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Two years ago, I got accepted into the Teach for Nigeria Fellowship an education inclined Non Governmental Organization that is committed to bridging the gap of educational inequality and providing quality education to children in underserved communities in Nigeria.

My first day in class I took notice of the exceptional ability of one of my kids and upon further inquiry I discovered that she was from the Northern part of the country. Her name was Aishat .

Aishat was uncommonly intelligent and what drew my attention to her most was her maturity. At ten she behaved way matured than her age.

One day, she came to me during break and told me that her father was against her education. He informed her that she won't go beyond primary school. As an ambitious girl she was down and it was visible as she wasn't herself again.

I encouraged her and told her that she don't need to worry herself. That she will be called a graduate one day.

Today I received a call from one of my colleagues that Aishat's father has perfected plans to give her into marriage to one Alhaji there in Ogun. The twist here is that I and my partner have already secured an all expenses scholarship for this girl for her secondary education from a guy that is based in Canada whom took interest in the work we were doing on the kids.
Since hearing the news I haven't been myself and can't imagined such a brilliant brain been wasted and her dreams cut short. Though I am out of the fellowship and presently not in Ogun but I have tried all I could to keep in touch with my kids.
Please, how can this girl get help?

The owner does what he likes with his thing.

Read that again

If its happening in the north then just remove your eyes

Na their way be that, the girl too old self

Meet the girls parents. Make the girls what a big opportunity this is and how much they stand to benefit if she goes to broad. Who knows? He may not be hard to convince.

FourQu:
If its happening in the north then just remove your eyes

Na their way be that, the girl too old self

Not necessarily always the case. Unlike women from the South, there aren't a lot of working class women in thr core northern parts of the country. Hence they don't see the need to go to school. Most of them just stop and secondary school and get married any many of the ones the make it to to tertiary institution still end up being full time housewives . Only a few who really know what they want strive extra hard to reach their desired goals.

Smh

burp18:
Meet the girl's parents. Make the girls what a big opportunity this is and how much they stand to benefit if she goes to broad. Who knows? He may not be hard to convince.

I have done that several times but the father is still adamant. He says that we must establish a business for him

joemag:
I have done that several times but the father is still adamant. He says that we must establish a business for him

What about the girl's mother?

joemag:
I have done that several times but the father is still adamant. He says that we must establish a business for him

Is that what he wants? Are you able to do that? Furthermore, can you have an agreement with him that once you do that, if you can remove the girl from his home (can she stay with you?) pending when she relocates? Also, get any necessary documents of hers, if they've them. This is to ensure they still don't marry her off and you can carry out your plan to relocate her without any disruptions from them.

TheWinterBird:
Is that what he wants? Are you able to do that? Furthermore, can you have an agreement with him that once you do that, if you can remove the girl from his home (can she stay with you?) pending when she relocates? Also, get any necessary documents of hers, if they've them. This is to ensure they still don't marry her off and you can carry out your plan to relocate her without any disruptions from them.

The thing is that I don't have enough to accept his demand. I feel he should be grateful for my efforts. This is what some parents will knee down and praise someone for. My pains is the innocent girl because I know the stuff she is made of.

burp18:
What about the girl's mother?

She is in support of her husband

Take the matter to human rights

joemag:
She is in support of her husband

this'll be hard.

As sad as it will be for you and the little brilliant girl, it is better for you, for her, and her parents of you just let her alone.

There is nothing you can do to win this matter - it is a cultural and religious thing. The whole North, both elite, religious leaders and politicians support this and will congregate to deal with you if you take drastic action against the parents' wishes.

If it were a Christian or somewhere in the south, it is easy to gain public sympathy and win, but in the North and with a Moslem, the public will be against you.

There are tons of situations like this that break my heart that I tried to help, but man, the threats are real. So for my own safety I let them be. There are some of them that will beg you to take their child so she can go to school, but believe me once she finishes secondary school and cleans up, a man is ready for her and that will be the end of that education and whatever dream she bears.

Afamsi:
Take the matter to human rights

Was there no human rights when Yerima, the then governor of Zamfara took an underage girl as wife under the sharia law he sign off for the state? So which human right are you talking about ?

