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| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by tonididdy(m): 2:26pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Greatechng:Very fucking simple No man, absolutely no man is useless, it's just opportunity and zeal lacking |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by franchasng: 2:27pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
timota:okay |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Patobajujuman12: 2:29pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
I dey find wife! Make we talk |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by alklas(m): 2:29pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Madam u 4 No stress urself Just dey put him mouth for ur kpekus every time Him go learn fast ![]() |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by alklas(m): 2:31pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Him for don step up since If u dey put him mouth 4 ur kpekus ![]() |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by imustsaymymindo: 2:34pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
@SouthAmericalif: go and have sex with your husband. Make sure you let him dominate while at it, and give him the sweetest of styles, but a few moments before he nears orgasm, stop and kill the mood entirely. ![]() Why did I give this analogy? Because the problem you are facing is not caused by money, nor by him not having a job or a business or anything, the problem lies with complacency. So many rich homes, employed men and women also face this same thing. Complacency is deadly. It is very common in marriages. Complacency happens when people don't have anything to dream about. Keyword: dream. Not anything to "do" i.e. jobless, but anything to dream about. But you can kill complacency with near-orgasm experiences which would then be the source of fuel for enduring the pain that would get you to your dream or orgasm. For instance, it could be japa that'd be that dream that gives you guys an orgasm. Breathe it, have a WhatsApp group on it, have wall posters on it, talk with people in your dream country every day, live on Nairaland threads related to the Japa process, and watch that complacency go. Even with things that bother you now like your neighbor, you'd be so unconcerned and say to yourself, "At least when I Japa, I can report stupid neighbors like them to the police". Dream and be delusional. But I must warn you, when you finally achieve that dream, you must look for something bigger because it never ends. Summary: Complacency is from the lack of dreaming. Dreaming gives you confidence and builds you to be able to withstand the pain that would give you the competence to achieve your dreams. Competence then brings options. Options then bring confidence and kill weakness. Options also allow you to dream bigger. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by AngelicBeing: 2:37pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
DrFunmisticGlow:Lol at married single mom, 😂 |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by lendahand(m): 2:39pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
oz4real83:that's why a woman is a weaker vessel. She faints at the sight of a cockroach. A man provides for the family without complaining because God has made it so when both humans were cursed in Eden, it's the natural responsibility of a man and he's built to do that. A woman's role is to carry and birth children, then support the man. Whenever the whole load rests on a woman, push has come to shove and the square peg will be easily identified in a round hole. It is very natural for a woman to complain when left to fit into a man's position. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by ejire042(m): 2:41pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Its easy to sit behind a phone and type whatever you like. But life will teach you lessons you will never learn reading a million books. Its easy for you to blindly judge when you have not heard the other side of the story. I just brought another reality to the fore based on my personal experience and not some lame emotions that always beclouds sane judgements. You think the man in question just decided to cruel to his wife? You think the lady from all her story is the only one going through some form of emotional stress? I will not go further than this. These guys might end up working out their differences and live happily ever after. My own dey my body. I am not perfect, she is not neither. We are a decade in it and committed to keep going. If you never start your own, God help you! |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by tonididdy(m): 2:43pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Bush2013:Let her come and answer you but I'm 100% certain NO WOMAN will marry a man who presents himself as jobless and hopeless. Whether he masked his finances or not as at the point of marriage, she definitely met him in his "glory" day |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Tonitoniton(m): 2:45pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
SouthAmericalif:You look for where to get advice for marital matter you say na for social media, you need serious deliverance |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by InvertedHammer: 2:55pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
SouthAmericalif:/ If you didn't consult these people before marrying him, why are you bothering the public with your poor choice in a man? Carry your cross in peace ![]() / |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Greatechng(m): 2:58pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
tonididdy:Na so If she calm down she go see Wetin the man fit do. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by wallaze(m): 2:58pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
When we say date ur intending partner for atleast a year to 2 Una call us time waster Now whose time has been wasted now as you rush marry within 3 months? Anyways just remember ur sanity first over any marriage |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by tonididdy(m): 3:04pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Greatechng:Woman wey marriage don tire, go use soap or sponge find divorce One Naira lander gave her a very beautiful solution. Buy a car, give him the keys and ask him to flip it for a profit. If he does that successfully, use the money buy another car and ask him to flip it. Like play like play business don start. No man should fail at a business like this unless he's CURSED! |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by 96ACE: 3:08pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
SouthAmericalif:I don’t want to comment on this post but with this comment you just dropped, I think you’re being very immature here. For how long have you even catered for your household responsibilities that you brought the matter to an online forum? God gave you a cool headed husband and you want to turn him into a tiger because you can’t live peacefully with your neighbors. Why can’t you be like your husband and overlook some things? Do you always have to react to everything? So because you can’t sleep your husband should also develop high bp and kill himself? You don’t have any problem except for the negative thoughts and advices you have saturated your mind with. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by yaseer111: 3:16pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
