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kayperry:
I'm afraid that cant be true, calculate how much you have spent on your sef vs what you spent for outsiders these year ... you cant be on deficit

Bro, i can relate, in my university days i have 6 boiz squatting in my 2bed apartment and i provided food for 3yrs, at the end some even said did they force me that i just wanted to show off .. but people rarely get to me cos i have very very low expectations of humans,

I wont say my generousity have paid off, but bro nothing fit change "who i am" ... if i dont help as a friend just know say e no dey that moment
if you are stingy cos that it your nature i respect that, but allowing people change who you are, Nah !!! i rather change circle.

And I pray you won't involve in act of kindness that will send you to jail if not grave.

Yoruba will say.... "Ore ni won" ( kindness has boundaries)

Fiscus105:
And I pray you won't involve in act of kindness that will send you to jail if not grave.

Yoruba will say.... "Ore ni won" ( kindness has boundaries)

kindness is not the only thing that can get you to jail, being wicked can send someone to jail, someone said no peace for the wicked

even if one kindness lands you into trouble another of your kindness can show up to save you ... life bro

if you want to be "stingy" its fine! ... do it with full chest

Stay wicked, fam.


Nigerians are hardened and ungrateful. You fit borrow person money make dem use cutlass chase you commot on the sixth time of asking them to pay back.


Stay wicked...you can even graduate to staying evil.

Fiscus105:
The amount of money you can forgo" dnt ever loan person, no matter the condition of such person.


Even ordinary 2k, it would still come back to hurt you if you loan Nigeria poor people.

I learned a very big lesson. No borrowing, except you have little money of your own that you are not planning to see again, you can deliberately give that - and your own money, not someone else's.

chatinent:
Stay wicked, fam.


Nigerians are hardened and ungrateful. You fit borrow person money make dem use cutlass chase you commot on the sixth time of asking them to pay back.


Stay wicked...you can even graduate to staying evil.

Yes. People who are wicked want kind ones to continue so they can keep showing them shege. Learn wickedness to kill them before they kill you.

kayperry:
I'm afraid that cant be true, calculate how much you have spent on your sef vs what you spent for outsiders these year ... you cant be on deficit

Bro, i can relate, in my university days i have 6 boiz squatting in my 2bed apartment and i provided food for 3yrs, at the end some even said did they force me that i just wanted to show off .. but people rarely get to me cos i have very very low expectations of humans,

I wont say my generousity have paid off, but bro nothing fit change "who i am" ... if i dont help as a friend just know say e no dey that moment
if you are stingy cos that it your nature i respect that, but allowing people change who you are, Nah !!! i rather change circle.

I actually meant what I said there. Those periods I spend more than 70% of my money on people both online and offline and around 30% on myself. But gone are those days. Now I can't even spend 10% on others within a month, except my family members.
As per people changing who we are, Yes it is part of life. If you study philosophy, you will learn over there that we all become what we are today by two things, nature and nurture. Look back and you will see that you were not exactly how you used to be 20 years back. Why, because of nurture.

Fryx:
According to that guy. If you are nice, you are nice. Nothing should stop it.

So, you are telling me now that Adekunle making a mistake has make you not to be nice to him.

What happens to “if you are nice you are nice.” Shouldn’t you be nice to him regardless?

Adekunle was regretting being nice, and that had make him evil. And you are better than him.

Moreover, I give when necessary. I help when necessary. But I don’t condone laziness, stupidity, and entitlement.

The problem here is that Adekunle has a bad experience and you all said he is evil. Yet, you are here judging him. Hypocrite.

If your nature is being nice, embrace it and dont do past yourself

Adekunle did not make a mistake, he made a resolution i respect that, but that post was unnecessary cos it promote wickedness.

