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| My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by RunawayHusband(op): 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2025*. Modified: 10:02pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
After my ND in 2008 i decided to write JAMB , I Met this Lady I will call her "RYTD" at JAMB lesson that year, we don't talk much in the Coaching center because I am a TYPICAL INTROVERT GUY, I had just one guy as a Friend in while place , he na FINEST BOY and had ladies flocked around him then, me i no Fine but wasn't UGLY. After the Coaching we went separate ways but I don't remember I I clicked with this Girl, we started our friendship after the JAMB exam and I processed a School in FUNAAB, while she processed a School UNI in OSUN STATE. Prior to that me and Bestie whom I introduced to her after we started getting close, me my Guy dey drive go her Church to go see her on Sundays. Fast forward to 2013 when I was serving, we became so close as "BESTIE" cos I don't have much female Friends, one thing about me, WOMEN with bad energy or sleep more than one man affects my Glory especially FINANCIALLY and a SET BACK on my PROGRESS I.e if I am faithful to 1 woman and I dont cheat or she cheats, if i need 1M, i go see 10M before then, but if i go cheat or I date a woman who cheat if I need 1k it's will be like 10M to see . It's that bad. So I stay away from women. Back to 2013 I was dating a girl ETM who had relocated to Europe, my Bestie RYTD KNEW the lady , then also ETM usually hear RYTD gist cause RYTD was going through Toxic relationships with MEN, i usually send her Uber fare to take leave sometimes, i was in the EAST. In 2013/2014 ETM said we not sure when we seeing again we bursted.. RYTD also said I let go. I was in east then, I came back 2014 to SW , RYTD. had moved to Central North where she claimed her Father works, her mum is Late (RIP) so she shuffle between her school In Osun state and CENTRAL NORTH but when coming to IB CITY she stays in my House ( I live with my parents , so she shares room with my Lil Sis). Fast word to 2015, she came to ib, spent few days , in course of the stay she jokingly said this one you dont date Lady and single, while she is single and no luck with Men, may be we were meant together I said naah! Then I was working as Engineer in private company i wasnt earning much, after 3 weeks when she left i reconsidered her statement 🚩 after brooding on it. Fast forward to 5months later we started having issue I was moving to America, then she objected that the lady helping me was trying to import Hub as men no too good to marry there.. I was like really person I haven't seen 10years? And boom I got A JOB with FG in lecturing Line , so this settled our Rift, I decided to stay back n requested for refund from school thing in America , next things she said I should credit her the money to fund her project Fame ( she was a contestant then at the show, she is gifted with singing) and also wants to change her school to NOUN, I objected and the caused disagreement and we broke up, she was later disqualified as she became sick during show and and affected her voice and was reffed for operation for inflammation of Epiglottis. I moved on and dated an angel in the space and after 2 years the mum no allow us settle down. @Royalboy |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by RunawayHusband(op): 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2025*. Modified: 9:03pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
Continuation 2 One day in 2007, I receieved an apology Chat in one of my SM account and boom na my EX oo, she pleaded, asked for my contact, pleaded we see, and sort out.. as me dey free life , I agreed, I sent her my number, we picked date , she , I picked her at park, we gisted n went out for a function. We updated ourselves our stories , she said she works in Lagos, claimed an OAP and I briefed her about mine, also my side hustle, then boom we began dating. Then we started having communication issues as she doesn't pick call between 8 am and 6pm weekdays because of RADIO STUDIO /ON AIR things, so I let her be she calls from 7pm n we spend like an hour or two after. We spent a lot on Airtime both then. Fastforward we started planning our intro, Trad and white wedding, I told her she will be using the Toyota camry I had then, because I sold my BMW ( I am a die hard fan of 3 series BMW MODELS since 2015) and was in search of another. Prior to the wedding , she sicks a lot, Asthma, 2 inflammation mouth organ, eye glasses , severe ulcer . Also something happened one day at the club, she was with me and asked me to excuse her for 5 mins, after like 15mins my guys were like where "Aduni Ade" Cos she is almost alike so they call her that, then I stood up to look for her then boom 💥 outside around 1am, I saw her across express hugging and holding a guy, I was shocked and shouted her name ,she was shocked and while trying to run to me, she fell into Gutter she still ran and crossed , but almost knocked down by vehicle, I had moved to where my guys sitted picked my car key, they noticed , before they could run after me they heard loud sped off car sound , they knew it was me but I zoomed off already, while zooming off I dented another toks car , but ko kan aiye 😂😂 owner no near, I escaped , while I went to turn to other lane she