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mmsen:
The article says he was born in Anambra.

Also, if you're in child support arrears you cannot travel anyway. They won't issue you a passport. They won't even issue you a driver's license.

Most of the commentators on this thread, who are inadvertently encouraging criminality, have no idea how the system works.

In favour or against?

Sonnobax15:
. Trust me bros, that's gonna be the best decision you'll ever make in this life....

koladata:
It's actually not about the judge; it's about the template and how the country is structured. You can't hide your income unless you are a businessman or a musician and can declare some kind of bankruptcy. There's a template to follow when there's a divorce, and there's a sharing formula that mostly favors women. It is working for them because, in most cases, men won't take care of the children just to spite the woman, and that's how you raise uneducated children and Boko Haram

But why can't he just leave USA and go to another country to start a new life. I just feel there are several options instead of suicide. I know America is a good country but there are cases you just have to run for your life.

So the judge was unaware that his work license had been cancelled, and you too, like the judge, did not read that part ba?

helinues:
The lady should have thought about the baby 's care before being insensitive.

She was not insensitive bro. I live abroad and marriage breakdowns happen every day here and not big deals.

Dude should have gotten himself an aggressive lawyer at the divorce
hearings as everyone fight for their interests in situations like these.

Let's not be quick to paint the woman a demon for fighting for her own interest . If i tell you stories of our men who screwed their wives over during divorces here, you will be surprised.

The weak guy did not have to unlive himself.

Dr Ikenna, Rest in Peace.

I don't know how terrible,alone and desperate he must have felt to choose to end his life.

I wish he had found someone to talk to, someone who would have helped him. I wish he reached out to someone.

Ikenna you were someone's child, someone's father, brother, friend etc. . The people who love you will be traumatized forever and blame themselves for not being there for you. I'm sure your family would have chosen any other option but death in this violent way.

I don't know why divorces can't be amiable. If you don't want to do again, separate in peace. If it's getting toxic, leave the person and save your self. Doesn't the court mandate an amount from current earnings? I know how hard it is to hand over your hard earned cash or life savings but where there is life,there's a way. Why die over something you can make more of,money can always be made.A very young guy at that. The story here is not adding up cos why the loss of license? How will he pay 15k if he doesn't have license?

I feel bad for the children who will grow up to live with knowing their father took his life, the scars will haunt them forever. They are the victims here, they didn't choose to be born and now will be forced to exist in pain.

YOUR LIFE IS PRECIOUS, there is nothing and no one worth taking your life for. You may feel you're at the end of the road but find people to talk to, there's ALWAYS other options.

Nnamdipapa:
She was not insensitive bro. I live abroad and marriage breakdown down every day here and not a big deal.
Dude should have gotten himself an aggressive lawyer at the divorce w
hearings as everyone fights for their interests in situations like these.

Let's not be quick to paint the woman a demon for fighting for her own interest in a divorce. If i tell you stories of our men who screwed their wives over during divorce here, you will be surprised.

The weak guy did not have to unlive himself.

Even if the guy did not commit suicide, what if he was unable to meet up with the baby's care fee, would they have killed him physically too?

The guy is weak at the same time the lady is insensitive. If you take your landlord to court, na you go still comot for the house for the owner

GboyegaD:
The issue is many of our men carry the Nigerian mentality abroad which doesn't help. Be humane, reasonable, responsible, and above all be truthful.

No suppose is a devil and if one sees the sincerity of the other, the tendency of going all out on their evil intentions are reduced greatly.

Jesus, why am I not surprised you will still find a way to blame the man even after he is dead?

Dude...dem use simp water bath you ni?

You are embarrassing the male gender abeg...

Akalia:
He acted naively which ought not to be so for someone who schooled in the west and probably spent a large chunk of his years growing up in the west.

As an experienced man, you should be able to tell when the woman in your life is flying red flags and then you take preeminent re-action to protect yourself and be in the position of advantage going forward.

It is not right to equate poor mental health, which any of us can suffer from, to naivete.

Look up his records and you will find that he was a distinguished cardiologist.

This story seems fishy, I don't believe a word on it.

mmsen:
The article says he was born in Anambra.

Also, if you're in child support arrears you cannot travel anyway. They won't issue you a passport. They won't even issue you a driver's license.

Cardiologist no go get passport already? ? ?

