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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Iamzik: 10:57am On Jun 30, 2024

GeneralOjukwu:

Pastor work na dream job.

Free sex and free tithes. Then the husbands thank you for it.

Weyrey!

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by LordReed(m): 11:00am On Jun 30, 2024

Daejumong:
He fell into fornication,got publicly rebuked, disgraced and demoted by the church and the rest is history ! The true life story of a Christian Youth leader in Nigeria.

Brother K was a devout, fervent Christian believer and worker in the church. He served in the Youth department where he helped groom adolescents and teenagers in the way of the Lord in church!

He was tall,strikingly handsome and a smart dresser! Even though he attended a church with strict laws on modest dressing , he made sure his modest outfits were well ironed and starched. He loved God! He was in church almost every evening after working as a teacher in the day! He was loved and admired by all! He was in his late twenties and single.

He was the only Born again Christian in his family. He however mistakenly fell into fornication! The news got to the church leadership and they took decisive actions.

The church pastor called him out during Sunday service and told the whole church how he fell into fornication, stripped him of his position, asked people to avoid him and that He prays God would restore him!

Bro K was shattered. He wished the ground could open and swallow him! The embarrassment was too much for him to bear! All the young guys and converts he taught in church looked at him with disdain and disappointment!

He continued coming to the church in the weeks that followed but you could see he was depressed. He avoided eye contact and became reclusive. Everyone avoided him - Nobody wanted to be seen with a publicly condemned sinner and backslider!

About three months after the public rebuke, he couldn’t take it any longer! The mental torture was too much and he decided that rather than commit suicide he would leave church and Christianity and go into the world and find solace !

Bro K transitioned into a playboy! He used women to cure his depression! They loved him and helped him heal when the church deserted him! He hasn’t returned to the church, the last I heard of him!

2 Timothy 2:25
25 Be gentle when you try to teach those who are against what you say. God may change their hearts so they will turn to the truth.

And there was no attempt to rehabilitate him and show that his mistake is not the end? What a sad set of people.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Segzy19: 11:02am On Jun 30, 2024

Thank God he didn't commit suicide. Grace can still find him.

What happens to correcting in love instead of open castigation and condemnation....?

Even the woman that had multiple men in the bible, Jesus didn't condemn the women. In fact, he saved the woman from condemnation but warned her to go and sin no more.....

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Brenbentondiaz: 11:05am On Jun 30, 2024

Templee333:
How many people in the church cared about the personal challenges of brother K? How many people knew what led to the so called fornication of brother K? Finally, how many elderly people in the church didn't have girlfriends when they were at the same age of brother K?

You mind those hypocrites? The major problem many Christians are facing is from the "church". "Pastors" and "church" people are forcing more people out of Christianity than the world. Personally I'm a Christian, but I don't take organized religion and their bands of manipulators seriously.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Davo2080: 11:23am On Jun 30, 2024

Daejumong:
He fell into fornication,got publicly rebuked, disgraced and demoted by the church and the rest is history ! The true life story of a Christian Youth leader in Nigeria.

Brother K was a devout, fervent Christian believer and worker in the church. He served in the Youth department where he helped groom adolescents and teenagers in the way of the Lord in church! Correction must be done in love for you to achieve the result, which is saving the person soul,I dont believe I'm public show of rebuke as xireecrion

He was tall,strikingly handsome and a smart dresser! Even though he attended a church with strict laws on modest dressing , he made sure his modest outfits were well ironed and starched. He loved God! He was in church almost every evening after working as a teacher in the day! He was loved and admired by all! He was in his late twenties and single.

He was the only Born again Christian in his family. He however mistakenly fell into fornication! The news got to the church leadership and they took decisive actions.

The church pastor called him out during Sunday service and told the whole church how he fell into fornication, stripped him of his position, asked people to avoid him and that He prays God would restore him!

Bro K was shattered. He wished the ground could open and swallow him! The embarrassment was too much for him to bear! All the young guys and converts he taught in church looked at him with disdain and disappointment!

He continued coming to the church in the weeks that followed but you could see he was depressed. He avoided eye contact and became reclusive. Everyone avoided him - Nobody wanted to be seen with a publicly condemned sinner and backslider!