This is both a religious and cultural matter!

BabbanBura:
As sad as it will be for you and the little brilliant girl, it is better for you, for her, and her parents of you just let her alone.

There is nothing you can do to win this matter - it is a cultural and religious thing. The whole North, both elite, religious leaders and politicians support this and will congregate to deal with you if you take drastic action against the parents' wishes.

If it were a Christian or somewhere in the south, it is easy to gain public sympathy and win, but in the North and with a Moslem, the public will be against you.

There are tons of situations like this that break my heart that I tried to help, but man, the threats are real. So for my safety, I let them be. Some of them will beg you to take their child so she can go to school, but believe me once she finishes secondary school and cleans up, a man is ready for her and that will be the end of that education and whatever dream she bears.

Op this is happening in Ogun. They have been in Ogun for the past 15 years. I thought the environment would affect the man but no way. the worst is that the mom is supporting the husband. I feel for the small girl. I am not presently in Ogun but for the sacrifices that I have made for her that my former colleagues deemed it fit to inform me about the stuff. Honestly, I feel for the girl and wish there is a way out for her

joemag:
Op this is happening in Ogun. They have been in Ogun for the past 15 years. I thought the environment would affect the man but no way. the worst is that the mom is supporting the husband. I feel for the small girl. I am not presently in Ogun but for the sacrifices that I have made for her that my former colleagues deemed it fit to inform me about the stuff. Honestly, I feel for the girl and wish there is a way out for her

I would suggest you hand of since the mother is totally in support of the decision and backed it up with religious views. So far it's their child.
You can force a horse to the river but you can't force it to drink water.
The girl is there seed and they know better.

Moreover if you were so concerned, there is no way you would prepare any scholarship (expenses scholarship) without involving NGOs and most especially the Parents. This makes you sound dubious

RealityKings:
I would suggest you hand of since the mother is totally in support of the decision and backed it up with religious views. So far it's their child.
You can force a horse to the river but you can't force it to drink water.
The girl is there seed and they know better.

Moreover if you were so concerned, there is no way you would prepare any scholarship (expenses scholarship) without involving NGOs and most especially the Parents. This makes you sound dubious

Sorry sir. you misunderstood my write-up. I never mentioned that the girl would be moving to Canada rather, I said that we have gotten someone from Canada who is ready to offer her a scholarship for her secondary education in Nigeria here. like a shepherd, I am just a concerned teacher who is pained about the plight of his pupil. Besides I am not even close to them to have imagined that I have any ulterior motives

FourQu:
If its happening in the north then just remove your eyes

Na their way be that, the girl too old self

Op, listen to this.

When she clocks 24, she will stay the man in his sleep. That would mean minus one terrorist for Nigeria.
Remember, every terrorist is a muslim.

burp18:
What about the girl's mother?

She won't have say, they only blab online infact most of us blab online offline we are the vermin we condem online, i watched a movie about child marriage, this kids give birth kid and have this sickness due to push durin childbirth that dy can't control pee and most turn smelly, same society that pushed this kids into such dillema end up humilating them, they become castaways omo if i turn leader i go turn dictator wey b say even satan go shiver there are sterotypes that can't be handled with with kids glove, even my family my senior sis no believe say i go zero to reason her, i hate sterotype and blind religion.

joemag:
I have done that several times but the father is still adamant. He says that we must establish a business for him

Just forget about it.

He is obviously a greedy man, he is more interested in his pocket than his daughter future. Nothing you do can satisfy him, since he believes he has secured a good price to sell her for and if anything happens to his daughter commodity, you will be in trouble.

joemag:
Two years ago, I got accepted into the Teach for Nigeria Fellowship an education inclined Non Governmental Organization that is committed to bridging the gap of educational inequality and providing quality education to children in underserved communities in Nigeria.

My first day in class I took notice of the exceptional ability of one of my kids and upon further inquiry I discovered that she was from the Northern part of the country. Her name was Aishat .

Aishat was uncommonly intelligent and what drew my attention to her most was her maturity. At ten she behaved way matured than her age.

