₦airaland Forum

blackslayer:
Well, he is not exactly wrong. Lineage could be through patrilineal, matrilineal or bilateral depending on culture. In which case he would be correct if the deceased has no male child. The Igbos practice patrilineal lineage.

justtoodark:
are this women marryin today only for money....??

whats the meanin of this nonesense....??

Ikinternational:
Clearly so many of you are disregarding the man's love for his children.

Him packing up and moving to Nigeria means no contact, and no longer able to be part of their lives.

Maybe that and the depression was a toll too heavy for him to carry.

koladata:
It's actually not about the judge; it's about the template and how the country is structured. You can't hide your income unless you are a businessman or a musician and can declare some kind of bankruptcy. There's a template to follow when there's a divorce, and there's a sharing formula that mostly favors women. It is working for them because, in most cases, men won't take care of the children just to spite the woman, and that's how you raise uneducated children and Boko Haram

But why can't he just leave USA and go to another country to start a new life. I just feel there are several options instead of suicide. I know America is a good country but there are cases you just have to run for your life.

Decidetolive:
Olodo with no functional medula. You do not measure up with my wife in any ramification of life. You wayward women of this generation do not know what it entails to be married hence your foolish comment

dealslip:
honestly the way they reason is almost senseless. Thinking every woman is a beggar and can't survive without them

dettolgel:
I can see your poor education written all over your post. Please do point out where I said that someone will be forced to pay what they don't earn or pay beyond their earnings?

Please I am not the reason for your frustrated life. Read to understand before you disgrace yourself here.

wendy120:
I left Nigeria at 16years, prior to that, I constantly spend my holidays with my Aunties and I go for functions there. You mentioned you can't take your wife out of Nigeria which means she is very poor and ugly that she can't travel by herself. If I need to fly anywhere today, all it takes is for me to order my flight ticket. But since your wife is poorer than church rat including where she came from, it's normal you give her those conditions

Decidetolive:
You're still very dull and shallow in your thinking despite living in advance country. A wife no matter her financial status can not travel overseas without the approval of her husband but you don't know that because your brain is infinitesimal. I won't waste my time replying a slow individual like you anymore.

wendy120:
Lol, I'm far away from frustration dear. You are the one who is not just poor but very uneducated and spitting rubbish because you have never traveled out of your Country before and you don't know how a country with law works. Since you will end up like Ikenna, i will advise you stay back in Nigeria because if you dare commit domestic violence abroad, you will end up in prison or ending yourself

Drella:
Ask questions when you don’t know something.

Only properties are required to be 50/50. Child support can be 70% depending on how many children you have.

A father of two on a salary of £3,500 in UK can be paying around £2700 per month in child support

passion007:
Impossible.
Go to gov.uk to calculate child maintenance for 2 kids on an income of £3500. It can never be more than £1500 even if the paying parent has zero contact.

Drella:
Keep in mind that other factors like age of the children , activities they engage in, and condition of the children also account for the amount to be paid.

I might be wrong on the number of children but I’ve definitely heard of a case where the father only had £800 at the end of every month from a well paying job after removing child support fees.
He had to move to an apartment of 8 people in a room. His story is on Nairaland.

Drella:
Keep in mind that other factors like age of the children , activities they engage in, and condition of the children also account for the amount to be paid.

I might be wrong on the number of children but I’ve definitely heard of a case where the father only had £800 at the end of every month from a well paying job after removing child support fees.
He had to move to an apartment of 8 people in a room. His story is on Nairaland.

Pentagon007:
Nawa ooo. I'm learning

diamond68:
someone who killed himself over 15k child support has landed properties ? Hear yourself

Drella:
A man doesn’t want you to join him in US, then the next thing you want to do is force yourself to go meet someone that isn’t ready to have you there?

Lastly, no amount of qualifications can grant you permanent residency in the US from Nigeria.
Even those already in the US usually try to marry a citizen for stay, let alone someone still in Nigeria.

BigIyanga:
So it’s lost on you on how those stats would affect Naija marriages imported to the US.??Your only delusional response… trust will fix everything. Are you this small minded??😂😂

Stephen0mozzy:
I'd rather just return back to Nigeria.
Get in some circle, and get licensed to practice in Nigeria.

American-trained, your private practice go too boom.

But, I guess, the mind wants what it wants. I hope he didn't do it to spite the wife and the US Legal system sha.

dealslip:
Lol! You don't know anything about obtaining residency in the US beyond marriage.Ever heard of EB5 and EB NIW categories of immigrants visa
Don't worry I will use my money to sponsor myself. He has nothing to fear not every woman is a 2k woman that needs the man to take her out of the country. She doesn't need to force herself, she just goes there.

Drella:
I didn’t mention that because not everyone can meet the requirements unlike marriage where all you have to do is Marry!!!

