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Growing up, I use to wonder why some couples looks unfitting.

About twenty years ago in my church, there was this fine, tall banker, just imagine Ramsey Noah but taller and finer. A Yoruba guy.

All the spinster then will dress fine and sit in front row, so he sees them (he was the head choir). Girls threw themselves at him until he shocked the whole church when he shared his wedding invitation.

A girl from another church, average looking and not someone most men will turn their head to look twice. Back then, I didn't understood why he skipped this fine girls in church.

But when I think about that event now, I understand. The lady gave him peace, love him for him, probably a virgin and a home maker. He lives in the UK now with her and they are still together.

I'm saying this to point out that one should realise why some couples that might seen unfitting might actually knows what truly matters. If we judge by looks only, then we missed the point of marriage.

Probably they have seen the shitshake that makes up the dating scene, and choose peace. In a time when women will spend millions on their external looks, while letting the internal character to rot, one has to choose wisely.

Fiscus105:
In other word, if you, as husband starts experience difficulties, wife should abandon you and move on for better man.


Wen a foolish will talk first before examine his utterances!

You are actually the foolish one here young man because you are looking at what I wrote from a wrong perspective that betrays extreme narrow-mindedness and lack of mental depth.

The title of the thread is about husbands who are pastors not enjoying their marriage because of the bad behaviour of their wives NOT about wives abandoning their husband due to difficulties (whatever that means).

No good and wise woman would abandon a good, loving and caring husband just because of some temporary financial or other crisis of life likewise, no wise man would abandon a wonderful caring wife who is going through some challenges!

The point I made was, if after marriage you discover that you made a terrible mistake in your choice of a life partner, you notice some deep rooted character flaws and evil nature in the person you married to, and you are able to see clearly that your life and destiny is not safe and secure while such a person is still in your life you have a God-given right to terminate the marriage and be free provided you did not make a vow in God's presence to stay married to the person till death. Because if you made that vow your destiny is sealed!

So it's better you don't make that vow unless you know the person you are about to get married to to the very core. You know the condition of his soul, spirit and body and you are willing to accept unconditionally and forever what you saw in the person and live with it.

Mentally shallow, narrow-minded folks like you should learn not to jump to conclusion and condemn somebody's comment until you have a clear understanding of what he is saying.

folake4u:
It is even tiring at this point. These people should allow women to breathe in peace.

When women do bad, we should fold our hands and look on?

Capillary88:
Well said. You've spoken like a Veteran.
Pls sir bless my Sunday. Since yesterday, na hunger wan kpai me. I'm in dire need of help 🙏 🙏 pls

I normally don't do this but I don't know why I'm advising you to veer off "begging street" there is no dignity in begging. Just do something even if it is washing someone's car inorder to get them pay you. Begging is cancerous and renders you a selfish person who hardly thinks outta the box. You rather pray to your maker to give you food than beg. He can direct you on what to do to see cash or even stimulate your neighbour to assist you in cash or kind.

Johnycastro18:
Many pastors are really going through alot, no cap.....

after preaching sermons every Sunday "one man one wife" "marriage is a life time commitment', till death do you part"

How can they now come and divorced their own wife, despite their wife devilish attitudes

Well.., its for those that believe in one man one wife, they should enjoy it, just as I will say one wife is better for a man, that is if the wife is really a wife, but I will never apply it as a rule that must be followed, because God never said so

That's true. But mumu wives respect their pastors more than their husbands

Fiscus105:
Not far from truth, many devoted Christians, enduring marriages, far more than ordinary Christians


Infact, many house wives deliberately frustrating their husbands in bed, claiming 'I'm your wife".

So true.

God help us all.

Many people will wag their tongue against the Church and Pastors now

MrJames007:
Noo...

Though I don't watch nollywood movies anymore, each time I saw their mount Zion movie on local TV channel back then, it used to catch my attention.

I don't watch Nollywood movies anymore as well. Except Nollywood films produce by Mainframe or Tunde Kelani

They were quite popular back then as husband and wife. People talked about it.

AntiChristian:
Alhamdulillah, marriage is not till death do us part for me! Divorce is not a sin!

Marriage is not a lifetime bondage!

Do the pastors have time for their wife?

I mean real quality time!

antichristian d pagan
who invite u come this thread?
Go ur islam allah idol section

Marriage needs respect and love. Both husband and wife must work together. No one should use their role to hurt the other.

bitbillionaire:
You are actually the foolish one here young man because you are looking at what I wrote from a wrong perspective that betrays extreme narrow-mindedness and lack of mental depth.

The title of the thread is about husbands who are pastors not enjoying their marriage because of the bad behaviour of their wives NOT about wives abandoning their husband due to difficulties (whatever that means).

