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I have not once missed social media since my decision to stay off it. One of the best decisions.

I don’t care to share my life with anyone who I don’t share my life with offline and I don’t care to know about theirs.

luminouz:
Kiss my ass babe!!!

Watch yourself!

What are you afraid of?

Samantha125:
I lost my baby last month because of Instagram... My husband is active on Instagram and he was so excited that we were going to have a baby that he even posted the picture of the ultrasound on his Instagram account, not knowing that his ex has been stalking him with a different account.

About a week later, she contacted me and started telling me about how she's now born again and turned a new leaf, that she wanted to make amends for what happened in the past... I assured her that I've long moved on from what happened and held no grudge against her... She then suggested that we should meet, so that we could bury the hatchet the right way, again I fell for her trick and told her that I'll let her know when I'm around Limpopo and we'd meet... Because I'm the type of a person who believes in second chances.

My husband warned me against the idea, but I assured him that I wasn't planning on being friends with her, but I just wanted to hear her out in person.

Last month I visited my parents in Limpopo and I informed her that I was around... We arranged our meeting and since it was a restaurant, I didn't think anything bad could happen... Long story short, I ended up fighting for my life in hospital and lost the baby... I had to undergo three surgeries, all because of that ultrasound my husband posted on his Instagram.

Like 2024 isn't my year.

Same way you blamed your husband,you're still to be blamed...he told u not to go u still went to see his EX

Mariangeles:
Watch yourself!

What are you afraid of?

You Mama!! You scare the shit out of me!

🙂🙂🙂

Samantha125:
You're right... Maybe I kinda felt bad because my husband left her for me and they were already planning on making things official at the time, I thought maybe she needed closure.

You're a softie, but this experience will shape you so you can apply wisdom in your niceness

luminouz:
You Mama!! You scare the shit out of me!

🙂🙂🙂

I have that effect on people with dark energy.
They abound on this forum.

They see me and scamper.
The ones that dares to dare me suffer the consequences.

I used to post about my achievements once upon a time on social media. Not pictures, just words because I take refuge in words. I've sort of outgrown it and stopped.

I've never been a picture person and only my immediate family members have a full catalogue of my photos because I take and send to them. All my achievements are for their consumption because they, and God are my pillars. The rest of the world?

Not so much.

The only validation that matters to me are theirs. Only their views, likes and comments mean something to me. As for the rest of the world?

Not so much.

If you don't post, how are we going to see content to watch🤷🏽‍♂️

Mariangeles:
I have that effect on people with dark energy.
They abound on this forum.

The see me and scamper.
The ones that dares to dare me suffer the consequences.

Lmaoooo

Clown ass!!!
😂😂😂

How is this helpful and empathetic? Must you be right? This lady lost her baby, a child, and all you can do is try to cast blame and shame on her. A lot of Nigerians are cold hearted. We have an inert desire to take pain and make something of it, point a finger. She has admitted her side of things but she also revealed the genesis, but you MUST get her to say, "it is my fault I lose my baby??" What is wrong with your heart?

Yugoslavia247:
I can already tell that you have refused to take responsibility for your action. You went to see her against his wish because of i too know.
He posted it then you went to do the meeting.
Instead of take blame u will still blame ur husband.

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.

What should we be posting.??

Our FAKED-UP POVERTY.??

And also our REAL POVERTY.??

There's no absolute answer for this question because it depends on the individual's aims and objectives for posting. Some are just showing off or looking for validation. Some others use social media like a digital diary for preserving memories.

Magnoliaa:
I'm sorry about your loss.

Seeing what you've gone through and the subject of the thread, are you comfortable putting such an intimate and personal detail of yourself on a troll-filled forum such as Nairaland?

I would think you'll be more cautious of posting...more of your life events online as you've been on the receiving end of the downside of social media?

Toh.

I'd argue against posting any intimate and personal details of yourself on any social media platform at all. Just surface level.

Very funny...

Kazeemme:
Leave your man, come to me, let take you to next level of life, you all envisaged, but will never happen, unless we are together

I do take full responsibility for my actions.

