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Fellow Nairalanders,
Please do not view this post as an attempt to seek help or to curry favor or public sympathy. No, that's not the intent.

I decided to come out to speak out because there's a need to. I've stomached a lot, and I feel it's time I speak up. I believe speaking out would help me get a sigh of relief. Again, I've just read about a man who took his own life due to depression. I believe such occurrence would have being averted if he had spoken out.
I will continue to stand against Suicide cos it is an act that is not only shameful to the family, but sinful and tantamount to cowardice. I know and understand that everyone cannot be emotionally and psychologically be as strong as some other persons but believe me there's no justification for taking one's life.

If I want to fully narrate my story, my Odyssey and travails, nairaland may not contain me. Imagine being in a situation where you have nobody to call for help cos you're without parents, and only have younger siblings. If I'm sick today and can't foot the bills, there's nobody to call for help. I do all things by myself through Christ who strengthens me. From birth till now, I have never had a good moment, it's being from one issue to another. It's never a smooth sailing. My happiness is only for a fleeting moment. Lost my parents when I was just 7yrs. I lived all my life with relatives and got the most dehumanizing treatment from them, I was maltreated and mistreated. All these have left emotional and psychological scares on me.
Saw myself through sch, struggle so hard to train myself and assist my kid siblings, spent almost mine years on a four year course cos I had no money to pay my tuition fees, no support. I did the most humbling things until I was able to graduate. After graduation, still earning 40k as a teacher. Rent will be due by next month and there's no hope as to where I can get it. There are many days(even right now) I go to bed on an empty stomach, and this has resulted in ulcer, nights that I cry and soak my pillow in tears and wish for death. In all these, I never tried taking my life by myself. I can only wish that I sleep and don't wake up. Depression is actually real, but we must be Strong and courageous.
I come from a family where nobody cares for anyone except within themselves, that is blood siblings. No one looks out for the extended family members. It's "To your Tent o Israel".
I am living my life in such a way that i depend on nobody for help, in fact I am not entitled to anyone's help. Nobody owes me anything. But I feel like I owe people a lot. And I pray for God's blessings so I can reach out to people. Nothing on earth is as painful as having a need and not having the means. It's tormenting.

If you are sincere ya eyes must have seen shege.
Wetin yo study, wetin be ya extra skill?
Try and drop ya CV based on things you can do without disclosing ya name on this thread. Maybe with ya email only as contact. I forvsat make you drop number but too many janjaweèds, scammers, gaytool and mofos are in this forum.

Hope mods can see this and drag it to fp or a helper of yours may see it and contact you for help. You fit drop ya email under ya posts for us helpers to be sure of who to contact and help. Be sure you are useful before getting help. Take care.

Moniker947:
➜Fellow Nairalanders, Please do not view this post as an attempt to seek help or to curry favor or public sympathy. No, that's not the intent. I decided to come out to speak out because there's a need to. I've stomached a lot, and I feel it's time I speak up. I believe speaking out would help me get a sigh of relief. Again, I've just read about a man who took his own life due to depression. I believe such occurrence would have being averted if he had spoken out.
I will continue to stand against Suicide cos it is an act that is not only shameful to the family, but sinful and tantamount to cowardice. I know and understand that everyone cannot be emotionally and psychologically be as strong as some other persons but believe me there's no justification for taking one's life.

There is absolutely nothing shameful about suicide. Those who suffer from mental illnesses such as depression only succumb and take their lives eventually committing no crimes against humanity or others. Taking one's own life is not an act of cowardice. It is merely you who decides you have had enough of the suffering that is your own life. They have no reason to be ashamed of taking what is or was their own life, to begin with. And those left behind have no valid reason to append shame to their leaving. Those of us who choose not to take our lives but wait instead for death to come for us when it will are not better than the dead, and no, we do not win any medals or gold when the end finally comes.

Padipadi:
If you are sincere ya eyes must have seen shege.
Wetin yo study, wetin be ya extra skill?
Try and drop ya CV based on things you can do without disclosing ya name on this thread. Maybe mods can see this and drag it to fp or a helper if yours may see it and contact you for help. You fit drop ya email under ya posts for us helpers to be sure of who to contact and help. Be sure you are useful before getting help. Take care.

Thank you so much. Nairaland will not be enough to contain my story. I am sincere, I mean very sincere.

Moniker947:
➜ Saw myself through sch, struggle so hard to train myself and assist my kid siblings, spent almost mine years on a four year course cos I had no money to pay my tuition fees, no support. I did the most humbling things until I was able to graduate. After graduation, still earning 40k as a teacher. Rent will be due by next month and there's no hope as to where I can get it. There are many days(even right now) I go to bed on an empty stomach, and this has resulted in ulcer, nights that I cry and soak my pillow in tears and wish for death. In all these, I never tried taking my life by myself. I can only wish that I sleep and don't wake up. Depression is actually real, but we must be Strong and courageous.
I come from a family where nobody cares for anyone except within themselves, that is blood siblings. No one looks out for the extended family members. It's "To your Tent o Israel".
I am living my life in such a way that i depend on nobody for help, in fact I am not entitled to anyone's help. Nobody owes me anything. But I feel like I owe people a lot. [s]And I pray for God's blessings so I can reach out to people.[/s] Nothing on earth is as painful as having a need and not having the means. It's tormenting.

