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nairalanda1:
■ When we pray for someone, we get a glimpse of the love God has for us inspite of our sinful nature and his desire for us to follow in his example and love even those who hurt us.
■ Because as Christ himself said, if we cannot forgive, we are not worthy of God's own forgiveness.

Most of you are too deluded to see that you merely regurgitate the ridiculous nonsense you have been fed by other equally deluded beings.

2. Putting aside the fact that OP never said he is a descendant of Jacob at all, let me try to make sense of your second claim. Jesus Christ of Israel's teaching makes clear that individuals are to
► seek the forgiveness of others— those who have grudges against them—
► to forgive those whom they hold grudges against ...
before then approaching the God of Israel in prayer seeking forgiveness or anything from Him.

But here you all insist that OP, against Jesus Christ of Israel's clear commands, must instead pray to God of Israel — without first doing what Jesus Christ of Israel commands. And your wish is for us all to believe that though it is against God of Israel's actual Law, it works. Do you truly not see where the major problems lie with your claimed beliefs?

Pussyisgud:
See just live your life the best way you can, you are not the only one with a rough childhood.

God bless you for these statement.

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

You just have to forgive her and take those days as the days of ignorance. She is older and wiser now and I know she regrets the things she must have done just that it's impossible to reverse time and make amends.
Remember those you have also hurt in the past and then your sins against God. If you want your sins to be forgiven you have to learn to forgive your fellow men. Holding into a grudge will eventually destroy you and may see you making the same mistake with your children. So just forgive the hurt and move on.
Get her to reverse those curses and both of you should hug and bury the hatchet.

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Some mother's are like that you are not alone.

Kobojunkie:
OP is a 40-year-old man whose past still haunts him like a ghost that don't seem to ever die, yet here you are telling him,"it's all in the past now, fogerrit bro! na tough luv!"? Are you people for real? Aren't you doing to him the same thing those who abused him did which is to try to brush aside his pain?

Like it doesn't even make sense. They're trying to "outtrauma" the guy.

Most of you commenting are useless folks especially thr females.. if na em papa abuse am now..
Na so so Dead beat we go dey hear for this thread...
Now cos na woEman everybody dey preach forgiveness..
Thundá Faya all of una...

Op.. if you choose not to forgive it's fine.. if you choose revenge it is fine as well

dont 4give her


dont dare

koyeni:
■ He's a false prophet

Let me guess... you think yourself capable of telling the real from the fakes, right?

Kinzo0000:
■ What what makes you feel his opinion is not right? U be real ogede

Apriori knowledge.

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Seek God's intervention through a true minister of God. Let me be sincere with you, human beings can only lay curses but can't revoke them. So the idea that your mom later revoke the curses isn't true. She did not because she can't do anything about them. It's only God that can break those curses from your life. Once again, seek God's intervention until you are convinced that the curses have been broken. If you don't know where to get help, get in touch.

As others have said, you need treatment. And a good pastor will tell you the same. You're not going to pray things away.

Kobojunkie:
So because he is not the only one with a rough childhood, he should do nothing at all about the hurt and rage he feels about it all?

I don't think he means what you're implying...

Me believes he's saying it's comforting knowing one is not alone in a despairing situation. At least, knowledge of others suffering same would help some cope. As d saying goes, no be only me dey suffer am, fit make man endurance strong kakaraka

Just my thoughts, who knows what goes on in the minds of most nairalanders... SMH

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to him!

he is not lying to him. That's the best he can do at least for the old woman that's equally feeling guilty 😞

Mama na still mama..let all go n forgive her!

Kobojunkie:
OP is a 40-year-old man whose past still haunts him like a ghost that don't seem to ever die, yet here you are telling him,"it's all in the past now, fogerrit bro! na tough luv!"? Are you people for real? Aren't you doing to him the same thing those who abused him did which is to try to brush aside his pain?

Oh...

What then should one tell Mr op?

Kobojunkie:
Most of you are too deluded to see that you merely regurgitate the ridiculous nonsense you have been fed by other equally deluded beings.

2. Putting aside the fact that OP never said he is a descendant of Jacob at all, let me try to make sense of your second claim. Jesus Christ of Israel's teaching makes clear that individuals are to
► seek the forgiveness of others— those who have grudges against them—
► to forgive those whom they hold grudges against ...
before then approaching the God of Israel in prayer seeking forgiveness or anything from Him.

