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There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

Magicalsineros:
There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

NICE POINTS but you are quite OFF TRACK.... very insensitive too.

the only QUESTION I feel you should ask yourself is......

IS ANY CONDITION PERMANENT?
Your obvious answer would be NO.


So you advise women to cheat.... and you give 5 points for it... AND I understand but after cheating, and tables turn and the same poor husband gets rich, ARE YOU EXPECTING HIM TO ACCEPT HER?
if he doesn't accept her, DO YOU NOT CARE ABOUT HOW THIS DESTROYS THE MINDS OF THE KIDS AND EVERYONE INVOLVED?



Another question I would have asked you is...... WHAT IS THE ROLE OF A WIFE IN A MAN'S LIFE?
Is everything about sex, money and children to you?



HAVE YOU HEARD OF THE WORD TRUST? OR THE WORD..... HELPER.... HELP MEET?

It is sad that many of you give toxic advice without thinking of REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCES...... real life aftermaths. Because you think you have a cheat-code.... its not good.


LIFE is not the same for everyone....... SEX doesn't hold the same meaning for everyone..... MARRIAGE/FAMILY is a deepest connection for some people AND TO BREAK IT, is to ruin entire existence.

IF THE SACRED BOND OF MARRIAGE DOESN'T MEAN MUCH TO YOU ONCE THERE IS NO MONEY....... then you don't understand THE COMMITMENT OF LOVE.

Without respect to religion, I want you to know that this world is run by PRINCIPLES.... not by people.

Once you understand how to make the principle work for you, everything changes.

This is why I strongly believe MARRIAGE is not for everyone....... ONLY THOSE WHO UNDERSTAND THE SACRIFICIAL LIFE SHOULD MARRY.

Hmm

Nairaland oloshos are out in full force to defend their whoring colleague

The question we have to ask ourselves here is, why is it that when a woman is in trouble, rather than persevere in a legit hustle to scale through, she opens her legs to different men? ...

Secondly...
Why do women expect that it is a man's responsibility to help them out when they are in trouble? Why do they feel entitled to it? ...

Can't we see that there's something that's fundamentally flawed in how most women reason? ..

Lemme also state this categorically here that, asking for something in return before you help anyone doesn't make you a bad person, nahhhh ...

If you come to me for assistance and I tell you that before I help you, you have to give me something in return - it's your prerogative to either give me something in exchange for what you want or you leave! ...

That's how the world works, it sucks, yes! But then, you either give whatever in exchange for whatever you want or you find another way ...

Women should stop acting like it's a man's responsibility to be at your beck and call, simply because they have a hole under their legs - it's super disgusting abeg! ...

Magicalsineros:
There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

"A foolish woman is clamorous, she is simple and knoweth nothing" (Proverbs 9:13)

After reading this part of your comment,( @ the bolded) your real personality is not in doubt anymore. But remember while justifying her immorality, that
(Proverbs 30:20) also says "This is how an unfaithful wife acts: she commits adultery, takes a bath, and says, "But I haven't done anything wrong!"

Good morning dear, please change your understanding about life nothing can justify an error. Thanks.

This is why we say do not marry liabilities men. If the man did not have, if the woman was productive, there would have been no reason to sleep with other men for money. You can't be a minus as a man and then go and marry another minus. Haba!

If the only thing she brings to the table is sex, eat your share, dump her and move on to a woman who can contribute to your growth and success as a man. No right thinking man should be seen with a liability!

Magicalsineros:
What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Men who are ritua list can also apply this same l a m e excuse.

All these ladies who don't see sleeping around to collect money from different men run from them, prostitution is always a first line of attack for them to come out of their financial woes and not legitimate work, they must give reasons to support the prostitution trade no matter what.

This is why no man should have anything to do with jobless unskilled women who never see themselves as adults capable of taking responsibility and accountability for themselves as adults but see men around them as tool to wiping that responsibility off their chest. For those type of ladies the escape way is another man accepting that responsibility on their behalf leading them to jumping from one vitamin D to another. If you are wise stay clear of such women.

Magicalsineros:
There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

Can't you work?!!

Women making money, do they have two heads!!!


With this kind of opinion, you no suposse dey vote. On God!

What's wrong for the woman to find a job.
Most of you women see marriage as where you come to relax and let the man do all the job "WRONG"

As a woman are you brainless to know that most men can't help you without getting under you?… Our mothers has raised dependent and entitlement mentality girl's instead of "help meet women"

Most women don't understand the meaning of marriage, they take it to be a TITLE that should be gotten and that title is respected by the society.

So sleeping with her husband's friend is the best solution she can come up with?