About three months after the public rebuke, he couldn’t take it any longer! The mental torture was too much and he decided that rather than commit suicide he would leave church and Christianity and go into the world and find solace !

Bro K transitioned into a playboy! He used women to cure his depression! They loved him and helped him heal when the church deserted him! He hasn’t returned to the church, the last I heard of him!

2 Timothy 2:25
25 Be gentle when you try to teach those who are against what you say. God may change their hearts so they will turn to the truth.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Righteousness2(m): 11:24am On Jun 30, 2024

Ayokequeen:
Bro You're one of the few persons I like and respect on this platform but to be candid with you sir, I don't support and I vehemently dislike your opinion on this matter.

Many churches through the leadership these days have driven away from the tenets and the foundation of Christ. If you ask me a hundred time what would be the reaction of Christ on this matter I will say it's in the other way round.

In as much as backsliding is not condoned in the kingdom, there's every possibility of a righteous man falling (it's only the grace that keeps us all standing).

You see wickedness and hypocrisy are eating up the church and unfortunately many leaders think they're gathering for Christ but rather they're scattering from Him.

Don't you remember how many time bro Peter misbehaved and fell and Jesus was still lenient with him even after the death of Jesus he went back but Jesus in His mercy and love still brought him back.

Remember there is joy in heaven for a sinner that repent but what happens when we use our hands to put the sinner away to keep sinning?

Constructive discipline is what Jesus practiced, He never chased anyone to hell because of their misdid. He even gave Judas Iscariot a chance to repent but the dude was hardened, insensitive and hellbent.

The truth is every believer will keep growing until we meet with Christ. The grown ones have gone! God bless you.

You have a great point, i must admit.
There are places where it is taken to an exterme. That is human behaviour for you. The bible says the Heart of man is naturally evil. There are people who may go to the extreme and cause more harm to the victim.

Personally, i will say boils down to the indivdual.

If I for example mess up and i being disciplined. With what by the grace of God, i know and understand today! I will take the Discipline and make peace with GOD.

No matter the talks and reproach from anyone, I will make peace with JESUS .
If i am restored to the post, good.
If i am not, no problem.

I will rather be the least known or respected member as long as I have made peace with GOD.

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by zebszebs: 11:29am On Jun 30, 2024

This reads like an often repeated to ad nauseam storyline from that religious scammer and judgement day alarmist Mike Bamiloye, who uses made up stories to instill fear in people about the so-called judgement day.

Abeg GTFOH, everyone fvcks, even the pastor who tells you not to, has multiple sidechics

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Righteousness2(m): 11:30am On Jun 30, 2024*

ttmax09:
Where in the bible did Jesus rebuke someone cause of sin? Didn't the story of the harlot who was condemned to death teach you guys anything? You lot just read the bible in your own understanding. You had better cultivate a genuine relationship with the holy spirit, to understand the scriptures and drop religion aside. Should you or anybody need help on that, you can email me.

When you dont study the Word of God, you Misquote Scriptures.

There is a difference between a Sinner who needs to be saved and Someone who is Saved, holding a position of authourity in the Church.

To whom much is given, much is expected.

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Bossly: 11:30am On Jun 30, 2024

Open rebuke by adulterous & sinful church "leaders" is hypocrisy taken too far.

Righteousness2:
Rebuke in the Church of GOD is very well in place and Biblical.

Rebuke is For Correction and should be done in love.

No matter what you are in the church or what you are doing in the Church, a true Believer, who has A TRUE FEAR of GOD, Whether G.O, Pastor, leader , etc who falls to the craftiness of the devil and is being disciplined will not leave the church in anger.
He/ She will give in to the discipline, and take the time to make amends and get restored to GOD.

Your Soul in Eternity is much more than Whatever Title you hold in the church.
If you have know and Understand the Importance of your soul in Eternity, you will Personally give up whatever title or Position in the Church and give yourself to Reconcilation with GOD.

Title or Position CANNOT and will not take anyone to Heaven.
It is better to be an Ordinary Member going to Heaven, than to be a Go , choir, prayer or whatever Leader Heading to Hell Fire.

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Nobody: 11:32am On Jun 30, 2024

Righteousness2:
Rebuke in the Church of GOD is very well in place and Biblical.

Rebuke is For Correction and should be done in love.