Nuelstar:
Same way you blamed your husband,you're still to be blamed...he told u not to go u still went to see his EX

sylve11:
I agree with you jare.

I have observed something with this trend. Some certain star signs do not see issues with it while some others aren't okay with it.

I couldn't agree more...Social media na social way of life 🧬 Is better not to have social media account than all this I don't post but you want to be stalking others happy life

drehdinho:
This makes me smile.
I like your open mindedness. My advise, you need to use those little time to work on yourself, particularly take your spiritual life seriously.

Let your success announce you to the world rather than you painting pictures of them yourself to the world.

When you post personal achievements to the public you create unhealthy competition inside of you particularly if those in your contact are far ahead of you.

On the flip side, your contact can have that as grounds to hate you, as many might feel you own them and may assume this not need to be told to you. As a result , you add more to the number of enemies.

It's not until some people go to the herbalist before they attack you spiritually. Their thoughts alone can consume your energy and make things to start working in ways you never expected in your life.

I seldomly post articles on my LinkedIn because I love to and it's needed to boost my professional personality.

But I don't post about the latest jobs offers I won. In fact, I got a good job this year and I never updated my LinkedIn profile accordingly.

I know for a fact that if it was some people, they would paint the whole places red.

I know a few friends who are doing way better but they don't post a thing on their socials yet we role. It changes nothing really but just to prevent one from adding more to the existing numbers of enemies we have got, I think the wisest thing to do is to keep working on oneself and ignore social legitimacy. You never know who's lurking around to hurt you or would feel damaged from the posts showcasing your landslide achievements.

It's another situation entirely if it's the organization you work with was the one that posts about your achievements. Or you were part of a global submit and your pictures ended up being posted by such organization.

That's normal and at least people won't take that to mean you're bragging or making them feel less.

Thanks, these are also angles I considered before letting this posting culture be. I believe everyone has insecurities and anyone who can't be unpretentious like you and some who mentioned me are, well, they choose to act like they don't have those. Thanks for respectfully giving your opinion and advice.

Gerrard59:
I find your post very interesting and honest. It is something many people struggle with, especially as how they envisaged life never came to fruition. There are ways to mitigate the worry. One such is acknowledging that there are people bigger than us just as we are bigger than others. The goal is to live a fulfilled life on your terms, not on others. So a friend who travels to Japan did so because she could afford it. If you can travel to Ghana or Kenya for tourism, good as well. A way to achieve this is to play to your strengths. Once you play to your strengths, you become very good at it and achieve the best you want in life. There are many ways to kill the rat, the koko is that the rat is dead. Also, understand where you are coming from and where you are now. You have done well. In life, one cannot always have it all. You win some and lose some. But be proud of your winnings.

Additionally, be genuinely happy for other people who post their winnings as they show that anyone could achieve them. I believe life na turn by turn provided one works for it with a bit of luck here and there. I had mates and contemporaries who moved to study abroad with generous scholarships and worked in multinational corporations. I was happy for them and knew I wanted the same. But the route does not have to be the same. I charted my course, and today, I am glad I achieved the same as they did. Few years difference between theirs and mine. The koko is to play to your strengths, be grateful and contented. Yes, you can always and will always get more, but be happy for what you have now while you strive for more.

As for your "friend" who posts pictures as a counterpose, if possible, silence her posts or delete contact. Alternatively, bar her from viewing your posts. This race of life, na only one person dey run am.

Thanks, you are a chill person. Your post make sense 💯

luminouz:
😳😳😳😳....

See people wey I dey reply on NL. See the mental state of this one. A woman who will post her family online and get depressed if she doesn't get likes!! WTF is the matter with these women? Are you not loved at home by your husband or you lack self-love ni? You are angry another woman is posting to trigger you when all you hunt for is likes and validation? At least she is validating you.😁😁

I just hope your husband is safe. Don't allow armed robbers come to kill him for your mistakes biko. May God save us men sha

See this one wey dey use people catch cruise. You're just having fun here, dey go your way.

Ishilove:
Pele. I wish you'd seek validation elsewhere, because if you look for it from human beings, you'd be sorely disappointed.

