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Five years after he brought her to Italy, he lost the house to his chaotic divorced wife

A forty-plus-year-old man who brought his wife to Italy five years ago gets divorced and loses his home.

The man’s identity as an uncle was disclosed by Pumba, an online user who posted the story.
Pumba claimed that his uncle had lived alone in Italy for forty years. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

At a specific moment, he had gone back to Ghana in order to bring his wife to Europe.

After five years, Pumba disclosed, the man and his wife had a falling out, and she had divorced him.

It was reported that the man lost his home, which is currently occupied by his ex-wife and another man.

Pumba wrote:

“Ma uncle has been in Italy for over 40 years. He came to pick his wife from Ghana go norrr, less than 5 years the woman divorce am make the government take ein house give the woman.
Now he’s renting. Now the woman lives in HIS house with another man.”

https://eyesoflagos.com/2024/06/22/five-years-after-he-brought-her-to-italy-he-lost-the-house-to-his-chaotic-divorced-wife/


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This is one of the reasons I always advocate for men to learn some African science. How could you labour for 40 years and allow a woman you bring abroad to chase you out, inherit all you have labour for and start enjoying it with another man. This is a big slap on your face as an African man if all you could do in a situation like this is just to cry around.

African men should wake up, let go back to our roots in dealing with situations like this. Every man should learn how to lock his wife and make her love and submissive to you forever. Get close to elders and let them show you how to go about it.

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CastedNairaland:
Somebody said God has forgotten men.

How ?

No be another man take over from him?

For 40 years he lived in Italy, he couldn't find a woman in Europe to marry,?

Fear who doesnt fear women

Another throwaway twitter story

oldguyman:
This is one of the reasons I always advocate for men to learn some African science. How could you labour for 40 years and allow a woman you bring abroad to chase you out, inherit all you have labour for and start enjoying it with another man. This is a big slap on your face as an African man if all you could do in a situation like this is just to cry around.

African men should wake up, let go back to our roots in dealing with situations like this. Every man should learn how to lock his wife and make her love and submissive to you forever. Get close to elders and let them show you how to go about it.

Yes, somebody should please help us lock that useless jennyclay....yes..

Importation gone wrong lol

If any woman can do this to any man, especially a forty-something-year-old man, then he probably is not very bright.

Living in the west has its own set of rules. Understand the law, and work with it. Always bring your wife abroad if you have to, but make sure you have downloaded marital penal codes and read it like a bible, so you understand how your case would be accessed if divorce happens.

If you are riding a car, you wear a seatbelt even if you won't get an accident, it's the same thing with marriage, you prepare for the worst.

It is extremely foolish to enter a union where a person who breaks that union is rewarded when it could be avoided if you just understand how the law works.

There are many ways a woman won't get even 1 kobo if she divorced a billionaire. In fact, it is her money that would be shared between the billionaire and her. Knowledge is power.

haphizz57:
Fear who doesnt fear women

Fear comes from ignorance.

If I am a billionaire and my wife divorced me, one naira she won't see unless it is me and her that build our wealth together. Any money she gets from me will be at my discretion, not because she and some lawyer want to embezzle me. I am an educated man.

One thing every man should make a hobby is legal affairs and law. Everything is written on paper. Then you will see many loopholes and how to get around stuff.

pansophist:
Importation gone wrong lol

If any woman can do this to any man, especially a forty-something-year-old man, then he probably is not very bright.

Living in the west has its own set of rules. Understand the law, and work with it. Always bring your wife abroad if you have to, but make sure you have downloaded marital penal codes and read it like a bible, so you understand how your case would be accessed if divorce happens.

If you are riding a car, you wear a seatbelt even if you won't get an accident, it's the same thing with marriage, you prepare for the worst.

It is extremely foolish to enter a union where a person who breaks that union is rewarded when it could be avoided if you just understand how the law works.

There are many ways a woman won't get even 1 kobo if she divorced a billionaire. In fact, it is her money that would be shared between the billionaire and her. Knowledge is power.

Are you referring to a legal document known as a prenuptial agreement. I have no idea where the woman will get nothing,except it is clearly specified in the prenuptial agreement and I don't think any woman in her right senses would sign that.