No matter what you are in the church or what you are doing in the Church, a true Believer, who has A TRUE FEAR of GOD, Whether G.O, Pastor, leader , etc who falls to the craftiness of the devil and is being disciplined will not leave the church in anger.
He/ She will give in to the discipline, and take the time to make amends and get restored to GOD.

Your Soul in Eternity is much more than Whatever Title you hold in the church.
If you have know and Understand the Importance of your soul in Eternity, you will Personally give up whatever title or Position in the Church and give yourself to Reconcilation with GOD.

Title or Position CANNOT and will not take anyone to Heaven.
It is better to be an Ordinary Member going to Heaven, than to be a Go , choir, prayer or whatever Leader Heading to Hell Fire.

I guess you missed the Part where the writer said the pastor asked everyone to avoid him.

Calling him out and telling the church what he has done is not out of place but telling the church to avoid him is wrong.

When you place people under church discipline you request the church to remember them in there prayers and in some churches you're placed under someone for discipleship. We must understand that the end goal of church discipline is so that the devil doesn't win the battle for the person's soul at last hence even church discipline should be done with love.

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by bitingcool: 11:38am On Jun 30, 2024

no one tramples on a fallen soldier in the battlefield who is a comrade. You lift them up. that is how it should be in the body of Christ. The lords army.

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by ttmax09(m): 11:45am On Jun 30, 2024

Righteousness2:
When you dont study the Word of God, you Misquote Scriptures.

There is a difference between a Sinner needs to be saved and Someone who is Saved, holding a position of authourity in the Church.

To whom much is given, much is expected.

Studying the word of God without understanding? Let me ask you a question what would Jesus have done in that situation? Without the help of the holy spirit, you can not understand the scriptures, my advice to you if you will yield, seek fellowship with the holy spirit and drop all this religious doctrine. Only the holy spirit can make you understand the scriptures as it was intended. John 14:26 I leave with you.

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by maxiuc(m): 11:48am On Jun 30, 2024

I had calling but I don't want to rush it all in the name of I want to be a young pastor

I want to get married first

Secondly I wanted nature to deal with all the youthful urges that will be threat to my ministry

Youth pastors and erections eeeeeh

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by ttmax09(m): 11:50am On Jun 30, 2024

lawrenzooo:
I guess you missed the Part where the writer said the pastor asked everyone to avoid him.

Calling him out and telling the church what he has done is not out of place but telling the church to avoid him is wrong.

When you place people under church discipline you request the church to remember them in there prayers and in some churches you're placed under someone for discipleship. We must understand that the end goal of church discipline is so that the devil doesn't win the battle for the person's soul at last hence even church discipline should be done with love.

Ask yourself this question, would Jesus have called him out also? Believers are supposed to be like Christ here on earth, many at times when you are in a position like this, always ask yourself what would Jesus have done in this case. It really helps. than just taking decisions from the dictate of the flesh.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by EreluRoz: 11:51am On Jun 30, 2024

The church took it too far, they eventually made him a monster and will definitely be questioned by God. God keeps our secrets and still forgive us, so who is now a mere pastor to publicly disgrace and humiliate a man who backslided

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by omoredia: 12:11pm On Jun 30, 2024

This story is a lie by seun islamist terrorists wing. It's a lie

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by ttmax09(m): 12:22pm On Jun 30, 2024

HellVictorinho6:
that man na resident pastor 4 here o

but na still human being sha

Been resident pastor does not mean he his always right.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Immortalzbon(m): 12:23pm On Jun 30, 2024

Yustash001:
Nonsense..
Why did the pastor had to expose him?
It is God he offended not human being.
This alone is enough to know that Christianity is a scam.

Christianity is not a scam...how men chose to represent it and what its really about are two different things...

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Immortalzbon(m): 12:27pm On Jun 30, 2024

Matheusmartin:
.

Person fvck clean mouth, una dey say he fall into fornication.

When will u Christians man-up and take responsibilities for your actions

Different perspectives of the same thing....you chose to call it Bleep clean mouth...we chose to call it falling into fornication..it has nothing to do with taking responsibilities..no true christian who loves God willingly wants to live a life of sin..buh sometimes it does happen...it is what it is...

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by sonofthunder: 12:29pm On Jun 30, 2024

Righteousness2:
Rebuke in the Church of GOD is very well in place and Biblical.

