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purples25:
I post for fun and also for validation.

I stopped because I don't get the validation and it makes me feel bad. My former mates from university, secondary school still get hundreds of thousands of likes, but I get very few. Maybe six, maybe ten. I got tired of the disappointment, so that's one reason I got discouraged from posting.

Number two, the fear of spiritual attacks. I have a picture of my little boy on Facebook but I'm going to remove it soon.

Number three, the stupid competition and endless jealousy of other women. My son was born with hair, but I decided to post a picture of him when we cut all his hair, tagging it 'memories'. Immediately, a former friend that has over millions of likes on every of her posts went to post her own son, tagging it 'memories' as well, with his full hair. I immediately got annoyed, like you have it all, must you kill my moment. I posted my son with hair but she must have known how I would feel and mischievously didn't view my own. She just wanted to kill my moment of joy. I decided to leave social media for them that are always having five million likes while people view mine and I have so little likes.

Another fair skinned pretty girl on my WhatsApp took it as a personal fight when I started posting my naming ceremony pictures and baby pictures. She never had before in the long time that I had her contact, posted pictures, but once I did my own, she started posting pictures of her relatives baby living abroad. Like... How am I fighting you, I don't even know you. To the extent that I posted on Whatsapp and immediately she posted something that triggered me. Once I put up another post that made her know it pained me, she put up a cryptic post immediately saying 'you do me, I do you' 'you do me, I do you'. Actually it was a meme of a politician saying that aggressively. As I was posting my baby she was posting that her relatives baby like say na fight. Honestly, I think light skinned women get mad when they see less beautiful or black women get married and have babies before they do. Same for extremely beautiful women. Some of them have a very black heart. They think a less beautiful woman shouldn't have anything. The can also be insanely jealous.

If I'm not going to get those likes, it's personally painful and embarrassing to me, especially when my mates are posting their babies and receiving tons of likes. Millions. Then I'd rather avoid the disappointment and not post. Like, my baby is very cute, so what the hell.

Let me add, my mates post pictures that are far out than mine. They post pictures of themselves abroad, finishing books, winning awards, big restaurants abroad, flight tickets and experiences, themselves I'm different countries, themselves with expensive hair and clothes with clean skin and people like them. My personal former friend dey post her trips to Japan, her constant visits to big restaurants to eat... I know it's genuine because I know their wealthy families or successes and skills from way back.

With all this ... I should still be posting myself in my modest settings and life? Sitting by the wall, or at a small restaurant, or by my window in my house? They just remind me of luxury that I'm not living, successes that I haven't achieved, worst of all little to no likes or attention for my own. Is it not better to not post than to be buying myself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for my personal sanity.

DrAda:
Well said.

I am a very private person but noticed that that lifestyle was literally doing nothing for me. I have since restrategized and my God, it has been amazing.

Putting myself out there and forcing people to take notice of what I have and can do has turned my life around and I am simply not going back.

Never hide your light under a bushel becuase you are concerned about what people might say or do. You are hurting noone but yourself.

We should learn to change our mentality because the misfortunes we face may have nothing to do with the people around you. Learn to take charge of your life no matter what happens.

Always remember that good and bad happens to us all, so why not live your life to the fullest whilst you still can.

DrAda:
It depends. I guess when you get to a certain age, you will yearn to post your achievements for you and not for anyone else.

More so, why hide it? It literally makes no sense. On LinkedIn, people fabricate all sorts of stories to make it look like achievements. Without a solid portfolio aka CV which consists of nothing but your achievements, then you have to ask yourself if you are living or just existing.

All these is to essentially say that yes I support posting ones achievements for every damn person on the planet to witness.

maziude:
Stop this comparison oga.

It’s okay if you want to post your whole life on social media, but to discard the existence of some dark shit is next level ignorance.

pocohantas:
Well said. I have turned down remote work public speaking all because I want to be private. The last one I turned down was less than 3 months ago. I saw the videos on TikTok/Instagram and looking at the ladies that spoke, I felt this pain knowing I could have been one of them. Though my reason for turning down the last one was valid, but can you imagine the benefit that would have come with speaking at that event?


Thanks for your motivation. I really need to look into this.