tried crossing to stop an High speed car I no send am, n swerved from her.. Then in the morning my guys n older men in my clique intervened and the Question was like "are you sure this is the GIRL you want to marry?" Ii said yes, they were like hmm she is to big and conspicuous for your "PERSONALITY" say na older men food be this. But you can't Advise a man with Funds, also in LOVE. So she was shuttling between Lagos and IB, so another issue came 2018, during my young sis Introduction, her hub is from Europe so he came with friends, mopol n soldier dey follow this boys, then boom after a week my sis called me that my finace was chatting with one of the big boys whom attended the event, and told her hub when they returned to europe that who is RYTD "Aduni Ade" ? The was like aah no o, na fiance of his woman's el Bro (ME) thatits a no go area. I got to know and anohter trouble started , then i forgave her. Amonth or 2 to our wedding, she called and said we need to see and talk, i was confused and panicked , when we saw, she camout that The uncle of hers that died back then in 2015 was her Biological Father, that the Man in Central North was her Adopted Father, that incase there should be a fight or brawl about BRIDE FATHER in our wedding I should be prepared ! Sigh I felt bad that my BESTIE of years , later turned fiancee is jus telling me many stories, including her been a R@ped victim back in 2013 or, ma y stories in one day. As a man I coverd her up, n informed my parents that there might be an issue of BRIDE'S FATHER OO, they believed me and supported US. before our wedding , so later she went back to Lagos n went to pray about out wedding and was told no LOUD WEDDING as we both not fit SPIRITUALLY, so we had to cancel my things, also refund from some logistics , then hall was removed so the DECORATION, LIGHT, FIRE WORKS & SMOKE WORKS would transfered to the Compound cos we had paid n can't ask refund on that like others. Fast forward to a week to wedding she was in the Hospital for a week, then I had lodged before she was discharged and we both lodged there , jus two days to event we decided to visit the Grandma whom I had known from on set and always been in touch with, RYTD alighted from my whip and she was coming down a stairs case when she Tripped n disjointed her ankle she LIMPED do wedding nio.. Series of drama from her family n also her during wedding. I was living with my parents before marriage, but ibhad rented house, bought fewer stuff before Wedding and we were meant to move in a week or 2 after After wedding. Boom! After Wedding, her God father called us, spoke 1 hour with us advised us and all sorts. After a month after wedding she was pregnant, prior to that we fight every day of our marriage, she is temperamental, and destroys propertiesand Toxic ( I forgot to mention, well before we wedded , I chow slap). . Then my financial status started drowning, I couldn't keep 2 cars so I sold the car I promised her, this turned to fight that I decided her before marriage blah blah, she was wasting bottle water we drinking then so I told her we will switch to Pure water n water dispenser , she kicked against it then one day while driving from work I saw a truck of pure water I I hunted at them and flagged them down, I inquired price they said 70 naira , I was like can you drive behind me to my home? I will buy 3grand. They did and when we got home my EX wife was like who is holding an event that they came to drop these quantity, I said to her we are switching and managing cost since I can't afford her wasting bottle of water n many left over. We fought seriously and was the first time she pulled a knife on me We were moved to my father's house, 2 days later she attempted suicide by using over dose drugs n other substances , we were able to save but we lost the baby, so I collapsed and was admitted beside her as well |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by RunawayHusband(op): 8:34pm On Jan 08, 2025*. Modified: 11:00am On Jan 10, 2025 |
Continuation 3 She was continually getting sick with all the aforementioned Ailments , every 2 weeks we will be spending days in hospital , . 2019 we found a job for to continue her OAP Things with my father's connection a private RADIO STATION my dad knew the MD , they gave her job, resumption date without seeing her CV yet. But was asked to come with all on resumption date, a week to she fell ill again n another 2 weeks wasted, the new resumption date again she fell ill... then i started suspecting foul PLAY then we resumed argument, in short, she didn't finish University, wasn't working in any Radio Station. she was been bank ROLLED by cousin or relative to A KNOWN TELECOMMUNICATION owner in the COUNTRY, who was also THE GODFATHER who had bn speaking with me from DAY1 of marriage.. house rent, upkeep n expenses she uses for years before our marriage, and still sometimes FUND her, then that day i ENDED and CUT he TIES, bt i am sure she continued. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by RunawayHusband(op): 8:37pm On Jan 08, 2025*. Modified: 10:57am On Jan 10, 2025 |
