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Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by 1AcrossTheEARTH: 11:56pm On Jan 16, 2025
In a house where couples reside, there are no secrets. Her phone is also your phone. Feel free to check. Thank you
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by olatunji390(m): 12:16am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
She did not accuse me of cheating on her. She's just being insecure and too suspicious of my movess. I have not wronged her.
Ogbeni, ur wife is cheating on u....

Take it or leave it
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Rooneyx(m): 12:26am On Jan 17, 2025
Neptunium:
She doesn't have the right to be doing that without your consent, else it's an invasion of your privacy. Get the law involved if you must.

Many times people like her are the ones cheating but they will project and accuse the other person of cheating. Do you have access to her own phones? Can you monitor hers like she's monitoring yours? You seem to be a mumu man.

Is she paying all the bills in the house? Because this her level of control dey say she dey pay all the bills, thereby her audacity.
grin grin grin grin grin LOL
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Galaxydon1(m): 1:52am On Jan 17, 2025
Divorce her
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by raphy(m): 1:56am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.
As a man don't ever go so low to allow a lady control you even my boss is married still goes clubbing with male friends his wife doesn't feel insecure or monitor his movement..

As she confess to you and also spoil your business partnership your eyes come open.

If you can't monitor her privacy too you are a big failure as a man. You Don fall your brotherhood we are disappointed in you.

Be a man stop that shit unless she is the one that pay all the bills and you are her house boy.

Any guy that can't man up is a mumu man

Don't get offended bro just wake or she Don jazz you ni
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Dancebreaker: 2:08am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.
If by now you are not monitoring her too, you are truly what some people here describe you as.

You might not find her cheating in her phone chat, but may be discussing something sinister about you with people. Like what to do to you if she gets any hint of cheating. A platonic relationship with a lady (kept secret to give you business, because she opposes ladies doing business with you) could lead to something else.

I wonder how you can describe a marriage with phone hacking monitoring as a happy one. shocked shocked

Nobody has the right to do something illegal to you without your response/action. Not even your wife.
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by ireke(m): 3:20am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.
I have 2 concerns:

1. What was the origin of the extra monitoring?.
Try and understand her point of view, and what you could do to reassure her or to win hertrust back.

2. "Did she submit to the same level of transparency?"
If she does, the problem is half solved. She may be insecure, but may still be safe. If, on the other hand, she does not submit herself to the same level of transparency, then you should shout for help or run for your life. That behaviour is manipulative, controlling and narcissistic.
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by jimmyvic(m): 4:18am On Jan 17, 2025
That thing wey she dey find, she go see am las las and her mind go dey
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by SirLakes: 4:30am On Jan 17, 2025
seems you tie wrapper while your wife wear trousers in the house. grin
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by BluntCrazeMan: 4:35am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.
So, my first question is...
WHY IS SHE SO INTERESTED IN FOLLOWING YOU TO LIVE YOUR LIFE.??

Second Question..
DOES SHE LOVE YOUR PHONES MORE THAN SHE LOVES YOU.?
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Ndidi2: 5:04am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.
Invading your privacy?
How?
Since you share each other's bodies what is phone?
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by ubimagos: 5:09am On Jan 17, 2025
Neptunium:
She doesn't have the right to be doing that without your consent, else it's an invasion of your privacy. Get the law involved if you must.

Many times people like her are the ones cheating but they will project and accuse the other person of cheating. Do you have access to her own phones? Can you monitor hers like she's monitoring yours? You seem to be a mumu man.

Is she paying all the bills in the house? Because this her level of control dey say she dey pay all the bills, thereby her audacity.
You're spot on. A colleague of mine is going through this yet the woman seems to be the one cheating to everyone amusement.
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Ndidi2: 5:11am On Jan 17, 2025
TenQ:
What are you too hiding in your phone?
My own wife can at will enter my phone, use it, download, enter my social media platforms etc etc. She knows all my passwords as I know hers.

I have never ever have to worry that she will find something incriminating in my conversations with others.

My wife can access my bank apps and I don't lose o sleep over anything on my phone with her.


Again, what is so unholy, unhealthy, unbefitting, uncomely or shameful that you have in your phone.
Or you married a Witch that shouldn't know your affairs or she'll kill you!? If that's the case if she's a witch and she cooks your food and you sleep with her, aren't you already finished?




Let this scripture guide you if you call yourself a Christian
Philippians 4:8
8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
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Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Taiwo20(m): 5:22am On Jan 17, 2025
Use a feature phone like Nokia torchlight.
Or get a new phone activate it with a new email and google voice number.

Second option, man up and tell her to stop
Or stop hiding anything on you phone if you have been doing so.

Third option, let her see what she’s looking for and or marry a second wife.
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by rumenase(m): 5:58am On Jan 17, 2025
You’re the wife she’s the husband
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Difrent: 6:18am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.
Leave her
Maybe that will reset her brain.
This behavior is a red flag, she won't respect your space and privacy

But if na me, I will simply look for ways to be monitoring her too and send guys to try her loyalty
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by GIDIWAPBLOG: 7:12am On Jan 17, 2025
Just give am this kind blow, everything is solved

Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by OlawaleBammie: 7:21am On Jan 17, 2025
budaatum:
11 years and she hasn't found anything incriminating on your phone yet?

