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nairalanda1:
■ You are right , deluded man , son of a deluded parent.

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nairalanda1:
So says a deluded mind

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nairalanda1:
From a chronic liar like you

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nairalanda1:
Some rather deluded comments here

...You are a badge-carrying Christian indeed. If you cannot win them in logical reasoning, insult your way into getting them to submit to your brand of gobble-de-gook.. right, right? ?? 😂😂😂😂

Pray to God about it

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

my dear. It is well. I am in the same shoe too just that I can't forget even though I have forgiven her. But we move and hopefully we correct their mistakes on our own children.

Kobojunkie:
.............You are a badge-carrying Christian indeed. If you cannot win them in logical reasoning, insult your way into getting them to submit to your brand of gobble-de-gook.. right, right? ?? 😂😂😂😂

Still makes you a deluded man,.old chap.

Plus you are better than me, since you don't follow Christianity, so you should not be as abusive as us bad old religious people.

You should be more mature

But your abusiveness means you are very much like us.

Don't be deluded in thinking you aren't

Just get over it, she's ur mum n u'll have kids but u can never tell how ur behavior will be towards them

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

You can't forget. It's your responsibility to make sure that when the thought comes to your mind, you expel it. Remember parents are like vehicles that transport people to their destinations, but when you get down from the vehicle, you find your way home. According to your story, she wasn't a good driver but now you have options to drive, do the driving and you will surely get to where you were meant to be.

Bitterness is a seed of backwardness. It keeps you in the past when there are so many goodies in the future and today. Make Jesus your partner and let the Holy Spirit guide you. Love your mum even though she doesn't deserve it. Remember, you can only be different if you do the opposite of what she did.

Keep reading your Bible if you are a Christian and obey its instructions. Be blessed.

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Get counselling for your anger

And above all, it is hard to do, forgive.

Curse no dey work

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Oh, I wish I still have a mum. Kai, she for enjoy eh. My bro, U don't value what u have until u lose it. Better love Ur mum now and enjoy her company now while she still can recognise u

Peterpan222:
■ Oh, I wish I still have a mum. Kai, she for enjoy eh. My bro, U don't value what u have until u lose it. Better love Ur mum now and enjoy her company now while she still can recognise u

Abeg, get lost!

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

When you say you forgive, it doesn't mean that the memory will leave you . It means you decided to live a better life irrespective of what has happened and you are not willing to payback. You can't actually forget except your lost your memory. Forgiveness is a decision of the strong and those who believe in God's ability. Let it go and treat her well because of God .

obataokenwa:
He was not cursed by someone...was cursed by his biological mum.

So what? Some mothers are worst than witches.

@OP

I can't tell you how or when to forgive your mum. You are hurt, and we wired differently. The truth is that most of these our parents are annoying. They hurt us and actually think they are doing us a favour and end up realising it too late.

I read your past comments, my take is that, no matter what, LET YOUR CHILD STAY WITH YOU.

With time, she might not really have any affection towards you and may end up blaming you for some of your decisions just the way u blame your mother now.

I wish you find true love and marry right BUT if doesn't happen soon, don't let it weigh you down. Some women get married and their lives get more miserable.

I think what you need now is:

- Learn to accommodate your mum and forgive her shortcomings, by the time she is no more, u will miss her.

- Bond with your child, she will make you heal faster.

- Focus more on how to develop yourself and become financially stable, no man wants to marry a liability.

- Pray on your own (mother's prayer for you is also very important at this stage) and give charity as much as you can afford. Don't believe "this pastor say, that pastor say". Nobody is God's PA.

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Better do. Just buried a friend's mom today, despite all he did he wish he could do more

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Not forgiving her totally is what is holding you down.
Forgive and love her with all your heart now she is still alive.
She will sincerely pray and bless you and you will experience huge turn around in your life.
I am telling you out of experience. I can't tell the experience here. If you want to know send me mail.

Do it now you still have your mother alive. Failure will come with lots of regrets.
Thank you.

membranus:
So what? Some mothers are worst than witches.

Life is more spiritual than physical

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

betrayal is not forgiven because loyalty is not negotiable, especially from a mother that is supposed to be the very bedrock of trust and loyalty,such must not be forgiven,let her go before God and beg our lord for forgiveness

Have you made money or not?