How can i be nice, where there is no need, request or demand man wey don conclude, decide, no need input

what you did n regret is what someone else did and reaped bountifully, life bro
because you marry yellow gurl she show you shege you jump out n tell people to stop marrying yellow gurlz, rite

If adekunle had a ghastly motor accident that break his leg (God 4bid) will he becos of that stop using car, upon recovery

I have learnt my own lesson, people are never satisfied,just do one good for them,they will start asking for all sorts,some foolish ones will even be applying small pressure on top another person money.

otipoju:
We live in a time where kindness is taken as weakness and is prone to be exploited util you are financially, physically and emotionally drained.

Learning to say No even if you can help is ultra important...abd that is what to naturally kind people feel as wickedness.

The disadvantage of being kind all the time us that you unconsciously teach people to remember you only when they want something...and once they unconsciously label you as that...they will never turn up for you when you are in need even if they have the means.


This December I just dey ignore all the different requests wey I dey get...and it will be like that for a very long time.

It's time to focus on me and me alone. Takers never stop taking.

temitope27:
and you be wetin

Animal

geoworldedu:
I actually meant what I said there. Those periods I spend more than 70% of my money on people both online and offline and around 30% on myself. But gone are those days. Now I can't even spend 10% on others within a month, except my family members.

LoLzz ! lets say you make 10m in a year, so you spend 7m on outsiders and 3m on yourself ... ok o!

purples25:
Yes. People who are wicked want kind ones to continue so they can keep showing them shege. Learn wickedness to kill them before they kill you.

I have had my own share of the Nigerian evil people. So I advise, if possible, stay away from very close relationships with Nigerians wey go allow them dey even enter your house or dine with you. It's safer to be strangers, even as neighbours or friends. I don't even keep friends. These mofos are damn wicked, envious, foxy and will hate you when you are excelling and bigger than them!

The best is living a life without close friends, but business associates.

Fryx:
If you are truly nice, then you will tell him to man up. Everyone is not as experienced or matured as you. If he has no reason, he won’t create a post.

Downplaying his thought without hearing him out will either break him or harden him. That’s not nice.

If you did that and he insulted you, then you can choose to ignore or I insult him however you wish.

But you can’t just judge people or insult people without first making efforts to make them better.

Believe me Adekunle is a grown man he doesnt sound like he needs advise or opinion. if you cant promote good dont promote bad

whatever adekunle is facing, people plenty wey get similar experience, our emotion must not get the best of Us

if olamide had decided to be wicked base on one or two, maybe Adekunle wont be a superstar, dont let emotions run you

I have not judged Adekunle in anyway, what i am against is what he promoted.

Tu face sang amaka disappoint me but he didnt insinuate dont marry any "amaka"

True, let me share my story...
I moved to a new shop and met a neighbour, like 64 year old woman , very friendly and pleasant always forming nice to people around. She comes everyday to borrow broom, I never thought there was anything serious about it, all of sudden myself & partner started having issues in our business. Thatz when we had to go spiritual about it, I realise this woman has been like that to others I met there, they sell well but still look impoverished. Meanwhile grandma sells books and all her kids are overseas.
When people are too nice sometimes beware of them, some of them are users.

kayperry:
who dey do good wey never recieve fair share of backstabbing, you think don jazzy or olamide no get stori

Adekunle lost empathy the moment he promoted wickedness, if he thinks wickedness his what can profit him, he can go to CAC.

You seems to muddle up things a lot, being nice should be a norm, yoruba adage says oré ni won i.e kindness get limit
We are not saying be kind at your own detriment, if my friend i visit cant pay his rent why will i watch is landlord kick him out when i can conveniently assist, if he doesnt appreciate e dey pain but the inner fulfillment i get will suffice.

I dont still understand your idea of "unnecessarily nice" is that what adekunle told you , you think people around appreciate your brutality that because being rich will shield you, pray you dont have problem or go broke you go know whatsup

Alaye leave people make dem do wetin they want with their money. Enough of all this entitlement mentality.

If you like gift all your money to people including your life savings. There is a saying that the day a blind man gains his sight the first thing he will discard is lamenting to me the same walking stick he has used for years. This is just the reality of life.