Final Part: Fastforward after a serious fight in Last quarter of 2019, 65"tv screen , my car was destroyed, and i got Stabbed so, i sent her away . After 2 months people called , pleaded with me, then we settled and she came back home after 2 months, we have never celebrated WEDDING ANNIVERSARY BEFORE, cos we always fighting before, a day or on the D day. So in earlier 2020 she was Diagnosed of ARTHRITIS OF THE NECK another Financial waste mole. in the COURSE of the year, I supported her to open business on ORGANIC CREAM production and sale i first donated 150k when her family or so raised her 120k or so i later added more money making 300k total from Me and about 500k to start in total cos she didn't want SHOP at first, so i told her i will give a LOAN of 1M+ so she will pay back, but along we fought i n cancelled the loan thing, because she said she wanted to go to Lagos for an UPDATE CLASS for 4 days or so , she left only on 3rd day she said she is coming back with a Samsung NOTE 9 (as at 2020 the phone was 380k) because i was using Samsung S7 AND S9 then, i knew it cost; so i queried her on call , she said her cousin which i also know was given the device by his Abroad Client (if u know u know) and wants to sell 150k to her, that she dropped 50k, and asked me to pay UP, i said when she comes we sort it, she said she was with it already, i asked her to come home first. when she came i observed the phone was from abroad truly then i said i would pay up 2 weeks after, in the course of the week we fought n her COUSIN called me to intervene, i used the opportunity to ask him about the PHONE, he SAID he HAD NO IDEA wah aamma talking abuh Finally it was successful a WEDDING ANNIVERSARY for us, people came to celebrate, ate, dined, drank with us in our Abode and later went clubbing that NIGHT with our guests, then the unfortunate happened, around 12 am we left our guest to go home, my car didn't start, we ordered Uber, she fought with Uber man, he abandoned us, and we tried getting another, so we saw bike but she which took us and half way, we passed our Hospital and she suggested since we do pay for PRIVATE WARD whenever she is sick, that we can go in and pay for a NIGHT and I said God forbid such . Then 5mins after we had an accident on bike, a car passed one way n faced us, that was last thing I remembered After that , she was admitted for a week, I was discharged 3rd day because mine was less jus limping. After she was discharged, we were taking her to some centre's for further test, x-ray and so on.[/b] after 3 weeks my best friend decided to lodge us, him and his babe for a weekend Friday to Sunday, so I told her, on that day we went out I and my friend, then whe went to pick his girl but she had a female friend to join so we had to book addition room, but I didn't inform my ex wife earlier enough, so at the lounge she started instigating I brought my side Chic my guys spent 80k and we moved to the booked Hotel and she said we not sleeping there any more, my friend pleaded , his girl pleaded but she said no, so she left they Saturday running after her , it was 12am or after then another issue begun. Last last after that day I left home and never returned till date. [b]The LEGAL BATTLE BEGUN I gave her ultimatum of 7 days after I slept hotel for a month, then she didn't move out i went home with a police man to take my stuff, she attacked us, used her contact to get DIG in police that same day, they sent for me, I Met a new lawyer of hers, I got 3 lawyers ASAP , i formed my legal TEAM, later I was invited by Commissioner of Police at the state office, she came with this NGO who fight and sue for ABUSED WIFES & WOMEN, so the BATTLE BEGUN. I gave them evidences from 1: Voice record when she thought I was asleep and tried to strangle me one time 2:pictures of series property Damages 3 pictures when one of her uncle punched me 2019, they both tried to beat me Up, 4: pictures of my Damaged car in 2019 5: video where she attacked me, brought out weapons and held me i wont go out, that she will kill me, and herself , I still have the clip, clear and audible of that mission. So fast forward the case took 3 years to gave it LEGALLY DONE, I moved on, relocated ABROAD because she promised to find me.. , now i am married and with a KID She never believed that was our END, because she KNEW i loved her 💯 % but wasn't so from her side. NOTE: Not that I was perfect too, but I am an introvert, I don't womanize , I stopped Smoking weed and drinking 2017 as well, but at some point in the marriage I started drinking Vodka n some shots! Etc that one day while she Hit me i returned it back n gave her BLUE BLACK, closed one eye and never Touched her again. But I never cheated whole 3 years, I was focused despite getting Drawned and drained financially, I didn't have savings again but I settled all bills. All friends abandoned me, my mum never knew my house for 2 years after we relocated from first place we were staying because people got to know Us in that area as FIGHTING PARTNERS. THE END! Learn from my, I am lucky I am alive, got back on track.. one of the rare cases, even the JUDGE testified ! theamazonguru: RealityGod: oluwafreshkid: EmperorCaesar: |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by DrDoc: 8:49pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
Respect elder But you can't Advise a man with Funds, |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Nobody: 9:15pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