Rebuke is For Correction and should be done in love.

No matter what you are in the church or what you are doing in the Church, a true Believer, who has A TRUE FEAR of GOD, Whether G.O, Pastor, leader , etc who falls to the craftiness of the devil and is being disciplined will not leave the church in anger.
He/ She will give in to the discipline, and take the time to make amends and get restored to GOD.

Your Soul in Eternity is much more than Whatever Title you hold in the church.
If you know and Understand the Importance of your soul in Eternity, you will Personally give up whatever title or Position in the Church and give yourself to Reconcilation with GOD even before you are to be disciplined.

Title or Position CANNOT and will not take anyone to Heaven.
It is better to be an Ordinary Member going to Heaven, than to be a Senior Pastor , choir, prayer or whatever Leader Heading to Hell Fire.

1. Most of these our pastors will not let you rest until you agree to become a deacon/pastor not minding if you have the strength/grace for such.

2. Rebuke is for a purpose. Any rebuke that pushes someone to become a worse sinner has lost it's purpose. Even Jesus when he saw that his words were difficult to accept tempered them down (camel through the eye of the needle story)

3. Many of the pastors punishing "sinners" are worst sinners themselves. Many of our church leaders still don't have solid understanding of what God expects from us.

4. Yes we should focus on honouring God more than anything else. Part of the reasons we fall into sin is also when we focus on pastors and what they want rather than focussing on God.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Immortalzbon(m): 12:30pm On Jun 30, 2024

GeneralOjukwu:

Pastor work na dream job.

Free sex and free tithes. Then the husbands thank you for it.

..and yet you havent done it ..since its that easy😒

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by kpolli(m): 12:33pm On Jun 30, 2024

Daejumong:
He fell into fornication,got publicly rebuked, disgraced and demoted by the church and the rest is history ! The true life story of a Christian Youth leader in Nigeria.

Brother K was a devout, fervent Christian believer and worker in the church. He served in the Youth department where he helped groom adolescents and teenagers in the way of the Lord in church!

He was tall,strikingly handsome and a smart dresser! Even though he attended a church with strict laws on modest dressing , he made sure his modest outfits were well ironed and starched. He loved God! He was in church almost every evening after working as a teacher in the day! He was loved and admired by all! He was in his late twenties and single.

He was the only Born again Christian in his family. He however mistakenly fell into fornication! The news got to the church leadership and they took decisive actions.

The church pastor called him out during Sunday service and told the whole church how he fell into fornication, stripped him of his position, asked people to avoid him and that He prays God would restore him!

Bro K was shattered. He wished the ground could open and swallow him! The embarrassment was too much for him to bear! All the young guys and converts he taught in church looked at him with disdain and disappointment!

He continued coming to the church in the weeks that followed but you could see he was depressed. He avoided eye contact and became reclusive. Everyone avoided him - Nobody wanted to be seen with a publicly condemned sinner and backslider!

About three months after the public rebuke, he couldn’t take it any longer! The mental torture was too much and he decided that rather than commit suicide he would leave church and Christianity and go into the world and find solace !

Bro K transitioned into a playboy! He used women to cure his depression! They loved him and helped him heal when the church deserted him! He hasn’t returned to the church, the last I heard of him!

2 Timothy 2:25
25 Be gentle when you try to teach those who are against what you say. God may change their hearts so they will turn to the truth.

Abeg what is mistakenly fell into fornication?

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by beardedboy(m): 12:34pm On Jun 30, 2024

cenaman:
Pastors-preneur

Abi oo. As if fornication in the church is a new/strange thing.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by GeneralOjukwu: 12:35pm On Jun 30, 2024

Immortalzbon:
..and yet you havent done it ..since its that easy😒

Who said I haven't? Your wife is coming this evening for "spiritual baths" 🛁

Don't expect her back home tonight grin

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Exceed15: 12:36pm On Jun 30, 2024

It is well. We all fall at one point or the other. Lies, malice, gossip etc are all sin . None is greater or small.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Immortalzbon(m): 12:38pm On Jun 30, 2024

Joythah:
How does someone mistakenly fall into fornication... Abeg eeee. Either you wan do or you no wan do. Untamed konji is a bastard
Another nonsense post this Sunday morning

The u no wan do part is the mistakenly falling into fornication..🤷‍♂️..its quite clear.. u didnt want to do.but one reluctant yes led to another till u did..but now u regret ur actions..thats why its called a mistake....

