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My beloved people on Nairaland, let me start by appreciating you people. l can't deny the fact that this forum is blessed with so many people with diverse talents in every aspect of life.

Please l need your advise on my current mental health which l found out recently to be alarming and moving to the next stage.

As some of you knew here, l am architect and l have met and done some jobs here. due to the recent economic situation, l m experiencing difficulty due to less works.
l put my family's need ahead of mine, all what l have gotten previously was used for my family day to day needs. l hardly buy anything luxury because l am social introvert and put family need ahead of mine.

Due to this, everyone deserted from me, l can spend 1 month without any of my family member coming to my house to see me or called. Some make a joke of me. l hardly involved myself on what doesn't concern me. in fact, l can't identify the color of cloth my friend wore after he left.

The alarming situation l m now is that, l am so much frustrated, always thinking and in sad mood and wondering how this life can be full of betrayal. Based on what l have experienced, I think this have started affecting my health condition. l experienced sudden shortness of breath recently. l heard many people are dying due to heart attack.

l am considering selling some items including a graphics laptop which worth at least 1m to setup another business pending to when my previous contracts was paid to set up a larger one

l consider Nairaland as a family to me, over a year, today l summon courage to write this. please advise me, l will appreciate your inputs. God bless you all. Thanks

Do what you think is best for you, free your mind and watch some funny videos

I don't know what your point is exactly!

But, try and do things that will keep you at ease from breaking down fast.
Me, reading things concerning sports, my job and other things that interest me, relaxes me.

Thank you so much

Brace up man. Everyone is struggling with something. You are not alone. Most importantly always stay positive and hopeful, do things that makes you happy and surround yourself with people that value u.

I'm no expert on me two health .... not at all in the field... but from you wrote it tells me you're going into depression. Life is tough for almost everyone ... as bad as you think yours is ... you should try speaking to people and ask how they are managing. This can be a form of therapy because what you'll hear will make you no longer see your problem as a problem and be even seeing how lucky you are not to be in their shoes. Think about you in this write up ... worried about family members not coming to visit or check up on you .... you don't have a problem of being evicted ...you don't have a food problem ...you eat what you want to eat when you want to eat ... you're thinking of selling your laptop not to buy groceries ... or pay school fees ...to buy clothes for kids .. to buy medication ... to take care of a medical condition ... not to take care of a need but for a want. Millions are facing these problems .... catching hell daily on how to satisfy the most pressing need ... food....their brain be running hot trying to find how they can afford th next meal while you're thinking of switching job and expanding. As bad as you think your situation is ... most will opt to switch their lives for yours. My advice.... don't sit and be in hot o ing yourself a pity party. Family members not visiting you ... so what?... take that as a lesson ... learn that they never really cared about you ... the visits were not about you but what they can get from you ...now that you're down...why will they visit? Expect nothing from anyone ... expectations when not met lead to disappointment and disappointment can lead to depression and depression can lead you to the point of no return ..make you really lose your mind. Jobs are not coming...find ways to get to them...be out there ..advertise yourself ... other business ventures focus more on needs...as times get harder people will be focusing on needs . Reset your mind ...focus on you.

arcahmad:
My beloved people on Nairaland, let me start by appreciating you people. l can't deny the fact that this forum is blessed with so many people with diverse talents in every aspect of life.

Please l need your advise on my current mental health which l found out recently to be alarming and moving to the next stage.

As some of you knew here, l am architect and l have met and done some jobs here. due to the recent economic situation, l m experiencing difficulty due to less works.
l put my family's need ahead of mine, all what l have gotten previously was used for my family day to day needs. l hardly buy anything luxury because l am social introvert and put family need ahead of mine.

Due to this, everyone deserted from me, l can spend 1 month without any of my family member coming to my house to see me or called. Some make a joke of me. l hardly involved myself on what doesn't concern me. in fact, l can't identify the color of cloth my friend wore after he left.

The alarming situation l m now is that, l am so much frustrated, always thinking and in sad mood and wondering how this life can be full of betrayal. Based on what l have experienced, I think this have started affecting my health condition. l experienced sudden shortness of breath recently. l heard many people are dying due to heart attack.

l am considering selling some items including a graphics laptop which worth at least 1m to setup another business pending to when my previous contracts was paid to set up a larger one

l consider Nairaland as a family to me, over a year, today l summon courage to write this. please advise me, l will appreciate your inputs. God bless you all. Thanks

What about your wife, does she have something doing to support your income in tbe family

Apart from being an introvert, your social life need to be expanded so that you can meet and trust people to share ideas and values with

As for your family upkeep, just provide what you think is necessary for them to survive especially food

Lastly take things easy, learn that part, every problem will solve itself