SouthAmericalif:i wanna marry you |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by 96ACE: 3:17pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
tundebasic:As you’re rushing to give advice, have you heard the man’s side of the story? Did she say the man is cheating or doing any societal vice? You should know that there’s more to this story. How can a man that doesn’t cheat, he doesn’t beat his wife, his not a drunkard nor a smoker, not a chronic debtor and not know how to handle a basic business? Think bro. Women have a way of telling their stories to gain pity and emotional support. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by seuncyrus(m): 3:25pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
I don't really have much to say except people are really stupid on this platform. Even after all her explanations, many are still asking if she has kid wtf ? don't you read ?? Madam, you've tried ... but no one on this website knows what's best for you , think deeply about it ...will you be able to endure this for the next 5 years ? Do you think if you continue like this , you can even see the next five years ? So I rest my case . |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by donproject2(m): 3:27pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
SouthAmericalif:You deserve that inner peace ma'am, at this stage of your life, your kids and whatever you do for yourself will be sources of joy for you, take good care of yourself, if the man is moving funny, file for a divorce, you have a very good case. God will bless your mum and make her live long, she is a good fortress according to your story, pray for her everyday and always seek her blessing. I pray God turn all your sorrow to joy and mine too. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by travelzcruix: 3:32pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Nairaland in-laws no get chills o. It's obvious from what you have narrated. You got married to a death- beat husband. Even if miraculously he gets out of his current situation " financially", he will be a thorn in your flesh. Relocate if you still have hopes for the marriage. It is better you people leave as distant couples till he sorts himself out. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Ojemedad: 3:37pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
tonididdy:I clearly said lazy men, maybe you haven’t come across a lazy person. No matter how you push them they will refuse to move |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by JonSchamo(m): 3:45pm On Feb 19, 2025*. Modified: 12:07pm On Feb 20, 2025 |
Judging from your write-up, It's obvious that you're stressed. For your mental sake, go and live with your mum for like 3 months you'll be fine. Best wishes |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by clarion30(f): 4:02pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
The contributions of men and women in marriages can never be the same. The most a man can do is take all the financial contributions. He doesn't give birth, he doesn't "care" for the home, just financial contributions. On the other hand, while a woman might not be contributing financially, she's birthing the kids and taking care of everything apart from financial. Read that story well, the woman does everything. Financially and otherwise, nowhere did she state that the man contributes anything at all and that is what happens in some homes where the woman is the breadwinner. The men do absolutely nothing, not even lending a voice of encouragement and that is where the problems and frustrations lie. The woman should leave because the man WILL NEVER CHANGE, THEY DON'T CHANGE. oz4real83: |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by ottersberger(m): 4:05pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
idahme:I am sorry to hear of your travails. You may have married a lazy man, as you said, or someone who is struggling with issues you are not aware of. Either way, it is up to you to come to terms with it or move on. That being said, I've always maintained that women are not capable of love. Even the Bible instructs women to respect their husbands because God knows that the species He created cannot love. Love is when you can cheerfully provide, support, and protect regardless of the circumstance(s). Men do everything this lady did and much more for our wives, some of whom are outrageously ungrateful, unloving, or twice as lazy as the male in the above discussion, but we do not complain. It's our job. This is love. All we ask is that you respect us. Don't look to anyone here to justify a decision you know you made on your own. Do what you have to do and be happy with your decision. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Seunmuham: 4:11pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
pyyxxaro:Forget the man's version everybody is free to leave any union they deem fit. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by gabbytabby: 4:15pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
How many men take all the financial responsibility and also do all the house chores. You need a month long break first just to clear your head and get your strength back then take necessary steps. Don’t waste your life but honestly take stock of the years with your husband and it might be that what he needs is shock that he might loose you. At times when women get too eager to pick up after their husbands you are creating problems later in life for yourself. Always ask a man what his plans for the next 5 to 10 years is and use it as part of the decision to marry. Many are too happy to live rudderless without purpose through life. Parents train their girls how to be good wives but hardly do any work on making their sons good husbands so wives often have their job cut out. oz4real83: |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by tonididdy(m): 4:27pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Ojemedad:There's nothing like a lazy man It's either a working man or a not-working man, period! |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Seunmuham: 4:29pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Celestialsword:Make una two carry una babalawo go somewhere else |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Kobojunkie: 4:30pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Greatechng:She has already wasted so much money on him yet your particular advice is that she waste some more? Have a heart, people.... stop with this wickedness, please! ![]() |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Greatechng(m): 4:32pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Oya give her your own advice then oh |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Marriage Because My Husband Is Weak by Seunmuham: 4:36pm On Feb 19, 2025 |
cr7lomo:For saying," being single is the worst thing that can happen to a lady", I'll say you have a pop corn for a brain and your lecturers failed, you should be locked up in a 4x4 cage for being a danger to society. |
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