₦airaland Forum

GUNITGuy:
➜Find a way of staying it will pay off .... Don't divorce you would reap it .....
➜Your children would be blessed with... As long as it's not affecting your children...
➜ Don't listen to feminist theory....So many women are facing worse than you think but will make you feel they are better than you after divorce or without a husband...
➜It's not rosy out there, live social media hype of a happy life ...it's not always as smooth as we think

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜So people will look at you and complain that you have lost weight since you got married? Which kind of zero emotional intelligence people are those?

musicwriter:
Life is not worth living at old age. That's why death exists. Death is the best thing that could happen to anything that's alive.

The problem is that fear has been created through the ages in people that death means the end. But death is not an end. Death is just like the same way you came to this world- from another life. You weren't dead before you were born. You have always been alive but not as a human being.

Death is a way for nature to recycle itself. However, in the process you'll either progress higher or lower or be weeded out if nature finds you unnecessary.

MASTAkiLLAh:
➜quietly go to the nearest police station and lodge a report against your neighbors and they'll handle everything from there. As for your husband, he will never suddenly become hardworking or responsible. You either drag him to welfare office in your local government for them to settle the matter or convert him to a house husband with monthly salary of 50k or go your separate ways. He should remember, time is also going for him and he has to plan for retirement and if he won't at least, he shouldn't drag you back.
That's if your story isn't made up sha because most Nairaland stories are fictional

Kobojunkie:
OP is not divorced yet she is lonely and depressed in marriage. So, what the f0--ck is with the inane attempt to link depression to divorce? Nonsense!

Kobojunkie:
Have you never been around some Nigerians before? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

ModestManager:
➜IF YOU COMMIT SUICIDE, YOU WILL IMMEDIATELY LAND IN HELL FIRE FOREVER-NO ESCAPE!!!
Jesus Christ wants to help you, but you think you can help yourself...see now! GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM NOW! Read the Holy Bible DAILY!
DOn't listen to demons telling you to 'end it all',,,they lie everytime, rather they should say 'start it all'. Start what 'punishment in hell fire'....I like your resilience, and 1 great thing you've done is YOU CAME ONLINE TO LOOK FOR HELP......Go to God and He will help you out!
Attend a BIBLE church like Deeper Life Church, Foursquare, assemblies of God, and few similar ones....Churches where they worship images and idols can NEVER help you...I won't mention names, but you know them, white garment churches can never help you, ONLY JESUS CAN HELP.........Ask Him today. Those your neighbours will disappear suddenly and start minding their business, your husband will suddenly realize how badly he's been treating you, etc!
God bless you for reaching out! Remember what I said first. Somebody loves you here. Cheers sister!

SouthAmericalif:
.....i bought him toyota camry,
.....bought big nylon machine he no work all this money na from legit struggles when i suppose package my self japa
but the business i dey use my hand do dey work even with this i dey run 2bedroom flat rent ,expensive act fees and all the bills myself include food. I no complain
my complain now is that while carrying out all this struggles one neighbor out of joblessness and jealousy of what i am not even enjoying will be bullying me psychologically publicly

DrFunmisticGlow:
➜ you are a married single mum. Better drop the dead weight you call a husband and focus on yourself and your children.

Seunmuham:
And some of this type of men can complain and also claim fine boy

Kobojunkie:
1. What has pragmatism to do with any of this?

2. I don't follow! What unresolved theoretical debate? Are you not able to mentally realize that your behavior is driven by your thoughts or what?

WantsandMore:
Yes, I understand that my behavior is driven by my thoughts but why is it hard to control or change those thoughts?

Kobojunkie:
An adult who finds it hard to control his/her thoughts is one who obviously lacks self-discipline. Duh?! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

tctrills:
➜This man, already, there is a big link between divorce and depression. It has been studied and papers have been written on it. It's ok if you take time to study.

cr7lomo:
Oppressing ....only dumb 4ks think this way ....

WantsandMore:
not really.

Kobojunkie:
It is always the way you lot confidently beat your chests over your blatant ignorance that makes me wonder why! ***shudder***

tctrills:
➜Insult is free but after insulting, please find these papers and read them.
Parental Divorce, Familial Risk for Depression, and Psychopathology in Offspring: A Three-Generation Study by Myrna M. Weissman et al. (2018)
The Role of Parental Divorce in Childhood on Depression Among Adults by Sarah A. Myer (2021)
Anxiety, depression and associated factors among recently divorced individuals by Severin D. Soukup et al. (2020)
(PDF) Parental Divorce and Depression by Naomi Wauterickx, Anneleen Gouwy, and Piet Bracke (2013)
DIVORCE AND DEPRESSION: A FORENSIC CASE OF OUR OBSERVATION AND PREVENTION STRATEGIES by C. Scalise et al. (2023)

Kobojunkie:
It is always the way you lot confidently beat your chests over your blatant ignorance that makes me wonder why! ***shudder***

joseph1832:
So you're saying nature finds us necessary that's why we are alive today, hmm.

I know all about the Fear created about death from ages past. Its like a stigma hung around people's neck, especially religious folks.

So, the thing I honestly want to know is which life did we come from, before we were born into this Earth?

yaseer111:
don't pretend that u didn't miss his sexk

Kobojunkie:
You are not aware of this simple fact of life at this point in your growth?

WantsandMore:
ehn do you not recognize life is a bit more complicated than simplistic?

tctrills:
If you were wise, you would have read at least one of the papers before you continued with the argument. Oga since you are too lazy, let's not insult ourselves, just go.

idahme:
Isn't this your story what men face everyday and most women down play men's efforts? Madam settle your issues, you knew he was struggling with his finances and went ahead, its only a man that can feed a jobless woman for 50 years without complaining and divorcing her o doubt if any woman can do that.

You want us to tell you tto leave your husband because his finances aren't checking up? Madam any decision you want to taake do and the society will still go. On

Kobojunkie:
Life is actually the opposite of what you think. We are instead to blame for assuming or concluding it complicated and mostly because of the human ego.

WantsandMore:
I like how you recognize the inconsistency despite your rationale

Kobojunkie:
It is always the way you lot confidently beat your chests over your blatant ignorance that makes me wonder why! ***shudder***

mclloyd22:
➜I see alot of men advising you to walk out of your marriage not know how long and time you have invested, so that can have space to Bleep you and turn you to a single mother. My advice to you is Be careful of what decision you take so it doesn’t affect you kids and you.

lendahand:
➜that's why a woman is a weaker vessel. She faints at the sight of a cockroach. A man provides for the family without complaining because God has made it so when both humans were cursed in Eden, it's the natural responsibility of a man and he's built to do that. A woman's role is to carry and birth children, then support the man. Whenever the whole load rests on a woman, push has come to shove and the square peg will be easily identified in a round hole. It is very natural for a woman to complain when left to fit into a man's position.

96ACE:
➜I don’t want to comment on this post but with this comment you just dropped, I think you’re being very immature here.
➜For how long have you even catered for your household responsibilities that you brought the matter to an online forum? God gave you a cool headed husband and you want to turn him into a tiger because you can’t live peacefully with your neighbors. Why can’t you be like your husband and overlook some things? Do you always have to react to everything? So because you can’t sleep your husband should also develop high bp and kill himself? You don’t have any problem except for the negative thoughts and advices you have saturated your mind with.