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Immortalzbon(m): 12:42pm On Jun 30, 2024

SmartPolician:
No be only Bro K. What of Bro L?

People who hold leadership positions in church must be made to understand the responsibility they carry. Your reckless lifestyle can make tens of thousands lose interest in Christianity. So, you must learn self-discipline and self-control.

Listen, sex is all about knowing how to control your mind and understanding that you have willpower. You don't need any holy spirit to guide you. If you know how to take control of your life and choices, even if Agbani Darego goes naked before you in a room, you will just tell her to put on her clothes. Will your third leg be aroused, definitely! Will you make move to sleep with her, this is where willpower comes in.

The problem of men of nowadays is that they have totally destroyed their psyche. A man would rather watch porn to learn how to sexually satisfy a woman than read a book about self-control and self-discipline.

To Bro K, the church took the right decision. Forgive him, but don't let him stand in the pulpit and share the Word of God. That message is too powerful and sensitive to be propagated by someone whom the congregation will look at and the only thing they can imagine is him going against the same thing he preaches. However, the pastor shouldn't have shamed him publicly. Just advise him and let him go in secret.

My own biggest problem with the whole thing is..when he eventually fell off and became a play boy...what did the church do..did they abandon him to his fate or did they go after him...Jesus leaves the 99 to go after the one sheep that was lost..but some are too proud for that.and they will be questioned for that lost sheep...

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Immortalzbon(m): 12:43pm On Jun 30, 2024

iHart:
Hmm, I remember a church guy who was practising homo. He was publicly embarrassed in the church. The community also humiliated him. He left the church and community. After some years, he returned to the community and church. This time he has healed and became bold. Today, he is married with kids. Initially i thought the guy will never come back and possibly break down but I thank God for his life.

Graces are different..but yea...thank God for his life

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Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by praisecity(m): 12:47pm On Jun 30, 2024

Righteousness2:
Rebuke in the Church of GOD is very well in place and Biblical.

Rebuke is For Correction and should be done in love.

No matter what you are in the church or what you are doing in the Church, a true Believer, who has A TRUE FEAR of GOD, Whether G.O, Pastor, leader , etc who falls to the craftiness of the devil and is being disciplined will not leave the church in anger.
He/ She will give in to the discipline, and take the time to make amends and get restored to GOD.

Your Soul in Eternity is much more than Whatever Title you hold in the church.
If you know and Understand the Importance of your soul in Eternity, you will Personally give up whatever title or Position in the Church and give yourself to Reconcilation with GOD even before you are to be disciplined.

Title or Position CANNOT and will not take anyone to Heaven.
It is better to be an Ordinary Member going to Heaven, than to be a Senior Pastor , choir, prayer or whatever Leader Heading to Hell Fire.

U are to be rebuked with maturity and wisdom not to be disgrace, bringing him out to the public in the church is uncalled for, Jesus said anyone among dat have not committed any sin should be the first to cast the stone, but none could do it, u will be surprise dat most of the so called elders are doing worst Dan this guy. But truth be told if I offend you and u correct me in private u will earn more respect from me dan correcting me in public u will totally loose my respect because that's not love. If am the brother I will do more than dat.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Ibeden1(m): 12:50pm On Jun 30, 2024

Just wondering how his decision to go back in to the world had made him a better Christian?
If you commit the crime, you do the time.
Better to suffer shame here than to suffer it in eternity.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Nobody: 12:52pm On Jun 30, 2024

ttmax09:
Ask yourself this question, would Jesus have called him out also? Believers are supposed to be like Christ here on earth, many at times when you are in a position like this, always ask yourself what would Jesus have done in this case. It really helps. than just taking decisions from the dictate of the flesh.

Off course Jesus would have called him out. If you read my post you would have known that from I have no problem with the calling out. But telling the congregation not to associate with him was wrong on all front. Jesus wouldn't have done that.

Re: The Sad Story Of How A Youth Pastor Fell Into Fornication And How The Church … by Tradman: 1:01pm On Jun 30, 2024

MurderX:
God give una preek and toto to use, una call am fornication.

something that is very sweet

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