Ojiofor:
Nigerian men who most times brought their wives from Nigeria and invested heavily to upgrade her did not do all that having divorce in mind.It is the women who out of selfish desires that seeks divorce knowing fully well that divorce favours women in western world. .

Ignorance!

In Nigeria there is child support law. In Lagos state,you don't need to be married ,once you pregnant a lady you pay.its not a west thing.

Aside myself and an Ethiopian girl,no black woman I know in my circle or even acquaintances married a white man. to tell you that they is no love in the west. Why would a woman throw away a marriage in a country of stack loneliness where you will stay 2 years and no man will say "hi" to you? If they do,is to sample black vagina.

Why can't you make marriage tolerable for women? The day your peace of mind is threatened,you men will flee. Can't you afford women the opportunity to leave when they don't feel safe and secure with you?

drstranged:
https://punchng.com/us-based-nigerian-doctor-allegedly-kills-self-over-15000-child-support/

He just feel like dyjng. Why can't he immigrate to Canada and start life over there

helinues:
Even if the guy did not commit suicide, what if he was unable to meet up with the baby's care fee, would they have killed him physically too?

The guy is weak at the same time the lady is insensitive. If you take your landlord to court, na you go still comot for the house for the owner

That is why I tell people who go abroad never to completely uproot from Nigeria. Keep the house and have a business going or good income earning investments.

Me, I would be back in Nigeria the next day and not pay anything.
IMy wife dares not threaten me with a divorce.

Ojiofor:
Nigerian men who most times brought their wives from Nigeria and invested heavily to upgrade her did not do all that having divorce in mind.It is the women who out of selfish desires that seeks divorce knowing fully well that divorce favours women in western world. .

I KEEP WARNING U ABOUT YOUR REASONING AND PARARELL WITH REALITY.



RULE NUMBER1


U DO NOT UPGADE ANYBODY ESPECIALLY A WOMAN. OTHERWISE YOUR GOOD INTENTION WILL BE TAKEN FOR A WEAKNESS AND U WILL BE PUNISHED ONCE SHE IS SET UP.


U ARE BETTER OFF GETTING ONE ALREADY AT THAT LEVEL, SO NO SURPRISES.

Tightpussy2024:
Like dullards that they are,men will start blaming women. That is likely 0ne quarter of what he earns. Who will marry her as a single mother? You know how divorcees are stigmatized. Who will assume the role of taking care of another man seed? Obviously men fight for custody not because they love their kids but to avoid paying child custody.so they can easily drop the child with their aged mother and send peanuts just enough to feed the child since grandma economizes.

Werey

SSpeter:
To be a cardiologist at that age, he was definitely born in the US

Back in 2015...

Erinne, who recently got his Doctor of Medicine from the Morehouse School of Medicine in Atlanta, Georgia, United States was said to have made Nigeria proud by his outstanding performance.

According to a statement, the old boy of Navy Secondary School, Port Harcourt, Rivers State and alumni of Portland State University, Portland, Oregon, U.S.A., at his graduation ceremony, got highly revered awards in Pathophysiology; First Year M.D Curriculum; Alpha Omega Alpha Honor; M.D Graduate Award Magna Cum Laude; Pharmacology; and Medical Microbiology.

“I am interested in Internal Medicine with a specialization in Cardiology. My career goals include Academic Medicine, Research, Global Medicine and creating efficient and sustainable healthcare systems in resource-poor countries,” he said in an online publication.

Erinne, who has since commenced his six-year residency and fellowship programme in internal medicine and cardiology at the University of Maryland, Baltimore, U.S.A, hails from Ikija in Anambra State.

Source: https://guardian.ng/news/nigerias-olasunkanmi-erinne-shine-in-uk-u-s-varsities/

Bouncing2:
Why not sell off all your landed properties in US,,get liquid cash ,,transfer them to your Nigerian banks and hop on that flight back to Naija

someone who killed himself over 15k child support has landed properties ? Hear yourself

Nnamdipapa:
That is why I tell people who go abroad never to completely uproot from Nigeria. Keep the house and have a business going or good income earning investments.

Me, I would be back in Nigeria the next day and not pay anything.
IMy wife dares not threaten me with a divorce.

