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Dalohad:
He went to high school and University in America. He was prolly born there. I checked him up on LinkedIn..

People who were born there or even relocated as little to the USA hardly return to Nigeria, as they hardly have any friends or social ties in Nigeria.

Only those who had college education in Nigeria before relocating to the US, would likely return to Nigeria every year or at least Bi-annually.

I thought as much.

Nnamdipapa:
The passion has always been a scam from day one the man did not catch it on time. Now, he had to pay with his life.

but you have to understand that that whether the passion is a scam or not, igbo people are just created with an insane amount of passion. That whole obedient movement is based on hardcore passion. It's part of your spiritual makeup and gift. Can be channelled positively for creativity or can destroy you easily if mismanaged like this our doctor here. Blew his own brains out. Now that's uncontrolled passion. He felt sooo aggrieved by that judgement his passionate nature pushed him to blow out his medulla oblongata.

patrickcollins:
Person wey dey earn above 25 million naira monthly which Naija hospital can pay that sum

Is his expenses and cost of living in Nigeria and USA the same thing?

diamond68:
but you have to understand that that whether the passion is a scam or not, igbo people are just created with an insane amount of passion. That whole obedient movement is based on hardcore passion. It's part of your spiritual makeup and gift. Can be channelled positively for creativity or can destroy you easily if mismanaged like this our doctor here. Blew his own brains out. Now that's uncontrolled passion. He felt sooo aggrieved by that judgement his passionate nature pushed him to blow out his medulla oblongata.

Most of what you call passion I see as sign of low emotional intelligence to be honest. The first rule of adulthood is to master on control your emotions.

15.000 dollars every month.How can he cope?Life in essence is useless and not worth it lt's so pathetic to read this.
Every now and then,we keep reading about similar sad tale on married men living in the West.Hope, lessons are learnt from such gory reality.

Arapmoi22:
I HOPE WE WILL NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT THE JUDGEMENT IN SANER CLIME.

IN SANER CLIME, AIRCRAFTS DON'T COLLIDE MID AIR TOO.

NO CHERRY PICKING HERE. EVERYTHING ABOUT SANER CLIME IS FINE INCLUDING 40,000 GUN VIOLENCE DEATHS ANNUALLY.

😂 I mean I’m suprised to see Nigerians crying and complaining here about sainier clime. Same sainier clime with a perfect system. Same sainier clime where people don’t die because God isn’t capable of killing peopje three once they japa there. Same sainier clime where their women are better than Nigerian women and men should endeavour to marry them instead. Same clime where things are cheap and no one pays rent?

Why complaining? I think Nigerians are just ingrate. Dying in the sainier clime and losing all ur money is worth it. At least you didn’t lose it in Nigeria.

Okoroawusa:
This man died a fool. He gave up on life too cowardly. This is nothing like "a worst-case scenario". Nothing you can come out of. He is even educated and a doctor.
You are a Nigerian right? America took your license right? Fvck that! Come back to Nigeria and start again. At 35 many people are still dilly-dallying on what to do with their lives but you have yours sorted out already.

I am very glad my divorce case was in Nigeria. No carry woman go obodo oyibo especially America una no dey hear.

Men that is exactly my thought he should have relocated back to Nigeria and forget his US citizenship and their draconian child support law.
Meanwhile my good friend whose wife tricked into relocating to US in 2018 is now battling divorce case with his wife and have been place on child support of 3k a month.My guy is still weighing his options but suicide is totally out of it.

May his soul rest in peace.

Why not sell off all your landed properties in US,,get liquid cash ,,transfer them to your Nigerian banks and hop on that flight back to Naija

mmsen:
You are very right but it means that if you go back to the States they will arrest you and compel you to pay the arrears.

Why going back? Is your whole existence tied to a location? And you can’t do anything meaningful with ur life again once you’re not in that place?

Like dullards that they are,men will start blaming women. That is likely 0ne quarter of what he earns. Who will marry her as a single mother? You know how divorcees are stigmatized. Who will assume the role of taking care of another man seed? Obviously men fight for custody not because they love their kids but to avoid paying child custody.so they can easily drop the child with their aged mother and send peanuts just enough to feed the child since grandma economizes.