Thanks for sharing that route bro.

She was sent from the pit of hell, and he fell in love with her. 40 years of sweat gone in the space of 5 years.

Marrying the wrong partner can make you die early.

harmony940:
Are you referring to a legal document known as a prenuptial agreement. I have no idea where the woman will get nothing,except it is clearly specified in the prenuptial agreement and I don't think any woman in her right senses would sign that.

Thanks for sharing that route bro.

Not prenuptial agreement. There are ways one can secure their assets after divorce. The ''Hakimi route'' is one. The houses, cars assets, etc, you enjoy should be under a company name that belongs to a trusted family member (mother or adult child).

Have a business ATM card from the company and spend from there. Live lavishly as you want, but make sure all your spending, holiday trips, etc are declared as business expenses. Your salary should probably be the minimum wage, so like 100k naira. That's your real earnings and everything you have.

The assets that a court will share between spouses are personal assets. They can't give a company car to her, that's theft. So though you earn 100k, your lifestyle is of a wealthy individual. That is how lots of businessmen don't pay tax much.

For example, you pay more tax percentage-wise than Jeff Bezos, who is the wealthiest man in the world lol. So during divorce, it is from your 100k salary they will use to make any calculations. So in reality, you are broke

Since Women have learned to shoot without missing, men should learned to fly without perching.' Two can play this game

When couples stay apart for a short period, the love starts getting weak, when they stay apart for long periods, the love starts dying. Living abroad for 40 years without his wife, just know that the love was dead , they were both strangers living together in Italy, anything can happen under such situation . As a man, when you are not planning to travel immediately with your wife, or no plan to bring her within the shortest period, both of you should go your separate way.

pansophist:
Not prenuptial agreement. There are ways one can secure their assets after divorce. The ''Hakimi route'' is one. The houses, cars assets, etc, you enjoy should be under a company name that belongs to a trusted family member (mother or adult child).

Have a business ATM card from the company and spend from there. Live lavishly as you want, but make sure all your spending, holiday trips, etc are declared as business expenses. Your salary should probably be the minimum wage, so like 100k naira. That's your real earnings and everything you have.

The assets that a court will share between spouses are personal assets. They can't give a company car to her, that's theft. So though you earn 100k, your lifestyle is of a wealthy individual. That is how lots of businessmen don't pay tax much.

For example, you pay more tax percentage-wise than Jeff Bezos, who is the wealthiest man in the world lol. So during divorce, it is from your 100k salary they will use to make any calculations. So in reality, you are broke

Since Women have learned to shoot without missing, men should learned to fly without perching.' Two can play this game

I'm curious though, how was Bezos ex-wife able to cart away with so much during their divorce.

Karleb:
I'm curious though, how was Bezos ex-wife able to cart away with so much during their divorce.

No Idea man. I will assume she has shares in his company because she carts away with ALOT.

Karleb:
I'm curious though, how was Bezos ex-wife able to cart away with so much during their divorce.

She worked and invested in the firm during its early days.

Some women are evil

pansophist:
Not prenuptial agreement. There are ways one can secure their assets after divorce. The ''Hakimi route'' is one. The houses, cars assets, etc, you enjoy should be under a company name that belongs to a trusted family member (mother or adult child).

Have a business ATM card from the company and spend from there. Live lavishly as you want, but make sure all your spending, holiday trips, etc are declared as business expenses. Your salary should probably be the minimum wage, so like 100k naira. That's your real earnings and everything you have.

The assets that a court will share between spouses are personal assets. They can't give a company car to her, that's theft. So though you earn 100k, your lifestyle is of a wealthy individual. That is how lots of businessmen don't pay tax much.

For example, you pay more tax percentage-wise than Jeff Bezos, who is the wealthiest man in the world lol. So during divorce, it is from your 100k salary they will use to make any calculations. So in reality, you are broke

Since Women have learned to shoot without missing, men should learned to fly without perching.' Two can play this game

Hehe.
For one, the Hakimi has largely not been corroborated by any media house of repute. It's mainly blogs passing it across.
If it was that easy, billionaires with the best accountants in the world would not be having lots if their wealth taken duting a messy divorce. Most of those billionaires already have most of their wealth in companies/tax shelters but they still don't escape divorce settlement. If it was true, you'd expect the tax authorities to be up his a** very soon and potentially a prison sentence for tax evasion.