Kobojunkie:
Counseling is available to all persons dealing with even emotional trauma from their pasts. It would be ill-advised, for OP or anyone in OP's shoes, to do nothing about the emotional scar from abuse as described by OP, an issue that has so far robbed him of a good quality of life according to his confession.

Where is this counseling?

Your counselor fit dey traumatized sef.

Geovanni412:
■ Where is this counseling? Your counselor fit dey traumatized sef.

Counselors are human beings like you so yes, he could also be dealing with his own trauma and so has the experience to draw from.

What is there to forgive? She is your mother

Honor and care for her as much as you can.

Some never even have the mother!

For you to move really forward, bury the past, and ignore the rough terrain.

If you keep bad memories of your own mother, you will be the one suffering. At least she has come to see you as a man. Appreciate it and enjoy it with her.

Anything else you are on your own. Life is not about your dictates

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Don't forgive.

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Ask her to pray for you to reverse the curse she laid on you.

you are still dealing with trauma, and rage. Therefore you need couselling and you need God. If you praise God and let it all it all out, by the special grace of God, you will be strong to forgive.

omooba969:
Can you help with the prayer points please. 🥴

Kobojunkie:
So because he is not the only one with a rough childhood, he should do nothing at all about the hurt and rage he feels about it all?

Nice! I guess you have an idea what he should do with the hurt and rage inside him; maybe he can just kill the person responsible for the pain he feels to get even. Àwọn oní advice Ìsọnu!

placeofallure:
■ Nice! I guess you have an idea what he should do with the hurt and rage inside him; maybe he can just kill the person responsible for the pain he feels to get even. Àwọn oní advice Ìsọnu!

Come on naw... stop being dense! Don't you see that if he is not already beating his mom or acting out violently towards her as is, pretending the problem is not real is not the way about it? OP needs to properly tackle his angst and getting some serious counseling and proper anger management can help him not end up murdering the woman with all that anger that has been building up inside of him.

Well ,Il be spiritual,study the pattern, is your mum is good terms with her own parent?let evil end with you ..pray forgive her.you will be fine.life is spiritual ..hand over ur anger to Jesus..

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

The problem is you believe her words and curses. You have to break free from them by believing that your story would be different.

Maybe I can give a better response if you explain the kind of curses but you don't have to reveal those details if you don't want to.

There's no point carrying hate in your heart.

It may be helpful to understand why your mother became that way. It's very possible that someone did the same thing to her and then she did it to you.

But that's not an excuse. She should have changed her ways. Now it's up to you to make the change and break the cycle of abuse.

When you remember what your mother did to you and you become angry, let it out. Talk to someone you can trust about it if you have any. Write down how you feel. Cry if you need to.

Start thinking of how different you want your life to be and start working towards it. If there is anything she said that's holding you back, change it in your mind. If she said you will fail at something, tell yourself that it's a lie and you will succeed. Replace those curses in your mind with your own words of positive affirmation.

It will take time to overcome the words and actions of your mother but take it one step at a time and eventually, you will overcome it.

Op you will always have the rough memory. What you need are coping skills and emotional healing to release some of the emotions. Also empower your soul and spirit. If you are lucky to meet a girl who is mature and spiritual she could help you heal with her femine energy. Take some supplements and herbs that support the brain eg adaptogens. In my opinion you are dealing with scars/ trauma and. Lot forgiveness . If at all there is unforgiveness here it is like the one you have against your self. Be gentle on yourself. Best o luck 🤞🏾.
Ps: it is a main problem in Afro Communities.
Healing hugz

Ammmy:
Growing up, my mother did a lot of terrible things to me even till I became an adult. I'm 40 now and she's aged.

She's trying to be kind to me now and I've forgiven her or so I thought. My life didn't turn out well the way I wanted because of her curse and evil mind towards me.

She regrets everything now and I have moved on but the memories fail to leave me. I've tried as much as possible to forget those things but I can't and each time I remember them I feel this rage inside of me.

What are the "terrible things" your mom did to you? If you don't say it, it's hard for anyone to judge. Did she scold you for some things you did? Did she leave you malnourished? Did she use you for rituals? Did she attempt to kill you? If none of the above, then you need to check yourself.

You're 40 and still complaining about your mother when you should be worried about your own kids.