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Update on https://www.nairaland.com/8324945/wife-went-women-afair#133843426

Just coming back from women afair my wife also came.

I told them all that happened how they fought me and broke my hand. One women their told my wife that from the way she is talking she is the cause of our marital problem, that she is not even supposed to be in marriage that she is not matured to be into marriage.

They told us to go and reconcile and come back after three weeks. That we don't even have any problem.

You are not ready to let go off that woman because if you really do, you wouldn't be going frequently to any women's affair because you'd divorce your troublesome wife

Bros, a bad woman is bad. However, you better run if she's the manipulative type. A. Manipulative woman will kill you so soon. I fact at some point you'll even begin to question your own sanity.

goodman41:
➜Just coming back from women afair my wife also came.
I told them all that happened how they fought me and broke my hand. One women their told my wife that from the way she is talking she is the cause of our marital problem, that she is not even supposed to be in marriage that she is not matured to be into marriage.
They told us to go and reconcile and come back after three weeks. That we don't even have any problem.

Women's Affair does not decide whether a man and woman should stay married or not. The following is the vision and mission statement from the Women's Affairs web front.

VISION
“To help build a Nigerian Society that guarantees equal access to social, economic and wealth creation opportunities to all, irrespective of gender, places premium on protection of the child, the aged and persons with disabilities; focuses attention of key operators in both private and public sectors on mainstreaming the concerns of these groups of people in national development process”.
MISSION
“To serve as the national vehicle to bring about speedy and healthy development of Nigerian Women, Children, the socially disadvantaged and physically challenged, and the main-streaming of their rights and privileges in national development process”. https://womenaffairs.gov.ng/index.php/about-us/about-us

Those people you met at the office and whose comments you quoted are not marriage judges; their opinions hold no meaning where marriage is concerned. If it had been here, the woman who made that statement would have lost her job immediately for taking it upon herself to speak where she has no legal authority to.

The decision as to whether a man and woman should stay together or not is between the man and woman in the marriage. Get this into your head, please. Your marriage seems to be at an impasse and so it is left to the both of you to seek professional marriage counseling to decide once and for all which way forward. I will recommend you not consider what outsiders think as you are the ones in the marriage and so you both know best whether you are able to continue tolerating each other or not.

I told u last year,that u need to reconcile with ur wife.

Treat her well and she will reciprocate the love.

Avoid anything that would make ur children to grow apart.

Remember,u saw something that made u profess love for her at the start,what then happened later...reconcile with her and pray that things should work for both of u financially, and work towards it and see ur family grow and become a shining example to others.

I hate seeing fight between husband and wife...it breeds badluck and lack of progress.

This is my 10th year,i haven't said any bad word at my wife nor my wife to me, I don't expect such from u guys either.

Live in peace with everyone.

Sonnobax15:

You are not ready to let go off that woman because if you really do, you wouldn't be going frequently to any women's affair because you'd divorce your troublesome wife

Do you want to take the position of his wife? Please let him do whatever it is to keep his home. You don't know if the joyous moments are way more than the chaotic moments.

GboyegaD:
Do you want to take the position of his wife? Please let him do whatever it is to keep his home. You don't know if the joyous moments are way more than the chaotic moments.

ibechris:
I told u last year,that u need to reconcile with ur wife.

Treat her well and she will reciprocate the love.

Avoid anything that would make ur children to grow apart.

Remember,u saw something that made u profess love for her at the start,what then happened later...reconcile with her and pray that things should work for both of u financially, and work towards it and see ur family grow and become a shining example to others.

I hate seeing fight between husband and wife...it breeds badluck and lack of progress.

This is my 10th year,i haven't said any bad word at my wife nor my wife to me, I don't expect such from u guys either.

Live in peace with everyone.

Perish this idea/advice OP

Na who wear the shoes know where e dy pain am — It’s time to move on whilst still being in the life of your kids

She don see you finish OP — That woman can NEVER CHANGE — Take it from me.

Your peace of mind is more paramount than whatever advice you’ll get from here, unless you want to die before your time.

You’ve been a very WEAK MAN, man up, don’t reconcile and leave her for good.

Kobojunkie:
Women's Affair does not decide whether a man and woman should stay married or not. The following is the vision and mission statement from the Women's Affairs web front.
Those people you met at the office and whose comments you quoted are not marriage judges; their opinions hold no meaning where marriage is concerned. If it had been here, the woman who made that statement would have lost her job immediately for taking it upon herself to speak where she has no legal authority to.

The decision as to whether a man and woman should stay together or not is between the man and woman in the marriage. Get this into your head, please. Your marriage seems to be at an impasse and so it is left to the both of you to seek professional marriage counseling to decide once and for all which way forward. I will recommend you not consider what outsiders think as you are the ones in the marriage and so you both know best whether you are able to continue tolerating each other or not.

So they should seek the advice of a marriage counselor and listen to him/her and then ignore that of women affairs because their opinion holds no water?

Is the marriage counselor not an outsider too?

Ain’t you a third party too? What makes you think your opinion counts and the OP would listen to you and follow your advice?

You have a knack for being smart by half; firing and yapping from all your holes without thinking properly🤦‍♂️

GboyegaD:
Do you want to take the position of his wife? Please let him do whatever it is to keep his home. You don't know if the joyous moments are way more than the chaotic moments.

Gboskii of laive.





Lolxx.

Caaz:

Gboskii of laive.
Lolxx.

How have you been?

Valwezzy:
✓ So they should seek the advice of a marriage counselor and listen to him/her and then ignore that of women affairs because their opinion holds no water? Is the marriage counselor not an outsider too?

Ain’t you a third party too? What makes you think your opinion counts and the OP would listen to you and follow your advice?
You have a knack for being smart by half; firing and yapping from all your holes without thinking properly🤦‍♂️

A professional marriage counselor works as a mediator to help mediate between the two parties involved in deciding the path forward for their marriage. They are not your stewpid church/imam/family marriage counselor who think themselves as powers to decide for the partners in the marriage at what is to happen next.

Please make Google your friend in these things!

Kobojunkie:
A professional marriage counselor works as a mediator to help mediate between the two parties involved in deciding the path forward for their marriage. They are not your stewpid church/imam/family marriage counselor who think themselves as powers to decide for the partners in the marriage at what is to happen next.

Please make Google your friend in these things!

Again, firing gibberish from all your holes.

You couldn’t even answer any of my questions but went straight ahead to yap as usual.

If you weren’t smart by half, you would know that I might not even be a Christian or a Muslim but here you go — Ropping them in on your shiiit and calling them stewpid without cause.

How did you confirm they think themselves as powers that decides for couples? Any stats or articles to backup your claims?

Dude, make use of your much recommended “GOOGLE” so you’ll know how to engage intelligently next time, stay blessed!

GboyegaD:
How have you been?

Mo wa pa sir.iwo nko?

Caaz:
Mo wa pa sir.iwo nko?

I dey kajard, omote.

GboyegaD:
I dey kajard, omote.

Nice to hear Gboskii....warm regards to the ekrus.




Stay safe.

Caaz:
Nice to hear Gboskii....warm regards to the ekrus.

Stay safe.

Dem go hear.

There is sometimes joy in the pain