First, you have to be in a certain niche to earn your income as a ltd co. Even more, ltd co assets are regarded as marriage assets and hence split during a divorce.
Its similar to prenups. Those are not worth much in many western countries and if deemed unfairly written can even land one in trouble.

It's also worth remembering that the divorce rules in the West were not forced upon them. Its not like they were speaking one language and someone came and said Hey! You must speak my language. They willfully made such rules and ways to safeguard against abuse. Just like tax most ways the common man would think of getting around these laws have already been thought about 20yrs ago and provisions made against it. I am not saying there are not ways around certain things but its hardly ever that straightforward. What you should ask yourself is what led to western nations adopting this change?

Mindlog:
For 40 years he lived in Italy, he couldn't find a woman in Europe to marry,?

Hehe if true, then that should be the question.

Maybe Italian ladies or Nigerian in Italy were not 'submissive' enough hence he went in search of a village lady he can oppress. Reminds me of Sen. Ekweremmadus' ordeal

pansophist:
Not prenuptial agreement. There are ways one can secure their assets after divorce. The ''Hakimi route'' is one. The houses, cars assets, etc, you enjoy should be under a company name that belongs to a trusted family member (mother or adult child).

Have a business ATM card from the company and spend from there. Live lavishly as you want, but make sure all your spending, holiday trips, etc are declared as business expenses. Your salary should probably be the minimum wage, so like 100k naira. That's your real earnings and everything you have.

The assets that a court will share between spouses are personal assets. They can't give a company car to her, that's theft. So though you earn 100k, your lifestyle is of a wealthy individual. That is how lots of businessmen don't pay tax much.

For example, you pay more tax percentage-wise than Jeff Bezos, who is the wealthiest man in the world lol. So during divorce, it is from your 100k salary they will use to make any calculations. So in reality, you are broke

Since Women have learned to shoot without missing, men should learned to fly without perching.' Two can play this game

Gbamsulotely, end of thread, next news jare

Na wa o

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Oga, how were you treating your wife in the marriage? Even if he was in Nigeria, his marriage may have still failed, though he wouldn't lose his house. Thanks heavens for Western culture which protects women from p00rly raised husbands.

Are all these loopholes not for people who have premarital assets to safeguard?

The reason why your average Nigerian man abroad is not doing it because it can only happen in his dreams.

The women they are claiming are coming to cart away their property helped build said properties. They didn’t get wealthy until they got married and by the power of combined income their collective wealth grew. Hence they can’t claim it belongs to them alone.

But they’ll come on the internet and sell y’all lamba and you’ll believe it.

pansophist:
Not prenuptial agreement. There are ways one can secure their assets after divorce. The ''Hakimi route'' is one. The houses, cars assets, etc, you enjoy should be under a company name that belongs to a trusted family member (mother or adult child).

Have a business ATM card from the company and spend from there. Live lavishly as you want, but make sure all your spending, holiday trips, etc are declared as business expenses. Your salary should probably be the minimum wage, so like 100k naira. That's your real earnings and everything you have.

The assets that a court will share between spouses are personal assets. They can't give a company car to her, that's theft. So though you earn 100k, your lifestyle is of a wealthy individual. That is how lots of businessmen don't pay tax much.

For example, you pay more tax percentage-wise than Jeff Bezos, who is the wealthiest man in the world lol. So during divorce, it is from your 100k salary they will use to make any calculations. So in reality, you are broke

Since Women have learned to shoot without missing, men should learned to fly without perching.' Two can play this game

Mindlog:
For 40 years he lived in Italy, he couldn't find a woman in Europe to marry,?

Excellent question!

cococandy:
Are all these loopholes not for people who have premarital assets to safeguard?

The reason why your average Nigerian man abroad is not doing it because it can only happen in his dreams.

