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When Society Makes You Pretend by Roycemadeit(op): 2:46pm On Oct 03, 2024
This is culled from a different platform I posted on and thought to share here also. It could also be believed to be an excerpt of a book I am working on.


Over the years, I’ve written countless articles and made more comments than I can count. One day, a viewer asked me, Why do you keep condemning the way we live? What’s your goal—are you trying to create chaos? At the time, I didn’t have a response. Maybe I was preoccupied, but here’s the answer I should’ve given: Truth. It’s the only thing I believe can save us. Because the world we see? It’s built on secrets and illusions. People spend their lives pretending, just to fit in.

Take relationships, for example. So many are founded on lies—marriages sustained by deception. From the moment we’re born, society feeds us falsehoods. Governments create policies and then lie about them. Businessmen sell us substandard products and call them premium. Even scientists develop new medicines, and behind it all, there’s often an air of dishonesty. And religion? Belief is no stranger to bending the truth. We live in a world propped up by these fabrications.

At some point, I realized how deeply ingrained these lies are. Everywhere you look, people are trying to gain an advantage, exploit one another, or simply survive through manipulation. It’s not just individuals; entire systems thrive on this deception. These lies have turned the world into an ugly, competitive place where no one truly cares about the other. We're caught in a vicious cycle of dishonesty, where pretending has become second nature, and truth feels almost foreign.

[color=#4FA077]So, what am I advocating for? Truth—pure and simple. Does money really make someone more important than another? Classism, like so much else, is based on lies. No one is inherently better—whether they’re sweeping the floors or walking down a red carpet. We’re all actors in the same play, pretending we’re more than we are. But the truth is, none of us are more valuable than anyone else. Only by embracing truth can we break free from these lies and start living authentically.[/color]
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by StillDtruth: 5:39am On Oct 04, 2024
Society makes us do many things eg fornicate, smoke, drink, watch football, talk in a certain way, dress in a certain way, dance in a certain way, behave in certain ways.
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by TimiRume(f): 8:13am On Oct 05, 2024
Its the prince of the power of the air. Makes people in a territory behave a certain way. Every territory has its unique evil, all from the prince of the power of the air. You don't have to do anything to be influenced by him, just breathing and eating are enough. Air is infected with dark powers, same with food.

Salvation is in Christ only. Total salvation
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by Roycemadeit(op): 2:13pm On Oct 05, 2024
TimiRume:
Its the prince of the power of the air. Makes people in a territory behave a certain way. Every territory has its unique evil, all from the prince of the power of the air. You don't have to do anything to be influenced by him, just breathing and eating are enough. Air is infected with dark powers, same with food.

Salvation is in Christ only. Total salvation
THE REAL TROUBLE IS HOW DID ONE ARRIVE AT THE CONCLUSION THAT THERE IS AN AIR PRINCE SPREADING EVIL? EVEN THE CONCEPT OF EVIL IS CREATED OFF PERCEPTION.


"The salvation you mention has introduced significant conflicts into our lives. The idea that one has found the 'right' path is, in itself, based on external influences. Unfortunately, belief is often one of the strongest of these influences."

Everything we hold as a principle is shaped by outside forces—even the spread of Christianity was heavily influenced by the actions of missionaries and governments. This isn't to discredit faith, but to acknowledge that truth transcends belief. Believing that one path is 'righteous' is still based on perception, which may not hold true for someone with a different worldview.
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by TimiRume(f): 2:32pm On Oct 05, 2024
Roycemadeit:
"The salvation you mention has introduced significant conflicts into our lives. The idea that one has found the 'right' path is, in itself, based on external influences. Unfortunately, belief is often one of the strongest of these influences."

Everything we hold as a principle is shaped by outside forces—even the spread of Christianity was heavily influenced by the actions of missionaries and governments. This isn't to discredit faith, but to acknowledge that truth transcends belief. Believing that one path is 'righteous' is still based on perception, which may not hold true for someone with a different worldview.
Okay.

However, whether we like it or not, whether we realise it or not, this world does not constitute of just perceptions. Yes there are differing views on how we judge the world or what we believe but there is one truth or centrality.