Tektronics12:
It Shows He is still very Primitive in his Mind. For you to loose your license, he must have committed Violence on his wife.

Some Nigerian Men still act like kids to be Honest. You can't eat your cake and Have it at the same time. Kids belong to Women in Western World.

The Law always protect the Vulnerable.
quote author=drstranged post=133968800]
https://punchng.com/us-based-nigerian-doctor-allegedly-kills-self-over-15000-child-support/

Your wife can easily frame you up for domestic violence in the USA. She can incite you to raise your voice so your kids can hear you guys arguing. She will then hit her head on the wall ( bleeding and swelling) and call the police that you pushed her. Your kids will tell the police when asked that they heard you shouting.

Only God and maybe a secret camera will save you from going to jail in this instance.

Ojiofor:
Men that is exactly my thought he should have relocated back to Nigeria and forget his US citizenship and their draconian child support law.
Meanwhile my good friend whose wife tricked into relocating to US in 2018 is now battling divorce case with his wife and have been place on child support of 3k a month.My guy is still weighing his options but suicide is totally out of it.

May his soul rest i peace.

What is it about paying for the support of your child that you men dread so much?

nedekid:
I thought of that too, why not relocate to naija and start a new life? Well guess he was probably born in the US and may not know the Nigerian terrain. Also the US justice system may declare him wanted since failure to pay child support is a jailable crime. The 15k will just be accumulating, waiting for him. They could even issue interpol warrant. The Dr probably has hundreds of thousands in student loan debt now joined with 15k monthly igbese, his mortgage on his house his wife will collect yet he will still be paying, the cars nko, the monthly payment, all these join with his loosing his licence to practice. Hmm, wahala..

How would he make the money after losing his license? Shebi he should just declare bankruptcy.

quadraheem:
Very unfortunate!
He should have come to NL and seek for advice and way out instead of the option he eventually took.
Relocating back to Nigeria would have saved his life. My thoughts

"He should have come to NL and seek for advice"
This might sound simple or stupid but if and only if that man had done that, I believe the outcome would have been different.

Because when a person like me drops a tale sadder than his, and other guys share more experiences that make even my own look like an ordinary argument with a danfo driver, it is at that point he will stop thinking of suicide and beg God for forgiveness instead

drstranged:
https://punchng.com/us-based-nigerian-doctor-allegedly-kills-self-over-15000-child-support/

MY BELOVED BROTHERS THESE NIGERIAN WIFE YOU SEE AT HOME ARE DIFFERENT SPECIES WHEN THEY TRAVELLED ABROAD. ONES THEY UNDERSTOOD THAT THE SYSTEM IS FAVORABLE TO THEM AND THE CHILDREN, THEIR BEHAVIOR WILL DRASTICALLY CHANGE. IT'S SO BAD THAT WHEN FOUND GUILTY OF ANYTHING, YOU AUTOMATICALLY LOST YOUR PERMIT. LIKE THE CASE OF THIS DR. IF YOU CAN'T WORK, WHERE WILL YOU GET THE MONTHLY CHILD CARE TO PAY. THIS MAN DIED OUT OF FRUSTRATION.
HOWEVER, HE COULD HAVE RELOCATED TO ANOTHER COUNTRY AND CONTINUE HIS LIFE THERE.
MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE.

irumole1975:
Why going back? Is your whole existence tied to a location? And you can’t do anything meaningful with ur life again once you’re not in that place?

He has children there.

I don't know all the reasons why people do but it happens every day.

Okoroawusa:
This man died a fool. He gave up on life too cowardly. This is nothing like "a worst-case scenario". Nothing you can come out of. He is even educated and a doctor.
You are a Nigerian right? America took your license right? Fvck that! Come back to Nigeria and start again. At 35 many people are still dilly-dallying on what to do with their lives but you have yours sorted out already.

I am very glad my divorce case was in Nigeria. No carry woman go obodo oyibo especially America una no dey hear.

