₦airaland Forum

GloriousGbola:
They are just a bunch of ignorant bums

Both the man and his wife's info is out there.

The narrative they are going for is she is a gold digger trophy wife whose plan was to marry the guy, have his kids and then stick him up for alimony and child support and live off this for the man for the rest of her life.

The guys friends and family are likely the ones who started this narrative and Nigerians ran with it.

In the end it's a sad story all around. There is a very wide cultural gap between American and Nigerian raised and it will take a lot of work from both parties

This is not an issue of cultural gap. They are both human beings and should have some level of empathy.

This guy went to medical school in USA. He was a cardiologist at 36yrs. He was your husband. You both have 2 kids.

WHAT HAPPENED??

That is the core question people are asking?

He was not a failed rapper from Brooklyn.

Mentholated:
This is not an issue of cultural gap. They are both human beings and should have some level of empathy.

This guy went to medical school in USA. He was a cardiologist at 36yrs. He was your husband. You both have 2 kids.

WHAT HAPPENED??

That is the core question people are asking?

He was not a failed rapper from Brooklyn.

The man came after his wife and kids with a gun. That tells you he has anger management issues. In Nigeria women are taught to manage this. You will remember we saw a video of a pwc lawyer attacking his wife on camera. The whole matter has been died since then. So Nigerians are expected to tolerate domestic violence even to the point of death. Americans are not.

That is one example of cultural differences

To the people asking what happened - and be very careful what you wish for. Everything that led up to this point was documented. Anyone holding his wife and children at gunpoint already has a documented history of violence

You may find there were restraining orders.

sharone21:
In life there are many challenges, how you handle it is the Koko.

See where ’i no go gree, i no go gree' has ended a full blown adult man, to the extent he 1st lost his license and kids custody and FINALLY, lost his life.... I short, he LOST everything.

Thing wen other men dey handle, e reach his turn, he allowed it affect his mental health to the extent that when the devil was whispers he should go kill himself, he LISTENED.

Any small benefit even if his social benefit is only $15k will be paid only to his wife and kids and nothing will get to the family who raised him.

I will never worship money over my life and mental stability.

SEE EHN, THE BOLDED IS WHERE U EXPOSED YOURSELF AS A GOLD DIGGER.

U ARE STILL LOOKING FOR BENEFIT OVER HIS DEAD BODY.

BENEFIT THAT A HUMAN BEING LIKE YOU RAISED AND INVESTED INTO FROM THE DAY HE WAS BORN.

LIKE I SAID, GUYS BETTER BE CAREFUL WHAT THEY BRING INTO THEIR HOME.

NA U KNOW WHETHER THEM THEY PAY BENEFT AFTER LICENCE REVOKED AS YOU SAID OR PERHAPS IT IS HIS DEBT AND MORTAGE THAT YOU WANT TO INHERIT.

GloriousGbola:
The man came after his wife and kids with a gun. That tells you he has anger management issues. In Nigeria women are taught to manage this. You will remember we saw a video of a pwc lawyer attacking his wife on camera. The whole matter has been died since then. So Nigerians are expected to tolerate domestic violence even to the point of death. Americans are not.

That is one example of cultural differences

To the people asking what happened - and be very careful what you wish for. Everything that led up to this point was documented. Anyone holding his wife and children at gunpoint already has a documented history of violence

You may find there were restraining orders.

"He came after his wife and kids with a gun and held them for 3 hrs" and this told you that he had anger management issues. So for 3 hours, the anger did not make him to shoot his wife

Any spouse that understands the system knows you can keep a trail of manufactured evidence for future purposes.

This is her husband for goodness sake. You are not even getting to my point.

Most modern wives have little or no clue the level of influence they have over their husbands. Just a smile, the right words or a good text message is enough to deescalate things.

Mentholated:
"He came after his wife and kids with a gun and held them for 3 hrs" and this told you that he had anger management issues. So for 3 hours, the anger did not make him to shoot his wife

Any spouse that understands the system knows you can keep a trail of manufactured evidence for future purposes.

This is his husband for goodness sake. You are not even getting to my point.

Most modern wives have little or no clue the level of influence they have over their husband. Just a smile, the right words or a good text message is enough to deescalate things.

