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What kind of weak men do we have these days?
A woman has the gut to monitor your private calls and messages and you are still asking us what to do?

To slap you dey hungry me!
I hate nonsense.

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

Let her be gainfully employed in a private firm. Because from what you have said and for her to go to that extent, it clearly shows that she's idle and doesn't have anything going on for her life. Another thing, you have to state it clearly that you're not cool with her monitoring after all, she's not your mother. And if she doesn't want to stop, she should leave the house.

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

What are you too hiding in your phone?
My own wife can at will enter my phone, use it, download, enter my social media platforms etc etc. She knows all my passwords as I know hers.

I have never ever had to worry that she will find something incriminating in my conversations with others.

My wife can access my bank apps and I don't lose o sleep over anything on my phone with her.


Again, what is so unholy, unhealthy, unbefitting, uncomely or shameful that you have in your phone?
Or you married a Witch that shouldn't know your affairs or she'll kill you!?
BUT even If that's the case that she's a witch BUT she cooks your food and you sleep with her, aren't you already finished?




Let this scripture guide you if you call yourself a Christian
Philippians 4:8
8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

Marry another wife

deluckiest:
She's feeling insecure. She has no reason to doubt my loyally. She's one of those ladies who always support their gender. She believes no woman.can misbehave without the influence of the man

I want to put an an end to it. I don't want to continue tolerating her.This is 2025.

Tor! You don carry feminist put for house

Im confused on how she is monitoring all your lines where she de work??...

Very simple get a SIM registered in another person name get like two Sims put it a phone chat yourself like side chicks she will be monitoring it until she gets tired and call the number na you go come pick am she will feel stupid and stop these nonsense

O.P, what are you saying?

You want to put an end to a habit of 9 years in 11 years of marriage

Marriage is not living in pretense, you have to voice out like a man to any rubbish you detect.

My Wife checks on my phone, she sees my chats with anybody she cares to see her chat with me...

Anything she sees there, she can't ask me about it , I won't even answer her , because she didn't seek for my consent...

But you as the husband, please try to live a faithful life Incase you have lapses , it helps God fight for your family and gives you your full respect ..

Don't stop Ur spouse from tracking your fone, she will when I ar hers.

Their his no problem without solution I insist until you find Urs, their are no solutions without problems casting out inclusive.
Some are claiming to be God why the rest have no option but to refuse to be the devil.

deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

You are most likely an irresponsible man and have given her tens of thousands of reasons to doubt your fidelity. The moment you change your ways, she will stop monitoring your phones.

Everyone tells a story from the victim point of view. But, a discerning mind knows the truth, even in the absence of the second party. Change!

Hahahaha.

Orishirishi. This Op self😂😂😀

My wife, monitor my phone ke. Hahahaha, I laugh in Ethiopia language again.

Like, monitor my phone. Hahaha.
Omo, I will turn to monitoring spirit and monitor the hell out of all her family members, friends and colleagues inclusive😀😀😀.

Abeg, make una no dey bring all this kind topic come nairaland again. It always sound ridiculous.

budaatum:
11 years and she hasn't found anything incriminating on your phone yet?

If so, consider her a blessing, and continue as you have. You'd appreciate her more when you celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary.

And yes, she's doing it because she's insecure. And your trustworthiness is her blessing, and the fact you are not a pig.

She's cheating on him. The evidence she's gathering is to safe face when she's caught. When a woman monitors her partners every moves, there's tendency that she's moving mad too.

The op need to man up too.

Na you dey stress yourself...!

Personally, I leave absolutely nothing incriminating on my phone or computer... So, if wifey wants to play detective or CIA, she's more than welcome.

Angelfrost:
Na you dey stress yourself...!

All I can say is you're not the man of the house, coz if you are, even if you av concubines she'll av no choice than to stay
A real man has authority

Set boundaries... In any relationship without boundary... Men suffers most if she cross the boundaries... There has to be a penalty.... If not you will cry more than this

deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

You sef, be transparent naa, and she won't see the need to.

If your wife is feeling insecure, you're the one who made her become that way.

From what you wrote ... there is nothing you can do to prevent her from monitoring your phones. If you switch to Android ... or do anything to block her out... she'll demand you give her access and you will. Insecurity may very well be the cause ...but that has two sides .... insecure because she's afraid another woman may snatch you .... and insecurity in her having an outside relationship exposed. It is very common that when women are cheating.... they will accuse you of cheating or as in your case ...over monitor you ... it's like they somehow believe you are doing what she is doing. I want to suspect this is the case since you're yet to answer the question posed to you more than once .... does she allow you to monitor her phones the way she does yours? Even if you believe she isn't the type... try doing same to all her phones and communication devices. Any resistance should be a red flag....then ask the question why not? .... you'll be surprised.

Not sure about the law ...but in many countries what she's doing is illegal if you did not give her permission to do so .... it's invasion of privacy and other charges can be added. I don't believe you want to press charges so my advice is to press her to monitor all her phones the way she does yours.

Divorce her if luv don tire u😁

Why u dey boast of cheatin nah! One nive guy go dey pray fr dis kind obeying wife, then he go come entr one rascal girl hand. U wer dey hide tins con get good wife.
Life no balance🤣💔

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

Strictly use whatsapp

Ur wife works hand in hand with someone in telecoms.

Brother, have you try leaving your phone idle for weeks? Have u try changing your nin digit? Have you try monitoring her own? Do you want to learn how to do so? Have you try to block her phone through gmail? I case my rest

I don't know how degraded humans have become.

Why should spouses not have access to each other's phones? What should you be hiding? Don't accountability and faithfulness remain the standard anymore?

A simp and daddy's boy

aysnoopy:
All I can say is you're not the man of the house, coz if you are, even if you av concubines she'll av no choice than to stay
A real man has authority

Okay... Keep being a real man and continue exercising that authority.

Good luck.

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

I smell lies!

Imagine if a wife is the one that started this thread to complain that her husband is monitoring her phone.

Insults for don full the thread by now.

Reminds me of a tech gal I was dating always checking me up on all social media platform.

NosyParrot:
I smell lies!

The OP is lying. Nobody is monitoring his phone.

Blitzking:
Reminds me of a tech gal I was dating always checking me up on all social media platform.

You were also checking her up, otherwise, you wouldn't have known she was checking you up.

If she monitors your phone it means she cares about you and doesn't want you to cheat. The moment she stops doing that and doesn't give a 4k it means another man is giving her attention and doesn't care if you get yours outside too.

Dogalmighty17:
How long has your wife been jobless?

good question

Mariangeles:
You were also checking her up, otherwise, you wouldn't have known she was checking you up.

I wasn't...might not be in the mood to chat with her but would be online before you know it
Messages like I know you are online...reply me na....what av I done again...I even got messages like those on linkden