The women they are claiming are coming to cart away their property helped build said properties. They didn’t get wealthy until they got married and by the power of combined income their collective wealth grew. Hence they can’t claim it belongs to them alone.

But they’ll come on the internet and sell y’all lamba and you’ll believe it.

I am all for justice. My post refers to women who strictly got married to divorce and cash out big. Women in the West do this a lot. It is not news.

If a wife and her husband built their wealth together, then for God's sake, they should share it proportionally to their contribution. She should and must not be cheated from her sowings.

jedisco:
Hehe.
For one, the Hakimi has largely not been corroborated by any media house of repute. It's mainly blogs passing it across.
If it was that easy, billionaires with the best accountants in the world would not be having lots if their wealth taken duting a messy divorce. Most of those billionaires already have most of their wealth in companies/tax shelters but they still don't escape divorce settlement. If it was true, you'd expect the tax authorities to be up his a** very soon and potentially a prison sentence for tax evasion.

First, you have to be in a certain niche to earn your income as a ltd co. Even more, ltd co assets are regarded as marriage assets and hence split during a divorce.
Its similar to prenups. Those are not worth much in many western countries and if deemed unfairly written can even land one in trouble.

It's also worth remembering that the divorce rules in the West were not forced upon them. Its not like they were speaking one language and someone came and said Hey! You must speak my language. They willfully made such rules and ways to safeguard against abuse. Just like tax most ways the common man would think of getting around these laws have already been thought about 20yrs ago and provisions made against it. I am not saying there are not ways around certain things but its hardly ever that straightforward. What you should ask yourself is what led to western nations adopting this change?

You saw where I wrote that the LLC doesn't have to be in the man's name right? How on earth will any court give the property of one to the other?

SO yes, if the LLC is under his name then it can be taken into consideration, not when it's in your mother's name, or dog name even.

pansophist:
Fear comes from ignorance.

If I am a billionaire and my wife divorced me, one naira she won't see unless it is me and her that build our wealth together. Any money she gets from me will be at my discretion, not because she and some lawyer want to embezzle me. I am an educated man.

One thing every man should make a hobby is legal affairs and law. Everything is written on paper. Then you will see many loopholes and how to get around stuff.

Not in obodoyinbo. Dey go suprise u

pansophist:
I am all for justice. My post refers to women who strictly got married to divorce and cash out big. Women in the West do this a lot. It is not news.

If a wife and her husband built their wealth together, then for God's sake, they should share it proportionally to their contribution. She should and must not be cheated from her sowings.

@bold and those aren’t the type of women these NL posts are talking about if we are being honest.

They are often talking a regular guy who has a regular job married to his regular wife who is often financially his peer.

The men who are worried about gold diggers coming after them are the ones who don’t even fit into the category of having assets to protect. If they were, they would already have property managers, investment advisers and accountants who would already be working for them helping them protect their assets not only from prospective manipulative spouses but from the general litigious public.

Those their uncles whose stories they keep bringing to NL are often depending on the wives they marry to contribute financially to keep the homes afloat. BTW This is not a bad thing at all.

But when divorce happens they’re quick to come to the internet to talk about how she took everything. It just stems from a bad habit of having no regard for women’s contributions in marriages.

Gerrard59:
She worked and invested in the firm during its early days.

Apart from that, Jeff is probably not bothered about the money given to her, I just confirmed now and his net worth is currently at 203.5 billion USD. So that 30 billion dollars should be simple to let go.

I find that extremely wealthy people do not have problems losing some funds via divorce, it is average millionaires like with (1M dollars net worth etc) that becomes broke.

pansophist:
I am all for justice. My post refers to women who strictly got married to divorce and cash out big. Women in the West do this a lot. It is not news.

If a wife and her husband built their wealth together, then for God's sake, they should share it proportionally to their contribution. She should and must not be cheated from her sowings.

Extremely wealthy men do not really care about loss during divorce, 30 billion to Jeff Bezos for his ex-wife is nothing.

The people who worry about divorce are actually those who have little to lose eg: 1 Million dollars millionaire or perhaps people like me who are mere thousandaires in dollars.

But women see it the other way round.