No good and wise woman would abandon a good, loving and caring husband just because of some temporary financial or other crisis of life likewise, no wise man would abandon a wonderful caring wife who is going through some challenges!

The point I made was, if after marriage you discover that you made a terrible mistake in your choice of a life partner, you notice some deep rooted character flaws and evil nature in the person you married to, and you are able to see clearly that your life and destiny is not safe and secure while such a person is still in your life you have a God-given right to terminate the marriage and be free provided you did not make a vow in God's presence to stay married to the person till death. Because if you made that vow your destiny is sealed!

So it's better you don't make that vow unless you know the person you are about to get married to to the very core. You know the condition of his soul, spirit and body and you are willing to accept unconditionally and forever what you saw in the person and live with it.

Mentally shallow, narrow-minded folks like you should learn not to jump to conclusion and condemn somebody's comment until you have a clear understanding of what he is saying.

You are obviously too young and inexperienced for this conversation. You will soon grow and learn women

Is it not that woman in mount zion films, she looks beautiful.

Without much makeup, just basics, and looks like a genuine person with beauty

advanceDNA:
Women are smarter than y'all..... Na una dey marry for love while most women marry for business, weda you are Ned Nwoko or just a regular guy making 350k or 70k per month
......which makes them see clearly and act ruthlessly while y'all are being patient, quiet, being frustrated, being walked over..

Men need to start marrying with two eyes open...all these love or lust or wateva y'all call it is what makes men suffer in their marriage

Whether you're married or you're still single, I cut cap for you.
You're very very correct. I feel like hugging you.

jesusjnr2020:
Of course there's bound to be ups and downs in marriage, but the root cause of marriage becoming a bondage, even to those who were true servants of God, is when they make the grave error of choosing the wrong marriage partner.

That's why it's crucial not to rush into marriage, because once in, it's until death, hence why one ought to get it right before getting in.

God bless.

You people just love to suffer in a bad marriage!

Who gave you this doctrine, and can you reference where it's stated that you cannot opt out of a destructive marriage even as a man of God?

Exactly! How can a pastor be living like Christ indeed and have a wife that won't submit to him?

AntiChristian:
Alhamdulillah, marriage is not till death do us part for me! Divorce is not a sin!

Marriage is not a lifetime bondage!

Do the pastors have time for their wife?

I mean real quality time!

Yet people take marital issues to same pastors

The worst thing you can do to an African woman is show that you are soft. You go collect shege tire.

travelzcruix:
The worst thing you can do to an African woman is show that you are soft. You go collect shege tire.

No matter how successful a woman is, they are designed to look up to a man for direction, discipline, protection and inspiration.

So, if your woman keeps seeing you as soft or lacking these perspectives, she may begin to question your essence and usefulness in her life.

Hence their misbehavior in such cases.

Basiljoe:
I hate to break this to you, from my observations, most Pastors are feminine conditioned Beta males.

This is why I laugh whenever I see people take their marital issues to pastors for advice.
You want someone who is only experienced in theology to give you advice on intersexual dynamics?

"In all social situations the default is to side with the feminine, the “weaker sex”– women, from sympathy or empathy, and men, from a desire to eventually become intimate with them." - Book 1, RM

"Experience teaches harsh, but it teaches best and the breadth of experience serves a man well. Whose insight is more beneficial, the man who’s sailed the world over or the man who’s never ventured beyond a lake?" - Book 1, RM

nigga not all pastors are weak
I've seen redpilled pastors and reverend father's and I'm a Catholic by the way

bitbillionaire:
You are actually the foolish one here young man because you are looking at what I wrote from a wrong perspective that betrays extreme narrow-mindedness and lack of mental depth.

The title of the thread is about husbands who are pastors not enjoying their marriage because of the bad behaviour of their wives NOT about wives abandoning their husband due to difficulties (whatever that means).

No good and wise woman would abandon a good, loving and caring husband just because of some temporary financial or other crisis of life likewise, no wise man would abandon a wonderful caring wife who is going through some challenges!

The point I made was, if after marriage you discover that you made a terrible mistake in your choice of a life partner, you notice some deep rooted character flaws and evil nature in the person you married to, and you are able to see clearly that your life and destiny is not safe and secure while such a person is still in your life you have a God-given right to terminate the marriage and be free provided you did not make a vow in God's presence to stay married to the person till death. Because if you made that vow your destiny is sealed!

So it's better you don't make that vow unless you know the person you are about to get married to to the very core. You know the condition of his soul, spirit and body and you are willing to accept unconditionally and forever what you saw in the person and live with it.