Same way Oshinme talk say he give a friend 5000 euros and the guy still turn am to enemy say the money small. He for give am 1 million euros? or if Oshinme dey dash every body wey he sabi for Nigeria 5000 euros how e wan take survive. Naa this same set of pipu go still mock am say he no save for rainy days if he go broke for furture.

Any sensible human being knows what Adekunle Gold meant as being wicked is not allowing your self to be used. Just now a friend of mine is lamenting say the same person wey he gift 2500 euros cannot even help him run an errand we no even cost am up to 10 euros at last he still shenk am.

Even me self my motto for 2025 is ME FIRST. If person dey continue to do Mr nice guys naa soo you go dey work for other pipu to chop. And wen person use nice guy pia him self, this same pipu will move on like nothing happened.

It's not that you can't help people, but don't allow yourself to be used over and over again. That's the message.

Lordbinsmar:
Alaye leave people make dem do wetin they want with their money. Enough of all this entitlement mentality.

If you like gift all your money to people including your life savings. There is a saying that the day a blind man gains his sight the first thing he will discard is lamenting to me the same walking stick he has used for years. This is just the reality of life.

Same way Oshinme talk say he give a friend 5000 euros and the guy still turn am to enemy say the money small. He for give am 1 million euros? or if Oshinme dey dash every body wey he sabi for Nigeria 5000 euros how e wan take survive. Naa this same set of pipu go still mock am say he no save for rainy days if he go broke for furture.

Any sensible human being knows what Adekunle Gold meant as being wicked is not allowing your self to be used. Just now a friend of mine is lamenting say the same person wey he gift 2500 euros cannot even help him run an errand we no even cost am up to 10 euros at last he still shenk am.

Even me self my motto for 2025 is ME FIRST. If person dey continue to do Mr nice guys naa soo you go dey work for other pipu to chop. And wen person use nice guy pia him self, this same pipu will move on like nothing happened.

It's not that you can't help people, but don't allow yourself to be used over and over again. That's the message.

cliche ! how am i forcing people, i think people are beginning to abuse the word " entitlement" on all sides... nobody will directly admit they are stingy ... just scream "entitlement" and people will bring out sword

if i enjoy being stingy, thats my nature why cant i full own up to it, why hide under justifications or "entitlement"

I dont believe anyone in these present generation put themselves last, all these me 1st naa childish talk, when did you not eat because you gave a neighbour the available food, at no time did anyone say help at your detriment,

Don jazzy has given more money out these year compared to portable wey no send anybody papa, he gather money pass jazzy these year.

My stand is, whatever you decide, do it but keep it to yourself.

Fryx:
And who told you Olamide does not have one or two areas where he is being wicked (without necessarily being evil).

Age is just a number. Experience matters in human development.

If he act childish, then he is a child.

Again, being Evil is different from being Wicked.

why not back it up with instances, ofcus olamide cant help 100 of 100, is that even possible,
what as age got to here, your experiences should be a lesson not a life sentence

98% of people who had car accident upon recovery go back to driving But when you do good and people pay you back with evil ... we want to change, i must be wicked ventures


naa from clap dance dey start, wickedness naa CV, while evil be the job.

Evil cause pain does wickedness cos joy

Every year I regret my kindness

Fryx:
No need dragging.

Why did you choose to cause Adekunle Gold pain by not empathizing with him?

Does he look like needs it, if a woman that suffer domestic abuse tells you she as decided to poison her useless husband ... is empathy what she needs

kayperry:
cliche ! how am i forcing people, i think people are beginning to abuse the word " entitlement" on all sides... nobody will directly admit they are stingy ... just scream "entitlement" and people will bring out sword

if i enjoy being stingy, thats my nature why cant i full own up to it, why hide under justifications or "entitlement"

I dont believe anyone in these present generation put themselves last, all these me 1st naa childish talk, when did you not eat because you gave a neighbour the available food, at no time did anyone say help at your detriment,

Don jazzy has given more money out these year compared to portable wey no send anybody papa, he gather money pass jazzy these year.