Why the conflicting ideas? You don't depend on anyone for help yet feel you owe many people? How? Could this possibly be where some of your torment comes from? 🤔

My brother suicide is usually not the best option, to me it is cowardice and a defeatist approach to overcoming life challenges.

1. Look inwards to understand what you do that gives you joy: could be swimming, reading, smoking, sex, anything at all

2. What kind of job or business that you really wish to do that will give you joy.

You can start selling foodstuffs

3. Consider leaving your present environment so that you can fully positively express yourself without holding back. Victor Osimhen don sell pure water for road before, the owner of slot used to trek from Abule egba to IKEJA to do what he loves, phone repairs and sales.

4. You may not like teaching, collect the next 40k and resign to pursue something different

5. If you love teaching, open a coaching class and try doing it for free at the initial stage

6. If you like sex visit OS joint to relieve yourself of pressure

Mind you be careful with your fantasies

gasparpisciotta:
My brother suicide is usually not the best option, to me it is cowardice and a defeatist approach to overcoming life challenges.

1. Look inwards to understand what you do that gives you joy: could be swimming, reading, smoking, sex, anything at all

2. What kind of job or business that you really wish to do that will give you joy.

You can start selling foodstuffs

3. Consider leaving your present environment so that you can fully positively express yourself without holding back. Victor Osimhen don sell pure water for road before, the owner of slot used to trek from Abule egba to IKEJA to do what he loves, phone repairs and sales.

4. You may not like teaching, collect the next 40k and resign to pursue something different

5. If you love teaching, open a coaching class and try doing it for free at the initial stage

6. If you like sex visit OS joint to relieve yourself of pressure

Mind you be careful with your fantasies

Thanks for your input.

Kobojunkie:
There is absolutely nothing shameful about suicide. Those who suffer from mental illnesses such as depression only succumb and take their lives eventually committing no crimes against humanity or others. Taking one's own life is not an act of cowardice. It is merely you who decides you have had enough of the suffering that is your own life. They have no reason to be ashamed of taking what is or was their own life, to begin with. And those left behind have no valid reason to append shame to their leaving. Those of us who choose not to take our lives but wait instead for death to come for us when it will are not better than the dead, and no, we do not win any medals or gold when the end finally comes.

You deserve two nukes to reset ya head.
You are the only patient that has refused to leave my nairaland asylum. All treatment for ya ailment aren't working. Wetin be this wey you type?
Which kind advise can you give?
You justified suicide and still told the world you have no reward for waiting to die.
You are running mãd but ya folks aren't aware.
We have to restart ya treatment.

Padipadi:
You deserve two nukes to reset ya head.
You are the only patient that has refused to leave my nairaland asylum. All treatment for ya ailment aren't working. Wetin be this wey you type?
Which kind advise can you give?
You justified suicide and still told the world you have no reward for waiting to die.
You are running mãd but ya folks aren't aware.
We have to restart ya treatment.

You noticed I didn't reply him? I don't have the strength to start arguing with him, so I had to avoid him completely even after he quoted me twice

Moniker947:
You noticed I didn't reply him? I don't have the strength to start arguing with him, so I had to avoid him completely even after he quoted me twice

His matter has tired all native doktas in his village. Na only me still dey epp him because he came from a good family. But he's no longer responding to treatment.

Padipadi:

His matter has tired all native doktas in his village. Na only me still dey epo him because he came from a good family. But he's no longer responding to treatment.

Hmmm.. okay

Padipadi:
You deserve two nukes to reset ya head.
You are the only patient that has refused to leave my nairaland asylum. All treatment for ya ailment aren't working. Wetin be this wey you type?
Which kind advise can you give?
You justified suicide and still told the world you have no reward for waiting to die.
You are running mãd but ya folks aren't aware.
We have to restart ya treatment.

you Bleep up
Why did you reply that kobo?
The op she quoted didn’t reply….you guys should stop engaging that moniker.
@op
E go better….

Nemesis0147:
you Bleep up
Why did you reply that kobo?
The op she quoted didn’t reply….you guys should stop engaging that moniker.
@op
E go better….

Amen. Thanks 🙏

Nemesis0147:
you Bleep up
Why did you reply that kobo?
The op she quoted didn’t reply….you guys should stop engaging that moniker.
@op
E go better….

He is under treatment sir. Let's keep praying for him.

Moniker947:
Amen. Thanks 🙏

Go to Youtube and search for Ryan Holiday

Also, head to Quora and read up on how "Stoicism helps to cure depression"

Thats the only cure to depression..."Stoicism"