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How young are you
20s , 30s or 40s

If you are in the first two, you will have time for fighting on property and justice.

If you are 40 and above, your life and your health is more important than a few fleeting properties left behind. I am saying this especially as you are in Canada. Focus on your new life and leave those things behind. Declutter so new things can come into your life, stay attached to those things and you will never move on.

I have seen these things in this little life of mine to know that it's not worth it. Just to put it in perspective, you all are fighting over another man's sweat. The man cannot fight for himself, he is resting in peace but the living are fighting over his pieces. Human beings will use that moment to reflect on what's most important to their body, mind and soul but they don't. They want to prove a point.


It's not about justice or looking like a fool. What you don't know is that the disease of attachment is in many bodies, if you are able to free your mind from these things people of the world stress over, they will keep coming to you asking why you are so happy.

What you need is a good lawyer to help you battle this issue. If you were legally married to the man before his death, then the priority of interest in the administration of estate of the man should be yours first, assister by lady A and a representative of family B, not the other way round.

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If you were legally married seek for legal help. Family died the day your husband died, now its time to fight for your 2yr old and yourself. You are still young, start the legal battle now before you loss it all. But your husband should have a will, this will clear out all grey areas, contact his lawyer.

What about your husbands family? The parents, siblings. The way you follow up things actually depends on his tribe in a way.

eldoradoxx:
What you need is a good lawyer to help you battle this issue. If you were legally married to the man before his death, then the priority of interest in the administration of estate of the man should be yours first, assister by lady A and a representative of family B, not the other way round.

Exactly my view.

Get a good Lawyer.

Please accept my deepest condolences

According to what you wrote here you are a weak person, listen to me sometimes people mistaken kind/peaceful person to weakness

Listen young lady you only have two options either you zero your mind and give them whatever they want, if na by physical way take legal action against the said mugu and also go spiritual by prayers, again don't joke about going spiritual
But if you don't want to stress yourself and need peace jejely commot hand from that matter make emotional damage no kill you

For me, I wicked people who wicked me also I am one of the most kind people you will ever meet
Don't use emotion in this case make them kpai you 👌

Easy case, I will get a good Nigerian, but international lawyer, she practice in both Canada and UK, better still she is into women advocacy. She should handle legal issues while you concentrate on building your life. DM me

Yinabim:
I’m rounding up in December by Gods grace.
We’ve not found a will.

Have you had a conversation with a lawyer??

If you haven't, you need to get it done ASAP.. the lawyer could go to court fast .. before people start changing ownership of the properties..

I am not sure how probate is done is Nigeria so that's where the lawyer will come in.. not a just a lawyer.. but a lawyer well versed in probate matters.

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do..

Leave gentle by the side for now.. and be a comrade if you have to..

Aside: your husband did make a mistake by not taking care of this.. like have a will and arrange his estate.. yes, he might not have forseen his death but with the kind of relationship he had..children , exes.. then you..

I am not trying to assign blames but I just wanted to point this out for anyone reading.. estate planning is very important!!! Very very important..

It doesn't mean someone have to be in their death bed before they plan their estate (will) .

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

Nigerians are selfish and greedy as hell!

[quote author=Zaheertyler post=132258227]God is with you

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

This na small problem now, get a good babalawo, if you don't know where to, just let me know but you will have to swear to come back and thank the oracle after everything solves zero eight zero 59. 140. 758. Wat sap if

Fight!
Fight!!
Fight!!!

Them go kill you and ask God for forgiveness. No gree o

I will advise you to use legal means in getting what belongs to you.. Sue them and when the case is over go back to Canada and don't come back except you want to see your family.

Be blunt to life and don't act sissy.

Goodluck..

I've told people, when marrying into polygamous or into such settings, always make sure you gather things for yourself and kids, be stable and always have energy and strength to match madness with madness else they bully you, if you be craze person, she sef go fear you... by the time una drag una sef wetin no good, put shame aside and fight dirty, court dey to settle am....

For instance, land for village, because we no dey, elders take am

Sue them to court in Abuja, still carry 5 deities put for the land and locked it, anyone wey put leg, na death... they couldn't attend the court case, and na indefinite adjournment e dey...

This is madness jam madness

If you sleep, them ride you


You are lucky that other wives no fight you

Na illegitimate child they fight you and by court she has no right as her mother wasn't married, you have upper hand in these case,highest court go gi e am something but you see that matrimonial home, she.no fit ever win am for anywhere either in court or by tradition....I hate soft hearted women

Ishilove:
Your husband died intestate, it seems. However, you have more claim to his property than his first child because her mother was never legally married to your late husband. I believe a property lawyer can throw more light on this. If you try to reason with her and she remains adamant, sue her greedy ass to court let's see who wins. Sometimes you have to put aside gentility so that human beings don't walk all over you.

Experienced similar nonsense in my family

Small girl with big god.

Imagine a young lady going to marry a much older man with 2 previous wives and 5 children.
Such dirrrrty baggages... simple because he was wealthy.

Pls deal with your problems without disturbing social media.

Nigeria men should always learn to write their Will ... but importantly empower your kids , wife or wives to earn their own Money, whatever you wrote in your Will is only an addition.. nothing more. Time they should be using to Pray for you that God put you in the best place in paradise, they will be using it to fight if you don't.

Una family hahaha make una go solve am una way.
You enjoy the money together ,share the problem also together..

Poor man walk all his life for people to enjoy .
So your brothers too are part of the family reason why you sent them there abi ..
Anyway na una hahaha

Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.

When a woman says you are nice just know that you are a fool. SIMPLE.

VeryWickedBro:
OP DM me.
I'm very good at comforting widows.

Karma will catch up with u very soon

spiceadole:
Small girl with big god.

Imagine a young lady going to marry a much older man with 2 previous wives and 5 children.
Such dirrrrty baggages... simple because he was wealthy.

Pls deal with your problems without disturbing social media.

Thank you for this man probably fall from tree those bitch might have even cause enemity between the man and his family

Moral of the story to the living. Prepare for your death to avoid unwarranted circumstances.

If you don’t trust your wives, secure EVERYTHING in your children’s name and prepare a will once you hit 40.

Marriage wahala

Yinabim:
I’m rounding up in December by Gods grace.
We’ve not found a will.

My condolences

Listen to me

Here comes the truth

Since you're in Canada

Work hard to have your own property

You can do it

Stay away from such family

If truly you love that your daughter because whatever action you take may back fire towards you and your daughter

Take it easy with Nigerians o

They can go any extend to harm you spiritually or physically only if you are upto the task then you can ahead

Do you think inheritance is worth it

After those family members kill you

They will deal with that your daughter seriously

Shebi you won inherit ni

That Lady A is mean and you should be very careful of her

Seems you don't know what Nigerians are capable of when it's come to inheritance it's like a national cake when politicians it's a dirty fight

Only the strong survive

Dont play with your life o
.
Unless your spiritual man is very strong

I mean very strong enough to handle to face of life

Just imagine

A man you claim to be prayerful without a will

Anyway no one can predict death

Just don't play with your life o

Yinabim:
Yes I am legally married

Try reaching out to ordinary President of brekete family radio Abuja .It is from Monday's to Saturday's 7:30am to 10am Nigeria 🇳🇬 time

Go to youtube and to the comments session. Ask of @mary Paul. She will direct u on how u can reach the ordinary President

He will help you with ur case free of charge

Long story. Abeg, I tire. No be me kill Jesus.

johnog4sure:
Easy case, I will get a good Nigerian, but international lawyer, she practice in both Canada and UK, better still she is into women advocacy. She should handle legal issues while you concentrate on building your life. DM me

Is it free?