Mentally shallow, narrow-minded folks like you should learn not to jump to conclusion and condemn somebody's comment until you have a clear understanding of what he is saying.

I swear u be small pikin 😂
Don't worry you will understand women soon

FuckYeyeMods:
I'm married but sincerely, marriage is not all it seems.
If you're not very strong, the institution can break you. Married people are really trying.
It's more difficult that the women can now easily subscribe to adultery.
Different bad and toxic groups on Facebook and WhatsApp.
Marriage can change your view about everything you think you know.
Are you a kind hearted person? Marriage can make you become hateful being.
Are you a quiet person? Marriage can make you become talkertive.
Are very playful and jovial? Marriage can make you become strict and insensitive.
Are you a good guy? Marriage can make you a complete bad guy.
In all, before going into marriage, get Pen and Paper and boldly define exactly who you're and to which people have testified to it.
Because when that is about to change,you can use it to retrace your true self. When your supposed wife want to make make you look like the worst person on earth.
Marriage is not for Simps bro!

Exactly like you said marriage is not for simps

Just like Life is not for simps

One of the lessons I have learnt is that I don't allow situations change me

I rather get experiences from those situations
And allow the lessons learnt shape me


Life is filled with challenges

pansophist:
Growing up, I use to wonder why some couples looks unfitting.

About twenty years ago in my church, there was this fine, tall banker, just imagine Ramsey Noah but taller and finer. A Yoruba guy.

All the spinster then will dress fine and sit in front row, so he sees them (he was the head choir). Girls threw themselves at him until he shocked the whole church when he shared his wedding invitation.

A girl from another church, average looking and not someone most men will turn their head to look twice. Back then, I didn't understood why he skipped this fine girls in church.

But when I think about that event now, I understand. The lady gave him peace, love him for him, probably a virgin and a home maker. He lives in the UK now with her and they are still together.

I'm saying this to point out that one should realise why some couples that might seen unfitting might actually knows what truly matters. If we judge by looks only, then we missed the point of marriage.

Probably they have seen the shitshake that makes up the dating scene, and choose peace. In a time when women will spend millions on their external looks, while letting the internal character to rot, one has to choose wisely.

Average looking women most times make better wife's that will give a man peace of mind

The good looking, well to be favoured beautiful women most times are trouble some

They are always full of themselves
May look down on people due to pride and arrogance


The men that marry those beautiful, good looking and well favored most times are the kind of werey men

That will put them in there place
Also those Men with Cash

So they will behave themselves
Because women respect money and good Life


But if you are a struggling guy
Trying to build up yourself

If you marry those beautiful good looking ones
Na sorry be your name

It's just very few of the beautiful ones that will mellow down

Those ones with good character/ behavior
But they are very few


In conclusion
Marriage no easy one bit

But if you as a man is fortunate to have a kind hearted empathic woman and you as the Man is cool headed

Both of you will surmount any challenge your way

But if you marriage is successful
You will be enjoying heaven here on Earth

You re busy humping other people's wives and still want your wives to be submissive.

kingthreat:
Don't be scared of marriage. But do your due diligence to marry your match before marriage. IF your zodiac is a water element, marry either a earth or water element. And if it is a fire element marry either an air or fire element. Even pastors are using the basics of zodiacs for marriage. Because if you miss it, you might mistakenly marry your enemy.

What would you say of a union between an aquarius and a Libra?

Warrior99:
What would you say of a union between an aquarius and a Libra?

They're both air elements. If they commit towards it, they could flow together.

Every other day this man is always coming out to drag women. Using his position of authority to be peddling misogynistic narratives.

Does he not rest?!


Women this, women that, women here, women there.


Is he not enjoying his own marriage? Abi kini gan? He should stop with all the projection if it's about his own marriage o. Haba.

A ma wa ro'go o! What is all these name calling and organised oppression of women folks is all about?
Please please please! Ha!

Free2Fly:
Just shut up, no man wakes up and start abusing any woman
It's usually your unreasonable gender that starts the abuse and then begins to masquerade as the victim

You shut up. So women wake up and start frustrating their husbands? Go through the romance section and see the amount of bile and toxicity your fellow men spew over there and women are the problem? How many women open threads lamenting about men the way you shameless men do? If you look within yourselves and see you have no fault or blame in anything, then YOU are the problem!

omooba969:
You people just love to suffer in a bad marriage!

Who gave you this doctrine, and can you reference where it's stated that you cannot opt out of a destructive marriage even as a man of God?

Do not argue with that guy! He is a fanatic. He is damaged!

Not just pastors, 80 percent of all men, all eyes will open when their is no more wedding in d next 10 years