My stand is, whatever you decide, do it but keep it to yourself.

Alaye go dash pipu all you savings before I will take you serious.

All this wey u dey talk naa childish talk.

Lordbinsmar:
Alaye go dash pipu all you savings before I will take you serious.

All this wey u dey talk naa childish talk.

Oga own your stingyness with full chest , if you dont want to help your children sef, its your money, your choice own it with full chest

no need to come online dey shout me 1st, the house you rent for your parent e beta pass where you live, abi
you don see sugar daddy wey rent mansion for side chick but him dey stay 2bed flat

Adekunle gold is 💯 talking from experience, most rich people are unapologetically disrespectful, you would feel bad for their subjects and try to treat them differently only to see that those subjects looking innocent would easily sell you out for their own interest, i was working in a company and superiors were being very rude to subordinates, I didn’t like that and I was different to my subordinates , same subordinates would try to steal at every slight opportunity. You need to be just but you can’t just be nice to every situation , it takes wisdom to know when to be nice and when to exercise power…true wisdom o, not small one, however not every rich person has the time to go through that stress so they just treat everyone bad and keep the ones who can deal with their bullshit. Unfortunately those ones are the worst, they would keep up with your bullshit till they have harmed themselves enough to shoot you, you can’t be causing people pain and expect pleasure on the longrun…

Fryx:
Then you are evil. Case closed.

Listening to her plight and encouraging her to leave him instead of poisoning him will give her a new perspective and calm her rage.

In her clouded mind, she can even kill herself and everyone else out of neglect and frustration. Something simple empathy would have solve.

You are evil. You don’t deserve to be a father or a leader. Your response explains the type of person you are.

lolz ! shebi thats if she asking for my opinion or you dont know sometimes people dont need your opinion.

besides i only asked a question, i didnt even say what i will do 🤷 oga judge

In Nigeria. Yes.....

If you are too kind , they call you mumu
If you are too generous. They call you mumu .

They beg and borrow money from you. With the intention of not paying back....when you ask....they turn it to a fight or makes you look like a bad person.......
I have had numerous bad experiences with so many Nigerians.....

Fryx:
According to that guy. If you are nice, you are nice. Nothing should stop it.

So, you are telling me now that Adekunle making a mistake has make you not to be nice to him.

What happens to “if you are nice you are nice.” Shouldn’t you be nice to him regardless?

Adekunle was regretting being nice, and that had make him evil. And you are better than him.

Moreover, I give when necessary. I help when necessary. But I don’t condone laziness, stupidity, and entitlement.

The problem here is that Adekunle has a bad experience and you all said he is evil. Yet, you are here judging him. Hypocrite.

Lastly, when I say people appreciates my brutality, I added “Thinking People.”

The context here is thriving, that’s fact, look at the world today. I would say darkness thrives on earth over light. Our nature has put us on the quest for survival, it only rewards those who can eat to survive. A nice person can survive but to thrive, the larger percentage of people thriving are those people who wouldn’t be in that book. You would have to make a whole lot of hard decisions and sacrifices, unfortunately that’s how nature set us up, the lion has to feed, if it doesn’t eat the antelope then it dies, it’s not the lion’s fault he wasn’t created to be a predator.

As rich as dangote is ,he is conscious of ordinary 100 naira.
If you know the mindset of the average Nigerian ,shi shi you won't give any begger,na only my immediate family I get soft spot for.

chatinent:
Stay wicked, fam.


Nigerians are hardened and ungrateful. You fit borrow person money make dem use cutlass chase you commot on the sixth time of asking them to pay back.


Stay wicked...you can even graduate to staying evil.

This one doesn't even know one single act of wickedness can erode all the kindness he has been doing to people all his life.