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Okoroawusa:
There is nothing like "a worst-case scenario". Nothing you can't come out of.

Good evening sir, please can you expand on this point, I really need help. Please

Nnamdipapa:
It is a loosing battle my friend. There laws will always favour the woman in the US.
The kid is with the mom and nothing to be afraid off.
Me, I will move myself to Nigeria.

LET ME ADVICE YOU, LEARN WHERE TO REMOVE YOUR STANDARD AND OBSERVE A HIGHER STANDARD.


ARE U A CARDIOLOGIST?


BY MY STANDARD I SUPPOSE THEY HAVE FUN ON THIS THREAD BUT I OBSERVE A HIGHER STANDARD AND EXCELLENCE.


SHE SHOULD HAVE FOLLOWED HER AMERICAN BROTHERS TO DO THEIR NORMAL BABYMAMA ABOMINATION SINCE AMERICA IS A PLACE OF ABOMINATION.


THIS MAN IS A CARDIOLOGIST THAT TOOK HIS TIME TO PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE.


IF SHE SAY YES, SHE IS SIGNING UP TO A LIFETIME COMMITMENT WITH HIM AS HE WILL NOT WANT A DIVORCE.


HE NEEDS TO BE FOCUSED BECAUSE HIS CAREER DEMANDS THAT STANDARD OF HIM.


Y GIVE HIM SO MUCH HEADACHE AND HEARTACHE?

legitnow1:
LEGALITY?

WHAT DO U KNOW ABOUT IWUALA/OMENALA?

Go tell a US judge about omenalla nau

Kids everywhere!

Nnamdipapa:
Go tell US judge about omenalla nau

Kids everywhere!

WAT IS THAT?

DO U KNoW THE FIRST PEOPLE TO START PRACTICING DEMOCRACY EVEN BEFORE THE GREEKS?



IT IS THE IGBO PEOPLE.


THEIR IS NO CULTURE GREATER THAN OMENALA AND NO LAW CODE GREATER THAN IWUALA.


IF AMERICAN JUDGE WANT TO MEDDLE IN IGBO MARRIAGE, I SAW THEIR TRADITIONAL WEDDING CARD, HE WILL FIRST GO AND LEARN OMENALA AND AFTER THAT IWUALA

omoadeleye:
Why killed himself when he already know the culture of his country,

Nigerians are just bunch of useless weaklings, they complained about how bad the system in their country and they will still also motivate others to leave the country

But any issues they have in their history country, they will start choking us with victimized issues

You speak like a fool! The guy had lost his mind at that point to know of any culture. You need to be in shoes to know how it feels. He is better off where he is or just move to naija nomatter how bad the country is.

What if he had moved to Nigeria or any good African or Asian country to start his life again. He will be able to avoid paying that money to his wife and still keep the hope alive that he’d see his children again in the future. RIP. Thank God he didn’t commit murder-suicide.

He would returned to Nigeria. 😭😭😭
He has got more value to add in Nigeria.
Nigeria needed him desperately.
Already a trained cardiologist for that matter.
You can even start up another Empire elsewhere.
Who were those close to him?
Wasn't he advised?
Why go through such?
He would have become an employer of Labor in Nigeria. Depression 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Stephen0mozzy:
He didn't lose his qualifications. There's a difference.

Okay.....could he have gotten re-certified to practice, no questions asked?

d142475:
What if he had moved to Nigeria or any good African or Asian country to start his life again. He will be able to avoid paying that money to his wife and still keep the hope alive that he’d see his children again in the future. RIP. Thank God he didn’t commit murder-suicide.

Abi naa......would the US ask for extradition for avoiding child support?

dealslip:
Na you bring statistics not me. I only pointed out the obvious in any given relationship

You’re still sounding confused usual.. so u haven't used your trust analogy to answer why there is a very high rate of divorce amongst Naija in the US. Why do courts in Naija/US treat marriages as pure legal transactions and agreements … not solely on trust?

Jeezuzpick:
Abi naa......would the US ask for extradition for avoiding child support?

Phucking NO
....and he would have become an employer of labor in Nigeria straight away.

legitnow1:
IS IT BECAUSE IT IS AMERICA?


WHERE IN IGBO HISTORY DID U SEE ANY WOMAN JUST WALK AWAY WITH AN IGBO MAN CHILDREN WITHOUT HIS AGREEMENT?

Even in Naija, legal laws of Naija are superiors to cultures and traditions.

APOPTOSIS:
Phucking NO
....and he would have become an employer of labor in Nigeria straight away.

I honestly don't get it when people talk about divorce laws.

Extradition for failing to pay child support/ alimony?

I laugh when I hear such things. They have zero power over you once you leave the country.

Marriage is just like any business deal in most western countries, if you must marry please seek legal advise and sign prenup with both lawyer present to insulated yourself. The lawyer Consultation fees will definitely safe your life someday.

Be wise

drstranged:
https://punchng.com/us-based-nigerian-doctor-allegedly-kills-self-over-15000-child-support/

TruthDefender:
She is the daughter of the well-known Poi master Francis Van Lare. US born with Nigerian parents.

The guy is a weakling because he could have easily relocated back to Nigeria and have a great life

You're right.