THAT THING MAY NOT BE A MAN.

IT'S THOUGHT PROCESS IS NOT MALE.

HE REASONS LIKE A BITCH AND IN REAL LIFE I WILL HAVE A VERY SERIOUS PROBLEM WITH HIM.

I HATE BITCH ASS NIGGAS.

A MAN HAS GOT TO REASON LIKE A MAN AND BEHAVE LIKE A MAN.

IN HIS TWISTED MIND BEING THE BITCH THAT HE IS, A WOMAN CAN DO NO WRONG AND A MAN SHOULD FEEL NOTHING.

AMERICA IS AN ARTIFICIAL COUNTRY AND ALL OF THEM ARE SICK IN THE HEAD THERE.

IF NOT FOR OBAMA AND AMERICA, BUHARI WOULD NEVER HAVE BEEN PRESIDENT AND GEJ WOULD HAVE TAKEN US FURTHER THAN THIS HELL HOLE OF BUHARI AND TINUBU.

NIGERIA IS AN ORGANIC PLACE, WWITH REAL PEOPLE NOT ARTIFICIAL.

GloriousGbola:
The man came after his wife and kids with a gun. That tells you he has anger management issues. In Nigeria women are taught to manage this. You will remember we saw a video of a pwc lawyer attacking his wife on camera. The whole matter has been died since then. So Nigerians are expected to tolerate domestic violence even to the point of death. Americans are not.

That is one example of cultural differences

To the people asking what happened - and be very careful what you wish for. Everything that led up to this point was documented. Anyone holding his wife and children at gunpoint already has a documented history of violence

You may find there were restraining orders.

SOMEBODY NEED TO TELL U.


U ARE SICK IN THE HEAD, GET IT CHECKED ON TIME.

It's not actually about the money, it's either you do my bidding or I destroy you, the $15k was to ruin him financially which will lead to emotional wreck and depression .

The guy wanted to kill everybody in that room before he had a change of mind, probably stopped because of the kids. very sad

dealslip:
That's because you marry poor women, who depend on you all before they can eat. Women who have the capacity to sponsor themselves will not be subjected to such regulation, when she has the means to achieve it. Even you will not give her such conditions. Na those paupers you all threaten with those conditions

Because they sell citizenship like Gala, right?

If he doesn’t file for her, let her have her own money, she can’t become a citizen through marriage to him.

ukaface:
That means you don’t trust your wife to be of ‘ good’ character
Or you fear she would use the western environment to pay you back

I don’t think one woman will wake up in the morning and decide ‘ yes, now let me show him pepper’ with no just reason.

Couples have issues every time. One of these issues can make the wife file for divorce she would otherwise not have filed in Nigeria. This is because abroad incentivises women to divorce.

So it’s not always a matter of payback.

passion007:
Everyone is screaming $15k is too much. Keep in mind that the guy most likely earns more than $30k per month, because the court cannot ask you to pay more than half of your income as child support. It was his decision to take his own life rather than give half of his income to his children, but that decision was certainly not due to financial inability because he was well able to afford that.

Also it doesn't matter if you are not married. You will still pay child support.

Ask questions when you don’t know something.

Only properties are required to be 50/50. Child support can be 70% depending on how many children you have.

A father of two on a salary of £3,500 in UK can be paying around £2700 per month in child support

irumole1975:
lol.. your wife don taste so many dick that bad that she know which men is better out of the many she’s dated. Congrats you won!

You're dull so you can't understand my comment

owobokiri:
Stop marrying these wayward gals that have been totally traumatised during their run gal days. Avoid them. They have damaged themselves beyond repair and are nothing but walking disasters. The ex is somewhere having fun. Jezebel has moved on and will never feel any pain over this. Men! Save yourselves!!!

Look for cultures that are still traditional and marry from there. Whether in Africa or Asia oo. Marry her and treat her nice. But you see most of these "money for hand back for ground" girls you guys pick off the streets once you visit home, they are wild hyenas. You can't domestic a wild hyena.. Loyalty is not the strongest point..

