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Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Ajofiapero(m): 7:20am On Oct 07, 2024
VeryDarkMan comes to mind
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by adspelite(m): 7:40am On Oct 07, 2024
Zaheertyler:
❤️‍🩹
THIS IS SO SAD, I FEEL YOUR PAIN, AS I'M PASSING THROUGH THE SAME
SITUATION. I LOST MY WIFE EARLY SEPTEMBER AND THERE'S NOW FAMILY ISSUES OUT OF NO WHERE. MAY GOD COMFORT US.

CHECK YOUR EMAIL, AND REPLY
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Thazard(m): 7:58am On Oct 07, 2024
VeryWickedBro:
OP DM me.
I'm very good at comforting widows.
grin grin grin
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by femi4: 8:17am On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.
Go n start afresh in Canada or anywhere else if you don't want to follow your husband. It's not worth it fighting over properties especially as a no 3 woman
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Amhappy(f): 9:13am On Oct 07, 2024
My condolences @OP. I think that your husband knew this will happen that's why he gave you the option of a better life abroad. Just weigh your options critically, speak to this Lady A if she insists,move your things out of that house.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by syntekelite(m): 9:15am On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
Glad you are in canada, well to do, have a beautiful daughter and still young, my candid advice to you coming from someone born into wealth and a polygamous home is to let it all go i repeat DONT FIGHT HER OR THEM JUST FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE ABROAD, MAKE YOURSELF AND YOUR DAUGHTER HAPPY AND MAYBE FIND LOVE AGAIN IF YOU SO DESIRE. It might be hard cos its you and your husbands sweat but its easy if you think of it this way what if your husband had nothing or he had left you for another woman before his demise?
[b][/b] i repeat dont fight over property.
God bless you with wisdom.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by ABANGWABOI(m): 9:49am On Oct 07, 2024
The only woman that deserves those properties is the second wife... She bore the Man four kids both gender while the first wife only had one useless daughter for him and you also have one daughter which is also irrelevant...

E be like say d second wife no smart.. she suppose come for both you and the first wife..
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by kedeojo(m): 9:55am On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
I’m rounding up in December by Gods grace.
We’ve not found a will.
The best thing your husband of blessed memories did was to sponsor you and daughter to Canada. Financially you are ok. If there is a will, then things will be ok but if not, don't fight them but firstly seek a pastor and get a lawyer to negotiate with your step daughter lawyer and others to get something from your hubby properties. It's surprising that the lady who now live in Australia can be this cruel. Not even a man.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Greenlandncom(m): 10:31am On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.
Search for Due Process Advocate (DPA) on Facebook and table your issue to them. They can help out.

All the best.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Stankovic22: 10:56am On Oct 07, 2024
There is a Facebook page called The People's Parliament runned by a lawyer called Atanda.

He has treated issues like this before and I think with you being the legally married wife, you have an edge.

I am also learning the importance of leaving a will no matter how small the properties are

Your husband created a mess by no writing his will
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Dejoe88: 11:15am On Oct 07, 2024
Tayorshd87:
To me you dipped yourself into trouble how can u marry a man of 5 children 😲😳

And u are happy u are married .

And u are so young
Yet he met u in 100 level

Abeg use scope they lie na and if not lie
Then you'd put yourself into unlimited troubles .

Mtheew
My man, you should know it's 'Sugar daddy' stuff before/until greed/belonging creeps in.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by maasoap(m): 11:53am On Oct 07, 2024
Foodqueen:
If they are stressing you beyond your limit, kindly move back to your family house. Better to stay alive for your daughter
She's not even in Nigeria
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by BluntCrazeMan: 12:11pm On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way....
It has to go legal ooo..
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by samuelson06(m): 12:50pm On Oct 07, 2024
Blame yourself for your woes. By the way, stop calling him your late husband. He wasn't. He was only a husband to woman A. Every other woman was only a concubine.

How can you marry a man that have had dealings with two women already? This is a man that wasn't able to take responsibility for his first and second marriage crashing. You shouldn't have entered his life. He wasn't incharge of his life. He was only opportuned to have made money but had no control of his own life. I see this whole thing as your fault. Whether the man was alive or not, that family was a place that can never guarantee you peace. Today, he's not alive to clean his mess.

I will advise you go back to Canada and see how you can fix your life. Dragging things with these people may not end well. The man never thought about a time as this. Go back, shut your legs, and pray God sends your own rightful husband to you. You had no business with the man in the picture here. You were only drawn to him because of his money.

Cc: Yinabim
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Rochasstatue(f): 12:55pm On Oct 07, 2024
Did your husband die without a will?
If so, his first male child becomes the apparent administrator of his estate.
Since you were legally married, your matrimonial home is yours for now till you all collectively decide otherwise.
While you are grieving, you must be clear on what areas nobody should trespass.
First you need to get a lawyer and secondly you need to move now and reclaim your matrimonial home IMMEDIATELY.
EVERY INCH YOU CONCEDE CANNOT BE RECLAIMED WITHOUT VIOLENCE.