You still don’t get the point. If I don’t want you in the US with me and you come, goodluck navigating your way from the airport. Nobody will teach you before you book flight back to Nigeria.

dealslip:
That's what exactly what I am telling you, because you guys are used to marrying poor women, you think other women can't help themselves, denigrating women because you think you are alpha and omega, you believe women can't fund or sponsor themselves. Have you heard of rental cars, like enterprise or common Uber. I will even be in an hotel and go on cruise in front of you. Most of you don't know you have poverty mentality and you display it with pride. To start with I won't marry a man with a poverty mentality and of course I am wealthy so he will respect me from the onset.

Drella:
You aren’t being realistic.
How will you even locate him?
Do you know how much you will spend lodging in hotel, paying an attorney to file your EB whatever visa, the amount you will spend on living costs for almost a year while the processing is going on?
Your visit/tourist visa would have expired and you’d already be an illegal resident.
What if you aren’t granted the EB2 visa and you have to return to Nigeria?
All for someone that doesn’t want you in the country with him.

Men don’t want to bring their wives not because they are denigrating their wives. They are simply avoiding the tragedy of the wife changing into a monster, filing for divorce, and carting away 50% of their worth + Alimony + Hefty child support fees.
Mind you, it is cheaper to nurture a family in Nigeria!

Arapmoi22:
In saner clime, everything is cheaper.
Is there anything good about coming back to one's country?
According to them, nothing is good about Nigeria o

Drella:
You aren’t being realistic.
How will you even locate him?
Do you know how much you will spend lodging in hotel, paying an attorney to file your EB whatever visa, the amount you will spend on living costs for almost a year while the processing is going on?
Your visit/tourist visa would have expired and you’d already be an illegal resident.
What if you aren’t granted the EB2 visa and you have to return to Nigeria?
All for someone that doesn’t want you in the country with him.

Men don’t want to bring their wives not because they are denigrating their wives. They are simply avoiding the tragedy of the wife changing into a monster, filing for divorce, and carting away 50% of their worth + Alimony + Hefty child support fees.
Mind you, it is cheaper to nurture a family in Nigeria!

Hankim:
Then you are likely going to end up with 3 ex wives , the children you abandoned will grow up to hate you for the rest of their lives, bro there are many ways to kill a rat., women are very manipulative in nature, you can’t win unless you base in Nigeria

wendy120:
I left Nigeria at 16years, prior to that, I constantly spend my holidays with my Aunties and I go for functions there. You mentioned you can't take your wife out of Nigeria which means she is very poor and ugly that she can't travel by herself. If I need to fly anywhere today, all it takes is for me to order my flight ticket. But since your wife is poorer than church rat including where she came from, it's normal you give her those conditions

wendy120:
Lol, I'm far away from frustration dear. You are the one who is not just poor but very uneducated and spitting rubbish because you have never traveled out of your Country before and you don't know how a country with law works. Since you will end up like Ikenna, i will advise you stay back in Nigeria because if you dare commit domestic violence abroad, you will end up in prison or ending yourself

dealslip:
Lol! You don't know anything about obtaining residency in the US beyond marriage.Ever heard of EB5 and EB NIW categories of immigrants visa
Don't worry I will use my money to sponsor myself. He has nothing to fear not every woman is a 2k woman that needs the man to take her out of the country. She doesn't need to force herself, she just goes there.

dealslip:
That's what exactly what I am telling you, because you guys are used to marrying poor women, you think other women can't help themselves, denigrating women because you think you are alpha and omega, you believe women can't fund or sponsor themselves. Have you heard of rental cars, like enterprise or common Uber. I will even be in an hotel and go on cruise in front of you. Most of you don't know you have poverty mentality and you display it with pride. To start with I won't marry a man with a poverty mentality and of course I am wealthy so he will respect me from the onset.

dealslip:
That's the same thing I started this conversation with. Never marry people with whom you don't have similar values. Many people marry spouses they have nothing in common with especially values, then they wonder what happened to their relationship. Once you fear your spouse cause you trouble, you didn't marry right. Women have equally gone through more heart breaks in the hands of men, who go abroad for a better life. Tie them down for years then move on with another woman in the name of getting papers. If those women were your sisters or daughters do you think they married the right person. Many women's life have been wasted waiting for a man that never came back. Reason I say we should be women who can manage their lives and finances well so they are not left in really cruel situations. With the US once you file for the immigration visas, you can't be an illegal migrant. Besides what's a marriage where you don't live together. If you have been visiting the US before, taking care of your self can never be an issue. That's why I have been saying it's because certain men marry unexposed women that's why they dangle such stuff before them. Any man that married my daughter will not be a man that dangles abroad as a reward for good behavior. I have taken my daughter to several countries around the world and so she can't settle for less, so also my son.

luminouz:
Lol...so travelling out of Nigeria is now an achievement?

Your mentality is low