Martinez39s:
I don't post anything about my private life or any unnecessary stuff on social media. I don't even post things on my WhatsApp status, except if it is necessary. This is how I live my life, and I don't see any wisdom in doing otherwise.

luminouz:
So you like online validation. Like almost all women. You just can't do without it.

Urghhh 👿

femi4:
Show workings mumu...no be cho cho cho

maziude:
Not surprised.

Y’all can’t even discuss without name calling.

Good luck .

femi4:
Show workings or you embrace your L n run along

DrAda:
Please read my posts carefully to understand the message that I am trying to pass along.

The only opinion or validation that I need or listen to is mine and mine alone. I post my achievements because I am very proud of it even though it may make others mad or uncomfortable. I sincerely couldn't care less.

**I just realized that it is you. Figures. I shouldn't have wasted my time replying

DrAda:
Well said.

I am a very private person but noticed that that lifestyle was literally doing nothing for me. I have since restrategized and my God, it has been amazing.

Putting myself out there and forcing people to take notice of what I have done and can do has turned my life around and I am simply not going back.

Never hide your light under a bushel because of outlandish concerns about what people might say or do. You are hurting noone but yourself.

We should learn to change our mentality because the misfortunes we face may have nothing to do with the people around you. Learn to take charge of your life no matter what happens.

Always remember that good and bad happens to us all, so why not live your life to the fullest whilst you still can.

DrAda:
Please read my posts carefully to understand the message that I am trying to pass along.

The only opinion or validation that I need or listen to is mine and mine alone. I post my achievements because I am very proud of it even though it may make others mad or uncomfortable. I sincerely couldn't care less.

**I just realized that it is you. Figures. I shouldn't have wasted my time replying

maziude:
🤣

luminouz:
Someone cannot play with you again?🙄

luminouz:
It may work for you and that's fine but don't ever think evil people or village people don't monitor. That's a very wrong assumption.

Seeking online validation by posting my life has never worked for me. It's not in my nature and never worked out well. I excel better when I keep my mouth shut and my hands busy hustling. My star/moon or whatever zodiac attracts too much envy and jealousy from others and I can't keep looking over my shoulder. You seem fine though...good luck

DrAda:
I am used to you contradicting everything I say.

luminouz:
Yeah...I give you shiit most times but on this topic, I'm being real with my last post. SM validation doesn't work for me but I'm glad you are benefitting from it.

Heffalump:
Don't wait until you're 35 or 40 before planning the next baby. Studies show that it's better to have children earlier than old age. Drop the goddam things and start training them. Are you planning for someone else to train your kids?

At your age, the calculation should be that, before 35 you should have been done and dusted with "push labour".
My little cent!

Thundafireseun:
She is foooooolish and unnecessarily stubborn…

It’s obvious she doesn’t respect her hubby

DrAda:
Also valid.

Perhaps my star is different from yours because at this point, I have remote jobs that pay better than my current job, all because I 'overshare'.

I really don't know what you all do in your social media space but mine is imply tailored to show off my skill set and scholastic achievements.

Jaycenvirtualse:
Na Dem. Una don land

luminouz:
Lmaooo .what else you think I post, my bedmatic skills? Scholastic achievements of course. But I learned early enough NEVER to do it again. Stay hidden and grow..that's my motto.

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.

Tigernut101:
Big lie
Posting online is not show off
It depends on how you see it
Some of us post for fun 🤩 or to entertain our contacts.
Do whatever works for you but don’t judge others based on your opinion

DrAda:
That's strange. How exactly does one hide their scholastic achievements? They are there for you to announce it to the skies. What's the point of getting all that education if noone knows about it?

Hold on, can you carefully tell me what you think scholastic achievements mean? What did you study in school and what degrees, if any, did you obtain?

Greenlandncom:
The question was posting achievements on social media, not just any kind of post.

Samantha125:
We ordered same beverages and she started telling me how her phone battery was about to die and asked if I could charge it in my car while we were still hanging out, I didn't see anything wrong with it, so I took her phone along with the charger and headed to the car.

That's when she got the chance to spike her drink and stylishly switched it with mine... The restaurant wasn't packed that day and the girl was so foolish, she didn't even investigate the security system of that restaurant before she finally decided to go ahead with her plan... The restaurant has some CCTV cameras even though they're not easily noticeable.

After our meeting, I headed to my father's workplace and I was in his office when I started feeling unwell.