So don't concede an inch.
The school should be run by a board made up of yourself, wife A's daughter and one wife B's children.
The board should run the school and share the proceeds amicably among them.
Filing for a letter of administration isn't an easy process and takes time.
However it is possible that the person in custody of your late husband's phone can move his money out of his account.
This is a criminal act.
Consequently your lawyer can write to his banks to activate a PND on his accounts pending when the necessary documentation is completed.
The person who took custody of his phones and went into your matrimonial home without your consent should be arrested.
Make sure you court and bring to your side wife B's people so that you can use the 2 v1 counter press that Mourinho used in Madrid.
Since you aren't domiciled here, you need somebody on ground to assist you achieve your objectives.
Again while you greive, do not be blind.
Fight back with righteous anger.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Danielwhisky: 1:03pm On Oct 07, 2024
All I believe in this goddamn world is an eye for an eye, a tit for tat. My sister I am sorry for your loss but it would be a sin to forgive that creature in Australia. Treat her in the language she would understand by suing her. She is an illegitimate daughter of your husband. My God people vividly know what the Bleep they are doing, so stop being so forgiving!
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by kpolli(m): 1:56pm On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.
What right does LadyA have? Did your husband leave a will? Else his first son is the one in charge. My advise get yourself a lawyer (and tell WomanB's children to get same) and then file to freeze all assets. Do not share a lawyer with LadyA, that lawyer is looking out for her best interest not yours.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Filmdirect: 2:10pm On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.
So you allowed an illegitimate child to stand up and exert that much power in the family? You?

And you thought that was ok? You are the legal wife and you forewent your position and authority and this is what you get. When there is a vacuum in leadership someone will arise, and most times it is an idiot.

This is your fault I am sorry to say. It is not about been gentle it is about being wise and strong. You are the most vulnerable because you are so young and your daughter is so young, yet you went into mourning forgetting matters at hand.

Why would you be quiet when personnel were being changed? You didn’t know what was happening? You aren’t peaceful, you are soft and unwise.

Now get up! You are about to lose everything! That illegitimate daughter is fighting because she knows she is owed nothing.

You and the other children need to fight. Stop all this weak stuff!!

Get a lawyer. Sue her for illegal possession and then go to probate.


Stop being weak! This world will not hand stuff over to you because you are nice. And just because you are in Canada doesn’t mean you will be financial successful. You were courted and married. You are a wife! So rise up like a wife! Mourn and wail later!
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Everfrank(m): 3:04pm On Oct 07, 2024
Did you do court marriage?
If yes then you can go to court and have the issue resolved. Let them just give you your share. If not you can still sue them and demand what's yours and your children's. Or you manage the situation until you are done with your studies. When you come back go straight to your husband's house and then explore how his culture handles inheritance.

Shariacally only his dependents- you, your children, their siblings and his parents if alive are entitled to a share in his estate. As all of you are alive nobody else gets a dime.

One-eight of the entire estate would have been your share. The rest 7/8 would have been shared to the children with males getting double the share of females irrespective of age.
It's only Islamic culture that has a detailed formula for disposing a deceased estate.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Tayorshd87(m): 3:25pm On Oct 07, 2024
Dejoe88:
My man, you should know it's 'Sugar daddy' stuff before/until greed/belonging creeps in.
God bless you bro .

U got the point 😊😁
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Solofresh2: 3:26pm On Oct 07, 2024
diamond68:
hehe voodoo charms or high blood pressure from dealing with 9 entities, 3 wives and 6 children. That’s too many people to be dealing with 😄
Polygamy is dangerous bro
Am From polygamous home
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by diamond68: 4:06pm On Oct 07, 2024
Solofresh2:
Polygamy is dangerous bro
Am From polygamous home
very dangerous. everyone competing for resources. lots of scheming and plotting
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by AngelicBeing: 4:27pm On Oct 07, 2024
diamond68:
very dangerous. everyone competing for resources. lots of scheming and plotting
Witchcraft, Names circulation to different Witchdoctors, sorcery , charms, killing and bewitching each other,poison, voodoo, are all signatures found in polygamous family, let me go back to Mount Everest were l currently live with Celestial powers and personalities cool
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Exceed15: 5:45pm On Oct 07, 2024
Hmm It is well with you and your daughter.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by itstonystark350: 6:42pm On Oct 07, 2024
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Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Victorbasse911(m): 7:44pm On Oct 07, 2024
Yinabim:
I’m rounding up in December by Gods grace.
We’ve not found a will.
My condolences, may God comfort you in this trying time.
About the presence of a will, your late husband's lawyer is in the best place to inform everyone if there is one.
Since your step daughter has gone ahead to process a letter of administration, itß obvious your husband died intestate.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Victorbasse911(m): 7:46pm On Oct 07, 2024
Ishilove:
Your husband died intestate, it seems. However, you have more claim to his property than his first child because her mother was never legally married to your late husband. I believe a property lawyer can throw more light on this. If you try to reason with her and she remains adamant, sue her greedy ass to court let's see who wins. Sometimes you have to put aside gentility so that human beings don't walk all over you.
I second this.
There is time to be gentle as a dove and there are times you need to toughen up.
Due to the Aussie babes mum's marital status, you have more claim to your husband's properties than her.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by dchamp234(m): 10:01pm On Oct 07, 2024
You need to be tough and stubborn in order for the devil to flee from you, seems you're too soft else I see no reason why your husband's daughter who is married will still want to take control over your husband's or your matrimonial home, you made a huge mistake, you would have locked the place up before going back to Canada. So sorry for all you're going through this period, the Lord is your strength. The police and lawyers are your only option at the moment, wish I had the power to help, I hate things like this.
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Danielwhisky: 9:41pm On Oct 10, 2024
Yinabim:
Hello Everyone,