RunawayHusband:Will you get back here and finish ya story. Though I no trust all these nairaland all dîck romance section boys but stories like this fit happen. You have chosen wrong candidate for a good job. May God help you but come and finish the story. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Nobody: 9:15pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
Booked for nukes if it gets to fp |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by RunawayHusband(op): 9:24pm On Jan 08, 2025*. Modified: 10:47pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
Padipadi:People asked for this. First time I am sharing this because it's 5 years now and I am healed , I have moved on, my life restored after loss So people should learn! Before you marry, Go by old traditional way or culture, to visit 1 SPOUSE FAMILY, VILLAGE & CULTURE, 2 personal research and verify all documents or educational certificates. Etc. 3 never give an EX chance again Padipadi:I am yet to finish, we jus getting to the hard parts semid4lyfe:Well I am not a writer or Publisher, I wrote you my PREDICAMENT in life before now. Like I said I have my own short coming at some point, due to lack or patience any longer, we all have LIMIT! |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Nobody: 9:25pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
RunawayHusband:But you didn't finish the story properly? If you don't want to receive spiritual slaps, go and write the conclusion properly. Many will think you are still writing. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by gasparpisciotta: 9:32pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
This one na super-story sweet and sour at the same time. What a woman can do does not exist 😅 |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Wealthoptulent(m): 9:58pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
RunawayHusband: |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by semid4lyfe(m): 10:26pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
OP, I believe you're the one from the FE thread. Your story lacks coherence and clarity so it's difficult to understand and follow. I have a question for you though. In all the drama that ensued between you and your ex-wife, do you think you were in the wrong in any way? |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Namaster: 11:22pm On Jan 08, 2025*. Modified: 12:01am On Jan 09, 2025 |
This guy suffered from a severe case of ONEITIS! Oneitis is especially BRUTAL in INTROVERTED men like OP. A woman had the AUDACITY to slap him in the face and OP still proceeded to MARRY her. She turned him into a WIFE-BEATER even before marriage. Only ONEITIS could do that! She had an ENDLESS string of TOXIC relationships and OP still did NOT see the writing on the wall. Oneitis would do that to a man! OP took the girl to a club and she ABANDONED him to hug and hang out with ANOTHER man. OP still didn't get the messge. Oneitis would do that too! This PROBLEMATIC girl was also so DUMB she tried to get OP to sponsor her to NOUN because she was obviously FAILING in her current University at the time. This girl was a quasi-sentient redflag with a BAD attitude. But OP ignored them all and still married her. Why? ONEITIS! After marriage, this lady DESTROYED his car, TV and, if that wasn't bad enough, she STABBED OP with a knife. All it took was JUST 2 months for OP to forgive her and take her back. A girl tried to MURDER him and he still remained MARRIED to her. That's the eminent MADNESS caused by the dreaded ONEITIS! Even after ALL this, OP still has a SPECIAL place in his heart for the woman who attempted to MURDER him. Oneitis is WORSE than Ebola. ALL men must avoid it! Men must oearn to: 1. Tolerate LESS! 2. Forgive LESS! 3. Sacrifice LESS! The OP forgave an OBJECTIVELY evil woman so MANY times. And that's a TERRIBLE thing! If a woman CROSSES a boundary and you forgive her, you are REINFORCING bad behaviour. She'll become BOLDER and cross MORE and BIGGER boundaries more FREQUENTLY. Before this woman STABBED OP, she'd previously THREATENED him with a knife. But he forgave her. Because OP TOLERATED and FORGAVE a threat of stabbing, he wound up getting STABBED. NEVER forgive! NEVER tolerate! As Caesar's wife must be ABOVE suspicion, your woman must be FLAWLESS. Or as close to it that it makes no difference. Because of this woman, OP still lives the life of a FUGITIVE to this very day. Scared SHIIITLESS that the wicked witch would discover his whereabouts. Don't be like OP! Don't be a VICTIM of Oneitis! |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by TheRealOwner(m): 11:32pm On Jan 08, 2025 |
ChatGPT summary for those who will not read all that, like me. The story is about a man recounting his tumultuous relationship and marriage with his ex-wife, whom he initially considered his best friend. They met during JAMB lessons in 2008, developed a close friendship, and eventually got married after years of on-and-off relationships. However, their marriage was plagued by frequent fights, mistrust, financial struggles, and her health issues. Key events included: A strained relationship due to her temper and destructive tendencies. Repeated financial and emotional strains caused by her illnesses, family drama, and allegations of infidelity. Physical altercations, property damage, and even threats to life. A lengthy legal battle following their separation, culminating in divorce after three years of marriage. The man reflects on his mistakes, the toxic nature of their union, and the lessons he learned, advising others to choose wisely in relationships. He has since moved on, remarried, and started a family. