... you'll never be able to win back the trust you lost. Even if you do, it won't be at the same level.

One very big issue staring you in the face is the long distance relationship you're having with your lawfully wedded wife. Either quit the job and find one closer to home, or arrange for your wife to live with you in the new location permanently, or for as long as the job requires.

Newlywed couple, y'all need to be spending as much time together as possible.

If your wife was around, you wouldn't have fallen into that trap. Make the move and make arrangements to always be together with your wife, show her your actions and she'll see you're serious about avoiding future temptations.

It won't be easy, but it's a first step.

If you're going to step out on your wife, at least do it with someone decent. I'm not condoning adultery, but nigga, if you missed the red flags in this your new side piece, then juggling multiple women is not for you because they'll probably both connive to kill you. You're better off remaining faithful to the Mrs.

"You got high"... Lol. Bro, is this the example you want to set for your kids? I don't know what got you high but as you can see, it probably doesn't have good effects, so maybe you should FVCKING GET RID OF THAT? I dunno.

You'll need to do a lot of begging. And the people who could have helped you might already be disappointed, so you may have to do most of the shii on your own. If you want her back, be ready to crawl.

There'll probably be lots of gifts, long talks, missed calls, and spending involved

Oh, and if she decides to revenge by cheating on you (who knows maybe you missed that red flag in your wife too), then don't complain because you set the ball rolling yourself.

Look for a male figure in her life she respects (pastor or something) and get them to set a meeting where you both talk.

If you want more couple's therapy, hmu.

If, against all odds, you're able to fix this, then keep your pants zipped, keep constant communication with your wife regardless of distance (you should make time to have at least thirty minutes to an hour of flirty, dirty conversation with your wife every day if you're separated by distance. This should keep the sexual spark in your marriage going), take steps to rid your mindset of cheating, and set up time to go for therapy with her to rebuild that trust you just casually threw away.

On point 💪

PROPEACE:
Did he tell you he didn't use condom? Why are you accusing him of inviting std?

Did he tell you he used condom? Does condom 100% prevent std?

You’re pathetic.

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand what the problem is? Did you send her to go through your phone? My rule is anytime you go through my phone, whatever you see take it like that. Ask me nothing cos I owe you nothing.

If she wants to go let her go. Don't beg her. Na cheat you cheat you no kill person.

Then stay silent single. No one is sucking it down your throat.Even abroad, if you are married and you cheat, it’s a big deal.

medropoly:
In summary of this all is that
marriage is over hyped in this country.

Lekan239:
if its my wife bank rolling me, yes I would forgive her

Shameless capping..

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

What a slowpoke

Maysdevices:
Na very big mumu dey marry your type

Are you trying to toast me❓❓😎😎😎



I nor like gossip, gossip, pokenosing
gurls & from the shape of your mouth
and the way your eyes dey move like NEPA meter, you are definitely one of them....


No be me tell your man to leave you,
so don't vent your anger on my innocent self..

Blood Clat!

Why you loose guard to that extent despite the fact it's obvious you have skeleton in your cupboard But anyways u're a man, u owe no explanation to anybody unless u're one of those useless SIMPs!

My own piece of advice is that you should beg her and promise never to repeat such, and if she no gree, kindly move on with your life and make sure you make more than enough money, *ajeh* you go see plenty babes Wey better pass her! I rest my case!!!

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand what the problem is? Did you send her to go through your phone? My rule is anytime you go through my phone, whatever you see take it like that. Ask me nothing cos I owe you nothing.

If she wants to go let her go. Don't beg her. Na cheat you cheat you no kill person.

Yes i understand your point, coming from African point of view⚠️

But to me, cheating is outdated.... If you have got a good wife at home, who's loving and loyal. Cheating on her will only disrupt the physical, emotional and spiritual energy of your home!!!

If your wife finds out you're seeing other women, a part of her love and commitment towards you automatically leaves her.

Before you know, you will be living with your enemy 💯

Stay faithful,
Stay blessed,
Marry only a virgin..

Biglittlelois:
Hopefully cheating is a deal breaker for your wife so that she will leave your sorry aśs, your marriage is not up to a year yet you're already inviting stds to infect her, iranu.

A man is never bound to a woman...u people should have sense....
If so, how did polygamy became so natural all over the world cultures

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Relax she'll come back when she cool down

Just put the blame on the devil

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

foolish is really bad.
Somebody that is having an illicit affairs cannot clear the chat.

Biglittlelois:
Hopefully cheating is a deal breaker for your wife so that she will leave your sorry aśs, your marriage is not up to a year yet you're already inviting stds to infect her, iranu.

So na STDS be your own problem in all this, STDs is treatable within just 2 week ma

My questions are; Where is she now? Her parent house!!! How old is she? She just run enter her parent house just like that. Are you both legally married? She should have handled it in a mature way.. She can still divorce you even without calling everyone immediately after the incident. Thats should be a red flag for a responsible man should in case shes trying to remarry. Anyway I pity her but she should have handled it better. Haba abi na Russian girl she be? Oga OP, you go suffer for this o not only because you've admitted your capital offence but the way you've handled it. She too go suffer.

buzquet:
Bro, you should not be ashamed. Just man up, apologise briefly to your wife. Don't be too emotional about it. She will constantly drag you into her emotional frame because of the issue.. resist the urge to explain. Whoever she has reported you to, if they call you, just apologise briefly and move on. Don't explain too much for anybody. Remain firm as a man you be. She will come around.