Intelligent complexities like the world and morality cannot be from perceptions but from one central truth. Our problem is we are not looking for truth where we should and/or are "satisfied" with our unfulfilling worldviews.
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by LordReed(m): 2:40pm On Oct 05, 2024
Roycemadeit:
This is culled from a different platform I posted on and thought to share here also. It could also be believed to be an excerpt of a book I am working on.


Over the years, I’ve written countless articles and made more comments than I can count. One day, a viewer asked me, Why do you keep condemning the way we live? What’s your goal—are you trying to create chaos? At the time, I didn’t have a response. Maybe I was preoccupied, but here’s the answer I should’ve given: Truth. It’s the only thing I believe can save us. Because the world we see? It’s built on secrets and illusions. People spend their lives pretending, just to fit in.

Take relationships, for example. So many are founded on lies—marriages sustained by deception. From the moment we’re born, society feeds us falsehoods. Governments create policies and then lie about them. Businessmen sell us substandard products and call them premium. Even scientists develop new medicines, and behind it all, there’s often an air of dishonesty. And religion? Belief is no stranger to bending the truth. We live in a world propped up by these fabrications.

At some point, I realized how deeply ingrained these lies are. Everywhere you look, people are trying to gain an advantage, exploit one another, or simply survive through manipulation. It’s not just individuals; entire systems thrive on this deception. These lies have turned the world into an ugly, competitive place where no one truly cares about the other. We're caught in a vicious cycle of dishonesty, where pretending has become second nature, and truth feels almost foreign.

[color=#4FA077]So, what am I advocating for? Truth—pure and simple. Does money really make someone more important than another? Classism, like so much else, is based on lies. No one is inherently better—whether they’re sweeping the floors or walking down a red carpet. We’re all actors in the same play, pretending we’re more than we are. But the truth is, none of us are more valuable than anyone else. Only by embracing truth can we break free from these lies and start living authentically.[/color]
While I agree that society forces us to wear masks and quite a bit of it is harm, yet I cannot help but acknowledge that quite a bit of it also helpful. In fact, most of it is necessary to keep society functional and away from moving into chaos.
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by Roycemadeit(op): 7:30pm On Oct 05, 2024
LordReed:
While I agree that society forces us to wear masks and quite a bit of it is harm, yet I cannot help but acknowledge that quite a bit of it also helpful. In fact, most of it is necessary to keep society functional and away from moving into chaos.
Functional according to whose perceptions? That's the problem we are run by perceptions that do not only not celebrate us but limit us except of course those who have engineered the box the society throws everyone into.
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by Roycemadeit(op): 7:32pm On Oct 05, 2024
TimiRume:
Okay.

However, whether we like it or not, whether we realise it or not, this world does not constitute of just perceptions. Yes there are differing views on how we judge the world or what we believe but there is one truth or centrality.

Intelligent complexities like the world and morality cannot be from perceptions but from one central truth. Our problem is we are not looking for truth where we should and/or are "satisfied" with our unfulfilling worldviews.
I'm interested in hearing where this central truth is founded.
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by LordReed(m): 7:39pm On Oct 05, 2024
Roycemadeit:
Functional according to whose perceptions? That's the problem we are run by perceptions that do not only not celebrate us but limit us except of course those who have engineered the box the society throws everyone into.
Yours and mine. When you go to the shop to buy something do you expect the cashier to judge you? No you don't even though in their mind they are judging you. You expect professionalism from every service worker you meet even if they are itching to tell you just how much they hate you. Those are all masks we have to wear. I dunno what kind of job you do but I am pretty sure you do not tell everybody you meet at your job what you truthfully and honestly think about them. That sir is a mask of politeness you must wear, like it or not.
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by TimiRume(f): 9:42pm On Oct 05, 2024
Roycemadeit:
I'm interested in hearing where this central truth is founded.
Christ that you've heard of
Re: When Society Makes You Pretend by Roycemadeit(op): 1:48pm On Oct 06, 2024
TimiRume:
Christ that you've heard of
I'm curious to know how we come to believe he is truth
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