I stumbled on this link https://www.nairaland.com/3988231/francis-van-lare-amara-van-lare-divorced minutes ago and I remembered I read a story on Facebook today about someone with a similar name, so I searched the forum. Found out it's the same person.

legitnow1:
SOME MEN GO JUST DEY WITH THEIR FELLOW MAN INSIDE HOUSE THEY CALL AM WIFE.

BY THE TIME YOU TALK AND SHE TALK, IT MEANS SHE IS A MAN.


U GOT TO OPEARATE ON THE SIGNS AND KNOW WHEN TO LEAVE WITH YOUR SANITY INTACT OTHERWISE THINGS DEGENERATE AND YOU WILL DEGENERATE A DAY AT A TIME UNTIL U CAN NO LONGER RECOGNIZE YOURSELF.

^^^
I laughed at your first two sentences above. But the last sentence wasn't funny, because its as real as it gets.

Took away his work licence but still forced him to pay 15000 dollars a month? Are these people crazy??!

Stephen0mozzy:
I'd rather just return back to Nigeria.
Get in some circle, and get licensed to practice in Nigeria.

American-trained, your private practice go too boom.

But, I guess, the mind wants what it wants. I hope he didn't do it to spite the wife and the US Legal system sha.

Life is too sweet to do that, even in bad times!

Even his friend who rushed to announce the news couldn't help him even though he is a psychologist. There is something fundamentally wrong with this world.

As a working PA, she’s not hurting for cash either. I wonder how they reached the $15k settlement.

GloriousGbola:
Technically she is not Nigerian

This is her name

suzette chibuogu van-lare

Google her without her native name and you will see most of her history

Born 1990

High school in the US.

Hometown Marietta Georgia

Working Physician assistant

PepeXKermit:
180k for family of 5? with kids in Kindergarten and day care? good luck..loooool

Where do you live?

THEDEEPSIGHT:
I really hate to say this, and I hope I will not regret ever saying it (because I hate Islam with a passion) but sometimes, I see certain things women do which make me understand why Islam says that you need twice as many female witnesses as male witnesses to serve as evidence of anything.

^^^


Ah

There is problem in this country.

cococandy:
As a working PA, she’s not hurting for cash either. I wonder how they reached the $15k settlement.

That is the point some people have been trying to point out but people seems to ignore that. She was born in US. She knows her way around issues like this.

Maitunbi:
Even his friend who rushed to announce the news couldn't help him even though he is a psychologist. There is something fundamentally wrong with this world.

No no.... Let's not do that. To put responsibility away from the individual who has the responsibility to treasure his life beyond his losses.

Truth is, no matter how much professional help you provide, you can't help a human who has stopped seeing past his pain, and resigned to the falsity that his life cannot possibly get better.

Fujiyama:
^^^


Ah

There is problem in this country.

I don't mean it literarily.

cococandy:
As a working PA, she’s not hurting for cash either. I wonder how they reached the $15k settlement.

Are you sure about that tho? Some geniuses on this thread say a PA is the medical equivalent of a court clerk. Like what do I know anyway?

Imho all the talk is just made up conjecture shared by the late doctors family.

And Nigerians poverty striken mentality

Yes 15gs is a dent but it is not the end of the world for a high earner.

Decidetolive:
Too bad. Have made it clear to my wife that I can only take them to west for vacation but relocation ? Never

Good and healthy decision! Kindly try to save for your old age o and lavish money on yourself too.

THEDEEPSIGHT:
I don't mean it literarily.

^^^
I know. I get you.

This whole thing is very sad. There are no winners in this. No winners at all.

The extremely critical comments by some men on this thread shows that far too many men have learnt nothing and forgotten nothing. In this physician's case, at least the children's mother is still alive and well - and those kids are now her responsibility. At least one biological parent is still in the picture.

Some of the men bragging on this thread will have very serious marital issues down the line. Its just a question of time. Some of them will be seriously provoked by their wives and may end up doing the unthinkable. When that happens, the system (here or abroad) will kick in and put them away for life or hand them over to the hangman...and their children will be raised by neither father or mother. No biological parent in the picture - and we all know what that means.

Cases like this should teach us to be humble...because, but for the grace of God...

They might be confusing physician assistant with medical assistant.

PAs earn as much as nurse practitioners.

GloriousGbola:
Are you sure about that tho? Some geniuses on this thread say a PA is the medical equivalent of a court clerk. Like what do I know anyway?

Imho all the talk is just made up conjecture shared by the late doctors family.

And Nigerians poverty striken mentality

Yes 15gs is a dent but it is not the end of the world for a high earner.

Akfrenzy:
Eno easy


The guy could've relocated to Naija and start life Afresh

Will they allow him?

cococandy:
They might be confusing physician assistant with medical assistant.

PAs earn as much as nurse practitioners.

They are just a bunch of ignorant bums

Both the man and his wife's info is out there.

The narrative they are going for is she is a gold digger trophy wife whose plan was to marry the guy, have his kids and then stick him up for alimony and child support and live off this for the man for the rest of her life.

The guys friends and family are likely the ones who started this narrative and Nigerians ran with it.

In the end it's a sad story all around. There is a very wide cultural gap between American and Nigerian raised and it will take a lot of work from both parties

MrCuteAndLoaded:
You speak like a fool! The guy had lost his mind at that point to know of any culture. You need to be in shoes to know how it feels. He is better off where he is or just move to naija nomatter how bad the country is.

Emotional people like you lacks sense

mmsen:

^^^


E 'sock' you right?