Well said!
God bless

DonEd:
True. But the kids will one day seek the truth

Western kids no get sense like that and their Mums always turn them against their Dads (dead or living) by telling them lies and bribing them with expensive toys/gifts to buy them to their side in any marital dispute.

I know someone in London whose Ex used to spit her saliva into their baby daughters food and mix it up before feeding their daughter so that the kid will love her more than the father. I heard thats how they feed dogs in rural Nigeria so that the dog will not bite the owner.

owobokiri:
Stop marrying these wayward gals that have been totally traumatised during their run gal days. Avoid them. They have damaged themselves beyond repair and are nothing but walking disasters. The ex is somewhere having fun. Jezebel has moved on and will never feel any pain over this. Men! Save yourselves!!!

Look for cultures that are still traditional and marry from there. Whether in Africa or Asia oo. Marry her and treat her nice. But you see most of these "money for hand back for ground" girls you guys pick off the streets once you visit home, they are wild hyenas. You can't domestic a wild hyena.. Loyalty is not the strongest point..

I heard the wife was African American o!

Vicky951:
He deserves it though. Everyone is just lashing out on the woman. Did you bother knowing the cause of the divorce. Or you think the US government is stupid? Before they will take it license, and limit access to his kids, something prompted him.

If you know you have a character flaw as a man, like aggressive cheating, verbal, physical or emotional abuse, better stay in Nigeria. Foreign countries had zero tolerance for these behaviors against women.

As someone who has been in the USA for over 6 years now, and know this family, the man deserves everything. I have zero empathy for me. If he were to be my brother, he still deserves it. Women are humans too and deserves to be treated right. The woman even gave him an option of going back to Nigeria for a while or getting another space so they see how to resolve the issue with time and he said instead of leaving for Nigeria, he’ll get a divorce. And he got it and even more! May his soul rest in peace.

you do not know the erinne family....you are lying

Having check more information about his Ex wife background i will say the young Doctor marry from Lion den. Rest In Peace

drstranged:
https://punchng.com/us-based-nigerian-doctor-allegedly-kills-self-over-15000-child-support/

Vicky951...

You are doing better than him after just 6 years in the USA? Doing drugs? 🤣🤣🤣🤣


Of course you are

N.B: the girl's father was even the one who fûcked and published the names of women he slept with in Naija and you are defending a family like that?

You are jealous of that dead man..and he will haunt you.

dealslip:
You are probably the age of my first son. You know nothing about marriage. After 16 yes in the institution, I can give you some insights. I have told you that to succeed in marriage, you marry people of same values like you otherwise you will end up like Kaka. He married a woman with a different value system.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... This one doesn't know me. Infact, I'm still inside the womb. Marry people of similar values like it's written on the forehead or girls will tell the truth? Nah today una dey pretend...and once you are in America,your true colors go emerge. Please go and sit down.

GboyegaD:
No go kill yourself on top my matter ooo. If all you read from my post doesnt align with your ideology, why not move on? It is your low self esteem and your fake pride that makes you bother about how any gender feels about your post. I sabi your type with low testosterone qey dey try form manly by force wey you no be.

Abeg, no be your type I dey follow waka for real life.

Who wan follow your type before, ewu!!!

Abeg getat!!!

dealslip:
Speak for your wife and sisters

Rara o dealslip our ancestral mother of Methuselah age. I'm speaking for you.

Come and wooze me na!!!

omoadeleye:
Emotional people like you lacks sense

Don't use 'lacks' in your statement. Use 'lack' which the correct grammar. Learn to speak good English and stop disgracing Nigeria olodo! Mr Cocobullet

Gotocourt:
Forget all this bitches

Men stop using Jesus eye dey look all this ladies from the pit of hell. Bro was too hard on him self , RIP mate

He could have migrated to another country. It's hard getting custody of kids from their mum. If the differences can't be reconciled, start another family 💯. Most workers in USA earn $5K per month. She was a gold digger right from day one. $15K plus losing license ☠️, WTF. He might be earning up to $20-$30K dollars as a cardiologist monthly though.

Well said. Its time for an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tootjh. If chicken throway my calabash of juju, I go break hin eggs. No more mercy for women wey no get one ounce of conscience in them.

Lanre1st:
It is not easy to be a man in western world.

