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As a mature and learned man, who has travelled round the world, that's the most stupid and dumbest question you can ever ask your wife...

Your write up said you believe and trust your wife, why then do you want to push her into emotional trauma?

Don't let all what you read in the news of some women cheating get to your head, trust and believe your wife wholeheartedly as you have always been...

Peace

Faber:
Go through her phone first...

Then from her phone you may see one or two clues...

Steal her blood or saliva while she is asleep and Use it for pregnancy test, before paternity fraud hits on you.

Or you consult a native doctor...If I marry tomorrow, which I dont see it happening, they no born any woman well to cheat on me. I know where I will go and I will be briefed of all your whereabouts. 💯 Tested and trusted

You are still living in the past. More headache loading based on your comment.

Humblesam:
Oga were you expecting her to mess up after you had left the country?
Wasn't she aware of this tradition in place when she decided to get married to you?
Or are you not trusting her enough to remain faithful for that long?
Finally, can you swear with your life that you'll ever forgive her if she falls short of your expectations?


My take..
If you love and trust your wife, and have been doing quite well when you weren't around...then why the fears?


Final point
No one here can honestly help you Sir,
You are the only one who can sort yourself out. You know who you got married to bro
Sort yourself out.
It's as simple as that.

You just helped him.

amigo1088:
Why marry a prostitute in the first place?

Because if she's not a prostitute, you won't be worried.

Oga are u a learner? Even though u marry a virgin she can still cheat on u. woman are not predictable, especially when their men are not round them.

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Just go ahead with the cleansing so that if she's clean, you're lucky & if she's not clean, you'd have cleaned her before sleeping with her.

Omoawoke:
And you think she way say yes if she did

If a woman cheat on you, she will hold that secret even at point of death. She rather die and go to hell than confess.
Unless you catch her with all evidences, otherwise she will never agree she did

To end up in the lake of fire that burns with brimstone and sulphur for ever and ever OR to repent, confess and beg for forgiveness which one is better?

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

U are still young don't think and have hypertension cos of thinking if person nack her. Just do ur best nack ur own anything happen in past is gone. Just ensure u do dna if u suspect she chests

That tradition is for the past, nothing will happen to you even if she'd slept with another man.

She had been baltasered.

Asking is not accusing.
Especially on the premise of the tradition of infidelity from yor tribe which I believe she is aware of.

Just ask nicely but very deeply. If she says no, believe her, get it off your mind and give her serious knacking llle Nackson.

If she did, with time you will know.

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Who ask you to come from such places? Nonsense tradition.
Be ready to also answer when she ask you same questions whenever you gets home from work.

thesicilian:
Are you saying this because your instrument is smaller than every other person's?

He’s obviously insecure and doesn’t treat her well enough.

Kajaard:
Keep your sanity. Don't ask her. It won't end well.

why would you ever ask. That ans you're looking for. You will get.

KosiGee:
You are brainwashed. Even with education, you can’t be helped.
I’ve seen lots of people like you, some are well educated, well travelled but can’t do away with this silly superstition.

If the wife cheats, it’s believed that something will happen to the man. You are just a victim of your own messed up mentality.
A woman could be cheating and the husband will have the best health, living the best life until he somehow learns or suspects that another man has slept with his wife…that’s when the trouble starts. His mental health dips, he turns a shadow of himself not because of the betrayal and unfaithfulness but because somewhere in Nsukka, he has been conditioned to believe that bad things will happen to him. That’s done bs bro

U are still a child.

[quote author=JovialJune post=132905630]Lol these generation of men are nothing to write home about at all, especially the ones getting married, very immature, clueless, senseless lmao 🤣

If these are the majority male breeds available for marriage, I pity females, because what the hell, lmao 🤣 😂 😆 [/quote
Same thing as men in your family. Nothing to write home about. including your dad and brothers.

Everybody relationship and marriage different from the next man's. If that tickles your fancy, do it. I'm not holding you.

Which kain idiots people dey raise nowadays? See stewpid question wey this dodoyo wan ask him wife.

That your culture is a bad culture. It is the person who commits adultery that should bear the consequences, why the man who does no wrong, that culture is unfair

Iceberg3:
There's nothing wrong...but your wife should answer you with a hot slap on your big mouth

Walahi I don laf tire with these your comments

What do you want to do with the response?

Looking for trouble where there's none

What if her response is yes, I phucked another guy and he is better than you. Infact I don't want you anymore

if we cant trust each other then it makes no sense to bother....

i will not stay in a relationship that i dont trust her....
ofcourse if i suspect something i will set traps for her to slip into....

take ealier free from work frequently and check your homes....
a woman can fvck who she wants but she has no right to bring the guy she is fvckin in your house....

wunmi590:


As a mature and learned man, who has travelled round the world, that's the most stupid and dumbest question you can ever ask your wife...

Your write up said you believe and trust your wife, why then do you want to push her into emotional trauma?

Don't let all what you read in the news of some women cheating get to your head, trust and believe your wife wholeheartedly as you have always been...

Peace

chaii...worse thing you can do is put a innocent woman into a state of confusion....

if you accuse her and end up wrong then you can be sure that relationship will not last....

Me i nor even sure say anybody dey brave to agree to cheating, na who dem catch always be thief. You nor trust your wife? If there is trust the question is unnecessary although some women can’t be trusted. Give her reverse psychology by telling her a story about a friend of yours who died because the wife cheated. Question when you suppose ask her use am as story hear waitn she get to talk her response towards answering and make e be video call. If you go ask am that kind question directly you don cause war for your family

Starboytwo:
"where I come from, it's an abomination" blah blah blah.

Ogbeni, there's no abomination anywhere. Things have changed... We are in a Baltasar era.

Dido ni everybody...

You for carry madam go with you na...

😂 🤣🤣🤣🤣

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Above everything oga, protect ur life first... Ur life is important, ask questions ooo, if you are still not convinced from her response go and do the cleansing

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

You know what, just do the cleansing rituals according to your culture, and don't tell her why. If she slept with another man, you have done the cleansing - consequences averted, if she didn't, then she has double cleansing effect.

How you take leave woman for 8 months alone?

I pray she hasn't done all that. It's not easy though.

😂😂😂you expect her to say yes if she's done it baa? 😂😂😂Dey play

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

If you can go spiritual to find out things by yourself it will be helpful. 90% of Nigerian women hardly admit to cheating. You know the consequences and damages it can cause if you sleep with her where as she was sleeping with another man in your absence..Don't mess up bro, do your best to find out

Faber:
Go through her phone first...

Then from her phone you may see one or two clues...

Steal her blood or saliva while she is asleep and Use it for pregnancy test, before paternity fraud hits on you.

Or you consult a native doctor...If I marry tomorrow, which I dont see it happening, they no born any woman well to cheat on me. I know where I will go and I will be briefed of all your whereabouts. 💯 Tested and trusted

I swear bruh, I tell people forget DNA, if my girlfriend or wife give me pikin way know be my own I go know Asap, talk more of cheating.
When I meet my girlfriend newly way she still dey talk to her ex I know, when she stop I still know, she will always ask me how did you know.
Unless I'm not interested to know