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Greetings All, I want to make this simple and short.. I need help.
We are 3 in the family, my dad is not doing well, he is a farmer in the village. My mom is not strong to do anything, she stays in the house, while dad works in the farm and sells the petty harvest from the farm. I am the first son, I work in a private school with 2kids and a wife.. it is only God that has been my greatest provider. my sister is nothing to write home about, my brother was doing very well in school. Therefore my dad lease his farm to people in other to support my bro in school.. I really saw greatness in my brother and I really believe he will be the one to left up the family.. my dad didn't really care about me, I am an introvert and a shy person, so I am not very bold and i am always alone. My dad never really care about me. I started working in the private school since 2012 with a salary of 7k till date with a salary of 30k. To be frank I am better than some of my mate. Some people do not believe I am surviving with a 30k salary with 2kids and a wife, to make it worst, my wife is not working so therefore I am everything in the hauz. When I was single, I save small money from my job which I use it to sponsor my self in school, I am done with ND And HND, but no money for my clearance. Now back to the main issues: my brother was doing very excellent in school, I don't know how he got into smoking Indian herm. He got into it and now, since last he is not normal again. My brother is slowly running mad, he has brought disgrace and embarrassment to the family, my dad and mum and now a laughing stock in the village.. my bro is turning into a mad man. But he still have 90 percent of his memory. My parents are weak, the last time my dad calls me, he told me to arrange money for their burial incase they die anytime.. like this I can't boast of 1k in my account, my parents are drying up everyday due to depression, thinking and embarrassment my brother has brought to the family.. upon all the suffering my dad passed through in other to support my brother, now my brother is nothing to write home about... Please who can help my brother, who can rehab him. Please. I will be losing 3 things this year, unless God will say no.. please someone should help me. I have been crying everyday, praying to God to heal my brother...

Family hand dey dis matter ... it's spiritual......seek God's intervention

Ur brother must av cross path with d wrong guys in sch or his environment.....they taught him the life of a street man.

VicM6:
Family hand dey dis matter ... it's spiritual......seek God's intervention

Ur brother must av cross path with d wrong guys in sch or his environment.....they taught him the life of a street man.

I have been praying to God to please help my only brother

I only saw 30k and 2 kids. 🥲🥲🥲🥲

learn a skill. I don't want to hear any excuses. That is the only way out for you.
As for your bro how does he get money to smoke? how old is he?

How are you surviving with 2 kids, a wife that doesn't work on a 30k salary and you are telling me you are better than some people?

Make una dey calm down o.

This is the life that some of you people live and you come out to say you are happy.

What you are living is not life my brother.

1. Firstly, very little you can do about your brother at this point. Your own problems looks like a truckload already. Say a prayer for him daily if you can and forget about him. That's the honest truth, he is an adult and has chosen his path.
2. Secondly, try put your parents on a monthly stipend no matter how small, thier prayers can open doors for you where you least expect.
3. Thirdly, make sure your wife gets engaged in doing something. She must contribute to the finances in the household. The kids should not be an excuse for her not to be productive financial.
Lastly, change your environment if you have been there too long.
More opportunities can come from just changing your place of worship which will cost you nothing.
God speed.

Surviving with 30k private school pay, with 2kids and a jobless wife.

Brother joins bad gang, smokes marijuana, nothing to write home about and now turning into a mad man that needs rehab.

Father try to be a father for his family by providing as much as he can.

Mother no work, cant assist in anything due to weakness.

Parents now a thing of laughter in the village.


Brother your family needs deliverance. But for you, tell your wife to go look for something doing, life has passed the stage of getting married to a jobless woman.

Elxandre:
learn a skill. I don't want to hear any excuses. That is the only way out for you.
As for your bro how does he get money to smoke? how old is he?

We don't know. Coz he is not working again.. or maybe if any one give him money. He will use it to smoke. Or if he should go where there are selling it. They will give it to him.. he sold his gas and has burn all his clothes and credentials.

Karleb:
How are you surviving with 2 kids, a wife that doesn't work on a 30k salary and you are telling me you are better than some people?

Make una dey calm down o.

This is the life that some of you people live and you come out to say you are happy.

What you are living is not life my brother.

I am telling you the truth.. I am better than alot of people.. I haven't never beg anyone for food, but we eat everyday.. God is great. I have seen my friend who is single. In a few months he wasted millions of his father gratuity.. he even came to my house to beg me for food.. but me with wife and kids, I have not even beg him of anything. I have not even seen millions before.. another of my friend, he live in his father house and not paying rent, he is even collecting rent. Me I am even paying rent, with family. He keeps on coming to beg me for money and food..

carzeem1:
1. Firstly, very little you can do about your brother at this point. Your own problems looks like a truckload already. Say a prayer for him daily if you can and forget about him. That's the honest truth, he is an adult and has chosen his path.
2. Secondly, try put your parents on a monthly stipend no matter how small, thier prayers can open doors for you where you least expect.
3. Thirdly, make sure your wife gets engaged in doing something. She must contribute to the finances in the household. The kids should not be an excuse for her not to be productive financial.
Lastly, change your environment if you have been there too long.
More opportunities can come from just changing your place of worship which will cost you nothing.
God speed.

Thanks for this.. I have been praying everyday for him, I can't stop thinking of our memories together. So I can't forget about him. on Wednesday I got alert of 50k from our state government base on a grant I applied for. I send 5k to my parents. My rent is expiring February, so I send 30k part payment to my landlord . I use to rest to pay some debt and buy few food stuffs for the family.. the current location I am staying is cheap, even though the landlord told me that he will review the rent when once it expires.. and it is trek able to my work place. I have many things running through my head. So I didn't plan to relocate

podium:
Thanks for this.. I have been praying everyday for him, I can't stop thinking of our memories together. So I can't forget about him. on Wednesday I got alert of 50k from our state government base on a grant I applied for. I send 5k to my parents. My rent is expiring February, so I send 30k part payment to my landlord . I use to rest to pay some debt and buy few food stuffs for the family.. the current location I am staying is cheap, even though the landlord told me that he will review the rent when once it expires.. and it is trek able to my work place. I have many things running through my head. So I didn't plan to relocate

Good you thinking about him and praying for him, it's just more difficult to help siblings when you are not doing well financial.
You need to grow your capacity well before you can render help(which is mostly material and financial I hope you get what I mean). The free one you can give now is prayers.

The only people to add to your burden for now is parents and just a percentage of your income.

Your changing environment doesn't mean you relocate, changing your place of worship and joining small groups in church (if you a xtian) can bring unimaginable positive shift in your situation.

If you surrounded by struggling people go and locate people doing well in thier biz or profession, they are not that hard to find especially in churches.

1.Even the Bible said a company of wise becomes wise and iron sharpens iron. Look at the closest 5 people to you, you can't be better than an average of those people, Hence a need to build new relationships that will help you grow.
Na those people go pull you up when you down, na dem go give you update, na them go still show you way.
God speed.