Please don't make mistake of trying to please her too much. Just make sure you pay all the bills as you dey pay am. Don't panic because if you panic, you will press self destruction button.


Women don't care about morality, they only care about if you are Strong Or Weak. If you are Strong, she will forgive you and move on. But If you are weak, she will severally punish you for it till death do una part. Stand strong, sir

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Mumu wash face and be the man

After all this na Africa
Both religion permit us to marry more
Culture approved it to
If you soft she go do you back

nairalanda1:
SO, why didn't he tell his wife before they get married that he was going to be sampling kpekus after they got married?

Do you know how many men have sampled kpekus and brought problem for their long suffering wives?

Plus, if he is free to sample kpekus, so is the woman. If a woman is willing to sleep with a married man, chances are, she is sleeping with other men too...danger ahead.

And after you people will come and be claiming 'am a christian'. Why follow a religion that pracicies monogamy, when you can be free to be a polygamist?

Plus, even in the days our forefathers were practicing polygamy, all of them properly married their wives before they sampled the kpekus. Not this one where one man turns himself into many women's latrine, as you seem to be advocating.

Christianity does not teach monogamy

Fake story

I'm speechless after realizing that your marriage was just 8 months old before you cheated on your spouse. I have no advice for you.

Bro even used canva to design front page

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand what the problem is? Did you send her to go through your phone? My rule is anytime you go through my phone, whatever you see take it like that. Ask me nothing cos I owe you nothing.

If she wants to go let her go. Don't beg her. Na cheat you cheat you no kill person.

There is a huge difference between a girlfriend and wife. She is his wife for crying out loud

buzquet:
Bro, you should not be ashamed. Just man up, apologise briefly to your wife. Don't be too emotional about it. She will constantly drag you into her emotional frame because of the issue.. resist the urge to explain. Whoever she has reported you to, if they call you, just apologise briefly and move on. Don't explain too much for anybody. Remain firm as a man you be. She will come around.


Please don't make mistake of trying to please her too much. Just make sure you pay all the bills as you dey pay am. Don't panic because if you panic, you will press self destruction button.


Women don't care about morality, they only care about if you are Strong Or Weak. If you are Strong, she will forgive you and move on. But If you are weak, she will severally punish you for it till death do una part. Stand strong, sir

Word of wisdom bro

DjoFjoSjo:
You advice him to gaslight her into believing what he did was good and she is the crazy one?

Yes...in the immediate that gets him out of the emotional pit and keeps his leadership in his marriage. - Two of the most important things I dare say in his relationship wit his wife.

If he is smart, he will know not to leave her out in the cold feeling gaslight and broken but I have learnt the best time to reason with a woman is when she is confused and in emotionally turmoil.

You create the confusion any which way in her head, and you will have a very compliant woman.

Kizzygentle:
Nothing like u were bored in a different city.. only a year of marriage and u Don dey misbehave. I hate cheats with all my heart.. if u caught your wife in same act and read the chats and hear the voice records of your wife moaning to another man. Will u forgive her? Sometimes let's put ourselves in our partners shoes or better still imagine it's u that caught your wife. Will u pardon her?
Better go and marry that babe that was moaning for u in the voice record. Ashewo

You are wrong. Go back to your books

cybertron88:
I no understand u op. While I don't condone cheating, if u really respect ur marriage u should be very deliberate about who u cheat with. Some of these hoes are sent out to destroy homes. A lot of these babes out dare are on revenge mission. I blame u for this. What happens to the street code of leaving no paper trails. U bleeped a random babe and u know ur wife was coming why can't u clear ur history. Most of u guys are the one making it look as if it is guys that cheat the most when it is the other way around. A girl will staff various guys under ur nose without u even knowing cos they know how to clear thier cache. Considering ur marriage is really new is the more reason why I feel like punching u in the face before giving u any advise.

You are also very wrong

Trueprophet91:
Christianity does not teach monogamy

It does.

You guys better stop excusing sleeping around anyway even if it did, because at the end, in proper polygamy, man marries woman properly before sleep with her.

At the very least the bible does not allow sleeping before proper marriage

I blame you sha...why would u keep her chat on your phone someone you're cheating with o wrong now,beg your wife she will accept but with one leg.

nairalanda1:
It does.

You guys better stop excusing sleeping around anyway even if it did, because at the end, in proper polygamy, man marries woman properly before sleep with her.

At the very least the bible does not allow sleeping before proper marriage

The bolded is false!
The rest is what you should actually be saying

Trueprophet91:
The bolded is false!
The rest is what you should actually be saying

But it does.

The Master laid it down. ' A man shall cleave unto his wife '. And the Master is , after all , God incarnate.


Didn't say wives.

If you want to follow a religion where you can marry wives go right ahead. I won't frown.

By God she will NEVER take you back. slowpoke.

Broken1985:
I must thank you for this.
Thanks for the care and time.
Lessons abound in your response and I am grateful.

I will keep you updated.

you will still cheat 1000 times again. You are just on a long thing, those telling you what you want to hear might not be helping you in real time, let your wife go because you are you will still do it again and again