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toxic feminist/ 9ja version of feminism

Farfalla:
Any woman who calls out bullshït is labelled a feminist in Naija.

Hell, any single woman with a good job is a feminist.

GloriousGbola:
to be frank he has a point.

the other day i was at a barbershop and there was a lagos radio talk show with a 'feminist' ranting
i actually got so irritated listening to her i asked them to change the channel, but they were already triggered and insisted on leaving it

all the lady did was blame men and complain and shutdown any male who called in. and at one point - she dropped the line - well that is the mans job! - which contradicted everything she had been complaining about

the men were all listening and also getting riled. so for anyone both male and female who has never actually been exposed to what feminism is, talk show hosts like this are selling a narrative - it is about blaming men for not doing their share in the house, while simultaneously telling same men it is their job and their job only to bring home the dough - and at the same time discounting or disregarding the chores that men do around the house.

in the days before the flood, it was a common argument on this platform where 'feminists' would argue that the mans money is for the family, while their money is for them to spend as they wish. basically emancipation without responsibility. and that unfortunately seems to be how a large number of women in the third world see feminism - as some sort of get out of jail card where you get get the benefits without the responsibility and expect to cherry pick responsibilities.

Konquest:
How's it going?

So, a bro from Fresh n' Fit hit the bull's eye with an Escort?... *Smirk*

Sholaye Jeremi (the biological father of her son) ain't NO deadbeat. Sholaye is a financially loaded dude who is a close friend and business associate of the Forbes-listed billionaire, Femi Otedola and more.

=>https://www.gistlover.com/popular-blogger-linda-ikeji-confirms-sholaye-jeremi-is-her-baby-daddy/

=>https://www.gistlover.com/linda-ikeji-reveals-how-sholaye-jeremi-got-her-pregnant-then-dumped-her-within-3-months/


Sholaye is of Itsekiri descent in Delta State (Itsekiris are a subgroup of the Yoruba folks with some Bini royal family immigration in the ancestral mix from the year 1488). Itsekiris and most African and global cultures are patriarchal, therefore children are supposed to use their fathers' family names on birth, school, and travel documents. Linda has absolutely NO right to use her own family name for her son despite the FACT that the relationship did not leading marriage.

lastkingsman:
You are lying 🤥

1Sharon:
I don't blame you, it's because I look very young and frolick with young people here.

Tatty tree good years is longer than you have been alive.

Show some respect 👵🏾

Farfalla:
Any woman who calls out on bullshït is labelled a feminist in Naija.

Hell, any single woman with a good job is a feminist.

ednut1:
toxic feminist spotted😁

1Sharon:
I don't blame you, it's because I look very young and frolick with young people here.

Tatty tree good years is longer than you have been alive.

Show some respect 👵🏾

Wotowotoman:
Madam please no vex but if that is you in your display, you don’t look very young oooo

1Sharon:
Hey, you good?


So it's this man? I thought it was dismissed as a rumour.


People even faked social media accounts of him, he had to even come out and say he wasn't even on social media. Yes he's rich allegedly, but that doesn't mean he has taking care of his son. Being a deadbeat, has nothing to do with money.

Has he publicly claimed the boy, have they even been sighted together? Has he dismissed Linda's allegation?

Enemyofpeace:
When you have a useless woman as a mother

Konquest:
How's it going?

So, a bro from Fresh n' Fit hit the bull's eye with an Escort?... *Smirk*

Sholaye Jeremi (the biological father of her son) ain't NO deadbeat. Sholaye is a financially loaded dude who is a close friend and business associate of the Forbes-listed billionaire, Femi Otedola and more.

=>https://www.gistlover.com/popular-blogger-linda-ikeji-confirms-sholaye-jeremi-is-her-baby-daddy/

=>https://www.gistlover.com/linda-ikeji-reveals-how-sholaye-jeremi-got-her-pregnant-then-dumped-her-within-3-months/


Sholaye is of Itsekiri descent in Delta State (Itsekiris are a subgroup of the Yoruba folks with some Bini royal family immigration in the ancestral mix from the year 1488). Itsekiris and most African and global cultures are patriarchal, therefore children are supposed to use their fathers' family names on birth, school, and travel documents. Linda has absolutely NO right to use her own family name for her son despite the FACT that the relationship did not lead to marriage.

Konquest:
@1Sharon, I'm doing great right here.

He sure is... NOT a false rumor. Sholaye is the subject matter here... lol.