You also need to work on your self esteem because this kind of mindset you have will only keep you stagnant and unhappy with yourself.

First paragraph, no truer words said. It's just, things are easier said than done, but I'll work on myself. Everyone is a work in progress.

Paragraph 2, noted that. Working on the esteem but I also help myself by staying away from that social media to a great extent.

Nay because you don't own anybody explanation. Learn to pipe low and you will avoid unneccesssary battles and unneccessary enemies.

purples25:
Thanks, these are also angles I considered before letting this posting culture be. I believe everyone has insecurities and anyone who can't be unpretentious like you and some who mentioned me are, well, they choose to act like they don't have those. Thanks for respectfully giving your opinion and advice.

I work as a lawyer. I know the effort and struggles it took me to get to this stage.

I have come to observe that those who envy you most are close relatives and sometimes your partner , who you're far above in all ramifications.

They are quick to taunt you at any given opportunity, particularly when they see you're facing challenges.

I emphasize again, most enemies of you, you're way doing better than they are and they are astounded at all times as to how you manage to stay ahead of them despite the collosal challenges you have been through and over.

I was abandoned by my family and even my partner at the point I needed them the most.

At some points, I was begging for food. They never showed up.

But deep inside of me, I never blamed anyone. Throughout year 2024 there was no day that passed that I never experienced one challenge or another.

I used to tell myself one thing- to whom much is given , much is expected. As a result, I never felt tired of pushing.

In fact, it got to a point that I was totally homeless, as a lawyer. Because I just graduated. I fell into the hands of wrong principals on multiple occasions, but I was able to rigour out my way and ended up finding a beam of light and hope.

If I tell you that now, my partner that was mocking me because of my situation came texting and calling recent weeks ago trying to initiate conversation.

I simply ignored her. Same as my family members. I ignore them like plague.

This is because there thought was for me to perish but God never allowed that to happen to me. I became even more vigorous and intentional with achieving my dream.

I can't count the number of times I would have to starve for 4 -5 days straight.

So, while I'm recovering now, should I start pronouncing my bout of successes to the public with all the things have known and experienced first hand about human beings?

I don't think it's proper and fair to my chi to expose myself that way.

I have a group of few persons who I have specially formed a broadcast list for on Whatsapp. They were those who genuinely assisted me at my trying time.

And those are the ones that know my progress as they demonstrated time and time again that there are still good people in this world.

And I really thank God for putting this people in my life.

drehdinho:
I work as a lawyer. I know the effort and struggles it took me to get to this stage.

I have come to observe that those who envy you most are close relatives and sometimes your partner , who you're far above in all ramifications.

They are quick to taunt you at any given opportunity, particularly when they see you're facing challenges.

I emphasize again, most enemies of you, you're way doing better than they are and they are astounded at all times as to how you manage to stay ahead of them despite the collosal challenges you have been through and over.

I was abandoned by my family and even my partner at the point I needed them the most.

At some points, I was begging for food. They never showed up.

But deep inside of me, I never blamed anyone. Throughout year 2024 there was no day that passed that I never experienced one challenge or another.

I used to tell myself one thing- to whom much is given , much is expected. As a result, I never felt tired of pushing.

In fact, it got to a point that I was totally homeless, as a lawyer. Because I just graduated. I fell into the hands of wrong principals on multiple occasions, but I was able to rigour out my way and ended up finding a beam of light and hope.

If I tell you that now, my partner that was mocking me because of my situation came texting and calling recent weeks ago trying to initiate conversation.

I simply ignored her. Same as my family members. I ignore them like plague.

This is because there thought was for me to perish but God never allowed that to happen to me. I became even more vigorous and intentional with achieving my dream.

I can't count the number of times I would have to starve for 4 -5 days straight.

So, while I'm recovering now, should I start pronouncing my bout of successes to the public with all the things have known and experienced first hand about human beings?

I don't think it's proper and fair to my chi to expose myself that way.

I have a group of few persons who I have specially formed a broadcast list for on Whatsapp. They were those who genuinely assisted me at my trying time.