If so, consider her a blessing, and continue as you have. You'd appreciate her more when you celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary.

And yes, she's doing it because she's insecure. And your trustworthiness is her blessing, and the fact you are not a pig.
But if it were to be the other way round u would have bn spitting venom so ooh..abi??

Oonikuure.
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by psalmistkakah(m): 7:21am On Jan 17, 2025
My wife was like that...I stood on my ground to stop this nonsense.....I even told her if I want a second wife she can't stop me , if I want cheat she can't stop me...but I remain faithful because I felt is d right..I told her if she continue with her lack of trust then I have no choice but cheat on her and wait for the consequences..She stop and now there is peace...too much of everything is bad... marriage no be prison
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Psoul(m): 7:27am On Jan 17, 2025
She knows the details of your Gmail account.
So long as you are using phone that is registered with that Gmail, she will keep monitoring all your activities.

With that your Gmail, she can remotely install any app she want on your devices. She can also access other passwords you use on that device.

Remove that Gmail account from that device.
Turn off your Location.
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by TenQ: 7:54am On Jan 17, 2025
Ndidi2:
is there a way to like this post a million times?
Thanks a million to sir!
LOL!!
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by zedman1(m): 8:09am On Jan 17, 2025
bukatyne:
Your story doesn't add up.

According to the OP, she started monitoring your phone 6 years ago.

Upon enquiry, you said you were married 11 years ago.

Meaning she started scouting 5 years into your marriage. Then how did she start since university?

So what turned your wife to a detective from the 5th year of your marriage?
Maybe he got married before going to the university? Maybe he started running a program, say masters after marriage.....Maybe? No?
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by IshaKhan(f): 8:22am On Jan 17, 2025
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Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by RillJ(m): 8:27am On Jan 17, 2025
Ensure there is nothing untoward for her to see.
Ignore her snooping.
Allow her free access to the phone(s).


Soon, she will let you be.
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by MightySparrow: 8:53am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.
Stop to use phones.

gringrin
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by yomi531(m): 9:03am On Jan 17, 2025
Odotech:
Stop using iphone. Iphone can be monitored by paying online companies to do it after providing them your phone number. They don't need physical access to your phone to do this. All your iphone information on iphone is backed up on their cloud account that is where the spy companies get your chats, photos and call records.

Android phones can be monitored but the person must get physical access to your phone first to install a hidden spy app which shows no screen but will be running. You have to reset your phone to factory settings. If possible flash it. Then password it. Don't let her know your password and don't let her know the pattern lock or don't allow her add a second finger print. Set your phone screen to lock back within 3 seconds after it's idle. Also don't even use fingerprint so she doesn't use your finger to open it when you are asleep. If she cannot open your android phone in your absence, she won't be able to install a spy ware
Tech Gurus dey o. Respect!
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by jaszplus12(m): 9:23am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.
This level of insecurity needs to be placed on red alert!!
I can imagine how your life is!
If after assuring her of your fidelity and she's still like that then it's time you modify your response to her by being a little more firm!
Tell her that the phone isn't going to stop you from misbehaving but her confidence and trust in you would. If she feels otherwise then step 2 will become necessary...
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by sketchosreev: 9:25am On Jan 17, 2025
deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.
... She actually added her device(phone) to your WhatsApp. Go to "Add a device" on your WhatsApp settings and remover her
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Ebubu6: 11:15am On Jan 17, 2025
Angelfrost:
Na you dey stress yourself...!

Personally, I leave absolutely nothing incriminating on my phone or computer... So, if wifey wants to play detective or CIA, she's more than welcome.
You're married?
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by sylve11: 12:03pm On Jan 17, 2025
Neptunium:
She doesn't have the right to be doing that without your consent, else it's an invasion of your privacy. Get the law involved if you must.

Many times people like her are the ones cheating but they will project and accuse the other person of cheating. Do you have access to her own phones? Can you monitor hers like she's monitoring yours? You seem to be a mumu man.

Is she paying all the bills in the house? Because this her level of control dey say she dey pay all the bills, thereby her audacity.
Please, correct it. "It's all the time." They are the greatest cheaters on earth 🌎. cool
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by sylve11: 12:06pm On Jan 17, 2025
Odotech:
Stop using iphone. Iphone can be monitored by paying online companies to do it after providing them your phone number. They don't need physical access to your phone to do this. All your iphone information on iphone is backed up on their cloud account that is where the spy companies get your chats, photos and call records.

Android phones can be monitored but the person must get physical access to your phone first to install a hidden spy app which shows no screen but will be running. You have to reset your phone to factory settings. If possible flash it. Then password it. Don't let her know your password and don't let her know the pattern lock or don't allow her add a second finger print. Set your phone screen to lock back within 3 seconds after it's idle. Also don't even use fingerprint so she doesn't use your finger to open it when you are asleep. If she cannot open your android phone in your absence, she won't be able to install a spy ware
Thanks for this info.

Which Spyware can one install to record all conversion on a partner's 📱? cool
Re: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by Abee79(m): 12:10pm On Jan 17, 2025
Which kain mafia wife be this? 🤣
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