Just a quick note: Typically the social media is filled with a lot of vile trolls and fake accounts created to fleece you of your money... Especially the elderly folks who not knowing the security implications of cyberspace just get carried away by pressing all kinds of Weblinks and visiting all kinds of secure and unsecure Websites on their mobile devices.
Once you become a public figure, expect to have several fake or cloned social media accounts even if you don't use social media... it's really a bad situation. I remember full well that the 1986 Nobel laureate winner, Professor Wole Soyinka, the former President Obasanjo, and several prominent folks worldwide have had fake Facebook, Twitter (now X), IG accounts and more created for them and these FIRST two men I mentioned are NOT even on the X social media platform according to the public alerts they sent out few years back!


Indeed, I typically refer to someone as a "deadbeat" for being LAZY because they try to avoid paying their debts. Deadbeat dads who don't pay child support because they are just LAZY to get a job or set up a business enterprise.

So, yes you made a valid point there about a "deadbeat" being not necessarily about the absence of riches, but a "deliberate neglect" of a child.

Aha! Sholaye initially accepted the boy in private and he visited Linda's parents which Linda also confirmed on her blog post, but his grouse was with Linda who allegedly was giving out some specifics to her followers in the public domain about their most intimate lives starting from when they first met in 2015 at a luxury hotel called Wheatbaker on Ikoyi Island in Lagos State. Linda also was aged 35 and Sholaye was 37 when they FIRST met. As of that time, she was getting worried that age wasn't on her side and I can say without a shadow of doubt that because of the maternal instinct, she deliberately got pregnant because time was ticking while she was headed for the "dreaded" 40 years of age and beyond. Some of those actions and inactions ticked Sholaye off and he began to distance himself emotionally from her.

I absolutely AGREE with your summations in your last paragraph that Sholaye has to make amends and "publicity" identify more with his son who is now 6 years old as of 2024. If he doesn't do that, the boy will get set in his ways and thinking and begin to RESENT his father. Sholaye is actually an easygoing guy, BUT he felt that by getting pregnant, Linda was moving too fast down the marriage route without that emotional connection OR attraction between both of them. As it turns out, both he and Linda (who is now 44) were NOT meant to be married. Linda especially has to EMBRACE the situation and NOT seek to poison the son's mind towards the father further after she went ahead to give the boy her own family name, which is a "strange" thing to do in a multicultural world and a ridiculous attempt to spite Sholaye. I expect both of them to revert the little boy's surname to his father's surname ASAP.

I wouldn't even mind if my woman keeps her maiden name (surname) after getting married for professional reasons OR uses a compound surname (her's and mine), but there's something MOST men won't negotiate away... and that is having their biological children bear their family surnames.


You take care.

Ciao.

Ogbuu101:
Yoruba ronu talk

Ogbuu101:
Most of the things you're saying are figments of your imaginations.

Give us a link where d said Sholawetin visited Linda's parents.

If he as little as does that,there's no way the child's will be named the maternal family's name.

No grandfather wants to have such a situation in his hands.
As little as "na me pregnant am oo,but I no wan marry her" is enough.
Then even if its 2k,send once in a while.
But if u deny responsibility for the pregnancy and don't pay upkeep,will they force you?

lightwind:
Linda my girlfriend that year for Fagba Junior Grammar school up to Sommori Comprehensive Senior High school... I finger this girl well well that year o. Then i was still living with my aunties dem i can't take her home 😐😌

Everytime happened inside classroom


SONCHOS that year

Mindlog:
It is not new generation mentality but cultural. Where she comes from, an unmarried woman's child bears her family's name and no stigma attached to it by the community.

Konquest:
"Around when I was about three months pregnant, he did come to see my parents and actually became very cool with my dad. They were literally exchanging Whatsapp messages every day. He later agreed to a traditional wedding which he didn’t follow through and then he switched. He began to treat me with so much hate and aggression that I and my family had to cut him off completely."

Konquest:
That's interesting but also an awkward and strange part of the Ibo culture at the same time. In multicultural settings where most global societies are patriarchal, a child born from a multiethnic parentage should logically bear the father's family.

We have a clash of cultures here where the young lady who is now aged 44 has given her now 6-year-old son her own family name while the real father is still alive living in the same visity with them right on Ikoyi Island, in Lagos.

1Sharon:
Lol. I actually don't believe he did any of this. This is just Linda trying to make a situation seem prettier than it is. These are all Linda's words. He still hasn't said anything and there aren't leaks or stories that back up what's she's saying. It's obvious a baby was her first priority with him and she's gotten it.