@all the people venting anger at my write up. Why didn't the man's friend, help their fellow man without demanding for se.x from his wife? Its the pure reality. You men can't help a woman or your fellow man in need without getting something in return.

I'm not applauding any woman cheating, but the truth is, many of you here are hypocrite.

Even in offices, many of you bosses demanding se.x from women seeking promotion, employment, administration or in financial needs, you know that she's married to your fellow man, yet you always want to take advantage of her and her husband incompetence.

So, before you start your blame, Start with your fellow men

This is the issue with Nigerian men in general, a poor Nigerian man giving birth to kids when he knows he cannot simply take care of them. I'm tired of them.

Why are people even having kids when they know they cannot take care of them?

Magicalsineros:
@all the people venting anger at my write up. Why didn't the man's friend, help their fellow man without demanding for se.x from his wife? Its the pure reality. You men can't help a woman or your fellow man in need without getting something in return.

I'm not applauding any woman cheating, but the truth is, many of you here are hypocrite.

Even in offices, many of you bosses demanding se.x from women seeking promotion, employment, administration or in financial needs, you know that she's married to your fellow man, yet you always want to take advantage of her and her husband incompetence.

So, before you start your blame, Start with your fellow men

Magicalsineros:
There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

Why is the government not helping our citizens



Why are women hypocrite, pretending the don't sell their bodies to the highest bidder


Why are men devils and not helping their fellow men,


Why

Why


Why

Vyzz:
Why is the government not helping our citizens



Why are women hypocrite, pretending the don't sell their bodies to the highest bidder


Why are men devils and not helping their fellow men,


Why

Why


Why

This is how it has always been. So coming online and casting blame on only the woman is hypocrisy.

Karleb:
Can't you work?!!

Women making money, do they have two heads!!!


With this kind of opinion, you no suposse dey vote. On God!

You that is working, yet you find it difficult to handle all the bills.
It shows, it takes two parties to effectively make it work.
You can't live the whole responsibilities to your wife and expect her not to get tired and need help from your fellow men

EreluRoz:
So sleeping with her husband's friend is the best solution she can come up with?

Why should any serious minded man live the responsibility of finding those solutions to his wife all alone?

Magicalsineros:
This is how it has always been. So coming online and casting blame on only the woman is hypocrisy.

Then why are you online casting the blame on only men...


Isn't that hypocrisy using your logic ?

Magicalsineros:
There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

It's funny how women are ready to go over and beyond to provide for the children but the men whose job it is to provide for his family will sit down at home looking forlorn at the sight of the smallest problem.

That being said, women please don't do this.. its the worst betrayal.

But I don't understand how a guy would be comfortable asking his friend's wife for sex before rendering financial assistance.

If you do not have any money to spare it's better to just deny her request for money

Magicalsineros:
You that is working, yet you find it difficult to handle all the bills.
It shows, it takes two parties to effectively make it work.
You can't live the whole responsibilities to your wife and expect her not to get tired and need help from your fellow men

I like sucking the brezz of intelligent and objective ladies such as you

So you know the woman in question and you know for sure that she had no other options left?

blackpanthar:
NICE POINTS but you are quite OFF TRACK.... very insensitive too.

the only QUESTION I feel you should ask yourself is......

IS ANY CONDITION PERMANENT?
Your obvious answer would be NO.


So you advise women to cheat.... and you give 5 points for it... AND I understand but after cheating, and tables turn and the same poor husband gets rich, ARE YOU EXPECTING HIM TO ACCEPT HER?
if he doesn't accept her, DO YOU NOT CARE ABOUT HOW THIS DESTROYS THE MINDS OF THE KIDS AND EVERYONE INVOLVED?



Another question I would have asked you is...... WHAT IS THE ROLE OF A WIFE IN A MAN'S LIFE?
Is everything about sex, money and children to you?



HAVE YOU HEARD OF THE WORD TRUST? OR THE WORD..... HELPER.... HELP MEET?

It is sad that many of you give toxic advice without thinking of REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCES...... real life aftermaths. Because you think you have a cheat-code.... its not good.


LIFE is not the same for everyone....... SEX doesn't hold the same meaning for everyone..... MARRIAGE/FAMILY is a deepest connection for some people AND TO BREAK IT, is to ruin entire existence.

IF THE SACRED BOND OF MARRIAGE DOESN'T MEAN MUCH TO YOU ONCE THERE IS NO MONEY....... then you don't understand THE COMMITMENT OF LOVE.

Without respect to religion, I want you to know that this world is run by PRINCIPLES.... not by people.

Once you understand how to make the principle work for you, everything changes.

This is why I strongly believe MARRIAGE is not for everyone....... ONLY THOSE WHO UNDERSTAND THE SACRIFICIAL LIFE SHOULD MARRY.