And those are the ones that know my progress as they demonstrated time and time again that there are still good people in this world.

And I really thank God for putting this people in my life.

Truly, thank God for your life. Your story is inspiring. May God take us higher and higher. It's not just a life story but a lesson.

luminouz:
Lmaoooo

Clown ass!!!
😂😂😂

You're pushing it.

purples25:
See this one wey dey use people catch cruise. You're just having fun here, dey go your way.

Sorry Ma!!!

drehdinho:
I work as a lawyer. I know the effort and struggles it took me to get to this stage.

I have come to observe that those who envy you most are close relatives and sometimes your partner , who you're far above in all ramifications.

They are quick to taunt you at any given opportunity, particularly when they see you're facing challenges.

I emphasize again, most enemies of you, you're way doing better than they are and they are astounded at all times as to how you manage to stay ahead of them despite the collosal challenges you have been through and over.

I was abandoned by my family and even my partner at the point I needed them the most.

At some points, I was begging for food. They never showed up.

But deep inside of me, I never blamed anyone. Throughout year 2024 there was no day that passed that I never experienced one challenge or another.

I used to tell myself one thing- to whom much is given , much is expected. As a result, I never felt tired of pushing.

In fact, it got to a point that I was totally homeless, as a lawyer. Because I just graduated. I fell into the hands of wrong principals on multiple occasions, but I was able to rigour out my way and ended up finding a beam of light and hope.

If I tell you that now, my partner that was mocking me because of my situation came texting and calling recent weeks ago trying to initiate conversation.

I simply ignored her. Same as my family members. I ignore them like plague.

This is because there thought was for me to perish but God never allowed that to happen to me. I became even more vigorous and intentional with achieving my dream.

I can't count the number of times I would have to starve for 4 -5 days straight.

So, while I'm recovering now, should I start pronouncing my bout of successes to the public with all the things have known and experienced first hand about human beings?

I don't think it's proper and fair to my chi to expose myself that way.

I have a group of few persons who I have specially formed a broadcast list for on Whatsapp. They were those who genuinely assisted me at my trying time.

And those are the ones that know my progress as they demonstrated time and time again that there are still good people in this world.

And I really thank God for putting this people in my life.

You still dey call her 'YOUR PARTNER' ??

BE LIKE SAY YOU LIKE SUFFERING SHA. You better disengage her and find another partner.

Rechargeam247:
If you don't post, how are we going to see content to watch🤷🏽‍♂️

Then post yourself and your own shiits and watch them.

Or are achievements scared of you?

luminouz:
Then post yourself and your own shiits and watch them.

Or are achievements scared of you?

You sound delusional though.

Rechargeam247:
You sound delusional though.

You wouldn't know what delulu means if it rose up and bit your tits

So buzz off, fishlips

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Okay.

Neptunium:
This woman is back with lies. I remember your photos from your previous moniker. You have an old face. You're at least 36 or 37, madame.

Samantha125:
I lost my baby last month because of Instagram... My husband is active on Instagram and he was so excited that we were going to have a baby that he even posted the picture of the ultrasound on his Instagram account, not knowing that his ex has been stalking him with a different account.

About a week later, she contacted me and started telling me about how she's now born again and turned a new leaf, that she wanted to make amends for what happened in the past... I assured her that I've long moved on from what happened and held no grudge against her... She then suggested that we should meet, so that we could bury the hatchet the right way, again I fell for her trick and told her that I'll let her know when I'm around Limpopo and we'd meet... Because I'm the type of a person who believes in second chances.

My husband warned me against the idea, but I assured him that I wasn't planning on being friends with her, but I just wanted to hear her out in person.

Last month I visited my parents in Limpopo and I informed her that I was around... We arranged our meeting and since it was a restaurant, I didn't think anything bad could happen... Long story short, I ended up fighting for my life in hospital and lost the baby... I had to undergo three surgeries, all because of that ultrasound my husband posted on his Instagram.

Like 2024 isn't my year.

Oh sorry about this, and also sorry about what I did the other day. It was a mistake.. Take care.. Samantha