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by chatinent: 2:18am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Congrats.. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by RealityKings1: 4:00am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Never give an ex a chance |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Laird(m): 6:57am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Namaster:Thank You Sir Namaster has said it all OP You saw the RedFlags -Refused to allow You travel out to.better Yourself -Asked You to give her your travelling money for her to.use to go a publicly broadcasted singing competition to boost her status -Caught her cheating - Supported her lies |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Baronthecelebri(m): 7:04am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Foolish man. Why accept your ex back. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Baronthecelebri(m): 7:11am On Jan 09, 2025 |
The was a fool. Laird: |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by oluwafreshkid(m): 7:32am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Let me calm down and read first |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by TheGreatIYANU: 8:18am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Damm! I recently came across a local idiom thay goes - "pray make you no see life wey go make you forget say you dey alive." OP I admire your courage in all of these challenges. You exuded the quality of a true man - standing strong in the face of adversity. I'm glad though that you are out of it. At the end of the day, marriage is a partnership, and no earthly partnership is worth your life. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by RunawayHusband(op): 9:53am On Jan 09, 2025*. Modified: 10:40am On Jan 09, 2025 |
Namaster:No man knows it all, iam not an ONEITIS, i said earlier, i don womanise, my 1st Girl friend was in NYSC days. i came late on board for LOVE & RELATIONSHIP Baronthecelebri: Baronthecelebri:speak less, so you can LEARN, u think u are wise and knowledge BASED than I? look with less emotions and open ur BRAINS here, Its not a NOLLYWOOD that u can guess like u watch on SCREEN.. to know who people are, an " adage says the NOSE is wicked for not letting us PERCIEVE EVIL PEOPLE" MORALS HERE; *RULE NUM 1, NEVER THINK IT CANT HAPPEN TO YOU, i am very good at my life, an engineer, was a lecturer for 9 years bfr settling Abroad, successful car Entrepreneur and all my STORY ARE SUCCESS except this i.e [b]no one is an IOTA of knowledge *People are not usually what u think *IF 2 LIKES MIND AINT aiming for PROGRESS the 2 paties goes down, my financial capability was enough to hold a home and PROSPER but cos she wasn't adding but also deducing led to my Fall *Be quick to ACT despite opposing your personality, took me like 4 physical attacks before i could defend masef JUS TWICE to get physical at HER, which wasn't whom i am but threat to LIFE don't TRUST 100% do some little finding or RANDOMLY give INVESTIGATION a 2nd THOUGHT. *because you are god doesnt mean others are, watch your back[/b] no one is FOOLISH except WHO TALK MORE and LISTEN LESS i have moved on 5 years now, people asked for the story to learn, SO KEEP UR P.O.V and SIMPLY LEARN, i had to RELOCATE ABROAD to have NEW FAMILY and keep them safe, [b]MY EX is suspected to HAVE BIPOLAR WHICH SHE IS HIDDING THE RECORDS,[/b] in case not to run [/b][b]ARSON on me and family in FUTURE, I RAN AWAY as HUSBAND |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by PJtech: 10:11am On Jan 09, 2025 |
I'm short if words.. Things dey happen for this life |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by DrDoc: 10:36am On Jan 09, 2025*. Modified: 1:29pm On Jan 11, 2025 |
Many times people do not listen when they get good advice. You wanted to see things for yourself because people forewarned you but you refused to listen Hope you took all the lessons life was going to teach you through her. Lesson number one, one of the ways God speaks to us to direct us from evil is through people's mouth. If you had followed this principle you wouldnt have experienced any of the nonsense you did |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by christejames(m): 10:36am On Jan 10, 2025 |
Wow... This is expository, so much lessons to learn |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by christejames(m): 10:37am On Jan 10, 2025 |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by ChiefOkporghe: 2:53pm On Jan 10, 2025 |
Namaster: |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Zidac: 3:38pm On Jan 10, 2025 |
People are built differently. I can't imagine spending a week in a relationship with this kind of energy. No way,. Arum naso mkpari |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by Nemesis0147(m): 4:33am On Jan 11, 2025 |
Zidac:like When I’m not mad,,,with my money and qualifications. Not like his friends didn’t warn him oh… |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by christejames(m): 12:45pm On Jan 11, 2025 |
RunawayHusband:Bro, you really went through a lot... Thank God you pulled through. |
| Re: My EX Wife Was My BESTFRIEND by christejames(m): 12:49pm On Jan 11, 2025 |
Namaster:You've summarized everything |
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