I am writing here for the first time, i don't know how to feel about this because i a very private person but since the death of my husband i had to wake up everyday to sadness. I never knew the extent of pain people feel when they lose their loved ones until now. I cant even concentrate on anything else and his family are making things difficult for themselves already.

I'm so young and with a 2 year old daughter, i just hope God help me scale through this storm. I'll come here to update this page as things unfold.

The story
My husband is a very kind man, he is way older than I am because he was a divorcee , ultimately he loved God and was very prayerful, I’ve known him for over seven years but we got married 4years ago and legalized the marriage in 2022.
He has 5 children plus my two years old makes 6, tbh my husband is a very wonderful man and I doubt if men like him still exist. He holds my hands in middle of the night praying for me and my baby, he loved me sincerely. He met me in 100level and waited till I finished school. Anyways after I had a baby he said he wanted me to go to Canada to further my studies. I didn’t want to go because I was thinking of how he would cope without me, he promised to come every quarter and assured me it was for the best.

I left Nigeria in 2023 (April) , his last visit was January 2024, he was preparing to come again in September, however, I got the news of his death July 17th 2024. My whole world came crashing. I didn’t believe it, why did God give me such a wonderful man only to take him away from me suddenly.

For clarity purpose, it’s important to state that he has six children including mine

First child (female) married and resides in Australia
My husband told me that her mother (woman A) had walked out of the marriage because he was poor, saying “she wouldn’t sit down with him in poverty” . They never had a legal marriage. So Woman A left to marry another man.


Woman B, legally married him had four children (two males and two females), I didn’t hear her side of the story and out of respect for her, I’ll just say irreconcilable differences, he decided he couldn’t move on with her and he divorced her. He however left her in their matrimonial house and left her with the water factory which she was running, although he didn’t hand over the documents


I am woman C.

I came home for the funeral, but before I could make it home , Woman A’s daughter has gotten home, gone to my matrimonial home and cleared all documents.

Please note that , no one ever lived with my husband and I in the house apart from my younger brother, Woman A daughter has also never visited the house.

My husband was into properties and he has two schools also (primary and secondary in different locations) .
Durning my stay in Nigeria, Woman A’s daughter (lady A) has conducted herself like a kind person , although I saw red flags but in my state of grief I didn’t think much about them, from Fighting for my husband’s phones , to taking away his SUV, changing security guards at the gate etc. I honestly didn’t see her as a greedy person.

I came back to Canada that same week, she already brought in some lawyers who will handle letter of Administration and help oversee estate matters. Myself and all the children were on the same page till lady A said she wanted to be the sole signatory to the schools account.

I disagreed and suggested that three of us (myself, Lady A and one of woman B children) should sign concurrently alongside on all transactions.

Lady A was so adamant about the signatory issue that she started to throw shades and subtle insults , I stood my ground and it took her lawyer’s intervention before she agreed. Since then I have become lady As enemy.

Guess what?
Lady A in recent development had instructed the security that no one should enter into my matrimonial home without her permission, I sent my brother there on two occasions and he was denied access, I can’t imagine seeking the permission of lady A who is in Australia in her husbands house before entering my own husbands house, a place she has never lived in or visited!! I don’t want this to lead to legal suits here and there, but these people are not so gentle and peaceful, I paid my dues in that house it was uncompleted when I married my husband and I contributed in my own way.
I am not greedy and I’m willing to meet everyone in middle but Nigerians are so terrible, she is in Australia and she knows no one can do these nonsense abroad but they take advantage of gentility.
I sent you a mail
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Afolue(m): 10:29pm On Dec 21, 2024
Yinabim:
Amen
Are you the very person is question here, are you willing to give love a chance again?
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Lamanii22(f): 5:16pm On Dec 22, 2024
VeryWickedBro:
OP DM me.
I'm very good at comforting widows.
Werey 😂😂😂
Re: Family Issues After The Death Of My Husband. by Yinabim(op): 6:18pm On Dec 22, 2024
Afolue:
Are you the very person is question here, are you willing to give love a chance again?
I am the person in question but for love I don’t think I’m capable, I’m hurt
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