One of the few comments I have ever seen so beautifully made and true

Magicalsineros:
@all the people venting anger at my write up. Why didn't the man's friend, help their fellow man without demanding for se.x from his wife?

So the friend is a shitty person, no doubt there, and then she could have said no to his dishonorable advances?

Magicalsineros:
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?

sadly, you are asking the wrong question:
the above question is irrelevant... proper friends would help without having any sexual motive; proper wife wouldnt even remotely consider the help that comes with sexual favors in return.

How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

so you mean that because a man cannot help, a wife should therefore automatically wh0re herself to the highest bidder?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

so everyone should help anybody in need, abi?

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

yet if that husband kills his wife/child for money rituals, you will now look down upon it, right? WRONG IS WRONG, however you want to look at it. the minute you claims that it is RIGHT for a wife to wh0re herself (for any reason whatsoever) then you are part of the problem here.

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

are you now claiming that if a family member is in need, we should kill ourselves to help them (regardless of the struggles in our own lives)?
BTW anyone who thinks that suicide is the way out, are a selfish waste of life and deserve everything they get. imagine someone committing suicide after people have gone out of their ways to borrow them money etc?

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

... yet many are choosing to end their lives than to face the reality of life. to some selfish people, death is better than life.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

... and what you are doing now, what is it called (if not suddenly becoming lawyer and chief judge of bad news)?

MrBrownJay1:
sadly, you are asking the wrong question:
the above question is irrelevant... proper friends would help without having any sexual motive; proper wife wouldnt even remotely consider the help that comes with sexual favors in return.



so you mean that because a man cannot help, a wife should therefore automatically wh0re herself to the highest bidder?



so everyone should help anybody in need, abi?



yet if that husband kills his wife/child for money rituals, you will now look down upon it, right? WRONG IS WRONG, however you want to look at it. the minute you claims that it is RIGHT for a wife to wh0re herself (for any reason whatsoever) then you are part of the problem here.



are you now claiming that if a family member is in need, we should kill ourselves to help them (regardless of the struggles in our own lives)?
BTW anyone who thinks that suicide is the way out, are a selfish waste of life and deserve everything they get. imagine someone committing suicide after people have gone out of their ways to borrow them money etc?



... yet many are choosing to end their lives than to face the reality of life. to some selfish people, death is better than life.



... and what you are doing now, what is it called (if not suddenly becoming lawyer and chief judge of bad news)?

How many women can you help without demanding for their body in return? Just answer this question in your heart

Magicalsineros:
How many women can you help without demanding for their body in return? Just answer this question in your heart

who do you take me for, father xmas?!?!? if a total stranger comes begging for help then i need something in return (whatever it may be), but if a FRIEND comes asking for help, then i will give it to her without anything in return but a verbal agreement as to when/how she needs to pay me back. thats what friendship is for. BTW if she is a friend of mine then she also probably knows my woman too.

a man who uses the desperation/hopelessness of his friends to fukc his woman, is worse than satan himself!

Fahvvy:
The question we have to ask ourselves here is, why is it that when a woman is in trouble, rather than persevere in a legit hustle to scale through, she opens her legs to different men? ...

This is actually very logical as women in poorer countries resort to selling sex to survive. Humans resort to the barest minimum when it comes to survival. For most men, this means doing odd and highly laborious jobs or other cases stealing.

So, it's not out of place.

Secondly...
Why do women expect that it is a man's responsibility to help them out when they are in trouble? Why do they feel entitled to it? :-Can't we see that there's something that's fundamentally flawed in how most women reason?

I agree with this one. In an era of gender equality, women should learn to work for their money. No free money simply because you be woman. Work for it. However, in the original post, as a married man, it's the man's responsibility to provide. The Bible stated something about inability to provide and being an infidel.

Lemme also state this categorically here that, asking for something in return before you help anyone doesn't make you a bad person, nahhhh ...

For a random stranger? Yes, it is appropriate. For a friend? No. It's disheartening and somewhat insensitive except in cases where the sums are huge.

Women should stop acting like it's a man's responsibility to be at your beck and call, simply because they have a hole under their legs - it's super disgusting abeg

Again, agreed. But in a situation where she's your wife and mother of your children, it becomes your responsibility.

Magicalsineros:
How many women can you help without demanding for their body in return? Just answer this question in your heart

Women should work for their money. We're in the era of gender equality. Work your money. I have given my female friends money without asking for anything in return. I have been asked for a loan, but I dashed it out to ex-female classmates. However, I will not give money to a random lady without she providing evidence of work whether academic or otherwise. There's a reason scholarship awarding organisations have minimum requirements for applicants.

Nothing like free money. Work for it. Aren't you equal to a man?