But here you all insist that OP, against Jesus Christ of Israel's clear commands, must instead pray to God of Israel — without first doing what Jesus Christ of Israel commands. And your wish is for us all to believe that though it is against God of Israel's actual Law, it works. Do you truly not see where the major problems lie with your claimed beliefs?

You better learn to respond to others without being abusive.

Good evening.

Jobesi:
■ Like it doesn't even make sense. They're trying to "outtrauma" the guy.

You dey mind them!

Btruth:
he is not lying to him. That's the best he can do at least for the old woman that's equally feeling guilty 😞

Best he can do is lie to him, a lie that will not help heal the hurts or even resolve the rage inside of OP. Are you for real?

obataokenwa:
Better buy a gift and go beg and make peace with your mum to break those curses. By age those guys have lived so long on earth that the elements of the heavens and earth honour their words. She's old and have nothing to loose...but you have alot to loose when she dies. The cycle will rotate and watch out how it will repeat with your own children leaving u also. Just go make peace and ignore all this advices of move on with your life. Do quick before she dies

The curse causeless shall not come : Prov. 26.2.

Why should he beg someone who cursed him for no reason? He can only forgive her for his own peace of mind. If the mother dies without repentance and without recanting her curse, hellfire is waiting her. While the man can cast off her curse with a single deliverance service in any church of God.

nairalanda1:
■ You better learn to respond to others without being abusive. Good evening.

See typical Christian maneuver abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

This advice will perhaps be the oddest here , but only the Light and Sound of God can help you fortunately and unfortunately for you.

You are to sing spiritually charged Sounds to vibrate your self upward from the current low vibe.

Then see if you can table in a request to your guardian angel nightly for help. Everyone has one!!!

You're supposed to face the energy between you and your mum at night, make it work for you instead. This is after you must have learnt the lesson involved especially how you maltreated her badly too in a previous life.

Kobojunkie:
See typical Christian maneuver abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

It does not make your abusiveness right.

But then again...

membranus:
The curse causeless shall not come : Prov. 26.2.

Why should he beg someone who cursed him for no reason? He can only forgive her for his own peace of mind.

He was not cursed by someone...was cursed by his biological mum.

Kobojunkie:
See typical Christian maneuver abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

You are right , deluded man , son of a deluded parent.

Our lives mostly don't turn out the way we always expect it to be but I accept that upbringing and parental care can be very crucial to a child's growth and development. However, I would advice that you can still do a lot for yourself. I am also 40+ and though where I thought I would be but definitely not where I used to be.
When you strive more and achieve success even a little will go alone way while you keep at it, forgiveness will come naturally even without you knowing it.

Kobojunkie:
You clearly suffered emotional abuse from your mother growing up is to blame for why your life did not turn out the way you would have preferred? I suggest you at least seek mental health counseling to at least help you work through all of those emotional scars you still carry with you and maybe also help you and your mother build a better relationship to benefit you both.

Some rather deluded comments here

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Just forgive and move on with your life. You also need forgiveness from others you have wrong without knowing it. Your health and relationships especially with God might suffer if you don’t let go!

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to him!

From a chronic liar like you

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Be compassionate enough to stay calm, kind and be generous to her in all things.

Change is constant.

Since you've moved on, don't permit any soul to minimise your kindness to her in any form.

As you're thinking, so also she.

You're both in the stuff together.

Cheers!!!

MICVOCT
Circumventing difficulties

Kobojunkie:
So because he is not the only one with a rough childhood, he should do nothing at all about the hurt and rage he feels about it all?

So he should take his revenge?

Deluded man

Kobojunkie:
Best he can do is lie to him, a lie that will not help heal the hurts or even resolve the rage inside of OP. Are you for real?

So says a deluded mind

At 40?
You should visit a therapist Bro.

Then, try bonding with her:

Let her prepare your meals.

Once in a while, go out with her on walks and while you rest to catch your breath, ask her deep, probing questions about things you never understood during your childhood.

I mean, she's your mom Bro and no other human being will ever share that sort of relationship with you.

Let go of the hurt abeg.