Let African men avoid all this white women, they are evil

Most times its a fellow black nigerian woman that is showing these men shege promax. The oyinbo woman is not as deceitful as black women 'cos the oyinbo woman no go pretend to love you just to get papers. Once dem don tire, dem go tell you asap and so you don't end up wasting your youthful energy and funds training the woman and your her kids only for the ungrateful witch to turn those same kids against you when they have all rinsed you dry.

dealslip:
That's because you marry poor women, who depend on you all before they can eat. Women who have the capacity to sponsor themselves will not be subjected to such regulation, when she has the means to achieve it. Even you will not give her such conditions. Na those paupers you all threaten with those conditions

Seriously,I come to nairaland to laugh. I come from a generation of women who have all traveled to at least 10 countries. These freaks must come from very poor communities. I hope they heal

Mentholated:
"He came after his wife and kids with a gun and held them for 3 hrs" and this told you that he had anger management issues. So for 3 hours, the anger did not make him to shoot his wife

Any spouse that understands the system knows you can keep a trail of manufactured evidence for future purposes.

This is her husband for goodness sake. You are not even getting to my point.

Most modern wives have little or no clue the level of influence they have over their husbands. Just a smile, the right words or a good text message is enough to deescalate things.

Lol so women are deescalators? Men cannot deescalate? I have no RIp to waste for him. Of you move to western countries, remember there are laws there and there are consequences. You can't continue to behave like a Nigerian man who has been trained to violate a woman's right. If you want to be happy, it's in your hands.

Roboto11:
He needed his friends (those bad friends), to help him out of this phase.🙏🏾

Even if his wife has demonized and chased his friends away, at least there are enough late night bars where he can drown his sorrow and if he needs company, escorts full Yankee even if he does not want to nack them, he can always talk to them.

When a woman wants to deal with a man, she first separates him from anyone (friend or family) that can give the man good advice or refuge when she begins to show him shege. That's where the late night beer parlors come in handy even if you don't drink, you will have company and learn a lot about life and women from senior men who have successfully battled their way out of similar or worse marital situations.

I know the chap may have been at his wits end on the day he shot himself but for me, touch wood, instead of offing myself, I go find one 24 hour beer parlour go drink even if it means buying drink and food for everyone I meet there (strangers or not) at least I will have whiled away so much time with my new family that the thoughts of suicide go don disappear before I finish half a bottle of Remy Martin with some better hot point and kill or Isi Ewu.

Batman2412:
Marriage for man is 2 weeks of s3x and a lifetime of misery

Remove sex and men have little or no need for a woman.

SocialJustice:
Did you kill his children or you don't know what lineage means.

Well, he is not exactly wrong. Lineage could be through patrilineal, matrilineal or bilateral depending on culture. In which case he would be correct if the deceased has no male child. The Igbos practice patrilineal lineage.

dettolgel:
A lot of women do it here. How many US citizens receive 15k a month after tax. She wanted to live large off the dude. He would either had run back to Nigeria with his tail between his legs or stay back and slave for her or end it all like a man leaving her with nothing.

I know you have low IQ and very poor but I will help you. No one will ask him to pay what he doesn't earn and if he doesn't earn it, there's no how he's gonna pay anyways but you can't understand because you came from a village with low iq people so I do not blame you.

Hotguy27:
I recently watched some pretty ladies who were admitting on cameras that they were into hookup in Lagos and that they have over 100 men each as customers.

My surprise was that they were all hopeful to get married someday. I now ask, which feeling wlll they go into marriages with? They would see any husband as just one customer who would mean nothing to them. What matter to such women are just their children. No serious place for one man in their hearts.

Beware who you marry.

Good advice because almost all Nigerian women's hearts are made of stone and this includes Nigerian women of ALL ages.

Decidetolive:
Too bad. Have made it clear to my wife that I can only take them to west for vacation but relocation ? Never

Of course, since your wife is from 4 generations of poverty and very ugly, why won't you not?

In 2025 girls travel on their own

SeriouslySense:
That woman is an animal, she cut the neck

There is something in that UK that brings the beast out.

Its the single mother money the anti family UK Govt pays single mothers and is the reason the UK is the single parent capital of Europe.