Na so I dey tell many men now, no give woman power o! She go use am kill you and finish herself eventually. Woman no be specie any man should handle with light hand. Them no get mercy

owobokiri:
Stop marrying these wayward gals that have been totally traumatised during their run gal days. Avoid them. They have damaged themselves beyond repair and are nothing but walking disasters. The ex is somewhere having fun. Jezebel has moved on and will never feel any pain over this. Men! Save yourselves!!!

Look for cultures that are still traditional and marry from there. Whether in Africa or Asia oo. Marry her and treat her nice. But you see most of these "money for hand back for ground" girls you guys pick off the streets once you visit home, they are wild hyenas. You can't domestic a wild hyena.. Loyalty is not the strongest point..

Dey play if you base in those countries and come back to marry village gal do not think of taking her to your base in overseas because after months she will change when she see how ladies use to do with the husband ,she will see those who will teach her bad way of life in that country ,those who will tell her .Only God will save us

GloriousGbola:
story has serious k -leg

a divorce case cannot make you lose your license to practice medicine

https://www.spigalaw.com/6-common-reasons-doctors-lose-their-medical-licenses

the above are reasons to lose your license

more importantly child support is based on your earning
if he lost his license to practice as a doctor he would not be earning enough to be ordered to pay S15k per month

it is not possible that your ex-wife who took you to court is 'yet to be identified' as there are open court records. more likely the family has deliberately chosen to omit the children's mother(s) from the ceremony

bloggers have taken the story and spiced it up

a google search shows cardiologists can earn $525,000 per year. $15,000/month is is $180,000 per year .He would still have been ok after tax etal .

If you’re paid $525k in California, your take home pay after tax is $307k. When u remove ur student debt, insurance, mortgage, car payment, rent, groceries, and you remove $180k you’re paying in child support, how much is left?

Nnamdipapa:
Most of what you call passion I see as sign of low emotional intelligence to be honest. The first rule of adulthood is to master on control your emotions.

emotion, passion ? They are brothers. One is senior brother the other is junior brother 😂

Sonnobax15:
. Trust me bros, that's gonna be the best decision you'll ever make in this life....

What is it about paying for your child well being that you men hate?

Shows how much a mother's love is compared to a father's.

We women,will not wait for a court to impose the duty of taking care of a child .


You men have sworn to raise another man kids or marry divorcees and single moms. Now the law is making it such that you don't have to,the biological father should. And you are complaining .

God forbid ,if I divorce and my kid goes to my husband,I will double whatever the court asks me to pay (do I have to wait for a court to impose this on me in the first place? )

How can something grumble this much about taking care of THEIR OWN CHILD...NAWA O

passion007:
Everyone is screaming $15k is too much. Keep in mind that the guy most likely earns more than $30k per month, because the court cannot ask you to pay more than half of your income as child support. It was his decision to take his own life rather than give half of his income to his children, but that decision was certainly not due to financial inability because he was well able to afford that.

Also it doesn't matter if you are not married. You will still pay child support.

I Know you are a lady. All your concern is that $15,000 to be collected by a lady effortlessly. Now that he has died the lady should go and be collecting the money from the grave.

Several years ago in Nigeria when a serving President son divorced his wife. The wife went to Court to request for the custody of the two children and long list of requirements which are more than $15K monthly commitments. She requested for ownership of a house in GRA Ikeja, domestic staff, medicals abroad, etc which the son of the President can never afford through his work. The lady said she made the request because her ex husband is a son of the President of the most populous nation in Africa and being the son he has connections and exposure to make money. Mind you, the lady married the President's son when the father became President. Which means if the man's father were to be in prison or an illiterate village man she wouldn't have married him.

That's woman for you. You said she chose death to giving his children $15K monthly. Now she can collect the money from grave. So the children are his children and not her children? To worsen the matter, DNA test might even show that the children are not his biological children.

Vicky951:
He deserves it though. Everyone is just lashing out on the woman. Did you bother knowing the cause of the divorce. Or you think the US government is stupid? Before they will take it license, and limit access to his kids, something prompted him.