If she was intentful about her relationship with him, she should have made him claim her, court and marry her properly before getting pregnant.

I still insist, he isn't [not] owed the right to pass on his surname if he has washed his off hands of his son. It's justified for the boy to bear a name of people that claim and Iove him.

Mindlog:
I am Igbo and very comfortable with that culture, If marriage is not in the card. My community practices same.

Did you know, Davido had to traditionally marry Chioma before their son could be buried as an Adeleke because the boy was customarily an Ejiofor, belonged to Chioma's family as the time of death?

If a man intends being a baby daddy, it is wiser to restrict getting a woman within his tribe or tribes that aligns with his when it comes to procreation outside marriage.

Konquest:
Sholaye Jeremi just lost his 74-year-old mother in the month of May 2024.

He has a lot on his hands now with this family name drama from coming from Linda's end. I wonder if Sholaye's mother ever met the little boy before she passed on.

Read more BELOW:
=>https://guardian.ng/issue/oil-magnate-sholaye-jeremi-loses-mother/

I did read online from a mainstream media source where Sholaye through his media aide denied all the negative news and fake social media posts about his relationship with Linda and he stated that he has nothing to do with her while debunking the rumor that he owns an Instagram handle in the Weblink right below.

=>https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2018/09/28/linda-ikejis-alleged-significant-other-speaks-out/


In any event, reading her sob story in te second of two Weblink I provided in my last post to you on this thread, I absolutely think she deliberately got pregnant, and now that things didn't pan out for her in terms of marriage to Sholaye, she's been taking subtle jabs at him with her son bearing her family name.

But as things stand from what I have gathered before today, in Ibo culture, if you get one of their girls pregnant and you don't get married to her, then the child belongs to the girl's family until you pay the bride price and get married to her. That CULTURAL clash is on another level entirely tbh. Lol.

1Sharon:
It's obvious. Their relationship was just superficial. Well, if he's not acknowledging his son, why should Linda give him his surname, when she's the sole caregiver? If he wants to be a deadbeat, he can do that. But he's not entitled to pass on his name.

hammer567:
IF U GIVE PERSON BELLE, RUN, SHE CAN TAKE YOUR PIKIN AND RUN.


THIS IS IGBO CULTURE.


THEY ARE NOT RAISING ANY KID FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.


BETTER COME AND CARRY YOUR WIFE AND BABAY NOW, AFTER PAYING BRIDE PRICE.

Newyorkitis:
I'm not in support of impregnating a lady and running away neither am I in support of baby mama/daddy crap.
I'm only stating that no culture can pass that of the Nigerian Constitution.
If I impregnate an Igbo lady and I decide not to marry her while I bring money for the child's upkeep, Dem no born that culture to hold my child because I have been a responsible father.
Marriage is not by force.
But there's no running away from your offspring.

For example the igbo culture where women do not inherit property has been squashed by the supreme Court because that culture means that women are not equal under the law.
I hope you understand my point.

hammer567:
ONE SENTENCE, CUSTOMARY LAW IS CONSTITUTIONAL.

Newyorkitis:
I am not disputing that fact.
So why do people go from court to court?
You don't seem to get me the point.
The constitution is Supreme which means all other laws in the land cannot contest with it.
So you still think women can't inherit anything because Igbo culture says so?
My brother, we learn everyday.

Konquest:
Indeed... But in all these circumstances, these two should remember that an impressionable child is involved here. [b]No matter how upset a man feels about his wife (who he is about to di orce) or baby mama, he should NEVER punish his child or starve that child of fatherly love [/b]because the child would definitely ignore his/her father's needs and wants when they become aged (over 70 years) and they even transfer that aggression to their own biological kid's as well when they get married. The whole story just reinforces the need in everyone that thoughts are things and also to live in near-absolute harmony with one another.

By the way, I found the original link of Linda's expose on Sholaye on her blog. It's right below:

=>https://m.lindaikejisblog.com/2018/12/meet-my-son-jayceand-yes-sholaye-jeremi-is-his-dad.html


Enjoy the rest of your day in London.

Mindlog:
It is not new generation mentality but cultural. Where she comes from, an unmarried woman's child bears her family's name and no stigma attached to it by the community.

Arostar2023:
She was never married. You bear the name of the father in your life.

Whitecoal711:
Say who
It will hunt his son
Are you familiar with the word bastrd