Everything falls on who you regard as your friends and partner. There are just too many manipulators around

ukaface:
That means you don’t trust your wife to be of ‘ good’ character
Or you fear she would use the western environment to pay you back

I don’t think one woman will wake up in the morning and decide ‘ yes, now let me show him pepper’ with no just reason.

Sweetheart, I have seen many shocking and surprising things happen around since I became an adult. My wife is a nice person and a good wife but people can change anytime. I'm being just being cautious

luminouz:
Werey

this Ibadan tout,you again!

If you found something reasonable to do with your life,you may have become something in life by now

RULE NUMBER 2;


IF I TALK AND SHE TALK, VERY GOOD, THIS ONE IS A WITCH, NEXT THING NA TO TRAVEL NO COME BACK.




U MUST LEARN AND KNOW WHEN TO ABANDON SHIP.



LET HER CARRY THE FULL WEIGHT OF THE CHILDREN ALONE.



JUST DISAPPEAR AND NEVER RETURN UNTIL THE KIDS ARE LIKE TEENAGERS.

Tightpussy2024:
Oga put your emotions in place.

Ask these questions to yourself:
1). Who asked for the divorce?
2) what caused the divorce?
3) who calculated the money (the court)?
4) how much does he earns monthly?
5) Are you ready to take care of a single mom child? If no,why not make the father do so? So she doesn't go around looking for who to accept her and her child?

Since they are also your kids, why can't you take care of them YOURSELF?

it's always about the money to you lots, never about all these questions you asked.

I thank my stars for the redpill.

DaddyJapan:
Only a sociopath could write a post like this.

Now a non sociopath is dead disgraceful, I hope you are happy?

EmperorIsaac:
Not justifying the suicide but, the system is designed in such a way that even if you run to Nigeria, the bills are piled up for you as debts and go into record for life!

Let it go into record for life. Be comfortable with letting it go into record for life. That’s how you can live.

Mtcheeeew...
One spanner lost....

Only a foolish man takes his wife abroad...

Some are saying he should come to Nigeria and start afresh. Same Nigeria una dey denigrate and calling shit hole. Hippocrites everywhere.

XtraFortunes:
Where in this story did they say he traveled with his wife from Nigeria?

He could have met her there in the US and married her, so what are you saying?

That one is the worst.
If he is intelligent, he would have come back and marry leave his wife and kids here until his children become adults before he could take them their. All the people who did my suggestions above are very happy now.

GboyegaD:
The issue is many of our men carry the Nigerian mentality abroad which doesn't help. Be humane, reasonable, responsible, and above all be truthful.

No suppose is a devil and if one sees the sincerity of the other, the tendency of going all out on their evil intentions are reduced greatly.

Don’t worry. It’ll come back to you. Then you’ll see how right or wrong you are. You believe just because you’re not out to dupe people and take there money, people feel the same way about you and are not out to hurt you just because they want ease for themselves?

THEDEEPSIGHT:
Cardiologist no go get passport already? ? ?

You will lose any passport privileges. They can and will make it more difficult to travel on any existing passport until you are current on your child support.

legitnow1:
I KEEP WARNING U ABOUT YOUR REASONING AND PARARELL WITH REALITY.



RULE NUMBER1


U DO NOT UPGADE ANYBODY ESPECIALLY A WOMAN. OTHERWISE YOUR GOOD INTENTION WILL BE TAKEN FOR A WEAKNESS AND U WILL BE PUNISHED ONCE SHE IS SET UP.


U ARE BETTER OFF GETTING ONE ALREADY AT THAT LEVEL, SO NO SURPRISES.

Hey we are making a general discussion of unfortunate events that happens in US and other western countries.Do not personalise it.

maasoap:
What's the essence of life and living when you are living lonely life just to be working and making money and you can't even be with your own wife and kids? Does it even worth it?

As a dead man, is he living with the wife and kids now?
The living only have choices, the dead doesn't.

dealslip:
That's because you marry poor women, who depend on you all before they can eat. Women who have the capacity to sponsor themselves will not be subjected to such regulation, when she has the means to achieve it. Even you will not give her such conditions. Na those paupers you all threaten with those conditions

You have little knowledge of what it entails to be married. No matter how much a woman has, his husband has the final say. Let me also let you know that my wife owns her own business and she's doing well too but dare not make decisions without my approval. Wives are meant to be submissive you get that ?