If you know you have a character flaw as a man, like aggressive cheating, verbal, physical or emotional abuse, better stay in Nigeria. Foreign countries had zero tolerance for these behaviors against women.

As someone who has been in the USA for over 6 years now, and know this family, the man deserves everything. I have zero empathy for me. If he were to be my brother, he still deserves it. Women are humans too and deserves to be treated right. The woman even gave him an option of going back to Nigeria for a while or getting another space so they see how to resolve the issue with time and he said instead of leaving for Nigeria, he’ll get a divorce. And he got it and even more! May his soul rest in peace.

Please enlighten us more. What really happened?

mmsen:
He has children there.

I don't know all the reasons why people do but it happens every day.

Men should start getting comfortable with not allowing themselves ruined just because they’re trying to consider their families and children and do what’s in their best interest too, at least sometimes, especially in a case where it’s obvious they’re trying to ruin u. Just run for ur life bro. Run!

Educationalserv:
Rip hustler ! You Bleep up .Japada out of the US simple even Americans dey renounce their citizenship.
Come back to Najia get your working licence and move back to Saudi,Qatar Dubai and Earn tax free Salary and remarry a homely lady

a homely lady ? Lmao there are no homely ladies. The axis of the world has changed and women are more powerful. Women are lions

PEOPLE GO THROUGH ALOT IN LIFE, MOST OF THE TIME SILENTLY.


MOST OF THE TIME, THEY TELL U MARRY WIFE AND U THINK U ARE MARRYING WIFE.


REALLY U ARE BRING ANOTHER PERSON WITH THEIR OWN PERSONAL PROBLEMS, EVEN MENTAL PROBLEMS.


U GOT TO BE VERY CAREFUL.


RIP

Tightpussy2024:
What is it about paying for the support of your child that you men dread so much?

You don't want the man but you want all his money,house everything to yourself.
Your wickedness has led some men to become murderers and suicidal.
This Dr took only his own life but some wives are not that lucky as the victims takes out both himself and his wife.
Women should be reasonable.

Stephen0mozzy:
I'd rather just return back to Nigeria.
Get in some circle, and get licensed to practice in Nigeria.

American-trained, your private practice go too boom.

But, I guess, the mind wants what it wants. I hope he didn't do it to spite the wife and the US Legal system sha.

Life is too sweet to do that, even in bad times!

Abi na...Enough opportunities in his father's land.

passion007:
Everyone is screaming $15k is too much. Keep in mind that the guy most likely earns more than $30k per month, because the court cannot ask you to pay more than half of your income as child support. It was his decision to take his own life rather than give half of his income to his children, but that decision was certainly not due to financial inability because he was well able to afford that.

Also it doesn't matter if you are not married. You will still pay child support.

You didn't read that his licence was also withdrawn?

HeraldAgric01:
Easier said than applied when the table turns. In this man's case, the judgement is worse than death 15k dollars! No be beans o. Imagine working yourself to stupor and submitting the money to an ungrateful soul who'll just gallivant with the money. Now she should go and get the money from his grave. I hope he sold off his properties before his unfortunate death.

sold off what properties ? Did you buy properties for him ? Werey

DiasGodinHeaven:
He can never rest in peace. He is a disgrace to Men and Igboland.
We have warned Nigerians if you must travel, don't travel with your wife for your sanity and health but they refused and call us all sorts of derogatory names.
Another person will fall victim today and tomorrow they will not learn.
I hope Trump will address this issues

Only a sociopath could write a post like this.

passion007:
Everyone is screaming $15k is too much. Keep in mind that the guy most likely earns more than $30k per month, because the court cannot ask you to pay more than half of your income as child support. It was his decision to take his own life rather than give half of his income to his children, but that decision was certainly not due to financial inability because he was well able to afford that.

Also it doesn't matter if you are not married. You will still pay child support.

Don't mind them.they have forgotten the price of Babysitting. School fees, insurance..they forget that this is calculated based on his earning power. Ask how much he earns.


We have read of recent of women dying during childbirth.

Someone has done the life threatening job(childbirth) and her love life altered for good .

They are caring for your child for you. Just drop money.its called injustice against men.