One day, she came to me during break and told me that her father was against her education. He informed her that she won't go beyond primary school. As an ambitious girl she was down and it was visible as she wasn't herself again.

I encouraged her and told her that she don't need to worry herself. That she will be called a graduate one day.

Today I received a call from one of my colleagues that Aishat's father has perfected plans to give her into marriage to one Alhaji there in Ogun. The twist here is that I and my partner have already secured an all expenses scholarship for this girl for her secondary education from a guy that is based in Canada whom took interest in the work we were doing on the kids.
Since hearing the news I haven't been myself and can't imagined such a brilliant brain been wasted and her dreams cut short. Though I am out of the fellowship and presently not in Ogun but I have tried all I could to keep in touch with my kids.
Please, how can this girl get help?

You no dey talk about the Child marriage, wey dey happen for your backyard for South East?

Godons1:
You no dey talk about the Child marriage, wey dey happen for your backyard for South East?

Guy don't come and display your level of ignorance on a public forum as this. Go through the write up again. Note, I am not from the eastern part of the country. We mustn't bring tribe into everything.

joemag:
Guy don't come and display your level of ignorance on a public forum as this. Go through the write up again. Note, I am not from the eastern part of the country. We mustn't bring tribe into everything.

Like I said, the same thing dey happen for ya backyard (the South). You choose not to talk about what's happening in your Region (South), but na North own you carry for head like Gala.

Today is Sunday. The bible said, remove that big log of Tree in ya eyes, before you remove the tiny broom in someone's eye.

joemag:
Two years ago, I got accepted into the Teach for Nigeria Fellowship an education inclined Non Governmental Organization that is committed to bridging the gap of educational inequality and providing quality education to children in underserved communities in Nigeria.

My first day in class I took notice of the exceptional ability of one of my kids and upon further inquiry I discovered that she was from the Northern part of the country. Her name was Aishat .

Aishat was uncommonly intelligent and what drew my attention to her most was her maturity. At ten she behaved way matured than her age.

One day, she came to me during break and told me that her father was against her education. He informed her that she won't go beyond primary school. As an ambitious girl she was down and it was visible as she wasn't herself again.

I encouraged her and told her that she don't need to worry herself. That she will be called a graduate one day.

Today I received a call from one of my colleagues that Aishat's father has perfected plans to give her into marriage to one Alhaji there in Ogun. The twist here is that I and my partner have already secured an all expenses scholarship for this girl for her secondary education from a guy that is based in Canada whom took interest in the work we were doing on the kids.
Since hearing the news I haven't been myself and can't imagined such a brilliant brain been wasted and her dreams cut short. Though I am out of the fellowship and presently not in Ogun but I have tried all I could to keep in touch with my kids.
Please, how can this girl get help?

What do you stand to gain?

You should have gone to meet her parent with some respectful elders immediately you secured the scholarship na

Godons1:
Like I said, the same thing dey happen for ya backyard (the South). You choose not to talk about what's happening in your Region (South), but na North own you carry for head like Gala.

Today is Sunday. The bible said, remove that big log of Tree in ya eyes, before you remove the tiny broom in someone's eye.

The same thing that I am saying. I am not even from the southern part of the country. Geographically I am from the north. However, the said family is living in Ogun where I happened to do a two-year teaching fellowship. Teachers are just beings who love the progress of their students and it is on this premise that the write-up was birthed. The aim is to seek ideas from others since I have exhausted those I think will pull through. Losing such a brain is my major concern because I know with the early marriage her potential will be decimated and may not manifest again.

tanigororo:
What do you stand to gain?

how? sir please can you go over the write-up again?

joemag:
The same thing that I am saying. I am not even from the southern part of the country. Geographically I am from the north. However, the said family is living in Ogun where I happened to do a two-year teaching fellowship. Teachers are just beings who love the progress of their students and it is on this premise that the write-up was birthed. The aim is to seek ideas from others since I have exhausted those I think will pull through. Losing such a brain is my major concern because I know with the early marriage her potential will be decimated and may not manifest again.

Okay, Weldon.